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New Men’s Rights hero: the Cleveland bus driver who punched and choked a female passenger

The bus driver winding up for the punch; the passenger’s arms are by her side.

Men’s Rights Activists have a new hero: a Cleveland bus driver who punched and choked a belligerent female passenger who had apparently refused to pay her fare.

The top post in the Men’s Rights subreddit at the moment, with more than 500 upvotes, links to a petition urging the Greater Cleveland Regional Transit Authority to reinstate the bus driver, Artis Hughes, who was suspended after video of the incident leaked out. (See videos here and here.) According to the petition,

As a bus driver, mr. Hughes was lied to, insulted, threatened and eventually attacked by one of the passagers. He was clearly justified in striking back. Were he to suffer any negative consequences to his employment as a result of defending himself and striking back, this would set a disasterous precedent: he and other employees would legitimately believe that their workplace expects them to put up with harrassment, and that they will lose their jobs if they choose to stand up for themselves. …

As well as being a bus driver, mr. Hughes is a man, and [Shidea N. Lane, the passenger] is a woman. We continue to live in a world in which some people see fit to scold men for fighting back against the women who abuse them. After mr. Hughes struck ms. Lane, a woman could be heard protesting about it, saying “That’s a [censored] female”. Mr. Hughes responded by saying: “I don’t care. You want to be man? I’m going to treat you like a man!” This is a healthy attitude: if men refuse to strike back, fearing that the law will favour their female abusers over them, we create an environment in which women can harrass and victimize men with impunity. Instead, a man’s decision to fight back against a woman should be respected.

It is for these reasons – the fact that the bus driver was the real victim and was justified in hitting back; that he and other bus drivers should not fear the legal consequences of responding to attacks by passagers; and that men in general should not fear the legal consequences of responding to attacks by women – that we urge you to reinstate mr. Artis Hughes following the investigation on the incident, and hope that future policies will safeguard him and other bus drivers from legal assault whenever they respond to a passager’s physical assault.

There are a lot of things wrong with this statement, up to and including the spelling. But perhaps most germane to the discussion at hand is the fact that the various videos of the event circulating on YouTube make very clear that Hughes was not acting in self-defense.

Yes, it’s clear from the videos and the police report on the incident that the passenger was acting obnoxiously. And according to witnesses she struck first, spitting on Hughes, pushing him and apparently punching him in the head. (All I saw in the video was her pushing him.) That would be more than enough to charge her with assault, though Hughes declined to press charges.

But after she allegedly assaulted him, she backed off. When Hughes punched and then choked her, he was not defending himself; he was retaliating, and with disproportionate force – his punch literally knocked her to the floor.

In this case, Hughes’ victim was a woman. But what he did would have been equally wrong had he punched a man with similar force.

This isn’t the first time, by a long shot, that MRAs have defended the idea of responding to violence from women with disproportionate force. A year ago, you may recall, Men’s Rights Redditors and other MRAs jumped to the defense of Rayon McIntosh, the McDonalds employee who responded to an assault by two customers by beating them with a metal rod – and continuing to beat them after he knocked them to the floor. (See video of the incident here; TW for extreme violence.)

And as longtime readers here know, in one now-infamous post Paul Elam of A Voice for Men suggested that it would be proper for men abused by their female partners to

beat the living shit out of them. I don’t mean subdue them, or deliver an open handed pop on the face to get them to settle down. I mean literally to grab them by the hair and smack their face against the wall till the smugness of beating on someone because you know they won’t fight back drains from their nose with a few million red corpuscles.

And then make them clean up the mess.

In the wake of the bus incident, a number of commenters in the Men’s Rights subreddit reacted to Hughes’ assault on the young woman with something close to glee. (Click on any of the yellow comments to see them in context; they’re all from different parts of the thread .)

True, some suggested that the response was disproportionate, but they tended to get a much less enthusiastic response from the regulars than those reveling in the punch:

And MRAs wonder why some people describe their movement, such as it is, as “the abusers lobby.”

