Over on Patriactionary, a proudly reactionary and patriarchal Christian blog, the blogger who calls himself electricangel is angry at himself – for not being an even bigger douchebag than he already is.
You see, he’s just heard from his wife that one of her friends isn’t happy about hitting the big 4-0. Apparently, his wife’s friend
broke down in tears, sobbing uncontrollably. What had hit her was the realization that she was 40, with no husband, no children, no prospects of either, and she was staring at a future of loneliness.
His reaction to this news?
I wish I could tell you that an evil smile of vengeance crept across my face, and the children this woman discarded were getting their revenge upon her. That this was payback for riding the cock carousel for years, always aiming at the guys she wanted, not the guys she could get.
But alas, hidden deep inside in his tiny misogynistic heart there remains a tiny fragment of sympathy.
But I cannot tell you anything other than how saddened I was at her tale, and how this sadness will rip out the hearts of so many women who did not set out to become lonely, childless spinsters, but whose families and societies removed the strictures on their behavior so that their own lack of self-control was left unbounded. This will be the ongoing social disaster of coming years.
I did say it was a tiny fragment.
But he still wants to use this woman’s story for his own ends.
In discussing this woman, I am insistent upon her becoming an object lesson to my wife, and especially for my wife to tell the beautiful, smart, virgin young women close to her about what happens to carousel riders. Life is a coin you may spend any way you like, but you may only spend it once. This woman spent it on an amusement park ride. Now the park is closing, she has been thrown off the ride, and faces 45 years of solitude.
Yeah, because no woman over the age of 40 is capable of ever finding a date or a mate.
Yeah, because her sadness at hitting 40 is going to last for the rest of her life.
Oh, and the bit about “the children this woman discarded?” She didn’t “discard” any children. She simply didn’t have any. She’s not “discarding children” any more than those with penises instead of vaginas are “discarding children” each and every time they masturbate to orgasm.
In the comments, not everyone is quite so restrained as electricangel.
“I don’t even know this woman and I’m pissing myself laughing at her,” writes one commenter going by the name Friendzone. “Fuck her.”
Take The Red Pill is equally unsympathetic:
I have NO sympathy for this woman whatsoever. Just like most Modern Women, she bought into the feminist deception with eyes wide open with never a thought about the future. Well the future has arrived and it looks a lot like a cold, lonely one for her – just like the cold, lonely youth and young adulthood that MOST men have had and continue to have.
Karma has come due, and the bicycles have realized that they don’t need fish, either.
When women like her are young, they treat decent men abominably – being as cruel and sadistic as they can be when rejecting an ‘unwanted’ man’s advances – simultaneously, they enjoy being ‘free whores’ for every player, dirtbag, and Alpha thug who crosses their path; then when they reach their thirties and are little more than ugly, repellent, diseased trollops (often with some thug’s illegitimate spawn or two in tow), they complain about ‘the lack of good men’.
Others adopt Electricangel’s more, er, mature approach. Will S. decides to be a pompous dick about it, while patting himself on the back for his enlightened attitude:
Indeed, it is proper to not gloat, but rather mourn what we have lost, as a society, and feel sorry for those who have made poor decisions – and try to help others not make such poor decisions, by pointing to unfortunate examples, that at least others might learn something from them.
Sometimes, schadenfreude is tempting, but we Christians do generally know better than that.
Because patronizingly exploiting someone’s (probably temporary) sadness to make other people feel shitty about their own lives is such a moral thing to do. Is faux sympathy better than no sympathy at all?
Our friend Sunshinemary jumps on the “let this be a lesson to the rest of you sluts” bandwagon:
We need not mock such women, but we need to hold up their tales as cautionary examples to other young women. The older women themselves cannot face that their lives should serve as an example of what not to do, and they will rationalize it forever.
Electricangel expounds on his plan to use this woman’s apparent misfortune for his own ends:
I am using her as a vector to drop comments to my wife about the dangers of the carousel. Next is the overt suggestion that she talk to some young women about this friend specifically.
Uh, I guess you don’t let your wife read this blog, huh? Because if I discovered that someone close to me was talking about me in such a creepily manipulative and patronizing way, that person would no longer be a part of my life.
Electricangel replies to Sunshinemary:
Yes, those who did not prioritize children will have their genetic tendencies to that behavior removed from the gene pool. Women do not have the sexual options that men do, and not letting them know this early and often is crushing.
