Over on Patriactionary, a proudly reactionary and patriarchal Christian blog, the blogger who calls himself electricangel is angry at himself – for not being an even bigger douchebag than he already is.
You see, he’s just heard from his wife that one of her friends isn’t happy about hitting the big 4-0. Apparently, his wife’s friend
broke down in tears, sobbing uncontrollably. What had hit her was the realization that she was 40, with no husband, no children, no prospects of either, and she was staring at a future of loneliness.
His reaction to this news?
I wish I could tell you that an evil smile of vengeance crept across my face, and the children this woman discarded were getting their revenge upon her. That this was payback for riding the cock carousel for years, always aiming at the guys she wanted, not the guys she could get.
But alas, hidden deep inside in his tiny misogynistic heart there remains a tiny fragment of sympathy.
But I cannot tell you anything other than how saddened I was at her tale, and how this sadness will rip out the hearts of so many women who did not set out to become lonely, childless spinsters, but whose families and societies removed the strictures on their behavior so that their own lack of self-control was left unbounded. This will be the ongoing social disaster of coming years.
I did say it was a tiny fragment.
But he still wants to use this woman’s story for his own ends.
In discussing this woman, I am insistent upon her becoming an object lesson to my wife, and especially for my wife to tell the beautiful, smart, virgin young women close to her about what happens to carousel riders. Life is a coin you may spend any way you like, but you may only spend it once. This woman spent it on an amusement park ride. Now the park is closing, she has been thrown off the ride, and faces 45 years of solitude.
Yeah, because no woman over the age of 40 is capable of ever finding a date or a mate.
Yeah, because her sadness at hitting 40 is going to last for the rest of her life.
Oh, and the bit about “the children this woman discarded?” She didn’t “discard” any children. She simply didn’t have any. She’s not “discarding children” any more than those with penises instead of vaginas are “discarding children” each and every time they masturbate to orgasm.
In the comments, not everyone is quite so restrained as electricangel.
“I don’t even know this woman and I’m pissing myself laughing at her,” writes one commenter going by the name Friendzone. “Fuck her.”
Take The Red Pill is equally unsympathetic:
I have NO sympathy for this woman whatsoever. Just like most Modern Women, she bought into the feminist deception with eyes wide open with never a thought about the future. Well the future has arrived and it looks a lot like a cold, lonely one for her – just like the cold, lonely youth and young adulthood that MOST men have had and continue to have.
Karma has come due, and the bicycles have realized that they don’t need fish, either.
When women like her are young, they treat decent men abominably – being as cruel and sadistic as they can be when rejecting an ‘unwanted’ man’s advances – simultaneously, they enjoy being ‘free whores’ for every player, dirtbag, and Alpha thug who crosses their path; then when they reach their thirties and are little more than ugly, repellent, diseased trollops (often with some thug’s illegitimate spawn or two in tow), they complain about ‘the lack of good men’.
Others adopt Electricangel’s more, er, mature approach. Will S. decides to be a pompous dick about it, while patting himself on the back for his enlightened attitude:
Indeed, it is proper to not gloat, but rather mourn what we have lost, as a society, and feel sorry for those who have made poor decisions – and try to help others not make such poor decisions, by pointing to unfortunate examples, that at least others might learn something from them.
Sometimes, schadenfreude is tempting, but we Christians do generally know better than that.
Because patronizingly exploiting someone’s (probably temporary) sadness to make other people feel shitty about their own lives is such a moral thing to do. Is faux sympathy better than no sympathy at all?
Our friend Sunshinemary jumps on the “let this be a lesson to the rest of you sluts” bandwagon:
We need not mock such women, but we need to hold up their tales as cautionary examples to other young women. The older women themselves cannot face that their lives should serve as an example of what not to do, and they will rationalize it forever.
Electricangel expounds on his plan to use this woman’s apparent misfortune for his own ends:
I am using her as a vector to drop comments to my wife about the dangers of the carousel. Next is the overt suggestion that she talk to some young women about this friend specifically.
Uh, I guess you don’t let your wife read this blog, huh? Because if I discovered that someone close to me was talking about me in such a creepily manipulative and patronizing way, that person would no longer be a part of my life.
Electricangel replies to Sunshinemary:
Yes, those who did not prioritize children will have their genetic tendencies to that behavior removed from the gene pool. Women do not have the sexual options that men do, and not letting them know this early and often is crushing.
But they must be pointed to, and shown as examples. I understand people who will laugh at and mock them; I thought I would. It’s just the enormity of a waste of a life, and the lives she threw away, and the realization that this is just the tip of huge iceberg that has gripped me.
Yes, EA, you’re such a deeply moral person. Posting an “I told you so, you whores!” post on your blog is no doubt exactly the way The Lord would like you to handle this.
In a later comment, he reiterates his plan to use this woman’s story to increase the insecurities of his wife:
I do not feel guilty at all about using this woman’s example to drop pellets of manosphere logic on my wife. It has the side benefit of my wife starting to ask me (because she’s asking herself) “What do I do to bring value to the relatinship?” It is a good thing.
First it was a sad thing, now it’s a “good thing.”
