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“What a lifeless, limp, ego-centric homo,” and other bon mots from the A Voice for Men crowd

So Mr. Paul Elam was apparently so offended by this video from Jay Smooth defending Anita Sarkeesian and her Tropes Vs Women video project against its many misogynistic detractors that he sat down and wrote out a carefully reasoned rebuttal of all of Mr. Smooth’s points.

Nah, I’m kidding. He wrote a snide couple of paragraphs calling Smooth a “leftist scumbucket,” and a “chickenshit feminist quisling,” and invited his readers to jump in with their own dopey insults. And they did. Some highlights (that is, lowlights):

I showed Paul’s comment to an MRA friend, and he said, “dude, you have to stop talking to me. I don’t exist! I’m no more real than Paul Elam’s ‘gay friend.'”

Andybob added this to the debate:

Yes, that’s right, he’s saying Smooth is being a “fag” in order to score with women. Clearly we have a brilliant mind at work here.

Several comments later, Iron John, a man apparently oblivious to irony, weighed in with this gem:

On Reddit, after someone pointed out the homophobia in the comments, Elam responded with “comment mine much?”

I’m pretty sure you don’t get to complain about “comment mining” for homophobia when 1) you’re the guy behind the site and 2) you’re one of the ones shouting “fag.”

Notice that Zorro’s original comment got an equal number of upvotes and downvotes. Then Elam jumped in to give the homophobia his seal of approval. After that, it was nothing but upvotes for those using or approving of the homophobic slur.

Calling a dude a “fag” on the internet: Men’s Rights Activism at its finest!

 

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Songthe
Songthe
12 years ago

I’d spew evangelical bs all day if it meant I could pay for college. Elam just writes crap and waits for donations, donation, donations, Suckers. It’s not hard to do to men’s pocketbooks these days. I’d do it myself but I can’t stomach all the hate.

skokieboki@yahoo.com
12 years ago

Cliff – Yup. “Fag” is just for the bad ones and you can totally use the term if you have this one gay friend you wave to sometimes.

skokieboki@yahoo.com
12 years ago

Jessay – Yeah, I heard that “There are black people, and then there are n*****s” line from whites and blacks growing up fairly frequently. Even sadder, the people who said that were actually sometimes less hateful than the type of people who never use vile language or even talk much about race, but use code words and knowing glances. The sly racists usually held more firmly to their racism, in my experience. Racism with a smile. Creepy.

Nobinayamu
Nobinayamu
12 years ago

Oh man, I hear my cousin talk about her experiences in Chicago which is obv a much more diverse area than where she grew up in NH. We were discussing racism and she told me that the black people she talks to there say things like, “There are black people, and then there’s n****s.” It’s really depressing. It’s like, how much hatred must a person endure to get that type of mentality where they would use that kind of slur which was used to oppress their ancestors to differentiate between themselves and “bad” black people?

I don’t meant to intrude on your conversation with skokieboki -and I’m not trying to derail the thread- but that quote is paraphrase of a prominent bit from Chris Rock’s very famous comedy special Bring the Pain.

And it’s a fairly complicated piece of comedy; nuanced, contextual, problematic, etc. I find it both interesting and a bit unfortunate, that the phrase has become such a part of the cultural zeitgeist. I’ve always disliked people appropriating the bit in order to justify their own racism.

But, assuming that its use is inherently some manifestation of self-hatred when Black people say it, is… dicey. You might not have the background/cultural context to understand.

blitzgal
12 years ago

“That it’s really pathetic that you still think that sandwich joke is funny.”

So many good points, I can’t even begin to list them all here, but the above made me laugh out loud.

nwoslave
12 years ago

@Cliff Pervocracy
“There’s very little joking, very little “hey, nice to see you back here MRADude221,” and very little indication that they have any more fun in the backchannel. There’s just zero sense of camaraderie.”

The, “fun” in feminism consists of, “jokes” ridiculing men. That is what you do here. Have women dictated what is or isn’t considered a, “sense of camaraderie?” Not too much of a surprise there.

blitzgal
12 years ago

Also, to give this some perspective — Sarkeesian was deluged with savagely racist and sexist attacks BEFORE THE VIDEOS HAD EVEN BEEN MADE. The announcement of the project was all it took for people to do things like deface her Wiki page with pornographic images and racist commentary. And yet these are the same assholes who roll their eyes and say it’s BS whenever gamer women try to say that the gaming community has a sexism problem. They’re the same ones who comment under every Kotaku post about this issue claiming that we’re “making it up” or “exaggerating” what happens to us when we play online games as women.

