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Splitsville! Paul Elam starts a rival Men’s Rights subreddit, where he can ban people

It was, perhaps, inevitable, and now it has come to pass: obviously fed up with Men’s Rights Redditors questioning his wisdom (and his tactics, and his general narcissistic assholery) on a fairly regular basis, A Voice for Men Supreme Leader Paul Elam has started up his own Men’s Rights subredditr/mensrightsactivists –in which he can summarily ban all ”armchair activists” and “white knights” and “people who disagree with him.” Yep, that’s right: he’s made like a Trotskyist banana, and split.

Elam has long had a fairly strained relationship with Reddit MRAs. If you search through his comment history on Reddit, you can see evidence of numerous meltdowns on his part, which occur fairly regularly whenever anyone challenges him on pretty much anything, even when they are otherwise sympathetic to his views. On his own blog, he responds to such criticism by quickly banning the critics; on Reddit, he has tended to respond with schoolyard insults, digs at the masculinity of his critics, long recitations of his many fine accomplishments as a dedicated armchair activist, and the occasional rape joke.

Clearly the final straw for Elam was the reception given to a post of his on the poster controversy I wrote about here.  Some samples from the discussion. Builtbro offers a substantive critique of Elam’s badly worded posters:

HolyCounsel is a bit more blunt:

And then there’s this edifying exchange:

The massive numbers of upvotes for Elam’s critics and downvotes for his, er, rebuttals seem to be at least partially the result of an invasion from r/SubredditDrama. Still, Elam seems to take each and every downvote personally, so the 238 net downvotes on his “Kleenex” comment must have stung.

In his new subreddit, threads like these clearly won’t be allowed to happen. As Elam explains in his less-than-welcoming “Welcome” message to new visitors:

While dissenters and the blue pill public will be welcome to post links and comment, trolls and other annoyances will be summarily booted with pleasure. This is an MRA dominated zone.

A couple of things to consider: Dissent, especially that which serves to further the improvement of the men’s movement, is welcome and appreciated. But if you want to post here, as a supposed MRA, telling others what is wrong with their work, you better have some MRA credentials.

Inactive, armchair quarterbacks, are not allowed here, unless their posts reflect genuine concern for improving and supporting the MRM and respect for those actually doing the work. If you want to ask questions so that you can learn, that is fine. But if you want to question, just so you can tear down, and you are not an MRA, then it will be adios for you. I’d sooner give a feminist the floor than a back seat driver.

R/mensrightsactivists: Come for the Elam-approved opinions, stay for the bans! Indeed, Elam devotes as much space in his “welcome” message to explaining whom he’ll ban as he does to actually spelling out what the subreddit will ostensibly do differently than good old r/mensrights.

Of course, this is not the first time that some angry MRA or two has decided to start another Men’s Rights subreddit designed to appeal to more, well, belligerent  MRAs. Reddit already boasts an assortment of such subreddits, all of them fairly sparsely populated, including Rights4Men, Male Studies, and FeMRAs, a more obnoxious alternative to the already sparsely populated LadyMRAs. There’s even another subreddit devoted to MRA activism; it goes by the name of, well, MRAactivism. (There may be several more, but I can’t remember what they’re called.)

The Men’s Rights subreddit has nearly 45,000 subscribers; Elam’s new subreddit currently has 49, which is no doubt why he continues to post links to his blog in the original Men’s Rights subreddit. Whether Elam’s new subreddit succeeds and splits the MRM in two, or dies an inglorious death, one thing is sure: there will be plenty of new material for me here at Man Boobz.

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Sharculese
12 years ago

Cults of personality are creepy.

yeah, but a bunch of people here all got the same avatar, so clearly feminism is just as bad

Sharculese
12 years ago

i mean obviously im being tongue in cheek but chances are good that someone at avfm will say exactly that

Myoo
Myoo
12 years ago

@Cliff

Because people with nice personalities:

-admit to being wrong sometimes, and uncertain other times
-give credit to, and share the spotlight with, people who helped them in their projects
-would be horrified if they discovered they’d developed a cult of personality, and immediately seek to convince their followers that they were just an ordinary fallible person

pillowinhell
12 years ago

Grocery list:

50 gallons of popcorn

Also, cheese topping for said popcorn.

