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Spearheader: Feminist men are “nerds, socially awkward, sissy-gay, annoying or just plain weird.”

So WF Price and the rest of the fellas over on The Spearhead are doing a little bit of armchair psychoanalysis of the dreaded “male feminist” in general, and me in particular. It is fairly amusing stuff.

Price sets forth his highly original thesis:

If you observe genuinely feminist men, there’s something a bit off about them, and it’s tempting to chalk their feminism up to a result of some flaw or aberration in their character. Normal men (aside from those whose paycheck depends on it such as politicians and men who work for feminist-dominated institutions) simply don’t go in for feminism unless it gets them sexual gratification, but those days are pretty much over, so the remnants tend to be an assortment of freaks and guys who have a chip on their shoulder.

“But those days are pretty much over?” Evidently, Price thinks there was a time during which women were obligated to reward feminist men with “sexual gratification,” but that this is no longer the case. So “normal men” have stopped being feminists, or at least stopped pretending to be feminists.

So what are these freakish feminist men of today really getting out of it?

I think I’ve come up with a nice explanation. The men who support feminism are exactly those men who would be on the bottom of the totem pole in a male-dominated environment. It’s about relative status. If there truly were a patriarchy and male dominance in society, these men would be the “losers” that other men look down on for whatever reason. So it’s in their best interests to use feminism to dismantle any masculine institutions or power wherever possible, as this gives them more relative status and power.

In other words, male feminists are only feminists because they’re “losers” who can’t get laid. Huh. Isn’t that one of those “Anti-Male Shaming Tactics” I hear about from MRAs all the time?

Oh, I’m sorry — those are only shaming tactics when they’re directed at MRAs. When directed at feminist men, this hoary old insult is a profound psychological insight worthy of a 200-comment thread.

Naturally, Price’s brilliant hypothesis goes over well with all of the totally-not-losers who populate The Spearhead. TFH suggests a slight refinement to the thesis:

It might be something even simpler.

Having lost all hope of having sex with women, these losers have decided that at least they will settle for proximity to women, and being male feminists enables them to do that.

What losers….

Eric offers his spin on some old psychological research:

What is apparent is that they share the same deep-seated hatred of men that feminists do.

Kurt Koffka did an intensive study about the ego-relationship to a hostile environment back in the early 60s. His findings were significant in that perceived anger easily developed into narcissicism if allowed to continue unchecked. It’s the same effect everyone feels on a smaller scale when we’re around people we find distasteful—we tend to withdraw upon ourselves. In cases of malignant narcissicism, the ego has withdrawn upon itself to such a degree that, to use Koffka’s eloquent phrase, sees the surrounding world as ‘an undifferentiated hostile field.’

Women educated under feminist ideology fit that profile perfectly.

Um, guys. You do realize that you’re part of a whole little movement that spends most of its time ginning up small slights to look like a culture of MISANDRY, and which is somehow convinced that an evil cabal of feminists and their lackeys run the world? In other words, that you’re narcissicists narcissists who literally do see the world outside of your little message boards as “an undifferentiated hostile field?”

What am I saying? They don’t realize anything. MRA dudes, please take a moment to look up the concept of “projection.” That’s all I ask.

VitaminD (not to be confused with one hit pop wonder Vitamin C) offers this evidently hilarious observation on natural history:

Male feminists are like the clever animals who sneak into the alpha male’s harem and impregnates some of the females behind his back. Unluckily for male feminists, human females subconsciously consider them cowards and are repulsed by this sexual strategy. LOLOLOLOL

LOLOLOLOL indeed!

Andybob suggests that most of us male feminists actually hate being massive pussies:

Most male feminists are frauds. Only the tiniest percentage men could possibly be so unhinged by self-loathing that they genuinely embrace the man-hating swill that is the bedrock of feminism.

The rest of them are just nervous. That’s why most of them seem “a bit off” – to red pill men, that is. They’re playing a role for reasons too humiliating to confront and can sense that a red pill man is likely to see through it and call them on it. But why masquerade as a feminist in the first place?

