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Splitsville! Paul Elam starts a rival Men’s Rights subreddit, where he can ban people

It was, perhaps, inevitable, and now it has come to pass: obviously fed up with Men’s Rights Redditors questioning his wisdom (and his tactics, and his general narcissistic assholery) on a fairly regular basis, A Voice for Men Supreme Leader Paul Elam has started up his own Men’s Rights subredditr/mensrightsactivists –in which he can summarily ban all ”armchair activists” and “white knights” and “people who disagree with him.” Yep, that’s right: he’s made like a Trotskyist banana, and split.

Elam has long had a fairly strained relationship with Reddit MRAs. If you search through his comment history on Reddit, you can see evidence of numerous meltdowns on his part, which occur fairly regularly whenever anyone challenges him on pretty much anything, even when they are otherwise sympathetic to his views. On his own blog, he responds to such criticism by quickly banning the critics; on Reddit, he has tended to respond with schoolyard insults, digs at the masculinity of his critics, long recitations of his many fine accomplishments as a dedicated armchair activist, and the occasional rape joke.

Clearly the final straw for Elam was the reception given to a post of his on the poster controversy I wrote about here.  Some samples from the discussion. Builtbro offers a substantive critique of Elam’s badly worded posters:

HolyCounsel is a bit more blunt:

And then there’s this edifying exchange:

The massive numbers of upvotes for Elam’s critics and downvotes for his, er, rebuttals seem to be at least partially the result of an invasion from r/SubredditDrama. Still, Elam seems to take each and every downvote personally, so the 238 net downvotes on his “Kleenex” comment must have stung.

In his new subreddit, threads like these clearly won’t be allowed to happen. As Elam explains in his less-than-welcoming “Welcome” message to new visitors:

While dissenters and the blue pill public will be welcome to post links and comment, trolls and other annoyances will be summarily booted with pleasure. This is an MRA dominated zone.

A couple of things to consider: Dissent, especially that which serves to further the improvement of the men’s movement, is welcome and appreciated. But if you want to post here, as a supposed MRA, telling others what is wrong with their work, you better have some MRA credentials.

Inactive, armchair quarterbacks, are not allowed here, unless their posts reflect genuine concern for improving and supporting the MRM and respect for those actually doing the work. If you want to ask questions so that you can learn, that is fine. But if you want to question, just so you can tear down, and you are not an MRA, then it will be adios for you. I’d sooner give a feminist the floor than a back seat driver.

R/mensrightsactivists: Come for the Elam-approved opinions, stay for the bans! Indeed, Elam devotes as much space in his “welcome” message to explaining whom he’ll ban as he does to actually spelling out what the subreddit will ostensibly do differently than good old r/mensrights.

Of course, this is not the first time that some angry MRA or two has decided to start another Men’s Rights subreddit designed to appeal to more, well, belligerent  MRAs. Reddit already boasts an assortment of such subreddits, all of them fairly sparsely populated, including Rights4Men, Male Studies, and FeMRAs, a more obnoxious alternative to the already sparsely populated LadyMRAs. There’s even another subreddit devoted to MRA activism; it goes by the name of, well, MRAactivism. (There may be several more, but I can’t remember what they’re called.)

The Men’s Rights subreddit has nearly 45,000 subscribers; Elam’s new subreddit currently has 49, which is no doubt why he continues to post links to his blog in the original Men’s Rights subreddit. Whether Elam’s new subreddit succeeds and splits the MRM in two, or dies an inglorious death, one thing is sure: there will be plenty of new material for me here at Man Boobz.

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Snowy
Snowy
12 years ago

Oh dear, that is pretty sad

aworldanonymous
12 years ago

Wait, with regards to Roosh, the MRM and Paul Elam sort of going separate ways, does this mean we’re going to have some kind of manosphere civil war on our hands? Eris be praised.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

@Myoo:

That is simultaneously hilarious and completely expected.

@red_locker:

It’s not too bad, though I’m starting to run out of interesting stuff. Get past the amusement at the horrendous grammar and idiocy masqurading as intelligence… there’s not much content to critique. How much can you say about someone who equates “vroom vroom vroom fun! dis iz a good gamez!” and “Its playability hinges squarely and mundanely on just how gamelike it is” because the writer is a woman.

pillowinhell
12 years ago

Yes…the MRM is dead, aborted before it had a chance. Seriously, his whole (and strangely readable) post boils down to ” I’m a MAN cause I get laid, not like those cry babies over there”

With allies like this…what need is there for feminists to notice? Oh yes. Bemusement.

Myoo
Myoo
12 years ago

@red_locker
Well, A Voice For Men gets donations so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised, but it just astonishes me that people are willing to give money to these things, I mean, the writing alone is just so pretentious and devoid of meaning.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

This whole section is just amazing. Just amazing. I don’t want to quote it, but at Katz’s link towards the middle of the entry we get a section starting with “here’s a small selection of choice quotes from her blog followed by my incredulous, exasperated replies:”

Absolutely no quote strikes me as uninformed, even without context. Every response is just arglebargling with a pitifully shallow and quite frankly incorrect point.

It’s amazing.

drst
drst
12 years ago

Even if I created the account? NO CATS.

(I, erm, don’t really like cats. *hides*)

rjjspesh
rjjspesh
12 years ago

Yay! Feminist cat-cult officially joined. Where the cool-aid at?