Has anyone noticed that the spearhead is moving towards a subscriber site?

David, I think someones a little miffed that you post about him. Or to him…since I suppose he doesn’t want to moderate all the wonderful support he gets at his site from his fans.

jumbofisch
12 years ago

Cat Cult of Feminism

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
12 years ago

Just to lower my substantive comments to cat videos ratio, here’s a little rescue kitten with a dirty face:

And here is the kitten a year later, playing fetch:

Snowy
Snowy
12 years ago

I haave beeeenn assimilateddd

ozymandias42
12 years ago

WHY IS EVERYONE CATS NOW

THIS DISTRESSES ME

Freitag
Freitag
12 years ago

I want to be a kitty too–how do I change my pic?

jumbofisch
12 years ago

Snowy joined the cat cult too! 😮

creativewritingstudent
creativewritingstudent
12 years ago

@thebionicmummy

The Westboro Baptist Church scare the crap out of me. I don’t think they want any converts, they just want to spend their time hating gay people. Why would you be content to spend your life hating people?!

cloudiah
12 years ago

bunch of people here all got the same avatar

I am totally willing (eager, even) to join a cult of personality if the cult leader is a kitten.

ozymandias42
12 years ago

Hey Cliff I’m going to feud with you now

and start the Pervertocracy

It’s like the Pervocracy but BETTER and I CAN BAN PEOPLE I DON’T LIKE.

Sharculese
12 years ago

four of the top stories on avfm current feature slight variations on that picture of the blue ‘enter’ key that elam loves

truly a triumph of graphic design

ozymandias42
12 years ago

Also I will create MENZBOOBZ

and then I will ban ALL THE COMMENTERS

and talk to myself

katz
12 years ago
Cliff Pervocracy (@pervocracy)

oh yeah? well then I will start “No, Seriously, What About The Mans” and it will be the biggest male gender blog ever

also i welcome dissent but not from, y’know, dissenters

Linds
12 years ago

The cat cult of Myanboobz?

katz
12 years ago

Linds wins.

jumbofisch
12 years ago

@everyone who wants cat avatar
http://neutralx0.net/tool/bnmk_e.html
1.) Go make your kitty!
2.) save kitty
3.) go to gravatar.com (the thing that deals with your avatar on wordpress)
4.)if you have an account already then log in, if not create an account using the email you use to post on manboobz
5.)click add an image,select from computer hardrive, and select your kitty pic
6.)crop pic to your liking and click crop and finish
7.)select the rating
8.)then check the email address you would like to use the pic for
9.)hopefully it works, it usually takes a few minutes so don’t panic if it doesn’t show at first.
10.)you are now kitty

cloudiah
12 years ago

11.) If you are not kitty after a few moments, remember to clear your cache.

Noadi
Noadi
12 years ago

Yay, kitty!

thebionicmommy
thebionicmommy
12 years ago

The Westboro Baptist Church scare the crap out of me. I don’t think they want any converts, they just want to spend their time hating gay people. Why would you be content to spend your life hating people?!

I know, they’re terrible. Barack Obama did the commencement address for Joplin High School this year, and the WBC came here and did a protest. You would not believe the things they put on their signs. I would link to it, but it’s too awful. I’m still pissed at what they said, even though for them, that’s a win, because that’s what they want. Now Elam is doing the same thing. He’ll declare victory just by offending and upsetting people.

creativewritingstudent
creativewritingstudent
12 years ago

I clicked on that thing and it turns out you can make cats without facial features and oh god the kitty was expressive in front of Koh…

Freitag
Freitag
12 years ago

Soon I will be a cat!