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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Wait, did Boston baby just get banned and then come right back with a new sock?

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

That’s a nice thought! We got Maddles from a local no-kill shelter, and I’m presuming we’ll go there for the next one if we’re still living in the area. With Fribs the age she is, I’m starting to think about it, though who knows – Magnus was nearly 22 when he went over.

Argenti – I just got used to aerial elbows at breakfast. 😉 Fortunately neither of our current pair are into stealing our food. Fribs thinks being up on the benches mean SOMETHING TERRIBLE IS BEING DONE TO HER and while Mads likes prowling around there or the table, she’s mostly interested in seeing how gravity works. (Oh, that pen fell down! And so did that notepad! How did that happen?)

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Cassandra — that’s quite possible, though I’m half thinking your least favorite troll and mine (though, idk, Mr. Al might annoy you more given he’s far more persistent than slave boy)

…not the slave boy with dolls, the other one… <.>

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“…she’s mostly interested in seeing how gravity works. (Oh, that pen fell down! And so did that notepad! How did that happen?)”

D’AWWWW

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

In any case, I doubt Courtney Hammett is new to these parts, most drive-by-trolls have more to say than that.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Whoever it is seems to have wandered off again. ::keeps fingers crossed::

Seriously, that little display tonight was the living proof of “getting drunk does not turn you into a master of repartee, despite what you might think”. Such dumbassery, it was like watching a twelve-year-old having a hissy fit. An immature twelve-year-old.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

The doll fetishist amuses me, so I wouldn’t mind him coming back. Mr Al crossed the line for me when he went and found my dating profile and then referred to it on another blog as a reason why I shouldn’t be allowed to have opinions about “incel” men – hey there, creepy kid! Someone needs to learn the concept of boundaries!

If Slavey the first version (superdogs, Spanish written in Cyrillic) came back that would be fine, but he got awfully dull towards the end of his time here.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“getting drunk does not turn you into a master of repartee, despite what you might think”.

One shot, maybe 2, but you definitely still need to be able to stand up, walk, type, etc. (No really, I have science even.)

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

DKM is definitely amusing, albeit creepy. I knew Mr. Al had gotten well over the creppy line with you, didn’t know what exactly he’d done, but yeah, that crosses straight into asshole territory. And I never saw NWO version 1.0 — I just got the REPEAT MYSELF SPUTTER ARG MATH IS FEMINIST version…who really hated me some days just because MATH IS SO HARD.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

That’s the problem with being drunk, it makes people think that they can speak eloquently/dance/make a good impression on strangers.

lowquacks
lowquacks
11 years ago

@Argenti

Relevant:

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

And once you hit actually drunk, you’re too far gone for that. Well, other than playing the jester that is.

I’m biased here, that vodka and mango mix on my birthday? I could type long after walking became difficult XD

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Yeah, Owly was on the slide a bit when I started on the site, too. Not as boring as he became at the end, but I never saw the great days of his inventions being stolen, his being refused a job at Pepsi because of misandry, his equation of Spanish and Russian, or the creepy little-kids-are-trying-to-turn-me-on effort. They must have been great days.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

“Well, other than playing the jester that is.”

Don’t forget it has to be a histrionic jester!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“…or the creepy little-kids-are-trying-to-turn-me-on effort. They must have been great days.”

Those days really weren’t, like, little girls wear bathing suits to turn on grown men, and you can’t tell 13 from 21.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Yeah, I gathered it was that sort of thing. There’ve been enough references to it to show what a horrible person Owly really is. I was thinking of the material for the creation of the Book of Larnin’.

Okay, it’s 10pm here, and I was going to make an effort to get to bed earlier tonight, so I’d better move off, though I’d rather stay! Niters, all. 🙂

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

lowquacks that’s hilarious so far!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

10pm? *scoffs* 6am here, and unless I have more than slightly less than 2 drinks, looks like an all nighter. (Bad brain, you’re evil)

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

It was pretty funny when he’d rage against us pointing out that he has a sexual interest in little girls and suggest that we only thought that because misandry, and then in the very next paragraph rage about how those evil temptresses on the Disney channel were turning him on.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

For some definition of funny…ironic sure, but still too gross to be humorous (my cousin’s daughters are about his “preferred age” and I hope they never meet men like him)

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

The first time a grown man hit on me I was 9. Unfortunately I can almost guarantee that they’ll meet someone like Owly, which is why it’s better that kids be warned about people like him in advance. He is the person that parents warn their kids about.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Fair enough but damnit, puberty is hard enough without assholes!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

That includes yours, hitting on a 9 year old, smh — I’m sorry you had to deal with assholes.

9..9!…the younger sister is 9, and rather fond of her barbie dreamhouse (with no kitchen sink, that really bugs me for some reason) — 9 = a fucking child.

Which is, of course, why Owly disgusted me.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

You know what is really amusing though? The sidebar just displays “Argenti Aertheri on Register-Her is a Fake “…” because of space limitations. And Register-Her is definitely a fake.

Or maybe sleep dep is setting in and I should actually touch my ~2 shots…hm…

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Well the conversation certainly took a depressing turn there. Here is a serval playing with kids to lighten the mood.

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