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

My god. How can he maintain his pompous intellectual grandeur when his responses to well written soundbytes are furious, jouvenile raging? How is this even possible?

“I was raised in an era of authoritative media, when individual voices drove culture, opinion and information. The internet’s changed everything, of course; the authoritative voice has evolved into a conversation between writer and audience, and the writer now leads the community discussion rather than acting as a single determiner, a unilateral judge.”

“THE WRITER” LOL. “LEADS THE COMMUNITY DISCUSSION” LOL.

“And it doesn’t take a professional writer to lead a community — many feel that the rise of citizen journalism and the core concept of crowd wisdom means that individual authority in media will eventually disappear altogether.”

THE “CORE CONCEPT” LOL. OF “CROWD WISDOM” LOL. “INDIVIDUAL AUTHORITY WILL EVENTUALLY DISAPPEAR ALTOGETHER” LOL. FOLLOW ME EVERYONE — LET’S JUMP INTO THE GUTTER TOGETHER AND ROLL AROUND IN THE MUD LIKE PIGS.

(the quotes are quotes, the capslocks are him)

I just can’t help but O_______________________________________________O

Pickle Jello
Pickle Jello
12 years ago

By “trolling,” I assume he means the classic “he disagrees with me, therefore, he’s trolling” mindset.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

The solution to the riddle that woman has always been for man is childbirth. The sexes are distinguished by many other minor differences, but this is the most important, the most fundamental one. Thus man’s primeval instinct is for war, whilst woman’s for childbearing. With this insight in one’s mind there’s no sexually conditioned problem one cannot solve.

And here he is seeming to advocate outright to keep women barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen…

Never knew that war is waged by the penis. The More You Know™

aworldanonymous
12 years ago

Never knew that war is waged by the penis. The More You Know™

All wars are waged by the penis, after all, the penis hunted the mighty mammoth for you.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

People are starting to sound like they need cheering up, so I offer you a video of a cat that’s really determined to get all of the treats.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

@CassandraSays:

My god. This reminds me of so many times when my dog would frantically hold on to socks as we try to wrestle them away. Brava. ^_^

katz
12 years ago

But the real WTF isn’t in his “articles,” it’s how he acts in discussion, how he runs the forums (he goes through and manually edits everyone’s posts for grammar), and how he flips out when anyone disagrees with him:

You can see this tactic in action in the rare occasions when some journlolist grows some balls and common sense and calls the artfags out on their bullshit — e.g. that Jim Sterling dude. Soon afterwards they patch things up with some fagotry about “different strokes for different folks”, or “agreeing to disagree” or some such nonsense, and everything goes back to business as usual. But this shit won’t fly with me. I am not out to let off some steam and then patch things up — I am out to fucking destroy you.

So if I am in the middle of bludgeoning you to death with a sledgehammer, and you suddenly raise your hands and cry out in surrender, I am by no means going to stop and let you walk away. I am going to keep pounding you into smaller and smaller pieces, until there’s nothing left of you than microscopic specks of dust — I am a machine that makes dust. This is what I do — that is my calling in this life. My response to passive-aggressive behavior, therefore (evident not only in the video linked above, but also throughout his email), is aggressive-aggressive aggression — an aggression raised to the third power. There’s no way to trick me into a compromise, to sign a peace treaty — I’ve said it once already: no association with these people is permissible, no reconciliation possible.

Source

Sylocat
12 years ago

Yeesh, even TracyMorganFreeman is calling Elam out now? You have to be pretty fucking vile for that to happen.

Maybe this split will finally carve a much-needed rift in the MRM?

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

I need to go to bed soon, but I’ll say this. Said in a different way, icycalm might occasionally make valid points. But those valid points are heavily doused in “AND YOU ARE AN IDIOT FOR BELIEVING OTHERWISE GOD WHY IS EVERYONE BUT ME SO STUPID?!?” and mixed up with demonstrably false points (not to mention rampant sexism and horrid sentence structure).

And with that, and with a determined kitty to lull me to sleep, I bid you all a good night. ^_^

KittehServant
KittehServant
12 years ago

That is one scary cat! And looking soooo … well, not innocent at the end, there, but definitely “What’s all the fuss about?”

jumbofisch
12 years ago

Well, I might’ve bothered to make one myself, but I just happened to be reading Fullmetal Alchemist at the local library earlier.

and I just happen to be watching it earlier…

I was like what the hell I am bored why not! It’s wayyy darker than I expected. o_o

aworldanonymous
12 years ago

@CassandraSays

Is it bad that I was kind of hoping for the cat to win on account of it would have made for a more amusing video?

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
12 years ago

@katz:

Yet again I am completely unsurprised and vaguely horrified. And baffled how he uses the phrase “bludgeoning you to death” to signify beating you in a debate. I must assume that is what he’s doing, for fear that he means the phrase literally. And that is too much disturbing for me to handle.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

@aworld

Nope. That cat deserved to win.

rjjspesh
rjjspesh
12 years ago

Ok… *now* cat-cult is joined. Sweet ^__^

Wisteria
Wisteria
12 years ago

“…I am a machine that makes dust. This is what I do — that is my calling in this life.”

Such a small life.

clairedammit
clairedammit
12 years ago

I have nothing to add to the discussion, but rjjspesh reminded me – there are kitty emoticons! So here are some more.

:3 X3 =+= =^.^= =^_^= =^w^= ,,,^.^,,,~ =^_^= >’ . ‘< (='.'=)

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