But they must be pointed to, and shown as examples. I understand people who will laugh at and mock them; I thought I would. It’s just the enormity of a waste of a life, and the lives she threw away, and the realization that this is just the tip of huge iceberg that has gripped me.
Yes, EA, you’re such a deeply moral person. Posting an “I told you so, you whores!” post on your blog is no doubt exactly the way The Lord would like you to handle this.
In a later comment, he reiterates his plan to use this woman’s story to increase the insecurities of his wife:
I do not feel guilty at all about using this woman’s example to drop pellets of manosphere logic on my wife. It has the side benefit of my wife starting to ask me (because she’s asking herself) “What do I do to bring value to the relatinship?” It is a good thing.
First it was a sad thing, now it’s a “good thing.”
How exactly is this better than gloating? No, scratch that. How is this different than gloating?
Who was complaining?
Answer: nobody.
@Tulgey Logger
“[No, we don’t wonder. A lot of them are misogynistic, racist asshats like you who assume that they can dominate and exploit brown people just because they’re white men and who define “decency” as “being a doormat for my cock”.] ”
It’s got nothing to do with dominating anyone. That’s just an excuse for western women to act like shit. Your entire post confirms what I’ve said. You agree and promote western women should be disloyal sluts who kill a mans unborn child. If a man in the western world doesn’t want that particular dream girl, he has to leave the western world.
You further confirm this by saying that’s your kinda gal. Well you’ve got quite a pool to draw from, that’s all there is. Most men who haven’t been feminized by the brilliant minds of feminist indoctrination want something different. If you wanna go where hundreds of men have gone before, knock yourself out.
You’re so pathetically indoctrinated to your feminist masters you try and shame anyone who doesn’t want what you worship. Sad. Arf. Arf.
Women reserve the right to desire any man (excepting kids, employees, etc.), but not necessarily get him. Ditto men.
“Nice guys are men who assert that because they are “nice” women owe them sex and relationships. They are not very nice.”
In that they use manipulation to get sex. Just as Hugo did to his students.
LOL, indeed, motherfucker. It’s nice of you drop by and project your sad-man-limped-dicked insecurities on me, but here’s the thing: both my husband and I are aware that we both had a healthy sex life before meeting, but since we’re secure individuals, we’ve never asked each other how many people we’ve had sex with. I haven’t hid a thing.
MRAs are the only people I know who get so worked up about how many men a woman has slept with. I know you want someone with zero experience so your shortcomings won’t be so readily apparent, but too bad.
@Wondering
Hugo Schwyser is a total asshole. That’s the important part.
Don’t be an asshole.
Uhhh nice guys don’t get laid generally. Thats the point dude, they don’t get laid and they complain about it. You don’t know what a nice guy is.
Seriously, everyone and anyone is perfectly justified in both not wanting to have relationships with certain other people and in feeling bad about being alone. The only reason this comes up with regard to feminism is because certain whiny assholes think they are entitled to sex with women. Wondering, get over yourself: you’re having an argument with a strawperson you’re calling “all women.” It’s fucking delusional.
Who is Hugo Schwyzer, I feel as if I should know who that is.
Ugh Just Boring is going to pull out every tired trope and straw woman out there.
Since Just Boring seems “emotional” I suggest we snap him out of it by discussing, oh um, how very long the wait until the next Sherlock is.
Hugo got laid because he was an abuser who used his position to get close to female students to sleep with him to fulfill his own narcissistic needs. Thats different than complaining about how women are “bitches” because they won’t sleep with you or date you because you are oh so nice.
At least Wondering doesn’t want the government to set him up on dates.
It’s okay for BOTH men and women to feel sad about being single or celibate if they don’t want to be. But it’s NOT okay for ANY gender to whine about how one’s state of unwanted singleness or celibacy is because the evil women only want alpha douchebags or the evil men only want airheaded bimbos.
Also: Sometimes people are single or celibate simply because they’re unlucky. It happens. The universe isn’t fundamentally just, and bad things can happen to good people. We can all agree on that. But it’s worth pointing out that IF you’re unvoluntarily single or celibate while hating on your preferred gender, the latter factor doesn’t exactly help your prospects.
One of the things I do enjoy about being a professor is loudly and proudly declaring to all my students that I’m a middle aged woman who has never married and has no kids and is FUCKING ECSTATIC about this. I never have to argue about the remote control, nobody ever pukes on me or pesters me for sex when I’m tired, I don’t have to cook for anyone but me, nobody nags me about what I’m eating, when I’m going to sleep or getting up, etc. Also two months ago I left a terrible job and moved to an entirely new state to start a new career and had to consult nobody about it. It’s awesome. I respect that other people find their happiness in other ways, but being a 40-something single woman is, for me, fabulous.