Mr Price makes a compelling argument that many of them, for whatever reason, can’t quite cut it among their male peers. They may be nerds, socially awkward, sissy-gay, annoying or just plain weird. So, they take the soft option of hanging out with girls – usually the type who naturally repulse boys: feminists. It’s a trade-off. Embrace the ideology, and they can hang out with actual people, even if they are only feminists.

I am intrigued by the final paragraph of the post in which Mr Price suggests that this supplication is a complex form of manipulation. Perhaps some of them are using feminists to out-maneuver their competition – other men. It’s like a perverted form of Anti-Game. Most male feminists I’ve met could easily pass as sociopathic enough to be into this. David Futrelle seems to fit this profile. Surely he can’t really hang around all day with those demented cretins who inhabit his site because he actually finds them interesting. They must be a necessary evil to fulfill a greater goal, whatever that may be. Or maybe he really is just a big old girl’s blouse mangina.

Jimi Hendrix: Big old girls blouse mangina?

Damn, he’s on to me. But while we’re on the subject, here (see pic at right)  is a man in a big old girl’s blouse.

Darryl X is feeling a little cranky today:

There is NOT something a “little off” about feminist men. There is something WAY off. They are malignant narcissists and psychopaths. Career con-artists who manipulate women and men to satisfy their addiction to money and sex and power and control. They do not suffer from a mental illness. Their criminal disposition is the result of bad choices they have made and lies they have told throughout their lives. After you lie enough, you start believing the lies and then you can no longer tell the difference between them and the truth. Feminism is evil and it is a choice. It is not a “little off”. It is the single most evil thing a human can be. Feminism is the most fundamental threat to civilization, an affrontery to God and personally offensive to me.

Also, feminists eat puppies. I can’t believe he forgot to mention that.

Gamerp4 bashes out this weird little rant about “dead men” and river currents:

For me there is no point in beating a dead men, I call those Male Feminist and Mangina’s “Dead Men” their soul and their mind are dead, their thinking, their feelings, their emotions are dead, Just like feminist women they have oath to sought revenge on Patriarchy (Which was the reason that civilization went ahead and humanity was preserved), their Self-hate, Self-Marginalization, Self-Indictment for something that doesn’t even exist shows How they are charming and grooming themselves for a Matriarchy, which surely is not gonna happen in another 200 years, but apart from that I dont wanna piss their plan for “Going with the River Current, Where the River Current takes them”, the real men well “He fights the River Current, To Pave the way for Humanity to survive the WATERFALL”, and I & many in MRM are those Real- Men that are fighting the RIVER CURRENT to pave way for Humanity “of Men Especially.”

Ollie classifies the enemy into five different “archetypes,” in a comment that is an equal mixture of prejudice and delusion, leavened with a teensy bit of truth (see category #1).

1. The Sensitive New Age Guy (SNAG)

Examples, Hugo Schwyzer, John Scalzi, Will Wheaton, Josh Weldon, Anthony Weiner.

This guy is often angling to use sensitive new age guy (SNAG) game to get himself a soft harem, and secure/maintain/enrich his employment. These guys will often plug the fembot party line because it is instrumental to the persona/career they have created. … If you write SWPL oriented sci-fi for a living, it really makes no sense to rock the grrl-power boat. …

Nevertheless, deep down these guys have a raging libido just like the rest of us. It’s just that they have figured out that this libido can be fed (in part) by occasionally stabbing other men in the back.

Yes, it’s true that there are some allegedly sensitive new age guys who mouth feminist platitudes in an attempt to get laid; they’re the “Nice Guys” of the feminist world, and they’re creepy and annoying in much the same way as non-feminist “Nice Guys” are. (See that awful Dear Woman video from a year ago for many cringeworthy examples.) But other so-called “sensitive new age guys” are actually just … sensitive and new agey, for better or worse.

The remainder of Ollie’s categories bear much less resemblance to reality.

2. The Closet Transgender

Examples: Julia (Former name?) Serano, Robert (now Raewyn) Connell, Larry (now Lana) Wachowski

These guys, while they are still guys, are ardent feminists, because they know in their heart of hearts (as soon as enough money/time for the hormones and surgery arrives) they are going to be playing for Team Woman someday, so they had better ingratiate themselves now.