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Jessay (@jessay)
12 years ago

This is why service employees are instructed to not engage problem customers and to involve the police/LP rather than directly interfering with a thief. This idiot could bring a massive lawsuit against his company for this and I can’t believe he wasn’t fired. Not only was his conduct completely unprofessional but it was above and beyond what would be considered adequate force to subdue an attacker (which she no longer was at the point in which he chose to beat and choke her).

This woman was completely out of line, no doubt there, and I’m not justifying her actions, but I’m sick of hearing people justify his.

If I ever got on this man’s bus I would turn around and walk right back off. I wouldn’t feel safe with this type of guy behind the wheel knowing that he lacks self control.

It’s like, for all of us who have been in customer service, we’ve all had that moment where we wanted to smack a customer who was being an unreasonable asshole, but you CAN’T because two wrongs don’t make a right.

And I’m not even touching upon the size difference and the obvious, “I’m gonna put that stupid WOMAN in her place!” mentality this guy had.

Jessay (@jessay)
12 years ago

And yeah, he blatantly disregarded his company’s SOP. Arguing with a woman to the point which you’re both throwing bows is not worth a two fucking dollar fare. Let the cops handle the theft like you were trained to do.

Clarence in Baltimore
Clarence in Baltimore
12 years ago

You idiots should stop with the “she backed off” bullshit.
She should have “backed off” the bus. She had no legal right to even be on it, and her very presence there was a continuing assault – and yes, illegal. He’d have been in his rights to make a citizen’s arrest and use reasonable force to subdue her.

Clarence in Baltimore
Clarence in Baltimore
12 years ago

I think she got what she deserved.
And had I walked on the bus and acted the exact same way and got punched in the jaw, I’d have deserved it too. Just to you know, point out that I don’t have a “double standard” based on sex.

And now I’m going off and back to laughing at this place, like I normally do. But hey, Dave may be one-eyed in his criticism, but at least he’s sometimes funny and has something to say. Unlike most of the commenters on his threads.

Sir Bodsworth Rugglesby III
Sir Bodsworth Rugglesby III
12 years ago

Wow. That Clarence in Baltimore guy sure showed us.

CassandraSays
12 years ago

Isn’t the picture he’s using of the guy who went on the rant about skidmarks? It looks familiar. And appropriate, given that Clarence’s comments here could be described as skidmarks in prose form.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

He does look like manky underwear man.

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

I’m so glad Clarence dropped off his nuggets of doodly wisdom.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
12 years ago

*pats Clarence on the head*

It’s OK, dear. You tried.

inurashii
inurashii
12 years ago

And with that, Clarence ran a hand through his thin, tousled bed-head and donned what he imagined to be the kind of smug grin he could never manage to get right on his gravatar.

“Take that,” he said, his voice cracking upon its first use of the day. “Idiots.” Feeling suddenly self-conscious, he squeezed out a reedy laugh.

Just another act of public service.

pecunium
12 years ago

Calrence: You idiots should stop with the “she backed off” bullshit.
She should have “backed off” the bus. She had no legal right to even be on it, and her very presence there was a continuing assault – and yes, illegal. He’d have been in his rights to make a citizen’s arrest and use reasonable force to subdue her.

How to say this…

You’re wrong.

Mere presence =/= assault. Assault requires an actual physical threat. As to the issue of citizen’s arrest, that depends on the what the nature of the violation is. It might be theft of service. It might be tresspass. It might be some sort of infraction (which is the case in Utah, and Calif.)

Here is the, general, list of requirements to effect a citizens arrest.

1: It must be at least a misdemeanor (so, if Ohio is like Calif. and Utah, no citizens arrest is possible, any attempt to effect one [in Calif, I don’t know the law specific law on that in Utah] is a crime on the part of the person attempting the arrest).

2: The arrest must be announced.

3: The police must be notified as soon as possible.

4: Such force as is needed to restrain the arrested person until the police arrive is allowed.

5: Such force as is required to protect the arrestor is allowed.

So, if he announced the arrest, he had to then call the cops. Closing the doors would have accomplished 4. Unless she presented an active threat, he was not entitled to use any more force.

But thanks for playing.

pecunium
12 years ago

Sorry, if Ohio is like Calf, or Utah, no arrest is possible because failure to pay the fare is an infraction. A citizen isn’t allowed to make an arrest for an infraction.

