At the risk of splitting the “misogynist dickbaggery in the atheist movement” discussion in two, I really need to mention the amazingly well-timed Reddit meltdown of TheAmazingAtheist. It’s already been covered pretty well by PZ Myers and by Jen McCreight of BlagHag but, what the heck, I’ll throw in my two cents as well.
TheAmazingAtheist, for those who don’t follow these things, is (or was?) a popular atheist podcaster well-known, and beloved by some, for being something of a misogynist dickbag. He’s been on a anti-feminist kick for the last couple of months, winning himself many plaudits on Reddit’s Men’s Rights subreddit, though even the MR regulars couldn’t help but notice that he’s a bit of an ass.
Well, now he’s pretty much revealed, with a series of horrendous comments on Reddit, what a complete and utter asshole he is. Let me put a second TRIGGER WARNING here (for violent talk about rape), on top of the default TRIGGER WARNING I put on all my blog posts.
The context : a discussion (which he started) about the propriety of one feminist Redditor calling themself ICumWhenIKillMen. I’m not going to defend that nickname, which obviously makes light of violence in an obnoxious way. But AmazingAthiest was apparently so troubled by this sort of language that he felt compelled to spew forth a succession of violent rape threats.
Let me draw your attention to some of the highlights. (Click here to see his whole comment history on Reddit, where he comments as terroja).
Things started going south about 19 hours ago, when he told one detractor:
I’m going to rape you with my fist.
He followed this with:
I will make you a rape victim if you don’t fuck off.
It got worse:
I’m tired of being treated like shit by you mean little cunts and then you using your rape as an excuse. Fuck you. I think we should give the guy who raped you a medal. I hope you fucking drown in rape semen, you ugly, mean-spirited cow. Actually, I don’t believe you were ever raped! What man would be tasteless enough to stick his dick into a human cesspool like you? Nice gif of a turd going into my mouth. Is that kind of like the way that rapists dick went in your pussy? Or did he use your asshole? Or was it both? Maybe you should think about it really hard for the next few hours. Relive it as much as possible. You know? Try to recall: was it my pussy or my ass?
He continued in this fashion for some time, mocking those who pointed out that rape threats can be triggering, and regularly referring to his opponents as “cunts.” (Each of the following paragraphs is from a separate comment of his; click the quotes to see the full comments in question in their original context.)
BTW, you have to admit, when I told you that I hope you drown in rape semen, you got a little wet, didn’t you? It’s okay. We’re friends now. You can share.
Yes, you read that right: he was saying this shit to a rape victim.
Eventually, theAmazingAtheist found himself stopped short by this scathing critique, from the Redditor called veerserif.
I now know that, apart from being misguided, intentionally ignorant, and quick to resort to pathetic excuses, you are also a purposefully hurtful person with no sense of empathy, and no sense of remorse. You’re not just unintentionally uninformed, you actively turn what you know against people who should be deserving of your sympathy.
I was mistaken before. I thought, maybe, just maybe, after the circlejerking and the giggling, I could try showing you the stuff you said I didn’t highlight. I could show you what feminism has done for men, or maybe tell you about the existence of sex-positive feminism.
But this… this is a whole new level.
Your reputation, in my eyes, has fallen so far that dragging it back up to “mild disgust” would require nothing short of a miracle. You pretend to care about other people, but you really don’t. You like to think that you’re a decent human being, but you fall so far short of that you’re practically on separate planes of existence.
Deliberately triggering a rape victim? Equating being called out on your bullshit to the trauma of rape?
You know what you deserve? You don’t deserve death. You don’t deserve rape. You don’t even deserve some cosmically mandated, hilarious schadenfreude which would not only be brilliant, but just.
