So Alexander Ryking is a Tumblr blogger and one of Tumblr’s community “editors” for politics. He thinks of himself as a liberal.
He is also a raging misogynist who regularly calls women “cunts” and tells feminists to “kill yourselves you feminazi twats.”
In recent days he’s turned his douchebag-o-meter up to 11. As a result, there’s now a petition up on Change.org to have him removed as a politics editor on Tumblr. It’s already gotten more than 3000 signatures, with several hundred new signatures added in the time it’s taken me to write this post.
Here’s unknowable woman, a frequent target of his cyber-wrath, with more details on his recent meltdown. (Read the post on her Tumblr blog for links to the evidence of his douchebaggery.)
Alexander Ryking, who has a history of attempting to silence women bloggers (he told Jess of STFUConservatives and the other “feminazis” to “go kill themselves” several months ago, and has also been rude to women of color but I haven’t been on Tumblr long enough to have personally witnessed that), defended The Amazing’s Atheist’s violent rape threats on Reddit by tagging his posts with “I support TAA.”
I and many, many other Tumblr users were disgusted by this, so we decided to tag our criticisms of Ryking that night with “Ryking’s banana republic”—a reference to his co-opting of [social justice] concepts, NOT a homophobic dig, and the person who coined it was a queer man anyway. Someone also wrote a few jokingly romantic lines about Ryking’s blind defense of TAA and new atheism, and Ryking interpreted this as homophobic and misandric…it wasn’t, but because I reblogged it, Ryking insists that I am now a homophobe, which is hilarious given my own sexual identity but whatever.
We also responded to some of his posts with pictures of extreme close-ups of our eyes.
Seriously. That is what this guy is calling “abuse.”
We did NOT threaten him, make personal attacks against his sexuality, tell him to go kill himself, send him rude messages, or commit any other acts that could reasonably be interpreted as the “cyberbullying” Ryking claims it is. I did temporarily change my URL to rykingsbananarepublic and I make no apologies for that. Why should I? Why shouldn’t a group of feminists and their allies be allowed to respond creatively to misogyny? The only actual cyberbullying that has taken place was TAA’s initial rape threats on Reddit; I wouldn’t even go so far as to claim Ryking’s tweets to me and other Twitter users are cyberbullying, though I leave it up to the other people who were insulted by him to label their experiences as bullying or not.
Anyway, a few nights later, I tweeted something in defense of Whitney Houston’s legacy, and suddenly there was Ryking going ballistic. He found me on Twitter, called me a cunt right off the bat, and insisted that I claimed Whitney Houston’s death was “more important than the death of 5,000 Syrians” (I didn’t! Here is what I actually said!). I had never exchanged tweets with this man before, and was confused about his sudden interest in my thoughts about Whitney Houston and Syria. Naturally, I responded, told him how wrong he was, and the next day I screencapped some of the things he said and posted them … I never expected that post to get the amount of notes it did, but I think that just goes to show how widespread the dislike for him is.
Ryking, for his part, has responded to the widespread criticism by striking the pose of a victim, and pretending that it is somehow all related to race. Apparently, the evil feminazis are impugning his white manhood, though he’s not white.
So-called feminists have subjected me to white-bashing comments (even though I’m Hispanic) and sexist attacks impugning my manhood (slash-fiction scenes featuring me and heterosexual men; being called faggot; being told to man-up; insults about my body;) by people who don’t realize I’m gay. After nearly two decades online, I learned early on that when you’re attacked, you defend yourself by attacking right back and just as viciously, if not more so. And that’s what exactly what I’ve done. …
What’s really at issue here is not my rude behavior but that you and others like you want to punish any man who refuses to conform to your rancid, misandrist orthodoxy by discounting everything he says and using his gender and race as the excuse for doing so. …
You don’t want me stripped of my editorial privilege based on my behavior but because I reject your sick, bigoted, misandrist (per)version of feminism.
Yep, apparently the dude who loves to call women “cunts” is the final arbiter of what is and what isn’t “true feminism.” Who knew?
I signed the petition. How about you?
You’re getting heated Nathan? What the matter, are you high? Or is that your IQ?
