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Choosy Women Are a Threat to Civilization, Part 2: Electric Boo-hoo-aroo

Damn these evil women and their diabolical preference for hunky dudes!

Everyone knows that choosy mothers choose Jif. But when it comes to men rather than peanut butter, apparently choosy women are choosing THE END OF CIVILIZATION by not choosing to date the sorts of nice fellows who later become bitter misogynistic Men Going Their Own Way. In a post over on MGTOWforums.com, Todd1968 spells out the dire “societal cost of women’s pickiness.” (And, yes, we’ve heard this complaint before.)

“[N]one of us came out of the womb as MGTOWs,” he writes.

Most of us arrived here after a long process, during which we struggled to resist taking the red pill.

While some of us arrived here after a nasty divorce, many, I believe, came here as a result of the “nice guy” syndrome: After discovering the extreme superficiality of women’s preferences in the dating market, we decided that the game wasn’t worth the candle. (This often included an encounter with a cynical gold-digger single mom who wanted us to foot the bill for a “bad boy’s” offspring. For me, this was the final straw.)

I’ll have “shit that never happened” for $500, Alex.

And so we become “loners.” The media likes to portray us as “dangerous”, and the .00001% of loners who do turn violent animate the news and the fem-centric blogosphere. The fact is, though, that 99.999% of us simply drop out of social interaction and courtship, or “ghost.”

While this is a solution that works for us, it is not socially optimal. Society would have been better served if we had become husbands and fathers.

Having read a good number of these bitter MGTOW rants, I’m pretty sure most of you dudes would make terrible husbands and/or fathers. I’m thinking that “society” dodged a bullet here.

And I believe that this is what most of us wanted at one time. For example, I talk a lot about escorts and sugar babies; but this wasn’t what I envisioned for myself at 20 or 25.

Women choosing not to date Todd1968? Superficial. Dudes paying money to have sex with “hot” women half their age? Super smart!

Here is the point: By choosing to exclude so many men from consideration, alpha-hunting feminists have taken a large number of good fathers (and their children) out of the population.

Uh, dude, you hate feminists. Why would you even care who they’re dating? Or have you conflated “feminist” with “all women,” as is so often the case with you dudes?

How many intelligent men will never be fathers because they were “boring nice guys” in their teens and 20s?

On the other hand, many women are going out of their way to breed with “bad boys,” who will shirk fatherhood completely.

In the world of MGTOW, when a father abandons a mother and child it’s always 100% the fault of the mother.

When looked at in the aggregate, modern feminist behavior in the dating pool has some quite deleterious effects for the future of society, wouldn’t you say?

Again, I’m having trouble seeing “women not dating so-called ‘nice guys’ who are actually misogynistic dickheads” as a major social problem.

Just in case you thought Todd here might actually be casting aspersions on Alpha Males, he clarifies his intentions with a second comment:

My point is certainly not to imply that all alpha males are dicks, or irresponsible. (The “bad boys” are another story, of course.) The problem isn’t the existence of a male hierarchy; the problem is the unrealistic expectations of the average woman.

Never blame men for anything; the blame can always be traced back to some evil woman.

The problem arose when feminism and entitlement ideology caused women to lose their grasp of what psychologists call “reciprocity.” It used to be that the 10% of alpha males took the top 10% of women; and everyone else paired up with their opposite gender equivalents. This meant that almost everyone got paired up.

[citation needed]

But … today’s woman regards the majority of men as “below average” or unattractive. That is a recipe for 90% of the female attention directed at 10% of the men–with the rest being all but ignored.

[citation needed again]

This doesn’t serve either men or women. Many of us know first-hand how it doesn’t serve men. But it also results in a lot of women becoming “Sex-in-the-City” spinsters.

Sex AND the city. Sex AAANNNNDDDD the City.

Seriously, dudes of the manosphere, if you’re going to cite a TV show that ceased production 8 years ago as your go-to cultural reference, at least get the name right.

For example, my cousin is 40 years old and single. In her prime, she was just attractive enough to become the second-tier choice of some alpha male; but she never made the final cut. Throughout her twenties and into her thirties, she slept with guys who were a notch above her league.

Uh, if they were happily sleeping with her, wouldn’t that suggest that they were actually in the same league? How do these leagues work, anyway?

Meanwhile, I remember a responsible “nice guy” who patiently hung around in her “friend zone” for years. (She used him as a social spare tire.)

If a woman hooks up with a “bad boy” and gets abandoned with a kid, this is completely the woman’s fault. If a “nice guy” hangs around with a woman who’s not interested in him for years on end, this is completely the woman’s fault also?

Finally, Mr. Nice Guy went away–along with the alpha males.

My cousin is no longer hot at all. Now she laments at Thanksgiving dinners about how her biological clock is ticking. I have tried to set her up with a few of my male friends. But of course, none of them match her expectations–which are still calibrated to the days when she was a mid-tier hottie.

