Categories
a voice for men antifeminism bullying false accusations harassment hate men who should not ever be with women ever misandry misogyny MRA not-quite-explicit threats not-quite-plausible deniability paul elam reddit the c-word

Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

758 Comments
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
katz
11 years ago

“Josephine Schitzel?”

*Snrk* OK, I recognize that it’s difficult to come up with good fake names (one thing I will hand to Anthony Zarat), but…seriously?

And come on, guys, it has to be Mr. Al! Who else would excitedly announce that s/he saw a bra in the laundry one time?

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

clairedammit — try one of those magic eraser things, I think I removed about a decade worth of mold from my parents’ bathroom with one (two).

katz
11 years ago

Also, PO-EM! PO-EM! PO-EM!

cloudiah
11 years ago

KathleenB, that humpback whale video was something. Everyone, go watch it.

Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

Oh, this bit:

“lol, bra sizing. I saw a bra once, in some laundry when i was doing my laundry at the communal laundry. it was cool.”

Straight guy, virgin, maybe 20….if older, emotionally stunted. And no, I’m not virgin-shaming.

Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

P.S.

How about that poem? We’re listening.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Argenti, I have heard great things about magic erasers. I will try one!

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

i wrote a poem called Beyond the Black Gap:

stanza 1:
Beyond the black gap
I hide
in the darknes
the entrance is the exit
and it is all around me
but i choose to remain
beyond the black gap

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

clairedammit — good luck with your mold all the same, even if it magically erases it, you’ll still ahve to be near it and ewwww.

Shiraz — college student currently by the sound of communal laundry, but that could be a cultural difference in terms.

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

Also, I’m NOT a virgin, I’m a female who has had sex many times.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

*claps slowly* Can we move on to the next poem please?

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Then why in the bloody hell are you so interested in someone else’s bra?!

Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

@Argenti:

“…college student currently by the sound of communal laundry, but that could be a cultural difference in terms.”

Yep.

And thank you, Josephine, for finally sharing a piece of your poem. How long did it take to write after I asked to hear it? Ten minutes, 20? You know, I was paid to critique the arts during my last gig. My professional opinion is that stanza 1 kinda blows. Seriously, I got paid benefits and a wage to pass judgements like that.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

I’m a female

said no one, ever

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

At least he learned from the last conversation and is no longer making up bra sizes like, what was it, 60DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD?

cloudiah
11 years ago

Pell is actually more interesting/entertaining than The First Joe. Sad, really.

I’ll just leave this here.

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

stanza 2:

fear moves in the darkness
but also peace
in a wheel of balance
never changing
there is much to be feared
beyond the black gap
but much to rejoice
as all great things are

Ranter (@socialrants)
11 years ago

I’m late to the food party, dammit. I made the yummiest chickpea potpie the other night, eating left overs for days. But it was so good.

Also, scanned the comments and someone said Asian store in Austin. MTs on North Lamar is good, but a huge fish section. So if the smell bugs you, send a friend. Which reminds me, I need spinach steam buns. A mountain of them, right now. *drools*

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Does anyone have any good recipes for wood ear mushrooms?

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
11 years ago

I always laugh with my salad. It is just so cheerful, how could one help. Kinda like Grumpy Cat, yanno?

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
11 years ago

We call those pigs ears round here, the auricularia. Don’t eat them much because the chanterelles are up about the same time and they are tastier. Sorry.

cloudiah
11 years ago

“Chickpea pot pie” needs a recipe, stat!

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Yes, chickpea pot pie recipe!

Ranter (@socialrants)
11 years ago

I got the recipe from Veganomicon by Isa Moskowitz. It’s really good, but her recipe is huge. It overflowed my deep dish pan, and the crust recipe was double what I needed. So yummy though!

cloudiah
11 years ago

@CassandraSays, maybe a pork and mushroom stir fry?

1 13 14 15 16 17 31