So over on the Men’s Rights subreddit – you know, the old one, not its newfangled would-be replacement – the fellas are complaining about how oppressive it is for a university to put up signs suggesting that consent is good and rape is bad.
Clearly, these signs are an insult to non-rapist men, in the same way that “don’t feed the animals” signs in zoos are an insult to those of us who aren’t planning to feed the animals.
Happily, the dude calling himself anti-everyone has come up with a way to fight back against this feminazi tyranny:
Is the Poster Revolution moving to its next stage?
Ugh, don’t get me started on the crapfest that is the state of healthcare in America. People should not be forced to choose between medical care and food.
HUGSHUGSHUGS Nanasha and Blitzgal. 🙁
That’s so sad to me that men still feel so much pressure to always be stoic and hide their pain. My dad’s like your dad. He always puts on a brave face and even makes jokes whenever something upsets him, and it’s probably because the whole “boys don’t cry” rule was a bigger deal to baby boomers and older men. He didn’t cry at his mom’s funeral, and instead took it upon himself to comfort other people, because he thinks that a man’s job is to always be the strong one. He did cry, however, right after the tornado, when I first got a hold of him. He thought we were dead, so finding out that we were alive made him so relieved, he cried. For once, I actually comforted him and made jokes to help him feel better.
A few months later, I comforted a carpet installer who cried because of his experience. He felt bad that he had heard a man screaming, trapped under rubble, and he was unable to lift the heavy debris to rescue him. He told him, “Hang on, I’m going to try to get you some firefighters or someone with heavy equipment to help” and the guy said, “I’m scared, don’t leave me”. But the guy had to leave him there alone so that he could go find extra help. He told me how bad he felt about it, but I said “You did what you had to do so that he could actually get dug out”. But that guilt was just eating him up to know the man felt alone and he had to leave him anyway.
That’s just what people do, though. They are so hard on themselves and blame themselves for circumstances that are beyond their control. It’s easy to reassure other people that feel guilt but it’s hard to be as forgiving to yourself. I don’t know what to say except I’m sorry to blitzgal, Nanasha, David, and Wetherby who feel guilt like that. None of you all did anything wrong. It’s just that life is unpredictable, and there’s no way to prevent everyone you care about from ever suffering. I wish that were possible. Instead, bad things happen, and then we go back in our minds trying to figure out what we could have done differently to change the outcome.
I’m sorry for all you’re going through, Nanasha. Not only do you have all of the physical parts of pregnancy, but now you’re under financial pressure and your poor kitty is sick. *Hugs*
Man. Crying at work again. At least I can blame it on preggo hormones.
Big Jedi mind hugs and baked goods of choice to everyone who has lost a critter. We had to put down our mini schnauzer almost three years ago. We did everything – just absolutely *everything* (spent ALL our savings, every dollar) to save him and I still cry myself to sleep some nights thinking we could have made him All Better if we’d just kept fighting.
It’s just so easy to love pets so, so hard.
You guys all sound like wonderful pet owners and I’m sure you gave your animals very happy lives.
Nanasha! Hugs and hope for you and your kitty! 🙁 I don’t dare read this thread in full, I’ll be crying on the train …
It’s just those darn onion-chopping ninjas again.
My husband just sent me an update. They have Neb on IV fluids to help with the dehydration and will do a physical exam once he starts holding down food. So fat they think that there is no blockage, so I am crossing my fingers.
*crosses fingers for Neb and Nanasha* I hope the rest of the news is good!
@ Blitzgal
I’m not crying, it’s just been raining on my face.
Face-rain is therapeutic.
@ Nanasha hope it all works for you & Neb.
I hope Neb does okay. Sending good wishes your way that he recovers well and doesn’t have another blockage.
I’m trying to send my cat Smudge through the internet for hugs, Nanasha. But she won’t fit in the USB port. 🙁
Oh, good luck to the kitty!
And as for the black cat thing, I want a black cat. Screw people’s stupid superstitions.
Nanasha, sending big hugs to you and Neb. Neb was lucky to have found you guys.
Hugs for everyone!
If the vet doesn’t think it’s a blockage, then that’s positive news. Doesn’t mean that Neb is out of the woods, but it’s a step in that direction. Sincerest wishes that the news keeps improving. *crosses toes for good measure*
Suuuuuper happy news, all. I just got off the phone with my husband and Neb is doing well. The IV fluids flushed out his system and rehydrated him and they gave him some tummy soothing medication. He is definitely NOT blocked and just got home and is purring in my husband’s lap. We are going to try and add a wet food feeding to the evening as well as morning and give him minimal kibble for his grazing during the day.
All of your thoughts and positive energy is soooo appreciated. I am just happy that our little fuzzy family member is home!
Woohoo! http://www.smileyvault.com/albums/userpics/12075/CatParty.gif
Nanasha, that’s great news! Happy purring kitty!
Nanasha, that’s great! I can only imagine your relief, and I’m so glad that Neb is home with his family. Pet him for me, and I imagine for most everyone else here too.
Great news is great!
That’s brilliant news – you must be so relieved.
Oh, thank goodness he’s not blocked!! This is excellent news.