Yeah, that’s … not … how that works.

3. The Gay Leftist

Examples: Andrew Sullivan, Dan Savage.

The men in this category (which also includes the closeted) support feminism inasmuch as this support is something of an ideological tithe to another component (feminists) of the leftist coalition/army fighting the greater culture wars.

Um, what?

4. The Socon (Social-Conservative)

Examples: Glenn T. Stanton, Mark Driscoll, William Bennett

These guys are a lot like group one, willing to stab their fellow man in the back to get a paycheck, and perhaps a little more (wink, wink). … [But] they do it under the guise of conservatism and/or religiosity. … They are ruthless white knights. … [And they] will follow the major tenets of feminism, but never, ever admit to it, heaven forbid they lose some precious street cred in front of the Limbaugh/Hannity/Falwell crowd.

White Knights they may well be, but the notion that, say, Bill Bennett is a closet feminist is a bit … odd to say the least.

Oops, he almost forgot me! So he added one more category in a second comment:

5. The Desperate Guy

Examples: David Futrelle,

This guy is a lesser beta/omega and he is essentially begging for attention. The worst part is that to a certain extent, this ploy for attention works, and the Desperate Guy then proceeds to double down on the fembot activism in hopes that it will lead to greater emotional rewards. As time goes on, this type of guy has more and more of his ego invested in this gambit, to the point where he would rather kill himself than end the attachment to such a poisonous ideology.

Around this point I basically got bored with the thread, though, skimming the rest, I did notice a few further thoughts on my evil self.

Keyster, after quoting an earlier commenter who referred to me as “Fucktrelle/Flabtrelle/Mangina,” complains that I have “no original thoughts, just finger wagging and ad hominem ridicule.”

The Whammer defines “a futrella” as being “like a mangina only fatter, dumber and more pussy whipped.” He also imagines me getting my balls cut off, after which he adds a smiley face.

In a later comment, Mr. Whammer adds some thoughts about you, gentle readers, as well:

If you’ve ever read the comments on his blog they are from the same handful of lesbians,females who ride the fatmobile at the food store and are “depressed” (about being fat lol) and think they are entitled to disability, females who have no idea what sex they are and refer to normal people as “cis”, and pussy whipped sissies and manginas. …

Little David will also erase and ban any comment that doesn’t fit into the stupid groupthink there and believe me these girls are dumb as rocks. Even when these “girls” try some humour or sarcasm it sounds like something from a 5yo and falls flat. David apparently has no life or anything else to do so he reads every comment and will ban those he doesn’t like. Price allows anyone to post but this sometimes permits people to write things that will discredit the MRM which little David will then pounce on and use as an example against the MRM. Personally I think that Welmer should delete comments from people who write things that may discredit the men’s movement and also those that just ramble on in some long confused post that makes no sense.

Thank, you, Mr. Whammer, for providing me with yet another “long confused post that makes no sense” that I can cherry-pick to discredit real MRAs like … you. Er, wait.

My favorite comment in the whole thread, though, is one from Alex F., who is convinced you can spot a mangina by just looking at his fingers. (You may recall our friend Gucci Little Piggy making a similar argument about lesbians some months back.)

Don’t know if you’re familiar with “the ring finger theory”, but it’s been proven that a reliable way of identifying high-T men is observing the ratio between the index and ring fingers. A longer ringer finger indicates unusually high testosterone, and is a common marker in professional sportsmen etc. …

I would be willing to bet no male feminists have the longer ring finger (Futrelle for example is overweight; low testosterone tends people towards weight gain). Low testosterone would disable these men in all sorts of obvious ways, making them unappealing to men and women alike. Hence, they adopt feminism to compensate.

Take a look at the picture at the top of this post, Alex F., and weep.

Is it possible that MRAs are quite literally wrong about every single thing in the world?

(Who wants to bet that the MRAs respond by suggesting that the picture is faked?)

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darksidecat
12 years ago

LOL, I didn’t even notice the red pill blue pill obsession being used before a post attacking Lana Wachowski.

