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Imaginary feminists shut down debate with other imaginary feminists (allegedly) [UPDATE 2]

UPDATE: In a new post on his blog, Marshall explains what (he says) actually happened. See below for details.

UPDATE 2: AVFM says “Oops!” (See end of post.)

I just hope none of you were planning on attending the Great Vancouver All-MRA Debate on whether or not feminism has “gone too far.” Because the already strange story of this debate has taken an even stranger turn, which seems to involve a large degree of blatant lying from someone, or a bunch of someones, connected to the debate. Which, by the way, isn’t going to be happening, at least not any time soon.

A Voice for Men yesterday announced that the much ballyhooed debate would be “delayed due to outside interference.” The announcement told a dramatic tale:

Chris Marshall, a father’s rights activist and the manager of a Vancouver business where a scheduled debate addressing the question, “Has feminism gone too far?” reported that he has just been fired from his job, and escorted from the premises by Vancouver Police after 30 months of employment. The timing of Mr Marshal’s ejection comes 48 hours prior to that scheduled event.

Well, if Mr. Marshall’s alleged firing and the alleged visit from the police were indeed connected to his political activity, I guess you could call that “outside interference.”

But there is just one little problem with this story. On his blog, Chris Marshall claims to be the owner or co-owner of the car dealership that was going to hold the debate. Indeed, in one post he told this story of how his car lot came to be:

Three years ago I met a white guy named Robert Cortens. (another divorced dad) I told him my story and he said he wanted to lend me $250,000 to open up a car lot that we called CC Motors. We started with 80 cars and are now up to 200 cars in inventory.

We built this dealership with morals scruples and ethics and the concept that a good deal is when we are both happy. We now sell over 100 cars a month, most dealers sell 35 cars. We are now Vancouverʼs largest and most successful used car dealership.

So either he fired himself, and demanded that the police escort him off his own property, or someone is lying.

There are really only a couple of possibilities I can see, given the conflicting evidence out there:

1) Marshall is lying on his blog about owning or co-owning the lot – which seems unlikely, because he’s posted pictures of the lot festooned by banners and signs promoting his website and denouncing the “Lying Legal Horror Lawyers” that Marshall says are “using my son as a pawn for judicial extortion.”  You’d be hard pressed to find a car dealer who would let an employee, even a manager, put banners like this on his business. I think he must really be the owner or co-owner. [Edited to add: Also, as of 9/22/2012, the car dealership’s web page prominently promotes Marshall’s website; indeed, the biggest graphic on the page is not a picture of a car but of one of his father’s rights banners, and the link to his blog is in a bigger typeface than the link to the inventory of the dealership’s cars.]

2) Marshall wasn’t fired. He simply lied to the folks at AVFM about what happened, and they were stupid enough to believe him.

3) The AVFM dudes, realizing that no one was going to show up to watch MRAs debate themselves, have decided to cover up their own organizing ineptitude by simply making up this story, which, as usual, allows them to play the victim once again. They assumed that the MRA masses, both on AVFM or elsewhere, wouldn’t bother to fact check their story and would simply swallow it whole.

4) Marshall had some sort of falling-out with the co-owner of his business, and his removal from the property had something to do with that; AVFM simply took the opportunity to “delay” the debate and to insinuate with no proof that evil feminists were somehow behind it all.

[UPDATE: Apparently #4 is the correct answer. In a new post on his blog, Marshall explains his side of the story:

First, the investor in my  business CC Motors has take away my signing authority and the profits I have created for CC Motors. I have also been banned from the business I built from nothing to a success. I refused to make him a partner in the car business. He is no longer satisfied with the $48,000 a year he get’s for lending me $160,000.

Huh. No mention of feminists complaining about the debate. ]

AVFM seems to have gotten away with their insinuations once again. It goes without saying that the sycophants on AVFM bought the story. On Reddit, while a few commenters in the inevitable r/mensrights thread raised questions about AVFM’s nonsensical tale, most accepted it unquestioningly and  worked themselves into quite a tizzy about the terrible injustice of it all. A couple typical comments from the thread (click on the pics to see the quotes in context):

So if it is AVFM who is lying here, I suppose I should give them credit for another victory of their propaganda over the stubborn world of facts. Not that long ago, you may recall, they got away with claiming a mob of twenty or thirty people “wielding box cutters” had confronted JohnTheOther while postering in Vancouver, when JTO’s own video footage showed only a tiny handful of people taking down his posters. Meanwhile, the AVFMers keep insinuating that feminists shut down the original version of this debate, when according to the original organizer MRAs were at least partially (if not wholly) responsible. And now this.

