So I’ve been mostly avoiding writing about the whole Men’s Rights postering controversy in Vancouver, because it’s such a tempest in a teapot. The tl;dr: Some posters got torn down, and some of the people tearing them down yelled at the blabby MRA videoblogger and A Voice for Men second fiddle known as JohnTheOther.
MRAs: Given that virtually none of you have any experience as actual real world activists, you may not be aware of this, but POSTERS GET TORN DOWN. It’s annoying, and I don’t support it myself, but it happens all the time. Sometimes, you may actually run across people tearing down your posters, at which point there is usually some sort of awkward confrontation that may include yelling.
You know what you do when this happens? You put your posters up again. You know what you don’t do? Compare the experience to rape. Because, on the list of the grand injustices of the world, having posters torn down is pretty far down the list, somewhere around “stubbing your toe” and “kitten farts on you.”
That said, here are a few new “developments” in this ongoing epic.
1) Jezebel has posted a piece about the controversy. The most interesting thing about it is the following quote from, you guessed it, JohnTheOther, who apparently had this to say to someone from a local “community-driven news” website. The topic? False accusations of rape.
Maybe it’s a mistaken accusation, she doesn’t remember who she had sex with because she was drunk at the party or whatever. Some make accusations that have nothing to do with being raped; they’re angry, or they got stood up, they wanted to have sex with a guy but he said no. The fact that our society doesn’t have a balance for this is a major problem. I’m not suggesting every woman you meet is a loose cannon, but every woman you meet has the potential to be one, because for those few who are nutty, there’s no disincentive for them to go, oh, I was late for work. I know, I’ll just say I got raped.
Now, if the Men’s Rights movement were an actual civil rights movement trying to better the lives of men, this quote would be a public relations disaster. What real civil rights movement would want to have itself associated with someone who seems to think that women make up rape accusations willy nilly, when a date stands them up or when they need an excuse for being late to work?
Of course, the Men’s Rights “movement” isn’t an actual civil rights movement at all; it’s more like a collective tantrum. While MRAs are eager to “spread the word,” the more spreading they do, the more damage they do to themselves. No one is better at making MRAs look bad than MRAs themselves, which is why on this blog I spend so much of the time letting these (mostly) dudes make themselves look ridiculous with their own words. So, JtO, thanks?
2) And speaking of Mr. TheOther, we can now see video footage of the supposed dramatic confrontation that JohnTheOther had with what his AVFM boss Paul Elam called “a gang of 20-30 assholes on the street, some wielding box cutters.”
GirlWritesWhat, one of the Men’s Rights movement’s few non-dudes, has put up selections of video footage from Mr. TheOther in her video below.
As you’ll see – unless for some reason GWW has decided not to post the most incriminating parts of the video — there was no gang; it was a small group of people. No one was “wielding box cutters” in a threatening manner. The whole thing took place in broad daylight on a busy street.
Some posters were taken down. There were some raised voices. That’s it. That’s the sort of shit activists deal with every fucking day of their life.
Here’s the video:
Am I missing something here? This non-event is the alleged confrontation that AVFM has been hyperventilating about all this time? This is the evil anti-MRA harassment that Elam says “makes getting bestially raped by Richard Dawkins sound kinda funny.”
Leave it to Mr. Elam to add a rape-joke cherry to this bullshit sundae. Once again, MRAs are their own worst enemies.
How did MRAs put pressure on these institutions? Provide evidence.
I work on helping young men who are the victims of poverty and abuse every day and I’ve never been influenced by any members of the MRM.
Exactly how did the MRM pressure rape crisis centers into having counselors who can support male victims of rape on call?
@Shiraz:
Quote test in 3, 2, 1…
“After you answer my first question, can you confirm that you know what “systemic” means?”
Off the top of my head, Sharon Osbourne laughing her ass off at a man who was genitally mutilated, *and* laughing again while apologizing for that? No, that’s an example of “systemic”.
So what is “systemic”?
“Systemic” is when Sharon Osbourne is still fucking employable after she did that.
BASTA: MRAs putting pressure on institutions to acknowledge male victims and male vulnerability.
Even though they weren’t MRAs. I mean really, if they didn’t claim to be, and don’t know the MRM exists, they can’t be MRAs.
