At the risk of splitting the “misogynist dickbaggery in the atheist movement” discussion in two, I really need to mention the amazingly well-timed Reddit meltdown of TheAmazingAtheist. It’s already been covered pretty well by PZ Myers and by Jen McCreight of BlagHag but, what the heck, I’ll throw in my two cents as well.
TheAmazingAtheist, for those who don’t follow these things, is (or was?) a popular atheist podcaster well-known, and beloved by some, for being something of a misogynist dickbag. He’s been on a anti-feminist kick for the last couple of months, winning himself many plaudits on Reddit’s Men’s Rights subreddit, though even the MR regulars couldn’t help but notice that he’s a bit of an ass.
Well, now he’s pretty much revealed, with a series of horrendous comments on Reddit, what a complete and utter asshole he is. Let me put a second TRIGGER WARNING here (for violent talk about rape), on top of the default TRIGGER WARNING I put on all my blog posts.
The context : a discussion (which he started) about the propriety of one feminist Redditor calling themself ICumWhenIKillMen. I’m not going to defend that nickname, which obviously makes light of violence in an obnoxious way. But AmazingAthiest was apparently so troubled by this sort of language that he felt compelled to spew forth a succession of violent rape threats.
Let me draw your attention to some of the highlights. (Click here to see his whole comment history on Reddit, where he comments as terroja).
Things started going south about 19 hours ago, when he told one detractor:
I’m going to rape you with my fist.
He followed this with:
I will make you a rape victim if you don’t fuck off.
It got worse:
I’m tired of being treated like shit by you mean little cunts and then you using your rape as an excuse. Fuck you. I think we should give the guy who raped you a medal. I hope you fucking drown in rape semen, you ugly, mean-spirited cow. Actually, I don’t believe you were ever raped! What man would be tasteless enough to stick his dick into a human cesspool like you? Nice gif of a turd going into my mouth. Is that kind of like the way that rapists dick went in your pussy? Or did he use your asshole? Or was it both? Maybe you should think about it really hard for the next few hours. Relive it as much as possible. You know? Try to recall: was it my pussy or my ass?
He continued in this fashion for some time, mocking those who pointed out that rape threats can be triggering, and regularly referring to his opponents as “cunts.” (Each of the following paragraphs is from a separate comment of his; click the quotes to see the full comments in question in their original context.)
BTW, you have to admit, when I told you that I hope you drown in rape semen, you got a little wet, didn’t you? It’s okay. We’re friends now. You can share.
Yes, you read that right: he was saying this shit to a rape victim.
Eventually, theAmazingAtheist found himself stopped short by this scathing critique, from the Redditor called veerserif.
I now know that, apart from being misguided, intentionally ignorant, and quick to resort to pathetic excuses, you are also a purposefully hurtful person with no sense of empathy, and no sense of remorse. You’re not just unintentionally uninformed, you actively turn what you know against people who should be deserving of your sympathy.
I was mistaken before. I thought, maybe, just maybe, after the circlejerking and the giggling, I could try showing you the stuff you said I didn’t highlight. I could show you what feminism has done for men, or maybe tell you about the existence of sex-positive feminism.
But this… this is a whole new level.
Your reputation, in my eyes, has fallen so far that dragging it back up to “mild disgust” would require nothing short of a miracle. You pretend to care about other people, but you really don’t. You like to think that you’re a decent human being, but you fall so far short of that you’re practically on separate planes of existence.
Deliberately triggering a rape victim? Equating being called out on your bullshit to the trauma of rape?
You know what you deserve? You don’t deserve death. You don’t deserve rape. You don’t even deserve some cosmically mandated, hilarious schadenfreude which would not only be brilliant, but just.
What you deserve is for everyone to know this side of you. You deserve for anyone who thought you were a good person to know what you’ve just done. You deserve your fans’ adoration turning to hatred, you deserve the judging stares and looks that people will give you. You deserve to be reminded, every day, of what you do and what you’ve done. You deserve to remember every day that there are people who suffer more than you, that there are people who are stronger and smarter, braver, more principled and better than you, in every way, until the day you realise exactly how wrong your actions have been.
I don’t want to see bodily harm visited on you, because I don’t want to see bodily harm visited on anyone. What I do want is for you – and, for that matter, every shitposter I’ve ever seen – to learn that anonymity is not an excuse.
At this point, theAmazingAtheist backed off, offered a whiny, petulant non-apology apology for, as he put it, “SOME of the statements I made,” and wondered aloud why people were still so mad at him.
He went on to make, yep, a little video about his experience, and to offer a weird and unconvincing “rebuttal” to PZ Myers’ comments on his meltdown. See PZ Myers’ post for links to the video, as well as the rebuttal itself (which is effectively re-rebutted by Myers). See here and here for a transcript of the video.
Naturally, there’s a discussion of the meltdown on ShitRedditSays as well.
One heartening sign in all this: the massive numbers of downvotes theAmazingAtheist got for his worst comments. I hope that a significant number of them were from actual Men’s Rights Redditors, and not only from people who came into the discussion from elsewhere on Reddit, but of course there is no way of knowing.