Seriuosly though, what fuckin’ planet are you on if you think it’s easier for women to get published? Ever hear of Stephen King, James Patterson, that Sparks asshole who give me hives? Because those are all best-selling–I mean millions–authors, and they’re men.
^gives me hives. I type pretty one day.
Also- I didn’t realize I wasn’t allowed to bring up David Foster Wallace without being accused of sockpuppeting. He’s only one of the four or five major authors of our generation, and has largely inspired a contingent of two-bit bloggers, one of which is our dear friend Sady fucking Doyle.
“You all forget- I AGREE that misogyny is more prevalent. I just disagree that misandry is nonexistent. That’s ridiculous. Come on. Go outside.”
Yet you made out Misandry to be a bigger thing than HOMOPHOBIA.
Clueless asshat.
For the record, misandry is not bigger than homophobia.
“Also- I didn’t realize I wasn’t allowed to bring up David Foster Wallace without being accused of sockpuppeting. He’s only one of the four or five major authors of our generation, and has largely inspired a contingent of two-bit bloggers, one of which is our dear friend Sady fucking Doyle.”
Seriously, dude, this obsessing with Sady Doyle? It has gone beyond ridiculous.
“For the record, misandry is not bigger than homophobia.”
I know, but the way Nathan structured his arguments, that seemed to be exactly what he’s saying.
Of course there are male authors… just not as many successful ones. That is, commercial, lucrative literature.
DFW is beloved by pretentious hipster assholes, much the same way Ayn Rand is loved by conservative jackholes.
@Nathan:
Misandry does not mean “there are a few specific circumstances where people are biased against males.” If the latter is what you are arguing exists, then you are not arguing for misandry.
That is all.
I’ve mentioned Sady Doyle once or twice, in the sense that she is the only feminist blogger I read, because she’s kind of funny- sometimes in a laughing with you sense, more often in a laughing at you sense. Not exactly an obsession.
ARE you high, Nathan? The bestseller list is riddled with male authors. Clancy and Grisham get fucking TV COMMERCIALS when they put out a book, and they don’t do that for many authors.
Now I know you’re just trolling.
“Of course there are male authors… just not as many successful ones. That is, commercial, lucrative literature.”
…Are you sure you are living in the same planet as us?
How you can live in Cali and think misandry is a bigger problem than homophobia and racism is just mind-boggling!
Also, you have yet to prove that there are any systematic biases that disadvantage a MAJORITY of men.
Holly: It’s better to be a stay-at-home mom than a stay-at-home dad, in most cases. Nathan’s a douche but there’s no sense in erasing the ways sexism negatively impacts men too.
And now I can only assume that you’re typing on a bad trip
Hellkell, I’m not Wallace’s biggest fan but I think he’s clearly a great writer. But it’s not about him, I just brought him up in passing.
Cue Nathan’s next response: YOU PEOPLE ARE JUST TOO PRIVILEDGED TO UNDERSTAND THE MISANDRY OF THE BOOK INDUSTRY!!1
Bad spelling, but what the fuck ever.
Really, I don’t think I’ve said anything so friggin’ offensive. I think sexism hurts men too. This is misandry. And this is reasonable, is it not?
Right, just brought up a relatively obscure author in passing. Uh-huh. Sure.
No, dipshit, sexism is sexism. Misandry is not a thing, much like reverse racism is not a thing.
Of course there are male authors… just not as many successful ones. That is, commercial, lucrative literature.
http://www.nytimes.com/best-sellers-books/overview.html
Count male and female names.
Also, we should probably stop engaging with “Nathan,” because he is either MRAL or MRAL’s long-lost identical twin, and either way he’s clearly here for the negative attention.
Ozy – I dunno about that. I think in either case you’re losing massive ground in your career, but for stay-at-home dads people are very aware and appreciative of the sacrifices they make, and stay-at-home moms provoke more of a “well, isn’t that what women are for?” reaction.
There’s no sense in pretending that any arrangement other than full time caretaker advantages men though. In comparison it’s a ridiculously narrow place to stand your ground, given, you know, the rest of the planet.