[TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion of child rape]
Tom Martin is one of the most prominent Men’s Rights Activists in the UK. He’s best known for a failed lawsuit he launched against the London School of Economics, charging the school’s gender studies program with, you guessed it, misandry. The case was thrown out of court this March, and Martin celebrated his defeat by calling a lot of people whores on Twitter and, I am proud to say, in the comments here at Man Boobz.
While Martin, known perhaps ironically as @sexismbusters on Twitter, is clearly more famous in the UK than he is here in the states, this peculiar crusader against what he sees as sexism has been celebrated (and his defeat in court mourned) by numerous Men’s Rights sites on this side of the pond. He’s been discussed many times on the Men’s Rights subreddit, where one supporter declared:
And he’s gotten write-ups on an assortment of other MR sites from The Spearhead to MensActivism.org to one Man Boobz favorite, the now-defunct What Men Are Saying About Women. On the website of the National Coalition for Men, one enthusiastic commenter gushed:
Finaly a real man with balls !!! Not like the rest of us . Tom is my hero .
But the Men’s Rights site that has given Martin the most support has been A Voice for Men, which featured Martin on one of its “radio” shows, reposted an article on Martin’s crusade from his website that seems to have been written by Martin himself (in the third person), offered updates on his lawsuit, and even publicized a recent public debate of his in England. The site has also encouraged people to donate to Martin’s legal fund.
One wonders what these supporters will make of some of the strange and awful things Martin has been saying in the comments here on Man Boobz in recent days. (There is no question that it is really him; he confirmed his identity earlier by emailing me from the account associated with his website Sexismbusters.org, and anyone skeptical of any of this is invited to contact him directly through his website.)
Most of the comments he posted here during his first commenting binge were rather risibly misogynist, frequently punctuated with his favorite epithet “whore,” a designation he feels is an appropriate one for 97% of all women and (he had recently added) for 98% of Man Boobzers of either gender. You can see here or here for numerous examples of Martin’s wit and wisdom – including his argument that hard chairs are discriminatory towards men and his now famous declaration that “female penguins are whores.”
His more recent comments, though, haven’t been funny in the slightest. Martin’s new obsession? Child prostitutes – and why they aren’t victims so much as victimizers, willing participants in an activity that makes them big money. Let me put another TRIGGER WARNING here. This is some of the most repellant material I have ever featured on man Boobz.
Here’s Martin’s opening statement on the subject:
The latest establishment scam in the UK, is to describe child prostitutes as “vulnerable children groomed for sexual exploitation”, then talk about them being “passed around” etc, without mention of the fact that these young people agreed to be whores, and are getting paid for it.
In a followup, he elaborated on this logic:
“Yeah, she offered me a job as a prostitute abroad, which would involve me receiving lots of money for taking cock, so I accepted, became a prostitute, and therefor, according to the official fem definition, this makes me a sex slave”.
Grow up!
Even a 10 year old knows, if someone is paying you for sex, that makes you a whore.
And when he talks about ten year olds here, he means this literally; in his mind, trafficked ten year old children aren’t really victims, but economic actors making an economic choice:
I stand by my statement, that child prostitutes know what they are doing, and therefore deserve to be called prostitutes, not victims.
A progressive European country (either Holland or one of the Scandinavian countries, I remember hearing), introduced in the late 90s, the legal principle of no arbitrary minimum age for consent, rather, the legal requirement to ascertain whether lawful sex had taken place was to establish whether the child or young person ‘understands the meaning of consent’ …
Now, if a ten year old is for instance [specific sexual act redacted] for money up front, then there is very much less question whether that whore understands the meaning of consent or not.
In another comment, Martin suggests that ten-year-olds who have been the victims of what some people insist on calling “real rape” would be offended by anyone thinking that ten-year-old prostitutes suffer from rape – when, after all, the child prostitutes have “agreed” to it.
From the perspective of a child who has actually been raped by an adult, how must it seem, to hear the victim-feminist establishment conflate child rape with child prostitution? The raped child remembers having no choice about participating in the sexual activity, of being forced, and then is asked to consider his or her fate or level of agency as similar or the same as that of a child who marketed them self for sex to an adult, took payment, then performed the act.
I don’t think the average 10 year old genuine rape victim would buy the manboobz style analysis that all child prostitution is rape … .