Women rejecting a “nice guy” in favor of guys they think are hot = social calamity, and the fault of evil women.

Men rejecting women because they’re no longer “mid-tier hotties” = sweet, sweet justice!

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hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

Shorter Todd: “You bitches did this to me! I’m going away, but I’ll obsess over you bitches forever! SO THERE.”

All women =/= feminists, dudes.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

Here is the point: By choosing to exclude so many men from consideration, alpha-hunting feminists have taken a large number of good fathers (and their children) out of the population.

Let’s attempt an MRA-to-English translation on this. So, “alpha-hunting feminists” (what, all women are feminists now? or is it only feminists who want “alphas”?) have literally removed “good fathers” from the population? Was there a pogrom or something?

Oh, he means by not having sex with them. But that means that those men don’t have any children, thus they are not fathers. Or is he trying to say that the pogrom has murdered not only a bunch of men, but their actual children who really exist too, rather than the imaginary children that he thinks they would have had if women had no sexual preferences?

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

I read the thread. For a bunch of dudes who want nothing to with women, wow. Who cares if we can’t cook? You’re going your own way, and thank you for taking yourselves out (I know, dudes, you think you were forced out, but no) of the dating pool.

I don’t know who would want to be with men who are so pissed off that it’s no longer 1955.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

The entire MGTOW movement is basically a bunch of people going “fuck you, I quit!” right after they were fired.

princessbonbon
12 years ago

How many intelligent men will never be fathers because they were “boring nice guys” in their teens and 20s?

Maybe because they themselves have unrealistic expectations. The guy I am in love with has expectations that make zero sense based on what he looks like and his personality.

katz
12 years ago

My point is certainly not to imply that all alpha males are dicks, or irresponsible. (The “bad boys” are another story, of course.)

Of course they’re another story! The “bad boys” are black!

marc2020
marc2020
12 years ago

“While some of us arrived here after a nasty divorce, many, I believe, came here as a result of the “nice guy” syndrome: After discovering the extreme superficiality of women’s preferences in the dating market, we decided that the game wasn’t worth the candle.”

Holy shit dude all women are different and want different things how fucking hard is that to understand?

Yes some women are attracted to the “bad boy” type and that’s perfectly fine, but not all women are if they were how do you explain all the attention that women have given me the quiet shy guy over the years?

Maybe if you tried treating women as individuals and not as a collective hive mind who all respond to the same thing you’d have more luck, you’ed certainly be less angry and be able to enjoy life a bit more.

Well one would hope anyway.

Right outburst over.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

That bit princessbonbon quoted is nonsensical even by MGTOW standards. Men are capable of fathering children after the age of 30, so it doesn’t matter if they were “boring nice guys” when they were in their teens.

Not that the whole omg nobody will fuck nict guys thing is true to begin with, but even if you accepted that premise it doesn’t make any sense to conclude that the way you are in your teens/20s sets your destiny for life.

princessbonbon
12 years ago

That is true-that guy I mentioned is in his mid-thirties.

katz
12 years ago

How many intelligent men will never be fathers because they were “boring nice guys” in their teens and 20s?

Assuming every man in the universe wanted to have children, 16%, or 2% less than women. And only 8% are actually virgins.

nerdypants
nerdypants
12 years ago

While this [mgtow] is a solution that works for us, it is not socially optimal. Society would have been better served if we had become husbands and fathers. … [citation needed]

Holy crap, I think I get it. I think they’re referring to that whole “if you don’t give us all a young fertile wife we’ll become rapists and murderers” argument. I saw this a long time ago in The Moral Animal by Robert Wright (p. 100-101):

… the most powerful reason [to ensure every man has a woman] is that leaving lots of men without wives and children is not just inegalitarian; it’s dangerous.

The ultimate source of the danger is sexual selection among males. Men have long competed for access to the scarcer sexual resource, women. And the costs of losing the contest are so high (genetic oblivion) that natural selection has inclined them to compete with special ferocity. In all cultures, men wreak more violence, including murder, than women … Even when the violence isn’t against a sexual rival, it often boils down to sexual competition. … Fortunately, male violence can be dampened by circumstance. And one circumstance is a mate … Martin Daly and Margo Wilson have argued cogently that a good part of the difference [between murder rates of married and unmarried men] may lie in “the pacifying effect of marriage”.

Murder isn’t the only thing an “unpacified” man is more likely to do. He is also more likely to incur various risks – committing robbery, for example – to gain the resources that attract women. He is more likely to rape …

It is not crazy to think that there are homeless alcoholics and rapists who, had they come of age in a pre-1960s social climate, amid more equally distributed female resources, would have early on found a wife and adopted a lower risk, less destructive lifestyle.