What you deserve is for everyone to know this side of you. You deserve for anyone who thought you were a good person to know what you’ve just done. You deserve your fans’ adoration turning to hatred, you deserve the judging stares and looks that people will give you. You deserve to be reminded, every day, of what you do and what you’ve done. You deserve to remember every day that there are people who suffer more than you, that there are people who are stronger and smarter, braver, more principled and better than you, in every way, until the day you realise exactly how wrong your actions have been.
I don’t want to see bodily harm visited on you, because I don’t want to see bodily harm visited on anyone. What I do want is for you – and, for that matter, every shitposter I’ve ever seen – to learn that anonymity is not an excuse.
At this point, theAmazingAtheist backed off, offered a whiny, petulant non-apology apology for, as he put it, “SOME of the statements I made,” and wondered aloud why people were still so mad at him.
He went on to make, yep, a little video about his experience, and to offer a weird and unconvincing “rebuttal” to PZ Myers’ comments on his meltdown. See PZ Myers’ post for links to the video, as well as the rebuttal itself (which is effectively re-rebutted by Myers). See here and here for a transcript of the video.
Naturally, there’s a discussion of the meltdown on ShitRedditSays as well.
One heartening sign in all this: the massive numbers of downvotes theAmazingAtheist got for his worst comments. I hope that a significant number of them were from actual Men’s Rights Redditors, and not only from people who came into the discussion from elsewhere on Reddit, but of course there is no way of knowing.
Will atheists and MRAs drop theAmazingAtheist like a hot rape-threatening potato? Or will they start rallying around him as some sort of heroic truth teller and rape threatener? Somehow I suspect there will be a bit of both.
You know, I love how TAA doesn’t believe in “triggers,” but at the same time is totally willing to justify acting out in all kinds of seriously hateful ways because he’s…well, um, triggered, basically. (As the most generous explanation). Or whatever psychological frame he’s using. “I’m not like other people! I can’t stand pain, it hurts me!”
I don’t know any of these people, but that was an awesome smackdown, veerserif.
MRAL: so what if they make fun of those other 990,990,900 sites here? You don’t actually have to read here! Really! At all!
Why is he not on perma-ban?
Because if he was banned, we’d never think on it!
I snapped twice. As a kid, about 8 to 9 y-o. I don’t remember the why, just the what: I remember running after my brother (both times) in blind rage and wanting nothing but hurting him. It’s good that I was just a kid, that my brother fast fast enough and that eventually adults stopped me, because if I had the occasion… It might sound silly to put that on the same level as serious things like Pecunium’s story, but I still remember the feeling. And it still scares me a bit. – as it should, nobody should be ok with having that and think it’s normal. –
Small example, but yeah, I don’t think that kind of episode could last several hours of sitting in front of a computer. I don’t think I could even type in this state.
Yeah… He didn’t “snap”. He got angry. I think what really made him angry was being wrong, and getting called on on it. He’s used to having controlled places to be be a jerk, and this was out in the wider world.
He couldn’t hack it, and he thought (against all reason) that he could be nastier than other people could be rational. It’s instructive that he is the one who left. Not just the thread, but that identity on Reddit.
QuantumSparkle — the empathy gun sounds like a fantastic idea, and TAA would probably need to be fired at from point blank range with it, maybe multiple times.
In any case, *internet high five* for veerserif, ey (I’m a fan of the Spivak pronouns, or at least singular they, when it comes to gender-neutral pronouns, although I’ve noticed that zie/hir is very popular here and on the MB forum) certainly deserves them. I certainly couldn’t have delivered such a calm smackdown if I had responded to that atrocity.
Or maybe I could have, I don’t know; sometimes — although rarely — when I’m really, really upset with someone I can speak more eloquently than a minor piss off….*shrug* maybe I’m just weird?
What the shit is this? Your ideas don’t get to make reality.
Also, more internet hugs for Bloodquartz from me as well if you want them.
>>>OMG: Neil Strauss is going to do an AMA on Reddit on… Valentine’s Day.
