Our old nemesis The Pigman — the MRA blogger and one half of the cartooning team responsible for atrocities like this — has some thoughts on the Aurora shootings, specifically on the men who lost their lives to protect their girlfriends from gunfire. Their heroism makes him angry, much like the fellows on The Spearhead we looked at the other day. Here’s his complaint:
How’s that for inequity? How’s that for disposability? These guys appear to have sacrificed themselves for these people primarily because of their sex.
Well, no, I think they sacrificed themselves for their girlfriends because they loved their girlfriends.
After all, where are the guys who jumped in front of their best mate, or their dad or brother? And above all, where are the women who died saving their boyfriends?
There were many heroes in the Aurora shooting. Jonathan Blunk, Matt McQuinn, and Alex Teves died protecting their girlfriends. Stephanie Davies risked her life to keep a friend shot in the neck from bleeding to death. Other acts of heroism had less storybook endings: Marcus Weaver tried to shield a female friend. He was wounded but lived; she died. Jennifer Seeger tried to drag a wounded victim to safety, but fled when the shooter returned.
But the Pigman is interested in none of this:
This isn’t heroism, this is male disposability at its worst and by praising it society is encouraging it.Cheering these men’s actions is as reprehensible as it is stupid and discriminatory.
The heroes in Aurora acted quickly, and on instinct; they didn’t have time to stop to think. Is it possible that, in the cases of those men who tried to shield the women with them, gender socialization had something to do with what their instincts told them to do? Almost certainly.
But “male disposability” has nothing to do with it. We live in a society in which heroism, as an idea and as a cultural ideal, has been gendered male for thousands of years. In the stories we tell ourselves, the video games we play, the movies we watch (including The Dark Knight Rises) , the “hero with a thousand faces” is almost always male, and the damsel in distress is, well, almost always a damsel.
The Pigman ignores all this, instead attacking the three dead men as
foolish enough and unfortunate enough to fall for a lifetime of anti-male propaganda telling them to die for the nearest woman whenever the shit hits the fan.
I have no doubt that many are concerned with the feelings of the dead men’s survivors and wish I would just shut up.
But then he barrels ahead anyway:
But this is a simple case of “What you praise, you encourage,” and I for one think calling out those who encourage men to waste their lives for people worth no more than themselves is more important than being “sensitive”. Die for a child if you must, die for some guy on the verge of finding a cure for cancer if you must – die for someone no better than you simply because you have been taught to and you are a fool.
Had these men died protecting male buddies, would The Pigman have applied this calculus of worthiness to the beneficiaries of their heroism? Would he have suggested that the dead men thought they were worth less than their friends? Of course not.
The three men didn’t do what they did because they thought they were worthless or disposable. They did what they did because they wanted to protect those they loved. Others in the theater, like Stephanie Davies, risked their lives for friends, or people they didn’t even know. There’s nothing foolish or “wasteful” about putting yourself on the line to protect others. In every major disaster, whether natural, or like this one man-made, ordinary people emerge as heroes precisely because they are willing to put the lives and safety of other people ahead of their own.
Do these real-life stories of heroism play out in gendered ways? Often times they do. Men may be more willing to risk their lives to protect their wives or girlfriends; mothers may be more willing to risk their lives to protect their children.
In real life crises, it’s hardly surprising that people sometimes act like characters in these stories we tell ourselves. If you want to change how people act, you need to change these stories.
MRAs like to pretend that men are the “disposable sex” but in their hearts they know that’s not true. They’re well aware, as are we all, that our cultural narratives of heroism privilege and glorify men and put them at the center of almost every story. MRAs like The Pigman aren’t interested in expan ding our cultural narratives of heroism to include female heroes — nor are they willing to even acknowledge that there are such things as female heroes in the real world. They certainly don’t want more stories, more games, more films featuring female protagonists.
Instead they’d rather wrap themselves in the mantle of victimhood, and attack real heroes like Jonathan Blunk, Matt McQuinn, and Alex Teves as “white knights” or “fools.”
How people react in a crises reveals a lot about them. How MRAs like The Pigman, and like the Spearhead commenters I quoted the other day reacted to the Aurora shootings has certainly revealed a lot about them, none of it good.
Unfortunately, attitudes like theirs aren’t confined to the fringe that is the manosphere.
After hearing the stories of Blunk, McQuinn, and Teves, the Wall Street Journal’s James Taranto tweeted “I hope the girls whose boyfriends died to save them were worthy of the sacrifice.”