Almost everyone I know has had existential crises, sometimes around birthdays and sometimes not, when they realize what they expected life to be a X point isn’t that way. That sounds like what this woman in the post was feeling. This is hardly unique to women, but I don’t expect MRAs to get that.
@Falconer, @katz – I wish I’d gone into meteorology when I was in school. I’m endlessly fascinated by the weather. Or geology, cause I dig rocks and natural disasters. And, guess what? When I was younger I subscribed to the “girls don’t like science” myth and that’s why I didn’t go down that road. (CC: @aworldanonymous – we’ve all been there!)
Um, yes? That’s kind of the point of the “Nice Guy” thing – men who sit around whining that they can’t get laid and it’s not fair because they’re “nice guys” are actually entitled assholes who think they are entitled to sex and should be ashamed of their behavior. What’s your point?
@aworld
Schwyser is a gender studies professor who used to sleep with his students. After his girlfriend was sexually assaulted, he attempted a murder suicide by gas leak. Later, he said he was sorry and compared the experience to accidentally leaving the gate open for his dog.
He’s popular on some MRA-adjacent sites because he has a whole “MRAs aren’t really bad people and just need love” shtick yet still claims to be a feminist.
*murde suicide of his girlfriend
“And that’s why homeopathy has gone the way of the dodo.”
Apparentely some people find value in homeopathy.
“Women haven’t fallen for PUA hype, but men have, and that keeps it going.”
So what is the problem? If they want to lodge around bragging to each other that should be no problem.
“Anyway, you’re celibate, so why the fuck does any of this matter to you? How angry can a celibate person be about not getting laid?”
What is it that you don’t understand. It is not about not getting laid. It is about somehow I am supposed to feel bad about young women and their body dismorphic disorders and how they are supposed to feel bad about no-one wanting them. But when women start drooling over all kinds of male physique, then that is no problem.
“Women reserve the right to desire any man (excepting kids, employees, etc.), but not necessarily get him. Ditto men.”
Great, I will hang on to this next time women in their 40s and 50s start complaining about getting left for younger women.
The problem is that they keep advocating rape and domestic violence (see most of the o0ther posts this week).
@drst: “One of the things I do enjoy about being a professor is loudly and proudly declaring to all my students that I’m a middle aged woman who has never married and has no kids and is FUCKING ECSTATIC about this. I never have to argue about the remote control, nobody ever pukes on me or pesters me for sex when I’m tired, I don’t have to cook for anyone but me, nobody nags me about what I’m eating, when I’m going to sleep or getting up, etc.”
Er… It’s not like what you describe above and “single” are the only two options out there. I mean, it’s POSSIBLE to live with someone who wants to watch the same stuff on TV as you do, doesn’t nag about your eating habits or pester you for sex when you’re tired. Just saying.
You mean the BBC one? I’m still waiting for season two to be available on Netflix, damnit!! It’s been at a “very long wait” since its release.
That’s right folks! Women pointing out that certain aspects of our culture are harmful to us is oppresing Just Boring and somehow preventing him from getting laid because cracked theory of sex and economics!
“Um, yes? That’s kind of the point of the “Nice Guy” thing – men who sit around whining that they can’t get laid and it’s not fair because they’re “nice guys” are actually entitled assholes who think they are entitled to sex and should be ashamed of their behavior. What’s your point?”
And by extension telling these men that they don’t get laid because they are manipultive and entitled assholes and women can sense that. Yet somehow Hugo, the ultimate manipulative entitled asshole has no problem getting laid.
And what is it that YOU don’t understand? No one asked you for pity or for you to feel bad. We just want you to stop shitting on the floor.
Wondering: It’s a problem because they’re misogynists, and that’s bad, and because some of them rape and abuse people, and that’s REALLY bad.
…Uh, yes, you should feel bad about *people* with body dysmorphic disorders, because that fucking sucks. I’ve known people who have dysmorphia (although not well) and it SUCKS. Also, you can be like “it sucks that you can’t get laid” without being like “it is wrong that no one will have sex with you.”
What the hell? Why are you talking about body issues now? No one brought that up at all dude. You moved from “women shouldn’t look down on men who don’t have anyone when they do” to “those bitches want me to care about body issues when they have the hots for male bodies!!”
WTF DUDE