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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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cloudiah
12 years ago

clairedammit, What’s veggie fish? Also, anyone here tried soy curls? A vegan friend was raving about them, but I have my doubts.

timetravellingfool
12 years ago

Well now I’m hungry- see you folks in a bit. Do something nice for yourself, Josephine- it’s going to be ok!!

clairedammit
clairedammit
12 years ago

Ooh, rosemary! In chicken or mushrooms.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Steak and mushrooms. Mushrooms in garlic butter … oooohhhh.

Argenti, don’t eat all the scrambled eggs or omelette, leave some for me! 😀

Argenti Aertheri
12 years ago

I’m still thinking Pell, probably, but enjoy your food timetravellingfool!

cloudiah
12 years ago

I don’t eat much meat anymore, but I do kind of miss pork. I’m not going to run out and get some, but if someone invited me for dinner and that was the menu, I’d probably eat some. Just to be polite, you know. I don’t miss lamb or beef at all, though.

clairedammit
clairedammit
12 years ago

Cloudiah, I get it at the big Asian market once or twice a year. It’s in kind of a log, and looks like this: http://www.veggie-world.com/OnlineShop/AJ01-Vegan-Fish-Steak-?mDdWkyp

cloudiah
12 years ago

I’m with you Argenti. Same MO of making a few innocuous posts and then launching into incoherent teenage stream-of-consciousness ramblings. It’s Pell.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

When sockpuppets lie through their teeth, do they get fibres caught in them? ::pleh pleh::

Okay, time for me to head home, see y’all later if you’re online!

cloudiah
12 years ago

Thanks, clairedammit. I’ll have to look for it. I don’t like cooking real fish at home — too stinky — but I’d love to make fish tacos.

Argenti Aertheri
12 years ago

kittehs’ — used sock fibers no less, yuck! And I only eat all the eggs when my mother insists I finish them or she’ll feed them to the dog (he’s one very well fed, very stupid dog!)

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

clairedammit: where is this big Asian market? There’s only one halfway decent one in Austin.

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

I miss Uwijimaya.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

I guess we can add food to the list with bra sizing in terms of stuff that scares off trolls?

Argenti Aertheri
12 years ago

I guess? It makes sense too I suppose, trolls only eat wayward travelers who pass over their bridges, or something like that.

clairedammit
clairedammit
12 years ago

If you’re ever in Houston, hellkell, this is the Hong Kong supermarket in Hong Kong City Mall. It’s on Bellaire near Wilcrest. They stock 14 kinds of Thai curry paste! I restrained myself and only bought 5. The whole mall is fun to wander around in too.

There is also a 99 Ranch Market on the west side which has a great selection (Indian food, too), just not the veggie fish.

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

So would talking about bras made of food scare them away forever? XD

clairedammit
clairedammit
12 years ago

I can talk about food all day. Bra sizing, not so much.

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

claire: I’m probably going to H-town at some point next month, this place is on my list, thank you!

cloudiah
12 years ago

Definitely better than food made of bras!

Argenti Aertheri
12 years ago

Did someone request a bra made of food? How about a lettuce bra?

clairedammit
clairedammit
12 years ago

You’re welcome, hellkell!

Also, obligatory google image search.

Sir Bodsworth Rugglesby III
Sir Bodsworth Rugglesby III
12 years ago

you could make them out of fruit leather.

josephine
josephine
12 years ago

lol, bra sizing. I saw a bra once, in some laundry when i was doing my laundry at the communal laundry. it was cool.

josephine
josephine
12 years ago

i mean i saw another person’s bra, for the first time. i have my own.

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