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An Anti-Valentine's Day message to all the Men Going Their Own Way

Even cats are discombobulated by the evil that is Valentine's Day

Today, on this terrible so-called holiday, devoted to hearts and flowers and men giving things to ladies that are on average more expensive than the things ladies give to men, statistically speaking, I would like to relay a few words of hope to all the brave and noble Men Going Their Own Way, from our friend Spidey on MGTOWforums.com. Yes, it is true that “Valentines day is nothing more then another day where women have their egos inflated.” But remember this:

For every one of you that stays single, there is some b**** out there spending valentines day alone unable to force you to waste time and money on her

Stay strong, fellas. Resist the lure of the evil ladies and their never ending hunger for diamonds and chocolate and your precious seed.

Today, fellas, take a few moments to silently relaxate. Here, author Ronald Chevalier (who couldn’t possibly be Jemaine Clement of Flight of the Conchords) illustrates how, without threatening your seed.

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Buttman
Buttman
12 years ago

First!

And that’s not how it works MGTOW. There are more men than women so some men are Forever Alone and all women have companionship.

Holly Pervocracy
12 years ago

I actually have kind of a Valentines’ Day Dilemma every time I’m in a relationship when this day rolls around.

Part of me thinks: “This is a commercialized, manufactured holiday that celebrates patriarchial relationships, marginalizes the hell out of single people and people in closeted relationships, and ought to be completely unnecessary in a relationship where we express our love whenever we feel it rather than when The Man tells us to.”

But a smaller yet deeper part of me gets kind of upset when I hear my partner say those same things, because I worry that they’re trying to sucker me into being the Perfect Girlfriend Who Never Wants Anything (something I have massive issues with as it is). That part of me wants to put my foot down and say “I know this is arbitrary, but sometimes I need you to make small arbitrary gestures to prove you care about my needs even when my needs cannot be perfectly justified.”

I don’t want diamonds and I don’t want to receive without giving, but I think exchanging stupid heart candies for stupid reasons is one of the few times a year I get to say “I want this and you should do it for no good reason except that I want it.”

This year, we’ve agreed to exchange presents on the 16th. That way we get to take advantage of day-after sales and feel like we’re getting something over on The Man, while still satisfying my irrational need to occasionally be allowed to have an irrational need.

DYOR
DYOR
12 years ago

Remember ladies, the women who are lucky to have a man in your lives, February 15 is steak & blowjob day. Show some appreciation 🙂

Bagelsan
Bagelsan
12 years ago

My dad got my mom some chocolates for Lincoln’s birthday, which she is still working on finishing now. That’s not a bad solution. 🙂

Bagelsan
Bagelsan
12 years ago

February 15 is steak & blowjob day

Ah yes, known as “White Day” in Japan isn’t it? ;p

Holly Pervocracy
12 years ago

DYOR – My boyfriend and I are exchanging chocolates and flowers.

So I’ll take your suggestion under consideration that we could then exchange steaks and blowjobs. I certainly do enjoy those things too!

Seraph
Seraph
12 years ago

Better make it blowjob & steak day. After a bit of red meat and onions, there is a definite risk for noxious fumes.

Dracula
Dracula
12 years ago

Bit of a non-issue for me this year. Not that it was relevant to my life when I wasn’t single.

Dracula
Dracula
12 years ago

With the exception of those damned conversation hearts, which I love/hate.

blitzgal
12 years ago

Valentine’s Day has got to be the meanest holiday. You’ve got this public display of your status as a romantic partner and you’re socially pressured to compare yourself to your peers to see who has the highest status based on what you get from your partner. (Yes, I’m basing this analysis on my own perspective of being a cis woman in American society)

I’m actually fine with not participating in that kind of grossness but it’s still hard to not feel a twinge that day at work when you see bouquet after bouquet of flowers marched past your desk. Every year I think of that episode of The Office when Pam watches Phyllis walk out to leave for the day toting this ridiculously oversized teddy bear….the “winner” of the day’s social pecking order contest. And I think back to childhood — I grew up before the era of “everyone gives everyone a Valentine’s day card.”

Seriously, it’s a mean, mean holiday for everyone involved, women and men. Of course the problem with MRAs is that they only view it from their perspective.

Dani Alexis
Dani Alexis
12 years ago

@Holly: My personal “irrational need day” is my birthday, which caused a bit of a blowup this year – my SO is used to people being like “plan me something awesome!”, so he planned me something awesome, only to have me be all “I planned today! It is my day! Get up out of my day!”

But I totally understand the “irrational need to have an irrational need” thing, is what I’m saying. Also, today we are exchanging delicious meals and blowjobs, so. 😀

red_locker
12 years ago

I’m of a perspective that while there are parts of V-Day that are ridiculous, and feeling left out while being single, that it’s better just to wish someone a Happy V-Day as a gesture, like when someone says “Happy Holidays” to greet ANYONE, not just “Merry Christmas” (which is exclusive and erasing in some contexts).