They need some new metaphors. NOT the horrid ones from AVfM though…

Rutee Katreya
12 years ago

LOL, I didn’t even notice the red pill blue pill obsession being used before a post attacking Lana Wachowski.

Oh of-fucking-course they are assholes to one of the women responsible for the matrix when they gratuitously use its analogies. I know it’s a small thing to nitpick, but seriously now.

Nanasha
Nanasha
12 years ago

You know what pisses me off about the “testosterone” point the most? They obviously know nothing about basic human biochemistry. Testosterone is only ONE of the many hormones that ALL HUMAN BEINGS have in their bodies, and it’s a delicate balance. Too much and bad stuff happens, too little and bad stuff happens….AND IT IS DIFFERENT FOR EACH INDIVIDUAL PERSON. A “normal” amount of hormone in one person will cause all kinds of messed up symptoms in another person because everyone is different. This is why all blood tests have a specific range for what is considered “normal”- and even then sometimes the tests are less than accurate on certain outliers on the bell curve. Sure, we try and standardize things, but if science teaches us anything, it’s that reality is not standardized, and we can’t honestly expect to create a world that is based in 100% absolutes, especially when it comes to what makes each individual healthy (this is also what genetic diversity is all about- that’s how our species can survive plagues and illnesses that wipe out a good chunk of the population).

The fact that the MRM has this stupid idea that all men must be the same (DUR HUR STEREOTYPICAL FRATBOY HE MEN) in order to be “successful” (and what exactly does that mean again?), is ridiculous- if we monochrome our behaviors, tactics and physical appearances, we are basically giving Nature a big middle finger and daring the next big plague to wipe the lot of us out. Diversity is one of the only ways to truly combat this problem, which is why I am very happy that there is a lot of difference out there.

I think that these guys have confused the idea that diversity is beneficial with the self-entitled idea that everyone who exists must also be someone they want to fuck all the time.

Exactly *why* do they seem obsessed with the idea that the only people that they should ever have to be around are people who they find sexually attractive, and the idea of having to be around anyone who doesn’t raise their erections is the most horrible thing ever?

Seriously, grow up and grow some scruples. The amount of humans on this planet that anyone (even those of us who are not noxious trolls) will have sex with is a very tiny tiny fraction of the overall population. Perhaps admiring the qualities in human beings that goes beyond their fuckability might actually make life more enjoyable in the long run.

But I don’t expect them to listen to me. After all, I do have a vagina, so I must be some kind of evil liar or something.

Nanasha
Nanasha
12 years ago

Actually, the whole “More testosterone = more man” thing reminds me a lot of this clip from Invader Zim:

No, no, more organs doesn’t mean more human.

And more testosterone doesn’t mean more “man”.

Hell, I have naturally occurring testosterone levels of over 200% above normal for a woman because I have PCOS. I have to take medication to normalize my hormones and even then, it’s not a complete fix as there are very limited treatments for the condition.

Still doesn’t make me a guy.

Ithiliana
12 years ago

@Nanasha: Yep, the list of things the MRAs know nothing about goes from astronomy to zoology (and religion, ditto)! Living examples of the Dunning-Kroger effect.

Cliff Pervocracy
12 years ago

if we monochrome our behaviors, tactics and physical appearances, we are basically giving Nature a big middle finger

Ahem. A big ring finger.

creativewritingstudent
creativewritingstudent
12 years ago

@Nanasha

Hehe, Invader Zim…

Yeah, sorry this isn’t relevant.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
12 years ago

@Argenti

Sadly, there was no popcorn available, so I had to proceed with the original plan.

Diesirae
12 years ago

Well I’m a nerd, socially awkward, not so gay but sissy, probably annoying and definitely weird. Nice to meet you.

scarlettpipistrelle
12 years ago

I LOVE Invader Zim.

aworldanonymous
12 years ago

I didn’t get to watch Invader Zim as a kid, it came on too late at night and then it got cancelled.

drst
drst
12 years ago

One of my hands, the ring finger is a tiny bit shorter. The other it’s even. Because your hands are very often not identical. Palmistry believes that the dominant hand shows you as you are, and the non-dominant hand shows what you think of yourself, so a “reputable” palm reader will look at both to find distinctions and gain insight into conflicts you may be experiencing.

