So I’ve been mostly avoiding writing about the whole Men’s Rights postering controversy in Vancouver, because it’s such a tempest in a teapot. The tl;dr: Some posters got torn down, and some of the people tearing them down yelled at the blabby MRA videoblogger and A Voice for Men second fiddle known as JohnTheOther.
MRAs: Given that virtually none of you have any experience as actual real world activists, you may not be aware of this, but POSTERS GET TORN DOWN. It’s annoying, and I don’t support it myself, but it happens all the time. Sometimes, you may actually run across people tearing down your posters, at which point there is usually some sort of awkward confrontation that may include yelling.
You know what you do when this happens? You put your posters up again. You know what you don’t do? Compare the experience to rape. Because, on the list of the grand injustices of the world, having posters torn down is pretty far down the list, somewhere around “stubbing your toe” and “kitten farts on you.”
That said, here are a few new “developments” in this ongoing epic.
1) Jezebel has posted a piece about the controversy. The most interesting thing about it is the following quote from, you guessed it, JohnTheOther, who apparently had this to say to someone from a local “community-driven news” website. The topic? False accusations of rape.
Maybe it’s a mistaken accusation, she doesn’t remember who she had sex with because she was drunk at the party or whatever. Some make accusations that have nothing to do with being raped; they’re angry, or they got stood up, they wanted to have sex with a guy but he said no. The fact that our society doesn’t have a balance for this is a major problem. I’m not suggesting every woman you meet is a loose cannon, but every woman you meet has the potential to be one, because for those few who are nutty, there’s no disincentive for them to go, oh, I was late for work. I know, I’ll just say I got raped.
Now, if the Men’s Rights movement were an actual civil rights movement trying to better the lives of men, this quote would be a public relations disaster. What real civil rights movement would want to have itself associated with someone who seems to think that women make up rape accusations willy nilly, when a date stands them up or when they need an excuse for being late to work?
Of course, the Men’s Rights “movement” isn’t an actual civil rights movement at all; it’s more like a collective tantrum. While MRAs are eager to “spread the word,” the more spreading they do, the more damage they do to themselves. No one is better at making MRAs look bad than MRAs themselves, which is why on this blog I spend so much of the time letting these (mostly) dudes make themselves look ridiculous with their own words. So, JtO, thanks?
2) And speaking of Mr. TheOther, we can now see video footage of the supposed dramatic confrontation that JohnTheOther had with what his AVFM boss Paul Elam called “a gang of 20-30 assholes on the street, some wielding box cutters.”
GirlWritesWhat, one of the Men’s Rights movement’s few non-dudes, has put up selections of video footage from Mr. TheOther in her video below.
As you’ll see – unless for some reason GWW has decided not to post the most incriminating parts of the video — there was no gang; it was a small group of people. No one was “wielding box cutters” in a threatening manner. The whole thing took place in broad daylight on a busy street.
Some posters were taken down. There were some raised voices. That’s it. That’s the sort of shit activists deal with every fucking day of their life.
Here’s the video:
Am I missing something here? This non-event is the alleged confrontation that AVFM has been hyperventilating about all this time? This is the evil anti-MRA harassment that Elam says “makes getting bestially raped by Richard Dawkins sound kinda funny.”
Leave it to Mr. Elam to add a rape-joke cherry to this bullshit sundae. Once again, MRAs are their own worst enemies.
Haha find me a curriculum where solanas is advocated.
Still waiting on why you think denying DV services to gay men is part of MRA.
> I’m thinking I didn’t know about Sharon-gate *snicker*
> because my TV watching habits lead me to premium
> cable on most days…not a massive conspiracy or cover-up.
If the sexes were reversed, it would be all over the fucking ether (and rightly so), and it would be impossible for you to avoid learning about it.
I was wondering how long it would take him to raise Solanas from the dead after whining about Sharon Osbourne.
@BASTA
Even if your weird fantasy of what gender studies is were true, it still wouldn’t make NCFM any less of an advocate for child abusers. No amount of “I know you are but what am I” is going to change the fact that you are in a movement about allowing child abusers to continue to abuse.
“Reality TV star says offensive thing about women” – yeah I’ll bet that would be worldwide front page news.
Um, Tyson was convicted but still works in film and whatever else his agent can get him. You’re worried about him being ostracised? He’s fine. And he actually did what he was prosecuted for. The ear biting thing was nasty too, ergh.
> A defense of admitted child abuser Thomas Ball.
Thomas Ball is a martyr, and you are an asshole.
Shorter BASTA: “The fact that some people expect the entertainment industry to employ people who are not convicted rapists instead of people who are convicted rapists is evidence of misandry.”
How’s that abuser lobbying working out for you?
You certainly seem to think so, but he also is an admitted child abuser. As in, he admitted in court that he abused his child. That’s just a statement of fact.
As an interesting point of fact as well, Ball was originally offered visitation rights and was offered eventual partial custody upon his completion of anger management therapy and a psychiatric evaluation.
So, I suppose he was “martyred” by the expectation that a child abuser should not have custody of children until they have undergone the minimum possible amount of personal growth.
Big hero you’ve got there.
HAHAHA, only an abuse apologist fucknut would honestly think Ball’s a martyr. Guess we know exactly what you are now.
No, the lifetime of ostracism should come from society, which, in my fantasy land, would recognize that rapists are bad people. Much like murderers, who are not known for getting movie gigs and being cultural icons. We are not talking tax frauds here.
@DeadHand:
[truckload of Godwin idiocy redacted]
> we’ve been betrayed, our birthright was stolen and anyone
> who disagrees with us is not just wrong but evil and they must
> be dealt with as harshly as possible
Funny, I would be tricked if somebody told me that the words above were penned by a Goddess-feminist or a gyn-eco-feminist.
Also, BASTA, I’m finding it pretty hilarious how you keep ignoring my question about how the ncfm’s advocacy of removing dv protections for gay men fits into your philosophy.
Can’t find a way to rationalize that?
OK, this is a classical gang up, boosted by your obvious timezone advantage. I quit, this stays.
Shorter BASTA: “I can’t think of a single good reason why the NCFM defends child abusers but attacks gay men.”
You come to a blog specifically devoted to mocking shitstains like yourself and you’re shocked that there’s more than one of us mocking you?
And you call me an imbecile.
Lol, oh MRAs, why do you try to invent your own meanings for words?
Based on this:
we’ve been betrayed, our birthright was stolen and anyone
> who disagrees with us is not just wrong but evil and they must
> be dealt with as harshly as possible
“Funny, I would be tricked if somebody told me that the words above were penned by a Goddess-feminist or a gyn-eco-feminist.”
I can tell you have a fear of being treated like a woman. On some level you acknowledge that women had some of their rights messed with — and some women might be pissed off because of it. You’re afraid of revenge, aren’t you?
OK. Your “proof” that NCFM defends child abusers was examined and deemed streeetchch-kkk-POING!-ed. Now, can I see a proof that NCFM attacks gay men?
Some porn specializes in “classical gang up.”
Are you denying that the NCFM defends Thomas Ball? Or are you denying that Thomas Ball admitted he abused his child?
blockquote fail, but you get the idea.
So really, the NCFM has advocated against not only gay men, but also trans men, immigrant men, and Amerindian men.
@Ugh: English is my fucking 4th language learned later in life, you privileged native-speaker-of-world-dominant-language asshole, and yes, I did just confirm on dictionary.com that I got “gang up” wrong, and you won the debate. Triumph and rejoice.
lol dude
Work on your English reading comprehension.