That is an “objective” reality, no matter how much you object.
In the first paragraph I meant to say /No, that’s *not* an example of “systemic”/.
That’s the hill you want to die on?
Chris Brown, Larry Summers, The cop in Toronto, Rene Walling, Tony Abbot, Richard Dawkins…
> I mean really, if they didn’t claim to be, and don’t know the
> MRM exists, they can’t be MRAs.
If.
Because a single terrible person retaining their job is definitely an example of systemic injustice. Boy, it sure is a good thing there aren’t literally millions of terrible people who retain their jobs, or your single example would seem less like evidence of systemic injustice and more like the high-pitched whine of an incompetent faux-activist desperately trying to hide his privilege.
I don’t think per se means what you think it means either, PASTA!
BTW, have you seen AVfM’s Sharon Osbourne poster? It’s a beaut.
And the rest of us figure out WordPress markup tags by either (a) Googling them, or (b) asking. It’s not hard.
I don’t know anything about the Sharon Osbourne thing…but assuming she did that — are you saying she could make that remark because she is a member of a group that has traditionally had power over another group (men)? Again, I don’t know what she actually said.
MRAs putting pressure on institutions to acknowledge male victims and male vulnerability
Citation needed champ.
Were these people MRAs or not? Do they ascribe to the views of your little temper-tantrum hate movement? Do they even know who you are (given that there’s never been more than two MRAs in the same room as each other – super effective activism there)? You seem to be dodging the question somewhat.
BASTA: that If wasn’t subjunctive, it was conditional. Being a member of an activist movement is opt-in, not opt-out.
But, since you imply you aren’t the best speaker of English, I’ll make it more clear,
I mean really, when they didn’t claim to be, and don’t know the MRM exists, they can’t be MRAs.
Sharon Osbourne was able to keep her job after making an insensitive joke about a man’s misfortune.
BAM systemic misandry proven. Who knew it could be that easy?
Mancouver.
> Chris Brown, Larry Summers, The cop in Toronto,
> Rene Walling, Tony Abbot, Richard Dawkins…
Neither Summers nor Dawkins did anything nearly as deplorable as laughing at a victim of genital mutilation, and Summers still lost his job.
(Sorry, but only Summers and Dawkins ring a gender controversy bell. Especially “The cop in Toronto” is an enigma to me. I live in a non-anglophone country on the old continent. Not all local news from your end of the world get translated and re-broadcast here, and hardly ever the debates that follow).
> Because a single terrible person retaining their job is definitely
> an example of systemic injustice.
No, the *system* patting her on the shoulder for that is.
> I don’t know anything about the Sharon Osbourne thing…
That is very consistent with systemic misandry being real.
Why should David spoonfeed you a damn thing?
Get over Sharon Osbourne. Systemic misandry doesn’t exist.
> I mean really, when they didn’t claim to be, and don’t know the
> MRM exists, they can’t be MRAs.
How much *more* MRA than NCFM would they have to be for you to acknowledge that they were in fact MRAs?
I dunno, BASTA, if anything, Sharon didn’t get fired because she belongs to another priviledged group — that of the rich and famous. But maintaining that there is an age old system in place, congratulating women for being sexist, come on. Your ignoring history, current politics and just about everything else.
BASTA, you know you’re in a hate movement, right? Like, there seriously are no MRA writers who are not mostly just promoting hatred and violence against women and children.
“Get over Sharon Osbourne. Systemic misandry doesn’t exist.”
A QOTY contender here.
“How much *more* MRA than NCFM would they have to be for you to acknowledge that they were in fact MRAs?”
Who’s “they” ?
Probably actually saying the words “I am an MRA” would be a good start. Which they don’t, because they don’t want to be associated with a hate movement.
> Who’s “they” ?
The NCFM.
> Probably actually saying the words “I am an MRA” would be a good start.
http://ncfm.org/advisor-board/richard-f-doyle/ – 1st google result for MRA NCFM, for good start.
Also, when did the NCFM actually do anything for domestic violence against men? Last I heard they were supported the GOP’s version of VAWA, that specifically denied domestic violence protections to gay men, instead of the Dem’s version that extended them to all men.