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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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katz
8 years ago

I also love that it’s a little boy making the mice.

cloudiah
8 years ago

He hints at incest, and others in the comments argue explicitly that she must have been committing incest. They are… yeah, soulless motherfuckers does seem apt here.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Wait, I though incest between a mother and son was a loving thing to the Farrell fan club?

They’re not even consistent soulless assholes (motherfuckers has unfortunate implications in this context, imho)

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Plant derail — anyone have any advice on how long to wait after a rubbing alcohol bath before putting my mealy bugged plants back with the others? I absolutely cannot risk it spreading as my African violet would not stand up to that sort of treatment (thankfully I think I could the fucking bugs while they were still on the calla lily they must’ve come in on)

Fun times though, discover that and have to run out to a psych appt, get asked how anxious I am…before the mealy bugs or after? XD

clairedammit
clairedammit
8 years ago

We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

Are little orange space aliens with golden raisin eyes responsible for the demise of my refrigerator? We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

Did my brother meet a pine tree on a mountain once that told him God liked his sandals? We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood? We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

cloudiah
8 years ago
clairedammit
clairedammit
8 years ago

He hints at incest

On what the fuck evidence? Butt-nugget evidence does not count.

cloudiah
8 years ago

Is Paul Elam a soulless butt-nugget who uses violent crime to drive up page views and boost his own megalomania? We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

Is JohntheOther a bloviating paranoid asshat who deserves to step on legos for all of eternity? We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

Are the commenters at AVfM angry, bitter people who just want to steep in their angry bitterness forever without ever doing anything to make the world a better place for anyone, including men? We do not know for sure. But we know enough to ask these questions.

Actually we know for sure, and the answer to each question is “yes.”

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

The comments there, oy. There’s “Dr.” Tara piecing things together from the Daily Mail. THE DAILY FUCKING MAIL. What unaccredited online diploma mill did she get her degree from?

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

“Actually we know for sure, and the answer to each question is “yes.””

+1 internet for that comment, but particularly that bit

And this thread needs baby animals, so have a baby mouse.

Zimmer
Zimmer
8 years ago

561 (well, 562 now) comments?!

This isn’t normal for this blog…is it?

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

Zimmer. what do you consider normal? We’ve had threads go to over 1,000 comments. This is nothing.

clairedammit
clairedammit
8 years ago

We had an 1100+ comment post the other day.

clairedammit
clairedammit
8 years ago

This one., and a bunch of 400+ posts in between then and now.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Hey, has the site fallen over? The screen’s gone haywire here.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Oh typical. Thirty seconds after I send David an email asking, the site comes good.

Basement Cat strikes again.

clairedammit
clairedammit
8 years ago

Hmm, everyone with a gravatar just has a white square right now, but other than that, I never saw anything weird.

katz
8 years ago

SO MANY CUTE ANIMAL FOODS!

I may need to get some olives and cream cheese just in case.

pecunium
8 years ago

Zimmer: Perfectly normal.

pecunium
8 years ago

Cranky: I must say, however, that the Funny or Die video is wrong, too. How is it funny to talk about cutting off a guy’s balls? Would we defend a video that went on about how hideous labia are, saying it’s “just a joke?”

Depends on the context.

Amused
8 years ago

@Zimmer

561 (well, 562 now) comments?!

This isn’t normal for this blog…is it?

Well, we used to have more, before Brandon was sent home and Owly started cheating on us with misandrists over on Slate.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

500? Just wait until Steele tries another 1,000+ comments on how misandry is totally a word guys!

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

“I must say, however, that the Funny or Die video is wrong, too. How is it funny to talk about cutting off a guy’s balls? Would we defend a video that went on about how hideous labia are, saying it’s “just a joke?””

Biology lesson — The female equivilant of testicles? Ovaries. You were close though, as the male equivilant of labia? The scrotum. Science, please >a href=”http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urogenital_folds”>get some. (Extra credit question — how many pairs of labia are there?)

Kim
Kim
8 years ago

Coming back to the “cutting off balls” topic. Have you noticed that some guys refuse to de-sex their male dogs because they have some sort of empathy with the dog and it wouldn’t be fair to deprive him of his manhood (doghood?).

I wonder how the AVfM crowd feels about the literal message of that PSA – that dog balls should be removed. Just a hunch, but I think there would be some correlation between refusing to de-sex male dogs and toxic masculinity.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Yeah, I get that feeling, Kim. Reminds me of Desmond Morris ranting on about how tomcats should have vasectomies instead of being castrated. Mustn’t deprive them of their sex lives!

Oh, have a peek at the end of the What?! Men’s Rights etc. thread. 🙂

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

pecunium, if you’re still around, can you answer this derail for me?