Questions of genuine agency are complicated, but not complicated enough to pass a 10 year old genuine rape victim’s bullshitometer I posit.
Oh, Martin doesn’t actually think ten year olds should be prostitutes. He thinks they should wait a few years, until they’re at least 14.
Should child prostitution from the ages of 13 up be legal?
Nope. I think that prostitution is a potentially dangerous profession for which a basic qualification in health and safety be required, like an NVQ – and that kind of course would not be attainable until after the minimum of secondary school years are completed, so aged 14, 15, 16, 17 or even 18 or more depending on the country.
The real problem, in his mind, is that young girls try to enter into the business when they should be in school:
States with child prostitution problems should be forced to get these children back into schools to complete their education, and child prostitutes who persist should be treated as school truants, a misdemeanor, and given the carrot and stick approach to get them back on the straight and narrow or go to young offenders institutions. If they want to be prostitutes when they’re old enough, then they can go to the careers advise officer, where the pros and cons of the profession can be laid out, and an application for the training course and license can be given.
Martin mocks the very notion that child prostitutes are being exploited:
Imagine you caught your underage 15 year old daughter on the game, what would you say to her?
“Okay darling, obviously you played no part whatsoever in choosing to be a prostitute yourself, so mummy’s going to help catch the nasty pimp who put you up to this, because what you need to learn is when 15 year old girls accidentally suck cocks for money, they should be compensated, with a bit of victims of crime compensation, and, not forgetting, the original £12 cock-sucking bonanza from the punter. That’s right sweety. Double bubble time. Pass me the phone. Now how does this thing work?”
Or… would you ground the whore for 6 months until she passes all her GCSEs?
Well, given that approximately 98% of manboobzers are whores themselves, I’m guessing you’re probably going to want to blame it all on MRAs.
So prostitution should be legal. But since prostitutes are very bad, they should pay high taxes for the privilege of plying their trade, to keep them poor and in order to repay society for the damage they do:
Prostitutes need to be taxed and licensed so heavily, rendering the profession a relatively poor way of making money.
Anyone who practices as a prostitute without the necessary qualification and license, can go to young offenders institute/jail – just like any other persistent illegal unlicensed trader would.
Anyone working on the sly as an escort, should be hunted down by the taxwoman, and if caught, given a huge bill for tax evasion, as well as a fine, and prison for not having a license. Unlicensed tax-evading prostitutes should be hunted down (which would be easy enough).
Anyone choosing prostitution should pay the highest taxes, and know why those taxes are so high – because of the damage prostitution does to the prostitutes and their customers and their environment and the society.
In a followup comment, Martin sees a silver lining in the form of all the tax revenues that prostitution will bring in:
If licensed hookers pay for a massive license fee and heavy taxes, then some of that money can be ring-fenced to research how best to get women (and girls) to renounce prostitution in all its forms, because let’s face it, a lot of housewhores and princess wannabes could do with a little economic activity-inducing work ethic therapy themselves.
Meanwhile, the customers of underage prostitutes – in other words, the child rapists – should be treated gingerly:
[M]en who pay money to have sex with child prostitutes should not be criminalized – but taken out of circulation and treated compassionately for their condition. I’ve heard that most criminal activity peaks with testosterone levels, in the late teens, but paedophillia is the only crime that increases in frequency as these men get older, indicating a growing pathology for them rather than just a typical immature criminal act.
He offers this final summing up of his twisted argument:
[P]edophiles who pay children for sex are not really rapists, because the child consents, then performs the act, indicating they understand the nature of the contract. The elder is still a pedophiles, but the child prostitute is still a prostitute.
If the child is enslaved – it’s rape, or too young or stupid to know what he or she’s doing – rape. But poor, and in need of food? Not rape. A choice. Unwilling to do other hard labour paying 9 times less than the prostitution route? Not rape. A choice.
He then extends his argument to the rest of the alleged 97% of women who, in his mind, are whores:
Whatever your age, follow the golden rule, of never taking money for sex, then prostitution will be eradicated. Only the prostitute can stop charging for sex.
And of course, that means rejecting courtship gifts, engagement gifts, marriage gifts, divorce gifts, and government largess also.
I don’t think many of you are ready to renounce prostitution in all its forms. …
I know a whore when I see one.
He even returns momentarily to his earlier assertion that female penguins are whores:
Someone or other here said I was anthropomorphising human behaviour onto penguin behaviour by calling penguins whores or something.
