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Three Links to Destroy Your Faith in Humanity

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Seriously, if you’re feeling depressed, don’t read these.

1) Hunter Moore’s ‘Scary as Shit’ Revenge Porn Site Will Map Submitted Photos to People’s Addresses

Remember the guy behind the revenge porn site Is Anyone Up, which enabled assholes to post nude pictures of their exes for a worldwide audience to see? That site’s down, but he’s got a new one about to go up, with a new feature:

Scorned lovers who submit photos of their exes for revenge can now also enable others to physically stalk them by including their addresses along with the photos. HunterMoore.TV will then display the photos on a map. …

“We’re gonna introduce the mapping stuff so you can stalk people,” Mr. Moore gleefully told Betabeat, adding, “I know–it’s scary as shit.”

More here.

2) Creepy ‘Love Surgery’ Performed on New Moms’ Unwitting Vaginas

This isn’t a new story, but Jezebel’s Erin Gloria Ryan has written a horrifying overview of the case of Dr. James C. Burt, a gynecologist who maimed countless women by performing weird, unnecessary, and often quite damaging “vagina tightening” surgery on them without their knowledge or consent over the course of several decades.

Burt’s “Love Surgery” was based on the doctor’s cockamamie idea that women are “structurally inadequate for intercourse” and that the only way to fix their “pathological condition” was through surgery that made the vagina and vulva more penis friendly. He also believed that Love Surgery would turn women into “horny little mice.” In his 1975 book, entitled “Surgery of Love,” Burt … says that “hundreds and hundreds” of women were treated this way, but other sources estimate that the number is actually in the thousands. …

 In his tireless efforts to make women more fuckable, he actually ended up causing his patients serious, irreversible damage.

Perhaps most astonishing:

[O]ther doctors and medical professionals knew what Dr. Burt was up to, but did nothing. St. Elizabeth Hospital in Dayton, Ohio, where Dr. Burt practiced, didn’t require medical consent forms for the procedure for the first 12 years it was being performed.

3) When “Men’s Rights” Narratives Kill

Amanda Marcotte writes about a sad story related to Slate’s Dear Prudence in which a man stalked and killed his ex and one of her children – after being alerted to her location by a sympathetic friend, who is now “haunted” by this terrible mistake and its horrifying consequences. As Marcotte notes,

The so-called “men’s rights” movement is very intent on convincing the public that domestic violence is overblown by feminists, and that many to most victims are lying to the police and the courts, who take them at their word because the justice system is supposedly in the thrall of the all-powerful feminist regime. This narrative tends to have a lot of power, because it feeds off long-standing stereotypes of women as deceitful, manipulative gold diggers. Unfortunately, the widespread credulity for anti-feminist ravings about lying women in cahoots with the police does lead to tragedy … .

If you are not already depressed enough by this story, take a look at Domestic Violence Crime Watch, a site that chronicles cases in which domestic violence leads to murder and other violent crimes. While women account for some of the violence, the overwhelming majority of the cases on the site involve male perps and female victims; sometimes children and other family members are harmed or killed as well. Data from the Bureau of Justice Statistics shows clearly that women are far more likely to be murdered by intimates (and exes) than men.  (The one bit of good news in all this:  the number of such murders has been declining for some time.)

If this is all a bit much, here’s a live stream of kittens in action. (Or, at the moment at least, napping.)

 

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Nepenthe
Nepenthe
12 years ago

Speaking of murder-suicide, yesterday a professional football player did it. At least he didn’t also kill their infant daughter?

Money quote from former coach: “Family was paramount for Jovan, you could see it at every game.” Yep.

Ugh. Have some otter. So cute, it’s illegal in three states:

Shaenon
12 years ago

Amanda Marcotte was dismissed from the Edwards campaign because Bill Donohue of the Catholic League mounted a campaign against her and another blogger who had made posts critical of the Catholic Church. The book you linked to is incorrect in saying that it was because of Duke Lacrosse.