Mark Minter
12 years ago

I found your site while searching for the Marriage Strike. The basis for the claims of men are true. Most of the stuff you ridicule have foundations in truth. Women behave badly. Women have an outsized sense of entitlement. Woman lack accountability. Women manipulate the law for their benefit. Men are raped in divorce. Women make false domestic violence claims against men. Women make false sexual harassment claims against men. A lot of the claims made by feminists are outright false. I go on and on and on.

And you defend them. You have a whole site designed to mock and ridicule these claims.

So all I can say is you’re a suck up fag mangina. There is a whole lot of truth in that. I am not even going to bother to look for an intellectual argument. Fag.

lauralot89
12 years ago

Men are raped in divorce.

You know when men are raped? When they are actually raped. Don’t minimize the pain of rape survivors to say that men have it bad in divorce. And they don’t, actually, when men contest custody, fifty percent of the time they get it.

So all I can say is that you’re a jackass who lacks the ability to view women as anything but a stereotype and who thinks homophobic slurs are funny. There is a lot of truth in that. Asshole.

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
12 years ago

Well, you could try looking for a better set of insults…as a het person I’m really feeling left out. Oh, and you forgot to refer to women as “females” or bitches. Just a protip to help you fit in with the MRA.

blitzgal
12 years ago

Men are raped in divorce.

No.

A lot of the claims made by feminists are outright false.

As are yours.

starterlifesydney
starterlifesydney
12 years ago


So all I can say is you’re a suck up fag mangina. There is a whole lot of truth in that. I am not even going to bother to look for an intellectual argument. Fag.

How dare you use shaming language against a male, you are a MISANDRIST!!!

MISANDRIST
MISANDRIST
MISANDRIST

pecunium
12 years ago

We have a small dose of honesty: So all I can say is you’re a suck up fag mangina. There is a whole lot of truth in that. I am not even going to bother to look for an intellectual argument.

If only it came with just a soupçon of self-awareness.

Thankfully he’s just here to enjoy is hate-on, so we can continue with the adult conversation.

BigMomma
BigMomma
12 years ago

Mark Minter, there’s a name ripe for a limerick…

Sharculese
12 years ago

So all I can say is you’re a suck up fag mangina. There is a whole lot of truth in that. I am not even going to bother to look for an intellectual argument. Fag.

i totally believe this is the only rejoinder your capable of, but not for the reasons you claim

ps: yeah, we totally believe you were ‘just searching’

Cliff Pervocracy
12 years ago

I wonder if the Marriage Strike will lead to Marriage Collective Bargaining?

I’m going to ask for health insurance, paid lunches, and improved safety equipment.

blitzgal
12 years ago

Actually, re-thinking the whole religiously based institution of marriage thing is a good idea. That’s why feminists have been tackling it for the past fifty fucking years, at least. You’re late to the party, MRAs.

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
12 years ago

Yeah, marriage central didn’t put uch thought into his blog either. Most of the articles he’s posted up have been deleted or open into some completely unrelated HuffPo piece.

lauralot89
12 years ago

I think MRAs view feminism the same way Chick tracts view Catholicism. That is, anything the MRAs don’t like, even if it something feminists actively oppose, is somehow still the fault of the secret conspiracy. Like Catholics invented Islam/LDS/Masonry/Jehovah’s Witnesses/the KKK/the Holocaust/Hinduism/abortion/JFK and Lincoln’s assassinations, feminists are behind traditional marriage/stereotypical gender roles/prison rape/male suicide, etc.

Freitag
Freitag
12 years ago

@Mark Minter: “I go on and on and on.”
True, that.

Bee
Bee
12 years ago

Oh right, women. I know a buncha those. Heck, I am one. Who am I gonna believe, my lying personal experience, or Mark Minter, who has a hard time with the google?

Pro tip: Things that you think have a “foundation in reality” that aren’t actually true? Still aren’t actually true.

And as someone who advocates for men who are raped, I invite you to fuck off with your creative misunderstanding of what the word means.

talacaris
talacaris
12 years ago

Sometimes I can fell a similarity between Men’s Rights Activism and the Holy Roman Empire..

Jayem Griffin
12 years ago

Well, the one wasn’t holy, Roman, nor an empire, and the Men’s Rights Movement isn’t really a movement, and does a terrible job actually advocating for the rights of men.

Seraph
Seraph
12 years ago

Is MM a poe? For such a perfect example of what we’re talking about to show up at just the right time just boggles the mind.