But the point is, being a whore, is an animalistic trait, that human females should not need to resort to, given they’re at the top of the fucking food chain already. Google “nuptial gifts” and you can read studies about various animals granting sex to those males who provide the most food, or even the most glittery non-edible trinkets etc, or in the case of penguins, rocks to build nests and shelter with.
I’m saying women are better than penguins, or at least would be if they renounced prostitution in all its forms.
I’m sure the women of the world will be happy to hear that Mr. Martin thinks they are potentially better than penguins.
I doubt many of Mr. Martin’s American supporters are familiar with his elaborate apologia for child rape. I would like to invite Man Boobz readers to show this post, or at least some of the more repellant quotations from it, to the proprietors of the various MRA blogs and MRA forums I have mentioned above.
I wonder if any of his supporters will be willing to renounce him publicly once they know what he has said here – and apparently in some recent public debates as well. Surely no legitimate “human rights movement” would want to be associated with anyone who spouts filth like this.
Of course there’s they, but for the less grammatically apt of the world, they has a tendency to cause some confusion, which is why I among others advocate a distinct pronoun third person singular.
Ok, what did you mean by:
I’m not sure how else to interpret that.
In this case, it’s a generic pronoun for someone whose gender/preferred pronoun I don’t know. But some people do go by “zie” full-time–it’s not assigned to them, it’s pretty much always self-chosen.
I think the takeaway here is “not everyone is you.”
If Cliff had used singular they, nobody would have even noticed what pronoun she used. Singular they is far more attested and thus more proper in English than any of the gender-neutral neologisms that are designed to be singular. Zie sticks out and it sounds like you’re calling them genderqueer.
We’ve already got one troll rewriting the dictionary for us, scrapemind.
“Zie” doesn’t mean “genderqueer and only genderqueer” anywhere. It’s indefinitely gendered.
…And what am I supposed to take away from you saying you’d rather be called female than genderqueer?
By “nobody would have even noticed” do you mean that you wouldn’t have noticed? Because I don’t see anyone else whining about it.
Some redditors are saying that David Futrelle is lying about this. Tom Martin’s own words are here as a testimony. We have already established that Martin is not an imposter. So what exactly is Dave lying about?
Oh, and a prominent feminist called for the extermination of 90% of men, so child rape is like, who cares. Can someone please debunk this garbage? I’m sure some of you know where it came from. Like that bullshit “all sex is rape” came from a novel. We should start something similar to “The Book of Learnin,” debunking all of the bullshit MRAs say about feminists.
If a feminist HAD called for the extermination of men, would child rape be okay? Shit doesn’t even NEED debunking.
They’re talking about Mary Daly. I’ll leave it to someone more familiar with her work (I don’t like her at all) to debunk.
And yeah, as Cliff said, one horrible idea does not make another horrible idea OK.
I’m in no way defending the MRAs, but I’ve seen more extreme out there. (Happily, not very often.)
“If life is to survive on this planet, there must be a decontamination of the Earth. I think this will be accompanied by an evolutionary process that will result in a drastic reduction of the population of males.”
This is the quote from Mary Daly. It’s not really supporting the extermination of males, more like saying men as a species will die off through evolutionary processes. I disagree with her and think it’s a dumb idea. But this is gold to MRAs. I know Valerie Solanis said something similar.
Now, I’m not saying this NEEDS to be debunked. One horrible idea does not justify another horrible idea. I’m just looking to shut these MRA excuses down so they can be forced to deal with the issue, not derail by saying “Yeah, well you guys did this!”
@Scrapemind: Gender Neutral Pronouns: learn something today, and it won’t be a total waste:
http://aetherlumina.com/gnp/faq.html
BTW, your username is one of the ickiest I’ve seen (both in sound and meaning) . I wince every time I see it–not saying you have to change or anything, but it’s interesting how that sort of thing can affect a response.
@Nanasha: You are sort of wishing that he undergo a virtual rape (as opposed to Ruby’s actual rapes for prisoners) in order to develop empathy–the problem is, do you have any proof that forcing someone to suffer the torment they’ve imposed on others will “cure” them (i.e. give them empathy)?
This revenge fantasy is often expressed as “it will teach them X,” but I don’t know that it will (the whole issue of what empathy is, how it’s developed/learned, why some people have less of it or what seems be be none of it) is complicated — I don’t know the scholarship on it.