It’s weird, because usually books thrown together to cash in on sensationalized court cases are known for their meticulous research.

amandajane5
12 years ago

Okay, judgybitch, two of those links are to the same incident and none of them involve the woman murdering her spouse in addition to the children. Where’s this epidemic of women murdering their *husbands* and children?

ideologuereview
12 years ago

Amanda Marcotte was dismissed from the Edwards campaign because Bill Donohue of the Catholic League mounted a campaign against her and another blogger who had made posts critical of the Catholic Church. The book you linked to is incorrect in saying that it was because of Duke Lacrosse.
No, the book mentions that on page 335. And she had to resign because of what she said, not because some oversensitive Catholic mounted a “campaign” against her. It’s because she said things like “What if Mary had taken Plan B after the Lord filled her with his white, sticky Holy Spirit? You’d have to justify your misogyny with another ancient mythology.”
She’s still David’s go-to girl, though, when it comes to gender issues. That might explain a few things, actually.

titianblue
titianblue
12 years ago

And the fact that you describe an adult woman as a “go-to-girl” might explain a few things, too.

Melody
12 years ago

LALALAALALALA Judgybitch can’t hear you over how right judgybitch is.

I’m tired of people claiming that feminist blow things out of proportions. I’m tired of folks saying I’m biased.

I have dealt with being hassled by men on the street since I was 12 years old. I’m tired of folks trying to blame it on what I was wearing or whatever. I’m just tired.

amandajane5
12 years ago

Wait, Preggo Punchout thinks that Bill Donohue is somehow *not* an oversensitive Catholic? Isn’t that, like, his entire career? As a former American Catholic, I certainly know he didn’t stand for the majority of my church.

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
12 years ago

The studies cited by MRAs also often count self-defense as violence. So if Partner A is repeatedly slamming Partner B’s head into a wall, and B shoves or hits A while trying to escape, they’re both guilty of abuse.

The vast majority of abuse occurs in coabusive relationships. Its why I think the whole finger-pointing game in those scenarios is pointless. Neither side is actually innocent. Unless one partner is exclusively the initiator of the violence.

But the cases where its one partner continually being abused by the other? Yeah thats more clear cut.

There’s also the fact, judgybitch, that on several occasions when cases of men killing their wives and children and others have been reported that the MRM have been quick to try and excuse their behavior.

But the “both sides do it” ignores the salient fact: men do it a fuck of a lot more than women. Also, the women who do it tend to be psychotic, whereas the men who do it tend to have “rational” reasons.

Interesting juxtaposition.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

“The vast majority of abuse occurs in coabusive relationships. ”

citation needed

Nepenthe
Nepenthe
12 years ago

Noting that cases of women killing their families often involve a psychotic break (see Andrea Yates) is not excusing their behavior.

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
12 years ago

@The Kittehs
Citation:

Whitaker DJ, Haileyesus T, Swahn M, Saltzman L. Differences in frequency of violence and
reported injury between relationships with reciprocal and nonreciprocal intimate partner violence.
American Journal of Public Health, Vol. 97, No. 5, 2007

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17395835

Hmmmmm, data.

Shaenon
12 years ago

I’ve never seen feminists calling Andrea Yates a hero (or anything more than a disturbed person who needed psychiatric help), saying her children deserved to be murdered, urging other women to murder their families, or making barely-veiled threats that if they don’t get their way, more murders will happen. I do, however, see MRAs saying stuff like that all the time about men who murder their families.

ideologuereview
12 years ago

So only the overly sensitive object to statements like, “What if Mary had taken Plan B after the Lord filled her with his white, sticky Holy Spirit? You’d have to justify your misogyny with another ancient mythology.”
A bit of advice: You feminists should not call other people overly sensitive, especially when they have a very legitimate reason to be offended. Hell, this blog and 99% of all feminist gatherings out there are devoted to being offended and reactionary – pushing around police officers, waving around box cutters, etc.