I mean, hey, why not? Just because I’m not in a relationship doesn’t mean I shouldn’t wish people (maybe that’s just me, though).

Dani Alexis
Dani Alexis
12 years ago

I’ve always kind of seen commercial Valentine’s Day and commercial Christmas as two sides of the same coin. Both promote an idea of perfect love that is not only unattainable, but is inherently unsatisfying for all kinds of people (though is satisfying for others). It’s just that the type of unattainable love ideal being peddled is different – on Valentine’s, it’s romantic love, and on Christmas it’s familial/platonic love.

That said, The Fiance saw yesterday’s xkcd cartoon in which one of the characters panics over how to celebrate Valentine’s Day and staples her hand to her face, so he suggested we stay in and enjoy delicious food, hanging out together, and assorted nakedness. Partly he also hates commercialization and being told to celebrate in certain ways on certain days, but partly he also didn’t want me to staple my hand to my face. 😀

Karalora
12 years ago

Is it just me, or is that MGHOW basically saying “No matter how lonely you are, it’s worth it because single women are more lonely, also deprived of money”?

But they’re not misogynist.

blitzgal
12 years ago

I mean, hey, why not? Just because I’m not in a relationship doesn’t mean I shouldn’t wish people (maybe that’s just me, though).

Yeah, those parts are fine. We have people bring treats for everyone on Valentine’s Day, just like we do at Christmas, and at just about every other holiday. We like our treats here.

viola
12 years ago

I have never been much of a one for Valentine’s Day, partly because I lived in the same city as my ex and I hate crowds and noise, so going out for a meal on the noisiest and most crowded day possible didn’t seem very appealing when we could go out for a meal any day we felt like it.
But this year I’m in a long-distance relatonship and I was visiting her this weekend and that meant coming home on the 13th and that made me sad, because I like opportunities, however arbitrary, to be all soppy and romantic with my girl. So there’s some posh chocolate hidden in one of her desk drawers, which I will prompt her to look for later.

(We went to a ceilidh at the weekend. We danced a waltz together and kissed every time the steps brought us close enough. It was soppy and romantic and lovely.)

Dracula
Dracula
12 years ago

And of course these MGTOW don’t need women to emotionally validate them. The just rquire the loneliness and suffering of women to make them feel good about themselves.

No need for validation there, no sir.

speedbudget
speedbudget
12 years ago

My parents got married on Valentine’s Day, so it’s always been a day of treats and presents all around for us. I can’t not celebrate it. My partner got me my first-ever Cowboys jersey for the occasion, so I am very stoked about it this year.

I also have a BIGASS red velvet cupcake waiting for me downstairs as I write this, so all in all, not a bad way to spend a manufactured holiday.

viola
12 years ago

I’m spending the day itself in bed recovering from food poisoning, for which the most likely culprit is the takeaway I had whilst visiting my girl, which is not in the least romantic. Bloody dodgy rice.
Steak and a blowjob sounds pretty good, though, if someone’s offering.

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
12 years ago
malcontent
malcontent
12 years ago

They should move to Japan. On Valentines Day, women give chocolate to men. Men can reciprocate a month later on “White Day.”

ozymandias42
12 years ago

I LOVE VALENTINE’S DAY.

I used to be one of those people who pretended that I didn’t like Christmas or Halloween or Valentine’s Day or the rest of the overcommercialized holidays. But as I stopped being an emo teenager, I kind of realized… you know, I’m a sap. And I love that shit. I love Nativities and Christmas music and giving people the perfect present, I love getting dressed up and giving candy to kids, and I love getting Valentine’s cards for all my friends and having a special day to recognize my love for my partners and listening to love songs.

I mean, I don’t judge other people who are less enthusiastic about all of it. But I’m a five-year-old at heart and this is the stuff that makes me happy.

Today I woke up and gave Valentine’s cards to my boyfriend and my girlfriend. He’s going out on his first official date ever (…despite having had three girlfriends) with my girlfriend while I work. Then we’re going to all hang out together as a snuggly, ponies-watching group. Because I love them, and that’s awesome. XD

ozymandias42
12 years ago

Also any time I suck a dude off I’m doing it for me. 🙂

Dracula
Dracula
12 years ago

I’ve always loved Halloween, and I’ve come around on Christmas. I still dislike Valentine’s Day, but I don’t have a problem with those that do.

ithiliana
12 years ago

I’m a big fan of celebrating February 15 (Susan B. Anthony’s birthday!), but hey, any excuse for chocolate: so yesterday while shopping, I bought my partner a lovely Toblerone (her favorite), and me a small box of Russell Stover’s dark chocolate orange sticks (my favorite), and we got all sticky and covered with chocolate while watching Law’n’Order surrounded by cats on the couch last night.

My only regret: where has all the dark chocolate orange sticks gone!

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