Actually, even if somehow, magically, everyone is telling the truth about the events surrounding Mr. Marshall, it’s not clear why the debate would have to be “delayed.”  Despite the setback, most organizers would have just moved the event to a new location.  (It certainly wouldn’t be that hard to find a place. Given how many people would likely have shown up, they could probably hold it in a studio apartment, or a large shoe.)

Of all the stumbling blocks that might get in the way of this debate, I would think that the lack of an opposing side would have been a much more serious one – as the announcement notes in passing, no feminists have stepped forward to debate the AVFM crowd, Vancouver Division. Debating an imaginary opponent? Not a problem. Changing location? Impossible.

On AVFM, the person writing the announcement lets us know that Mr. Elam has been informed of the dastardly attack on free speech.

Paul Elam, when informed of these events remarked:

“Those who believe open discussion can be silenced by intimidation, and who may be patting themselves on the back should all be invited to attend the rescheduled debate which will be announced shortly on this site.”

Very slick, Paul, working a plug for a new debate into your entirely spontaneous response to Mr. Marshall’s alleged firing.

Oh, and the new debate, if it ever comes to fruition, will be based on a slightly different question. As the announcement explains:

[I]n light on the resistance among gender ideologues, and the established pattern of censorship, intimidation and threats against the original organizer, a revised premise for the debate is now under consideration.

“Is feminism a hate movement?”

This debate is never going to happen, is it? I wonder what they’ll blame next time. Feminist caribou?

EDITED TO ADD: The fellas at AVFM have now run a … I don’t know, but it looks sort of like a correction of some kind, atop their original post:

I guess it would be too much to expect them to offer an apology of sorts for all the imaginary feminists they pointed their giant A Voice for Men Foam Finger of Insinuation at in the original post.

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Kakanian
Kakanian
12 years ago

Thanks, AB

I figured that the guy who posted the link did not actually understand what the page was about either… and to me, the shots did not seemed to illustrate something somebody would be obsessed over sexually in the first place. The framing is just not right for that.

to be OT too, yeah, camping sucks.

AB
AB
12 years ago

Yeah, I think more men are sexually obsessed over men’s crotches than women are 😉

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
12 years ago

AB someone not reading a blog post and then mischaracterizing it in the hopes no one else reads the post?

Say it ain’t so!

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
12 years ago

Also, a little noted evo psych fact: men are more interested in other mens crotches and penis size then women. Bullshit evolutionary reasoning given.

I wonder why the MRA’s don’t tout that part of evo psych much??

malkavianmadnessnetwork

I would like to start off by saying I’m mostly a lurker. This is off topic and I would hate to start off by stepping on a few toes, but I have noticed that some of you are awfully mean to miss ruby. So far I havnt seen her do anything wrong other then a few off color remarks and having poor grammar. It’s just really off putting.

nerdiah
nerdiah
12 years ago

Timetravellingfool: “Wait, didn’t the person who organized the original debate say members of the MRM threatened her? How did that do a complete flip in their discourse?”

I would like to know this too, if anyone has a link handy?

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
12 years ago

You know what else is off putting? Ruby happily condemning the poor to long suffering deaths, because only people with money are worth saving.

Ruby dehumanizes poor women by refering to these women having broods and refusing to think that dire poverty can happen at any point and time in someones life.

Ruby dehumanizes women by saying that all women marry for money (except special snowflake her, who married for love and other traits her husband exihibits, including having a good income or she wouldn’t have him) and still calls herself a feminist.

In short, unless you’re relatively wealthy, white, hetero and able bodied, she’ll leave you to suffer and tell you you deserved it.

What’s more, ruby has a proven pattern of making these statements and defending them without so much as stoping to wonder if maybe she’s being extrodinarily offensive.

So I say a few mean things? So what? In the end, her attitude towards people who don’t fit her tiny little box do far more damage.

thenatfantastic
12 years ago

Ruby also thinks some people ‘deserve’ rape, and has said some really racist things in the past. She has never accepted any criticism about this, instead doubling down and insulting other commenters.

AB
AB
12 years ago

Ruby also finds the idea of prison rape hilarious, because the prisoners apparently deserve it. Most posters here are knowledgeable enough to realise prison rape doesn’t just happen to rapists and murderers, but is likely to be done to people in jail for non-violent offences. And even if that wasn’t the case, most posters here are against all instances of rape on principle.