After numerous readers responded to his remarks with outrage, Taranto offered an apology of sorts, along with an explanation that suggested he really didn’t understand why people were angry in the first place. When someone does something noble and heroic out of love, it’s not up to you to second guess their actions or their love. Taranto’s words not only dishonored “the the girls whose boyfriends died to save them;” it dishonored the heroes as well.
Like The Pigman, like the Spearhead commenters, Taranto has failed this test of his humanity.
Anything good for men: It’s because men are awesome
Anything potentially bad for men: MISANDRY!!!!!11111oneonetwo
I’mma just leave this here again.
whataboutthemoonz — I thought we already decided that alcohol poisoning was bad?
@ Rutee – Oh, yeah, I forgot that.
Did they ever get back to you Steele? Or did they ignore you completely, leading you to keep posting here where people actually engage with you? You know, as opposed to your supposed ‘friends’ in the MRM?
1. Bridesmaids
2. Black Swan
3. Sex and the City: The Movie
4. Sex and the City 2
I will continue to ruminate; this is merely off the top of my head.
I know 🙁
I’m going to address every post to steele as “Excuse me, Vile Dude” from now on.
I’m calling it now: after Steelepole is finally put on moderation, we’ll get a single comment thanking David for doing that, signed “Love, Ella <3".
Hey Steele? 2008 was more than 3 years ago, you can cross of the first Sex in the City movie.
How many of these movies have you seen, exactly…? X3
(Hint: Black Swan doesn’t fail, you’re just listing movies you know some feminists liked)
Actually, I’m almost positive Black Swan does fail; I’ve seen the movie.
Movies I have watched in the last three weeks that did not pass the Bechdel Test:
1. Tower Heist
2. Man On A Ledge
3. Phone Booth
So for every movie you think of off the top of your head, I have one.
Rutee — I thought Black Swan passed at least the first two tests, but it remains on my “to see list” (it’s a long list, I might get to The Dark Knight by 2015)
I give you Romeo and Juliet, as written by Torvus Steelebuttpole:
Two misandrist-feminists, both alike in dignity,
In vile Verona, where we lay our scene,
From ancient male disposability break to new mutiny,
Where civil blood makes vile dudes slanderous.
From forth the vile loins of these two foes
A pair of star-cross’d privileged women take their life;
Whole misadventured piteous overthrows
Do with their death bury their parents’ strife.
The fearful passage of their vile love,
And the continuance of their parents’ rage,
Which, but their children’s end, nought could slander,
Is now the vile hours’ traffic of our stage;
The which if you with mantastic posterior attend,
What here shall chill, our toil shall strive to mend.
Not enough vile?
Tell us more about this Ella, fella.
Steele, come on now, I didn’t check the top 50 movies for my health or something, care to address the disparity between the number that fail the Bechdel test and the number that pass the inverse?
Countdown to total Steele/whoeverthefuck meltdown and flounce…
considering how you behave when women disagree with you, i dont think its really a coicidence
Thanks for the concern, but I do believe I spend plenty of time with Ella; we each need our alone time, as well. I think that it’s important for partners to have friends and interests outside of each other; Ella agrees with me.
@ cloudia – awesome!
You’re positive about a lot of things that are wrong, Steele. See:
Also, now that I see you claim the discrimination is ‘insignificant’,
http://www.freepatentsonline.com/article/Journal-Managerial-Issues/193141029.html
http://scholar.harvard.edu/mullainathan/files/emilygreg.pdf
“considering how you behave when women disagree with you, i dont think its really a coicidence”
I’m with Sharculese on this one.
Assuming she’s real in the first place.
to be fair he’s kind of perpetually melting down
Followed by Ella’s arrival?
It’s not a meltdown until he uses vile five times in one post.
considering how you behave when women disagree with you, i dont think its really a coicidence
Can I ask the mods to ban this vile slanderer? Of course misandrist-feminists, male and female, agitate me. On the other hand, I have seen far more anger from Boobzland than I have displayed, and at far less provocation. You sack of lying shit.
And for the record, Ella brought it up before me.
KathleenB — Steele is Varpole, of Anti-ManBoobz fame, he isn’t going to stick the flounce.
Steele — seriously, the only top 50 movie that may actually fail the inverse is Psycho, and that one has a cast of like 3. Which is hilarious in its own right, The Shining has a cast of about 4 and passes the inverse (I think the book passed the Bechdel test, but I read that years ago…and hate the ending of the movie…)