Will atheists and MRAs drop theAmazingAtheist like a hot rape-threatening potato? Or will they start rallying around him as some sort of heroic truth teller and rape threatener? Somehow I suspect there will be a bit of both.
http://i.imgur.com/xslp6.png
If he can’t get that threatening to rape is worse than threatening to kill a potential rapist (especially coming from a rape survivor), he fail at being a decent human 101.
Kyrie – I think the logic is “threatening to kill ME–the only person in the universe with emotions–is horrible! threatening to rape some other person is just stuff that happens to some other person.”
I’m never watching his videos again.
You do not, do not, on a boat.
You do not, do not, with a goat.
You do not say that in the rain.
You do not say that on a train.
Not in the dark! Not in a tree!
Not in a car! You let me be!
You do not say that in a box.
You do not say that with a fox.
You do not say that in a house.
You do not say that with a mouse.
You do not say that here or there.
You do not say that ANYWHERE!
You do not say that to survivors
You do not say it, TAA.
*You let them be!
It’s really strange timing that thanks to BoggiDWurms recently posting about him over on the forums, we’ve had a week and a bit of discussion about why he’s an enormous sexist douche up until now, and then he goes and removes any possible remaining doubt about it at all. It would be nice if we could arrange colossal meltdowns like this – who shall we consider next?
Has TJ Kincaid/terroja/the Appalling Asshole got any empathy for anyone? Hard to say, it doesn’t seem so judging by his narcissism and the colossal chip on his shoulder. His being a loud, angry asshole to anyone who upset him on the Internet probably hasn’t resulted in a smackdown like this before. Will he learn? I doubt it. Aggression is lauded and encouraged by some men, which is why there’s a phrase “toxic masculinity”, it being unhealthy in high, unrefined doses. What is scary is that his frequently irrational, vitriolic ranting on YouTube has over a quarter of a million subscribers and nearly a hundred million views. As I said on the forums, that sort of following for someone like him makes me weep for humanity.
…so TAA’s position is that people who get triggered should avoid EVERYWHERE ONLINE on the off-chance he shows up?
Someone should reply to one of his videos with a slide show of all of these quotes so all his fans can be like “Gasp! Douchebag!”
I used one of my redditor accounts to make comments earlier (it’s how I found the veerserif comment) and they got pretty decent response; and in short order.
But he’s put on his martyr shirt, and isn’t likely to learn anything from this.
He used to do nerd related videos and reviews on That Guy With the Glasses. I always thought there was something off about him (an unearned sense of his own superiority) but I never realised he was this bad. Man, now I feel dirty for watching his Star Wars Prequels videos. Ew.
@Joanna
It wouldn’t matter. His fanboys/girls are completely blind to anything assholish TAA says or does. They’d just defend anything he says, and attack everyone else for being too sensitive.
as horrific as taa’s comments are, im not sure they meet the incredibly high bar of ‘bad by youtube commenters standards’
So I’m the rape victim that he repeatedly threatened, I thought you guys might be interested in the non apology he gave me, in which he accused me of bullying him for asking him to issue a public apology. Good stuff. http://i.imgur.com/DDWHJ.png
“I hope that a significant number of them were from actual Men’s Rights Redditors, and not only from people who came into the discussion from elsewhere on Reddit, but of course there is no way of knowing.”
outwrangle: “Never mind that males are the cultural default and that women are an oppressed minority. Your worldview is too black and white to allow for jokes about males.” (65 points)
Nah, most of rhe posts and the upvotes they received are probably from outside the MRA reddit. A comment like that ^ would get downvoted to oblivion and roundly dismissed by MRAs.
Never mind that this was a guy attacking a male rape survivor; the MRAs are nowhere to be found.
It’s almost mysterious, because they wouldn’t have to do anything distasteful like defend a woman.
Literally the only reason not to be angry about this is if you’re in favor of rape itself.
(Okay, or if you figure someone who hates feminists enough has excused himself from common decency. That’s my generous interpretation.)
Well, I have no problem with saying that TAA is a giant asshole for writing that stuff.
Though I am not an MRA.
Lorrdernie,
thanks for posting, it’s awful that The Abysmal Asshole won’t make a public apology to you and to the others who had to suffer through that tirade of crap. I’m sorry that you had to go through him trying to make you relive your rape, it marks him out as a horrible excuse for a person.
Is there anything we can do to help? There’s already numerous of his “supporters” out and about posting crap about this.
That’s awesome, MRAL! I got you a cookie!
http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lybct9hMPl1qar9zm.jpg
Wish I could say that TAA’s meltdown was surprising, but he’s had all the signs of being this kind of person for a long time. Every video of his sets my “oh look, a misogynist” Spidey senses tingling.
Sorry that he decided to take it out on you, though, Lorrdernie. Are you doing OK?
And this gives more more hope in humanity
Thanks for posting here, Lorrdernie, and I hope you’re doing okay.
And wow, that’s a shitty-ass apology. “I’m sorry for what I said, but not so sorry that I’m going to go around admitting it to just anyone.”
Jesus fucking Christ. There are no words. Lorrdernie, I am so sorry that you had to go through that.
UPDATE:
he’s now switched to ‘i’m sorry, but it was in the heat of the moment so it’s not actually my fault’
http://www.formspring.me/amazingatheist/q/291727923700826741?utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter&utm_campaign=shareanswer&_sg=&_sk
Don’t have much to add here, except to say what a miserable shit of a human being TAA is.