AB
AB
12 years ago

Ninja’d.

malkavianmadnessnetwork

Pillowinhell. I’m sorry if I have offended you, like I said I didn’t want to step on any toes. I will say that I don’t always get the chance to read every single comment in here.I feel incredibly stupid for saying anything now, I’m sorry. I’ll just go back to laughing at the post. I just hope I don’t attact any more negative feelings towards me. Again I,m sorry if I offended anyone

nerdiah
nerdiah
12 years ago

@Tulgey: That link is dead on, isn’t it. “Morton’s Demon” is the variant of confirmation bias specific to creationists, but every ideology has its own. Some Guy obviously isn’t completely stupid, yet when it came to this case he was willing to push the very limits of improbability to find a way to blame feminists. I would like to call the demon type endemic to MRAs the “Hoeberth’s Demon”, in honour of the founder of “Österreichische Liga für Menschenrechte”. I could probably trust the demon to ensure that they never get the joke.

Polliwog
Polliwog
12 years ago

I would like to start off by saying I’m mostly a lurker. This is off topic and I would hate to start off by stepping on a few toes, but I have noticed that some of you are awfully mean to miss ruby. So far I havnt seen her do anything wrong other then a few off color remarks and having poor grammar. It’s just really off putting.

People are “mean” to Ruby because she has said truly disgusting things, and commenters on a site explicitly devoted to mocking people who say disgusting things tend to…mock people who say disgusting things.

Personally, I mostly just ignore Ruby at this point, but I don’t really blame people for continuing to call Ruby out for having said, for example, that she thinks it’s funny when people she doesn’t like are raped. That’s the sort of thing that kind of warrants being called out, don’t you think?

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
12 years ago

Its not that I’m offended. I’m pointing out specific details that have gotten Ruby nothing but mockery here.

If you’re a lurker and have been for a while, you should know that people are called out on bullshit, even the regulars. In Rubys case, I think she’s little better than the trolls in spite of calling herself feminist.

Anathema
Anathema
12 years ago

@ malkavianmadnessnetwork:

Ruby has said some incredibly problematic things in the past. Ruby has said that women are naturally hypergamous. She’s said that Western culture (which, according to Ruby, is defined by things like rock music and pizza) is better than other cultures. She’s said that prison rape is funny.

And when the regulars here call her out for saying awful things like this, she always insists on standing by her original statement. Yet she refuses to seriously engage with any of the arguments against her positions. She simply insists she’s right and digs herself in deeper.

This is why a lot of us don’t like Ruby.

nerdiah
nerdiah
12 years ago

Kalkanian: “Yeah, the guys at creepshot apparently find faces revolting or something…”

At this risk of sounding like this, I really do think the tendency of creep shots to crop off women’s heads and reduce them to body parts is deeply symbolic.

Fembot
12 years ago

@malk

I think it’s ok. We shouldn’t expect new people to know all about our resident trolls: NWO, Pell, SomeGuy, and Ruby. I think you asked an honest question. Some people are just sensitive about Ruby because she has said some truly horrible things and then refuses to take any accountability for them. It’s even worse coming from her because she claims to be on our side.

cloudiah
12 years ago

Most of the time Ruby just makes totally inane comments, so when we jump on her it can appear sort of random. But like Fembot says, we’re really just holding her accountable for the terrible things she’s said in the past. If you’re not a terrible person, you don’t have too much to worry about here — unless you’re allergic to kitten videos or long derails about science fiction. 😉

Creative Writing Student

I have a semi-personal loathing for any and all rape apologists. I can’t really say anything else without sounding like a horrible person but I think they are disgusting.

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

Yeah, search for Ruby’s previous comments and then you can see just why we’re so mean to the poor dear.

Cloudiah, is it Manboobz:site + Ruby to find comments?

Nathan Hevenstone
12 years ago

@ Creative Writing Student:

I have a semi-personal loathing for any and all rape apologists. I can’t really say anything else without sounding like a horrible person but I think they are disgusting.

When talking about the evils of rape apologists, it is impossible to sound like a horrible person.

So go ahead.

Let it out.

Nepenthe
Nepenthe
12 years ago

@hellkell

Switch ’em around. site:Manboobz.com Ruby

@general

I wish something went “bing” when a troll comment was approved.

Nepenthe
Nepenthe
12 years ago

Look at the devastation feminism wrought in just a short time in poor India.

Having studied Indian feminism, I’m really interested in this one. Please enlighten me, oh owly one.

hellkell
hellkell
12 years ago

Thanks, Nepenthe. I always get those switched around.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Gahh, I look at the site on a Monday morning (a week off, yay!) and there’s a wall of text … who let poor ol’ Uncle Owly get into the sherry cabinet again?

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