And of course there’s no way to ethically test the hypothesis–but it seems less than likely. And if it was somehow institutionalized, then you’re setting up MORE state supported torture in the name of a “good” end, i.e. teaching them empathy.
Don’t we have enough of that already?
Fembot, as far as I’m concerned, the fact that they have to dig through quotes from radical feminists dating back 40+ years is enough debunking for me. Yes those women did say those things, and yeah they are very not cool things to say. They are also things a lot of feminists from back then weren’t all about and certainly isn’t something that stands for the opinions of most femenists (not including Ruby) today.
On a totally different note, regarding Tom’s thoughts on gifts, it strikes me how terribly sad and lonely this man must be because it seems apparent from his opinion about gifts making people into whores that he has no one in his life for whom he does things just because he cares for them, and doing something nice for someone you care for is nice, and vice versa. I mean, yeah, my guy and I did wind up in the sack on his birthday after I surprised him with a picnic and a tour of the local observatory and tickets for opening night of the new batman movie, but I didn’t do any of that to get him to sleep with me. I did it because I love him and wanted to do something special for him.
The energy would probably be better spent putting out more criticisms of parts of our own groups (in this case, feminism) than trying to specifically debunk for the “critics” (in this case, MRAs) who’ll never listen.
They’ll never accept anything other than “yes, a feminist did once say something bad about men”, which they can then generalise out to all feminists.
I was thinking more along the lines of “a christmas carol” showing directly the situations that exploited children face and also virtual because I would not want any actual exploited children to have to interact with his horrible personality.
Why do both of you always seem to assume that I am some horrible person?
It sounded to me like Nanasha was talking about a sense recording of a rape, like in Kathryn Bigelow’s film Strange Days.
The GNP FAQ makes a good point that singular they can’t be used as freely as he or she. I guess I’ll try to put up with gender-neutral pronouns in the hope that one day they will sound unremarkable and neutral not genderqueer. I hope, though, that the one that catches on isn’t zie. It’s a homophone with a very overloaded German pronoun, which, in the third-person singular, is feminine.
Well the thing about singular “they” as used in a sentence is it sounds different to different people. Like, one of the examples of a sentence on that page using “they” that was described as not working so well or not sounding right actually sounded completely normal to me.
That’s probably because i’ve used the singular they for a long time so i’m used to it.
That’s so big of you to put up with gender-neutral pronouns, scrapemind. You truly are a giver.
singular they: The grammar prescriptivists purists in US English at least have been trying to eradicate it for generations–but it’s a pefectly useful choice in English.
Some people use the alternative pronouns for political points, just as some feminists always use “she” instead of “he” when the context is hypothetical (i.e. not referring to any actual person).
Pronouns are a closed set in languages–very hard to change–but I can still remember the huge pronoun wars (“THE FALL OF CIVILIZATION”) if we stopped using “he” and “him” as the default generic pronoun, smirks.
More palate cleansing! (Hope I’ll get the cocka-doodie embedding right…)
[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pwe-pA6TaZk&w=640&h=360%5D
Ithiliana: Yes! The people who insist using “they” as a gender neutral pronoun isn’t “proper English” infuriate me! What’s most hilarious though is they’re fighting against freakin’ Shakespeare on this issue.
@Nanasha: If I thought you were a terrible person, I wouldn’t engage beyond the snark and troll stomping I do with the True Trollz.
I admit, I don’t see how I am supposed to see how this statement:
is supposed to be understood as this statement:
Out of curiosity, have you ever read Burgess’s Clockwork Orange or seen the Kubrick film by the same name? I think Burgess’ take on it (the conditioning against violence) is a lot more realistic than Dickens’ completely sentimental and over the top story (which while nice enough sets up the idea that the rich should be nice to the DESERVING poor, rather than change the social conditions that result from the exploitation of a large percent of the population).
The context was Martin talking about how poor children should do child labor in factories (I assume) than become prostitutes–so I read your comment as somehow a fantasy that through virtual reality (which can be pretty immersive today) he be subjected to details from the lives of such children for just a day to lead him to become more empathetic.
I think showing him a film or two is no more likely to be effective than the more immersive scenario I took from your first comment.
I guess…..in some larger sense, I think the only thing to do with people like Tom Martin is write them off–any resources trying to “change” them would probably better be spent elsewhere.