Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.
NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)
Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:
Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”
Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.
A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”
Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”
In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:
I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage. I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …
[Y]ou fucking moron. Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.
We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …
You are SO fucked.
Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”
Elam’s idea of exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:
If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.
While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:
We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.
We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …
We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.
A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:
She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.
“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:
[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.
So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.
In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:
Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”
After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”
It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”
That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.
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I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.
I would totally set up a wiki for you, David, but I’d feel the need to go to Register Her to make it look authentic, and I refuse to do that.
Lol, so that’s what it looks like when kitteh goes “that string is a toy right?!”
“That “judge” … god, does he think the vagina dentata is real? IF ONLY.” — well there is this thing but I kind of side with Jezebel on this one. The thing doesn’t actually prevent rape, requires women to use it to prevent being raped, and various articles I’ve seen specifically mention “well if you’re raped and not using it, wouldn’t you think maybe you should’ve?”
So yeah, not endorsing it, just mentioning that it exists.
I nominate this kitty, caught sleeping with someone else’s wife! Definitely misandry!
‘Lol, so that’s what it looks like when kitteh goes “that string is a toy right?!”’
Exactly! 😀 😀
That Jezebel article is very interesting, and I’m glad it pointed out the situation that prompted the invention.
That ebil misandrist kitty is so cuuuuuute! And those sheets (?) look just like a bedspread my mum had.
My cat hates the kitty who lives next door and growls at him, and he’s a male kitty. Misandry! See how evil and feminist she is?
http://imgur.com/sL09c
@David—Register-Purr already exists! Although it is in tumblr form:
http://misandryandkittens.tumblr.com/
All the most vyle, vyle M-misandrist kittens are registered there, with pictures.
We could also expand it to include dogs by calling it Register Fur.
Okay, here is some serious kitty misandry.
This guy has written another excellent article about the MRA goon squad; http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/michael-laxer/2012/12/mens-rights-movement-cafe-university-toronto
Anon are very, very unlikely to have heard of AVfM, despite Elam’s delusions about them being “important globally”, it remains a blog with an average readership that has achieved nothing except painful embarrassment to its “publisher” in the past year.
Even if it’s a bad site, at least there’s a website for false accusers.
Kitteh, I can’t tell if that floof is a rug or something or if it’s kitteh tummeh.
The older kitty chez lowquacks has become incredibly persistent these days in wanting to be on the breakfast bar he’s not allowed on, and we had to have the fried rice my sister and brother prepared sans bacon because of him tonight. There’s register-purr and food covered.
Not bragging but I read the comments from the first page and totally picked josephine as Emma Ale.
Katz, the orange fluff is a sheepskin rug. We’ve still got it but it’s more grunge colour these days. 🙂
Lowquacks – you mean it’s ever been possible to keep kitties off benches, tables, food preparation areas? We gave up on that battle several kitty generations ago. My Katie was always the worst. She decided she liked milk that had had cereal in it, but wasn’t prepared to wait for me to finish my share. Up on the table, tossed off the table, up on the table, tossed off the table, etc etc … I learned to eat breakfast with my elbow stuck out to keep her head out of the bowl.
Brat. Bratbratbratbrat.
Here I was debating going to bed, clearly duty calls.
“Even if it’s a bad site, at least there’s a website for false accusers.”
Named by the men they “falsely” accused, pardon me if I can’t quite manage to ignore the obvious conflict of interest. Ignoring that, they don’t limit themselves to listing women convicted of crimes, or even to women accused of crimes; nope, they don’t even limit themselves to women they feel may have committed a crime (such as filing a false police report, or are we again playing “all accusations in any manner ruin a man’s life”?) — that would be too confining, so instead they use the catch-all “bigot” label for any woman they find disagreeable.
We’ve done “all accusations in any manner ruin a man’s life forever” only, oh, at least a dozen times in my time here? Legal accusations can have negative consequences for a falsely accused man, but considering the ratio of arrests for rape, to rapes, the odds are that anyone falsely arrested hasn’t been falsely accused, but misidentified. Simply making up a rape and filing a police report? Quite illegal. Misidentification? Unfortunate when it occurs, but not a factor in the sort of date rape cases that get the MRM up in arms.
katz — I’m pretty sure that’s a large furry cat’s underside (which probably means it’s a trap)
kitteh — goddamned, that totally looks like a Maine Coon belly! I suggest “that behavior is totally unacceptable” in the voice you’d use to scold children…then again my mother is always amazed that her cat listens to me, insists I have to teach her that trick because she’s been trying for years.
*sigh* I’d suggest that voice for removing the cat from the table/etc.
Maybe I should go to bed!
@kittehhelp
They used to be controllable, but now they’re beyond dedicated. I took one all the way out to shed twice in one evening, and each time he followed me back. Used to stay out there. They’re even standing ground against water pistols now. I think it’s because we forget we’re punishing when taking them down and end up cuddling them.
It’s ridiculous, though – got to the point where we need one person to prepare dinner and another to cat-wrangle. Usually me wrangling because I’m an absolutely shit cook.
@Argenti
Maine Coons are lovely lovely lovely kitties! One of mine is a Maine Coon (also the one being complained about above) and he’s so fluffy and lovely oh my goodness!
lowquacks — I had an ex with a Main Coon and a bengal, fun times! The Maine Coon would literally fall of furniture, while the bengal could get into anything (including the fridge if it was even remotely open, she’d slide a claw into a cracked fridge and *poof* hope you didn’t want those leftovers!)
They were both excellent kitties though, even if they did seem to conspire to distract you with fur and then steal your food!
My part-Maine Coon’s very capable of opening doors with doorknobs but has never got into the freezer. They’re a very crafty (and enormous, though mine’s more lean and mean) breed.
A friend’s got one that’s big enough to not seem real the first time you see him.
I mean, not to offend other kitties, but big big fluffy fluffy kitties are really the best kitties.
Maine Coons are THE most beautiful cats! I’d love to have one, but unless there’s one in rescue (highly unlikely) come the time we’re getting another cat, it won’t be happening. 🙁
Argenti, no tone of voice ever worked against Katie. Queen of the house and world and the universe, that one. If there was such a thing as an alpha cat, she was it. Still is, crossing over hasn’t made a jot of difference to her bossiness.
“They’re even standing ground against water pistols now.”
It’s WAR I tell you!
lowquacks — I don’t think the bengal ever got into the freezer, though I suspect that was only because the counter wasn’t high enough. And I’m going to withhold comment on bestest kitteh, because I used to wake up with a teeny tiny ball of bengal perched above my head and D’AWWW
Apparently! Good luck with that.
If that won’t work, and no tone of voice does, idk, try distracting them with a toy? Admittedly that only buys a few minutes.
@Argenti
They’re a bit old for toys. It’s only my sister they’ve stood ground with – her body language and tone of voice aren’t very threatening. She’s an incredibly nice person, which is usually fantastic but not here.
@kittehhelp
Our part-Maine Coon was an RSPCA kitty, so it’s possible!