How exactly is this better than gloating? No, scratch that. How is this different than gloating?
“It is ruthless and no you are not because otherwise why would you be whining about not getting a partner who is perfect in all ways. Not perfect for you, but perfect.”
Where have I made any such demands.
“Yes, sexual attractiveness has value. This is not the same as saying that sexual atractiveness is the only value a person has. ”
You didn’t say that. You said, and I quote: “Sexual atractiveness is not a measure of value.
“Self-pity? BS, I am all for rutheless competition.”
The two are by no means mutually exclusive.
“But then lets play a game where everyone falls if they lose.”
I know – I know – that I’ll regret saying this, but what do you mean by this?
Yeesh, @wonderingaboutmysanity –
I’ve let this slide for a few pages of quotes now, but that article did NOT say that. It said that if you desire something specific in a partner that you do not have yourself (for example, if you insist that she be super-well-read but you detest books), then this is unlikely (not impossible) but unlikely to work out, as people who love books are not normally turned on by people who go on and on about how awful books are. If, sticking with my book example, you hate reading and books, but desire a super-well-read partner, then her advice is to either 1) change yourself (yes, horrors!) and start reading a bit, or 2) decide that “super-well-read” was not a deal-breaker in your search for a partner.
Dude, stop reading fairy tales.
@Sir Bodsworth – I wonder if I hadn’t outed myself as female on a previous page what would’ve happened, since my username is pretty hard to parse.
@pillowinhell – every dildo and vibrator on the earth would need to have been destroyed, and I would have to not have use of my hands, and also have met about 90% of the rest of the global population and determined I was not sexually attracted to a single one of them, before I would even go on a date with this guy.
@Wandering: Thank you for submitting your application, but your attempt at appropriating victim status from the woman who was raped on camera for your infinitely selfish sexual gratification has been declined.
Did you mistake this for a support group for your overwhelming shortcomings and awkward overshares? That sucks.
Right. Next?
We don’t need to argue with Wondering, anymore. Apparently, he is 100% satisfied with his life and has it all figured out. Perhaps the only thing he is “wondering” about is why the fuck he keeps posting on this site.
Darn. And here I am with my humanities degrees, writing documentation for STEM-related businesses of all kinds and doing cool experiments with Girl Scouts in my spare time so they’ll know just how freakin’ awesome STEM work can be.
I can’t even insult people properly! Clearly I am not date material.
@Dani Alexis – try here – http://www.sovintagepatterns.com/vintagepatterns.html
I have no idea wtf Miss Andrist is talking about….
Hey, Miss Andrist, why don’t you share your opinions on how every woman who’s ever been photographed naked is equally helpless? Because if some of them are working totally voluntarily, and some are working under complicated conditions but made a choice, and some really are forced into it, the best way to describe all that is RAPE ON CAMERA!
Otherwise we’d have to pretend sex workers are people instead of poor widdly pity objects who don’t understand that they’re being raped, the poor babies?
Seriously. Some porn really is rape on camera. Some isn’t. It is incredibly misogynist and dehumanizing and unhelpful to ignore that difference.
I’m with you, Jumbofish. Please, nobody think that Miss Andrist’s attitudes are typical here.
OMG. I think Wondering is actually a small team of drunken lemurs with keyboards. No single person could type that much, and no human could be that incoherent.
Wait! I think I found a picture of them.
Those lemurs are too effing cute for words.
Their eyes scare me a little bit, though.
@Rahu – Thanks! Now I’ll be up all night browsing these, lol.
@Cliff –
Omgz, a mansplanation of suspiciously convenient self-serving choosey-choice funfem liberal bullshit has completely delegitimatized yet another survivor! How will we refute the absurd, manipulative closet-rapist rhetoric THIS time?
In the next episode of Men Have Infinity Excuses, Amen.
Lemur-spam is the best spam.
The tails! The adorable stripy lemur tails!
Well little Wonder, you’re all for competition huh? Great! Consider that BY YOUR OWN VIEWPOINT you are a loser.
Now quit whining already.
“Wondering, why don’t you go ahead and tell us what would make you happy?
What is your perfect world?”
Either we play ruthless competition with no sympathy for any loser and we maintain this consistently.
And also we are consistent in what is an acceptable way of expressing preference. I.e. if women can oogle the crotches of male swimming athletes, then they are also told to STFU when the same is done to the womens’ beach volleyball team.
“Anything else you actually want?”
Getting to say the very same thing to women, that they tell men simple as that.
I would like some female company, but not from the perpetually single women pool. They have to be defective, otherwise they wouldn’t be single.
Cliff is not a man miss andrist…
Tulgey Logger – ya ninja’d me!
Huh?? What??? Het men fuck each other when they can’t have sex with women??????
What woman are you talking about? Also women can support themselves in some countries..
Um not all porn is made from women being raped and many do consent to doing that on their own free will.
@Miss Andrist, i am a woman, i’ve taped me and my man doing it, he’s never raped me.
You are wrong, Cliff was right, next.
(Seriously i love it when trolls come in and say “X IS THIS ALWAYS AND EVER” and all it takes is seriously one Not X.