Sasha
Sasha
12 years ago

Pecunium – just picking up on one point – you say “there is no vast number of men being put in hospital, nor killed, by the women who abuse them. It’s still a gendered problem.”

I wonder if you might consider the following: is it possible that as a society we don’t ‘see’ the number of male victims of domestic abuse, because we don’t recognise it?

When men are subject to verbal and emotional abuse we have a tendency to dismiss it as ‘nagging’, or see it as justifiable scolding. Furthermore, women commonly have much greater access to forms of abuse which by any measure are extreme, such as expelling a man from his home and family, and denying, controlling or limiting his relationship with his children, which society does not recognise or describe as ‘abuse’, despite the obvious potential impact on a man’s mental and physical health. Almost all divorces are initiated by women, and in almost all cases research appears to show that abuse, addiction or adultery by the respondent – usually the male partner – are not factors.

Is it perhaps possible that men are disadvantaged by abuse directed at them not being recognised as such? Is it also right that, at least in Britain and the United States, the government actually prohibits funding of research into male victims of domestic abuse?

Could a combination of abuse directed at men not being recognised, and our firm refusal to research or study domestic violence and abuse against men, be a factor in our failure to address the phenomenally high suicide rate amongst divorced and separated men, and the high self-harm and suicide rate amongst men aged 16-55? A rate which has consistently risen for the last 25 years?

Is it further possible that our gender perceptions play a role in this? When we see a woman shouting at a man on the street, don’t we immediately wonder what he’s done to make her angry? When the sexes are reversed, don’t we assume he’s an abuser?

Research into friendship groups amongst high school students by Barbara Leckie, shows that girls are more likely to employ psychological tactics of control such as shunning, alienation, ostracism, deliberate and calculated random exclusions, and spreading of rumors to harass their peers.

Leckie says: “Girls commonly get other kids to gang up on one or more peers as a way of exerting control. Sometimes they incite other children to act out aggressively and sit back to watch the show. They form groups that pick and choose members at random and exclude others without real reason. They form alliances with other social groups in an effort to jockey for popularity and positions of power among peers. All too often the bullying tactics used by girls are brushed off by observers and adults as cruel but normal social interactions. It frequently isn’t recognised as bullying.”

Is it likely that this pattern of behaviour ceases in adulthood? How would this behaviour affect adult relationships?

thenatfantastic
12 years ago

@Sasha

No.

pecunium
12 years ago

Sasha: What thenatfantastic said.

But some of your specific points… I said in hospital, you moved the goalposts to “nagging” and verbal abuse. Those are different things.

Is a lack of awareness a problem? Yes. Do I think the relative rates of abuse, even factoring for that, is the case? No.

As to this: Is it also right that, at least in Britain and the United States, the government actually prohibits funding of research into male victims of domestic abuse?

Say whut?

pecunium
12 years ago

Sorry, it’s late. “Do I think the relative rate of abuse are the same, even factoring for that? No.

Tormenteded
Tormenteded
12 years ago

It reminds me eerily of the bullying I faced in high school. They don’t expect you to react based on what you’ve already put up with.They have the power over you. You’re not supposed to fight back. And then you do.
When all the pain and anger erupts and you explode violently, it’s never about self defence semantics and legalities, it’s a massive FUCK YOU. ENOUGH. LEAVE ME ALONE .HOW DO YOU LIKE IT WHEN I DO IT TO YOU, ASSHOLE? and usually the response at the time, (however delayed it may be) is likely to be in the violence range of the stimuli.
If you’re being shoved around then you snap- grabbing someone and screaming in their face is about right,
If someone is striking you then they’ve dictated your response. You’re going to hit them, and make them feel what you felt.
So the bus driver, is sitting there extremely humilated and hurt, (p.s it’s an extremely awful unfair/helpless feeling when you take an uncalled for punch without retaliating, moreso than any slap or spit)
He wants to respond with a punch of his own, but the fact she’s a woman stops it. She continues the verbal abuse. then bam. We hear him utter the phrase that in his mind justified it. And he punches her with all the fury and humiliation that’s been building up over the past few minutes.
Had she just shoved him or slapped him, then I daresay his response would have been different. Possibly a big shove, possibly nothing.
Trust me, when you’ve been humiliated with a punch in the face by someone you won’t hit back because of your morals ( i.e Not hitting someone weaker than you because they’re intoxicated/ short/ high/ blind/ you’re nonviolent whatever), the feeling of injustice and helplessness burns very brightly, and when your tormentor is still there screaming at you, and you do decide ENOUGH! You’re going to hit them.. pretty hard. (Sorry if I’ve digressed from my main point slightly).