ideologuereview
12 years ago

I do, however, see MRAs saying stuff like that all the time about men who murder their families.
You mean like the battered woman’s defense? Hell, they’ve even got laws passed about that.
But that doesn’t count.

emilygoddess
12 years ago

waving around box cutters

LOL

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Thanks for those links, David. The minute Diogenes the Creepy talks as if self-defence is morally equivalent to attacking someone, my alarm bells go off.

drst
drst
12 years ago

@Diogenes – that study is interesting but it’s got some serious design flaws. For starters, they didn’t formulate the questions, they used data from an existing study. This doesn’t make their work invalid but it does limit generalizability of their findings.

More importantly, their definitions of violence don’t separate verbal threats from actual action: To assess perpetration of physical violence within intimate relationships, respondents answered 2 questions (“How often in the past year have you threatened your partner with violence, pushed or shoved him/her, or thrown something at him/her that could hurt,” and “How often in the past year have you slapped, hit, or kicked your partner”). That’s a major flaw. A verbal threat is related to actual physical actions of abuse in situations where an individual is escalating, but they are distinct categories (since if we put everyone who ever said “I want to kill so-and-so right now” in jail there’d be no free people on earth).

So, nice try. I’d be interested to see more solid studies done on the idea of reciprocal partner violence, particularly who initiates threats verbally versus physically and so on.

ideologuereview
12 years ago

Huh, the creator of “preggo punchout” is suggesting that Amanda Marcotte is being tactless in her discussion of human reproduction?
Isn’t it a bit hypocritical for you to bring up some trolling I did about three years ago but to have a blind spot for Amanda Marcotte’s past? I’m surprised the girl still has the gall to keep making those vague and unsubstantiated claims after her Duke Lacrosse disaster.
You know, David. maybe if you weren’t so hopelessly programmed and reactionary you’d be able to find a job. Oh, I guess that’s a low blow, but it’s about as relevant as what you brought up.

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
12 years ago

Kitty, when did I ever say that?

I said coabuse is the majority of abusive relationships. Your mind somehow ran with self-defense when I never even addressed it.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

Money quote from former coach: “Family was paramount for Jovan, you could see it at every game.” Yep.

This was his response to the murder? Way to handle PR and make it look like football doesn’t have a culture that accepts domestic violence, coach.

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
12 years ago

@drst

Well I respect your opinion on the validity of the study cited.

DV is politicized so a lot of studies probably are crap. I would however trust an anonymous self-report by a group of people. A survey of 2000 college seniors would probably be worth something.

But a lot of what I have read on both sides does point towards co-abuse.

ideologuereview
12 years ago

The rest of the quote:
“I’m devastated right now. Trying to hold together.”
Yep, totally an invalid response for a man who is grieving. I’m sorry this guy wasn’t able to hold up to your standards of PC right after he found out one of his players had died, I guess people need to be more careful not to offend your feelings when tragedy strikes.

cloudiah
12 years ago

Important takeaways from the article Diogenes the Idiot posted:

“Reciprocity of IPV does not necessarily mean that the frequency or the severity of the violence is equal or similar between partners.”

and

“This replicates findings in the literature at large that women are more likely to be injured by partner violence than are men.”

Preggo Punchout:

I’ve never seen feminists calling Andrea Yates a hero (or anything more than a disturbed person who needed psychiatric help), saying her children deserved to be murdered, urging other women to murder their families, or making barely-veiled threats that if they don’t get their way, more murders will happen. I do, however, see MRAs saying stuff like that all the time about men who murder their families.

I know you believe a severely battered woman should just take it, and probably be grateful for the attention. You believe that SO much that Shaenon’s point just went sailing — WHOOSH! — right past your head. MRAs aren’t lobbying for a male equivalent of the a battered woman’s defense. The are making heroes out of murderers and child abusers.

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