Sara Dalton
Sara Dalton
12 years ago

So the MRM is a civil rights movement that aims to liberate men by creating a “male-dominated society”, in which certain types of men are still “at the bottom of the totem pole”.
Sounds like MRAs are just a certain type of person who wants their preferences to organize the world.

BlackBloc
BlackBloc
12 years ago

>>>Dude, I think you *did* need counseling

Quoted for Truth. Their track record of how to resolve traumatic or hurtful events by themselves like sexual rejection or having their wife cheat on or leave them isn’t exactly stellar.

captainbathrobe
12 years ago

If there truly were a patriarchy and male dominance in society, these men would be the “losers” that other men look down on for whatever reason. So it’s in their best interests to use feminism to dismantle any masculine institutions or power wherever possible, as this gives them more relative status and power.

W.F. Price, artist’s conception:

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
12 years ago

Tulgey! Couldn’t you just stick to the civilization ending part without eating a puppy first? Or is this like Ozzie eating the bats, some sort o modern battle cry type thing?

And my ring fingers are noticeably longer btw, but I’m rubbish at sports.

captainbathrobe
12 years ago

Actually, dismantling the patriarchal power structure is exactly what feminism is about, and, yes, such a dismantling would probably provide greater benefit to men who are lower on the social totem pole. What’s odd is that Price somehow thinks this would be a bad thing. Does he really imagine himself to “winner” who has been cheated out of his rightful place by feminism?

I’ll answer my own question: yes, of course he does.

captainbathrobe
12 years ago

Mr Price makes a compelling argument that many of them, for whatever reason, can’t quite cut it among their male peers. They may be nerds, socially awkward, sissy-gay, annoying or just plain weird.

Again, they say this like it’s a bad thing.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
12 years ago

Tulgey! Couldn’t you just stick to the civilization ending part without eating a puppy first? Or is this like Ozzie eating the bats, some sort o modern battle cry type thing?

I’m sorry, but Civ IV cannot be played hungry. The Mongols never conquered the Zulu empire on an empty stomach in real life, I assure you.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
12 years ago

The idea of MRAs calling other men sex obsessed is deeply amusing. I’ve never encountered a group of people who base their entire lives, including their political positions, around sex to the extent that these guys do. They make the FDLS look like an organization whose policies are totally uninfluenced by sex.

RubyHypatia
RubyHypatia
12 years ago

Agreed, David. There’s a lot of projection going on here.

Tom Martin
12 years ago

Men with long ring fingers are more likely to be heterosexual, have more sex partners, have more testosterone, have heart attacks, get infectious diseases, and have shorter lives than men with shorter ring fingers, on average.

captainbathrobe
12 years ago

Yeah, if feminist men are just a bunch of nerds, geeks, and sissy boys, what does the MRM have to offer us that’s better than we have now? More bullying? Gosh, I can hardly wait to sign up.

drst
drst
12 years ago

Also if I’m remembering correctly (all my books are in storage) the index finger is associated with Jupiter, meaning leadership, but also initiative that may play out in other ways. It’s also an indication of ego. An index finger longer than the ring finger is a egotist with strong convictions and desire to be in charge (erm, alpha male?)

The middle finger is associated with Saturn, and is about your regard for rules and order as well as a sense of responsibility. Since humans live in societies, almost everyone’s longest finger is the middle. (Bearing in mind this is basically like astrology on your hands in a lot of respects.)

The ring finger is associated with Apollo and the arts, creativity and desire. A ring finger that is longer than an index finger in palmistry indicates someone who is a lover, not a fighter. *g*

(The little finger is Mercury, related to communication. If you little finger curves outward, you are probably outgoing and extroverted. Folks like me who are severely introverted may note a curve inward toward the ring finger. And of course many people have no curve at all.)

Wetherby
12 years ago

Agreed, David. There’s a lot of projection going on here.

Steele Buttvarpole or whatever your name is, take note: not only does the word ‘creep’ absolutely apply to Ruby, but it does in both its standard definitions – i.e. including the one that covers blatantly sucking up to someone.

Gendered slur my buttocks.