Plant derail — anyone have any advice on how long to wait after a rubbing alcohol bath before putting my mealy bugged plants back with the others? I absolutely cannot risk it spreading as my African violet would not stand up to that sort of treatment (thankfully I think I could the fucking bugs while they were still on the calla lily they must’ve come in on)

They’re currently residing in front of the 55 gallon tank, which makes it very likely I’m going to trip over them.

Also — could the bugs? Caught the bugs, my brain hates me today.

Kim
Kim
8 years ago

Would we defend a video that went on about how hideous labia are, saying it’s “just a joke?””

Also, Dan Savage did make some comments about how unattractive he found girly bits, and while he did cop some flak for it, I’m sure a lot of people thought he was funny. I didn’t really find it amusing, but then his deliver isn’t near as good as Katherine’s. I’m certainly not going to imply he is a dangerous criminal for saying it.

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=612043 (he talks about it after the last letter)

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Meh. If Dan isn’t that attracted to women anyway (which he clearly isn’t from that comment), I’d hardly expect him to find labia attractive. Hell, there are enough hetero men who go all ewww about them. There are too many women who go ewww about them.

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

The labia comment of Savage’s is mild compared to some of the shit he’s come out with over the years.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Diogynes isn’t naive, he’s disingenuous and sexist. Rape accusations are not uniquely tarnishing – if you could say that about any kind of accusation it would be child abuse, and we don’t shield those accused there. Of course no one* including Diogynes would suggest that we should, because obviously child abuse is terrible and it’s really important to catch and convict people who do it and…do you see where I’m going here, disingenuous boy? If you actually considered rape to be a serious crime you wouldn’t make the arguments that you do, and everyone who reads your nonsense knows it.

*No one here, since Slavey no longer comments here. There are of course pedophiles who would love to suggest that they should be more protected. Luckily society takes their bullshit a lot less seriously than the bullshit that rape apologists for the rape of adults spout.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

I certainly wouldn’t bother reading his column often. I mean, just his answer to one of the other letters on that page – the woman who was grossed out by her former lover’s kink – was pretty skeevy. Instead of suggesting it’s poor to inflict a kink on someone who’s nauseated by it, Savage was telling her she should be open to it. Charming.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Diogynes isn’t naive, he’s disingenuous and sexist.

+1

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

Diogenes sarcastically said earlier that my telling him to shut up was a brilliant rebuttal, I say he’s getting exactly the response his bullshit warrants.

pecunium
8 years ago

Argenti: If the bugs are gone…. you can put them back. At this point they, or they aren’t. You can wait a couple of days, to be sure, or put them back now.

As to Diogenes… Naïf is both his affectation; on issues like rape, and the nature of his understanding, on things where the actual workings of the world come into play.

All in all, he’s dishonest, yes.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Added to his pretence of being the Great Scholar, it equals Slimy Lying Little Turd.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

I think I’d rather give them a couple of days to be sure then — one hangs directly over my orchid, and two of the others flank a spider plant baby that is finally starting to look more alive than dead. Doesn’t seem worth it to risk them for a bunch of seriously neglected calla lilies (oh grocery store plants, why do they neglect you so?)

Lol, there’s a cat for register-purr — the jerk of a cat that climbing into the pot and knocked over that spider plant. (Pretty sure said cat then landed on a cactus though, so I guess that’s plant revenge)

Re: Diogenes — disingenuous naif?

“…since Slavey no longer comments here.” — and thank the gods for that. Mr. unpadded ass would say similar, but he doesn’t seem to be here anymore either.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Also he’s another one like Mr Al who thinks that if he just pesters us enough we’ll want to be his friends despite the sexist, rape apologism, and general asshattery.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

So he did eventually return after that whole thing about child prostitution? I was hoping he’d go to the corner of shame forever after that.

pecunium
8 years ago

He came back: He had to be banned.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Banned works, though I do hope he discovers the existence of cushions.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

We could take up a collection and ship him a cushion.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Thinking about Tom Martin’s theories on child prostitution makes me feel icky, so here is a puppy.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

D’AWWW it’s a puppy! Have a hedgehog yawn in return for that puppy —

http://youtu.be/2DaG6cCBAwU

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

And here is your Tuesday night tearjerker with a happy ending.

cloudiah
8 years ago

Cassandra, I have something in my eye and I blame you. I am such a sucker for rescue stories. This was another one that made me weepy:

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

I remember those beagles!

katz
8 years ago

Aww, all the rescue animals are so sweet!

cloudiah
8 years ago

Kitties need equal time:

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

It appears I must’ve gotten something in my eye while getting a midnight snack…D’AWWW

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