Hear that, ladies? We need to marry a murderer or a rapist so society doesn’t crumble. Do your part, take one for the team.

aworldanonymous
12 years ago

So, MGTOWs bother me, because I’ve decided to be voluntarily celibate, not because I think women are evil, but because I believe that I’m genuinely too socially awkward to make any form of romantic relationship work.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

Guess what, assholes? I’m a person, not a pacifier for an exceptionally large and aggressive baby.

princessbonbon
12 years ago

because I believe that I’m genuinely too socially awkward to make any form of romantic relationship work.

Nothing wrong with choosing to wait a while and develop as a person before dating.

sabresguy5
sabresguy5
12 years ago

It used to be that the 10% of alpha males took the top 10% of women; and everyone else paired up with their opposite gender equivalents. This meant that almost everyone got paired up.

This again? Look buddy, bullshit statistics aside, who are you to decide who gets to date whom? MGTOWs like you don’t want to be around women, much less date them, so why can’t you get over the fact that women will like who they like?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

Also, if society is “pacifying” a violent man by making sure he gets married, then it’s not actually eliminating the violence at all, it’s just making sure that that violence is directed towards one individual person, and that it happens in private where the people who made that decision can pretend it isn’t happening.

Violent people don’t stop being violent just because they get laid.

aworldanonymous
12 years ago

Also I don’t really care much for having children. Ever. But I think it’s mostly the social anxiety that makes me celibate, So yeah, that kind of sucks, a lot.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

Aworldanon, I love you and all, so no offense, but a thread wherein people are discussing the notion that women should be thrown at violent men like throwing meat at an angry bear to distract it and give you time to get away is really not the place to be talking about how much it sucks to be celibate.

katz
12 years ago

women should be thrown at violent men like throwing meat at an angry bear

There’s an “I only have to outrun you” joke in here somewhere…

nerdypants
nerdypants
12 years ago

It used to be that the 10% of alpha males took the top 10% of women; and everyone else paired up with their opposite gender equivalents. This meant that almost everyone got paired up. … But … today’s woman regards the majority of men as “below average” or unattractive. That is a recipe for 90% of the female attention directed at 10% of the men–with the rest being all but ignored.

There’s a quote from The Moral Animal for this concept too (p. 101):

[After discussing how institutionalized monogamy ensures every male at each social scale gets a mate] The United States is no longer a nation of institutionalised monogamy. It is a nation of serial monogamy… Johnny Carson, like many wealthy, high-status males, spent his career monopolizing long stretches of the reproductive years of a series of young women. Somewhere out there is a man who wanted a family and a beautiful wife and, if it hadn’t been for Johnny Carson, would have married one of these women. And if this man has managed to find another woman, she was similarly snatched from the jaws of some other man. And so on – a domino effect: a scarcity of fertile females trickles down the social scale.

lowquacks
lowquacks
12 years ago

The problem arose when feminism and entitlement ideology caused women to lose their grasp of what psychologists call “reciprocity.” It used to be that the 10% of alpha males took the top 10% of women; and everyone else paired up with their opposite gender equivalents. This meant that almost everyone got paired up.

a) How is this measured?

b) What’s the bet that if this somehow were the case, he’d moan and complain that no-one should be forced to date only fat ugly women just because they were born ugly, and that ugly dudes can be really nice, and…

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
12 years ago

Don’t you love the way they talk as if all women (or the ones they want to fuck, since no other women count) are:

Heterosexual;

Looking for a man;

and apparently have a HUGE range of social contacts/acquaintances among the male population, all of whom would be humbly grateful for attention but whom these ‘picky’ women reject because they can?

Actually it makes me kinda proud to be one of the picky women (though maybe I don’t count, not being a Hot Babe) who’s reduced these poor, poor fellows to lives of misery. Because you see, I’m on of those women for whom there’s one man and one only. Oh, but wait, isn’t loyalty to the first bloke you know one of the things MRAs require of women, too? Hmm, terrible confusin’ this is …

nerdypants
nerdypants
12 years ago

None of this stuff from Robert Wright reflects ethnographic reality though (hence my having forgotten about it until now). I mean, if it was all true, the Mosuo would be the most violent society on Earth, but by all accounts they’re a lovely peaceful lot. Perhaps it has something to do with how men there look after their nieces and nephews instead of their biological offspring? Maybe MRAs who are unlucky in love should direct their energies towards their sisters’ kids? That should still satisfy their kin-selection instinct, and no worries about wondering if the kid is actually “theirs”.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

@ nerdypants

The thing is, the logical conclusion of the rant about Johnny Carson should be “let’s get Johnny Carson, that greedy bastard”, not “women are evil bitches who shouldn’t be allowed to choose who they sleep with”. It’s striking how the guys who talk like this are able to continually avoid talking about the fact that, if their theories are correct, the people they should really be going after and attempting to control/shut down their current behavior are the “alphas”.

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