Personally I dislike both parties, but I think a person’s duty should always be to themselves, and whilst he punched her too hard and is probably a little bit sociopathic, a punch is what was called for, because going through life without sticking up for yourself is bloody miserable.
(TL;DR The whole self defence/ escalation argument is almost irrelevant. He wasn’t really defending himself, he was lashing out because he decided he wasn’t going to take the humiliation anymore, and he decided to punch her, because she had punched him, like a million schoolyard instances before this.)

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Sasha – drop the “what about teh menz” crap. Yes, men who are victims of domestic violence need help. But don’t you dare try to pretend the situations are anything like equal or equivalent.

[Intimate partner violence] is the leading contributor to death, disability and illness in Victorian women aged 15 to 44, being responsible for more of the disease burden than many well-known preventable risk factors such as high blood pressure, smoking and obesity.

Shall I spell that out again? The leading contributor to death, disability and illness in women in my state is male violence.

So take your diversions and goalpost-shifting and diminishment of what women go through and shove it.

Kim
Kim
12 years ago

been humiliated with a punch in the face by someone you won’t hit back because of your morals

obviously his morals *didn’t* stop him from hitting her. His morals were pretty crappy.

Kim
Kim
12 years ago

@sasha

Yes, verbal abuse is a bad thing. I think we all agree with that. Men use it against women too you know. The difference is that a man can leave a woman who is ‘nagging’ him without fearing for his life.

Kim
Kim
12 years ago

He wasn’t really defending himself, he was lashing out because he decided he wasn’t going to take the humiliation anymore, and he decided to punch her, because she had punched him, like a million schoolyard instances before this.

Also, do you *know* this? Are you psychic or have you read some police report the rest of us haven’t? If this guy has some sort of PTSD then yes, that would be mitigating circumstances. But you can’t just make something up yourself to excuse him. And having PTSD to the point where you attack customers is a perfectly good reason for him to no longer be employed in a public facing role.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
12 years ago

Re the “nagging”: perhaps if some men didn’t treat their female partner as an unpaid maid, the nagging might stop. I’m sure they could find some time in between solving the repetitive men’s rights problems in their keyboard activist roles.

pecunium
12 years ago

Tormented: (TL;DR The whole self defence/ escalation argument is almost irrelevant. He wasn’t really defending himself, he was lashing out because he decided he wasn’t going to take the humiliation anymore, and he decided to punch her, because she had punched him, like a million schoolyard instances before this.)

And what you gloss in the tl;dr is that you are defending his doing it.

The Self-defense argument isn’t irrelevant, because it’s the only justification for the violence which is ethically correct.

Even if we stipulate that the driver had been abused at the hands of others, that doesn’t give him the right to take it out on someone who wans’t posing an actual threat to him.

ArtArt
ArtArt
12 years ago

Geeze you guys, get it through your head, If somebody spits on you and assaults you and they have a vegeygey it’s NOT self defence if you fight back! Just sit there and take it like a man, you know, if she stabs you a few times MAYBE think about raising your voice a little but make sure you comfort her after that.

Sasha
Sasha
12 years ago

Pecunium: Citation provided: Page 6, section K-4: https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/sl000734.pdf

thenatfantastic, KiwiGirl, thekittehsunpaidhelp, Kim: Answers:

1. Men deserve domestic abuse because exploit women as ‘unpaid help’.
2. Men can walk away if they want.
3. No. Men are not victims of domestic abuse.

Thank you. There’s no need for a reply. I will not be returning to this site.