So, I’ve refused to read the Game book on principle, and was just wondering… Do Strauss just report on them or is he actually a part of the whole PUA thing? Because I can understand a reporter could sound a bit too close to his subject even if he’s not a part of that crowd… I’ve read antifas reporting on fascist groups or bands they had infiltrated and sometimes you can sense that even if they oppose all these people stand for, that they had a rapport of sort or they are sort of ‘into’ the crowd as part of the infiltration/reporting. And that’s for mortal enemies. I could imagine a reporter sounding very enthusiastic about a crowd he’s studying if he’s detached rather than actually completely against what they stand for.
*fly through to say I’m loving reading the stuff but too busy with work to comment GO YOU ALL*
will this fix the italics?
The thing about an apology is that when you do something wrong and feel remorse you proffer an apology.
Whether it is accepted or not is not up to you.
Claiming that you can read people’s minds and decide if your apology will be accepted or not is just one more red flag for abusive controlling behavior. Than which there were about a kazillion red flags flying from the moment his fingers walked him on to the interwebs.
No it does not appear to have fixed the italics.
The only thing that can fix them is either the page changing, or Dave finding the open tag; and closing it.
I fixed the italics, and also did that thing no more mr nice guy says will fix them forevermore! So thanks, no more mr nice guy!
Happy, I started this blog because i got annoyed reading r/mensrights on reddit. And then I discovered quickly that the MRM outside of reddit was even worse. I just sort of settled into the style I use, in which I basically let the people I quote from dig their own holes.
Its kinda great to add a quote from Baldwin, via Dworkin in Intercourse, which fits in well with the redditors’ spot on short-stopper.
“People pay for what they do, and, still more, for what they have allowed themselves to become. And they pay for it simply: by the lives they lead.”
This kind of shit is why it is so important to air out the atheist dickbags regularly – so we can be rid of them one by one.
And what’s particularly amusing is that most people, once they’ve started digging their hole, don’t think to stop.
Odd, that.
The Amazing Statist has always been a mysanthrope…he doesn’t hate women, he hates the human species, especially himself. I find many liberals to be mysanthropes (although not most). I’m not conservative or liberal, so I think I can say that objectively.
Aiden:
I don’t think Evan has been back, but Elena posted a few days ago asking if anyone had any news of zie. I’m sorry and really concerned if zie hasn’t shown up yet. Maybe Benny (who seems like a very caring cat) could organize a search party of the local neibourhood. I was talking to Mikeneko, my feline housemate, about this the other night and she said that she had once organized a search for a lost kitten. They found the kitten in a matter of an hour and returned her to her mother, completely unharmed.
Or there is always the possibility that Evan has escaped and is laying low for the time being.
I find many liberals to be mysanthropes (although not most). I’m not conservative or liberal, so I think I can say that objectively.
Right…
Just keep on thinking that.
@jimmythegreeksghost
http://xkcd.com/774/
i personally think what he said wasn’t that bad. I think he was making a point about how people will attack others, and then hide behind something that supposedly makes them “sympathetic”. This is something I actually personally went through when a girl started calling me a loser for being a virgin, and then I started tearing into her, and she suddenly dropped the bomb that she’d been raped. I didn’t respect her exploiting her victim status to get away with verbally abusing me, so i basically called her a slut for being raped, which she then proceeded to treat like an atrocity on my part for saying. I don’t respect the way that victims exploit their victim status.
@jingles How does it feel to be a horrible person? I mean, seriously, are you fakeposting? For fucks sake.
Jingles: I don’t care if a survivor has murdered your entire family, it is NOT okay to call someone a slut for being raped. “You shouldn’t call me a loser for being a virgin” = okay. “Yeah, well, you’re a slut” = not okay.
Besides, what’s wrong with sluts? I’m a slut, and I’m a nice person.
Jingles, that’s nice dear. Go be awful someplace else.
Jingles: She ought not have been mocking your virginity.
You were a shit to call her a slut; for any reason.
You are a shit to the power of n for calling her a slut for being raped.