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Men oppressed by not being allowed to bitch about ladies in public restrooms

I'm pretty sure this happens more often than conversations in men's restrooms

A startling new development on the frontiers of anti-male oppression. According to the loquacious lady MRA known as girlwriteswhat on Reddit, men are being oppressed by evil feminist dudes cruelly clamping down on their right to bitch about ladies in the bathroom. In a recent comment she writes:

No space is allowed to be male-only, or male-viewpoint-only, but women insist on female-only or female-viewpoint-only spaces all the time.

The only male safe space left on the planet is the men’s bathroom, ffs. And even then, there will be feminist-leaning men policing what is said. It’s very frustrating.

As a dude feminist who is a regular user of men’s restrooms, I should note that dudes do not actually talk in restrooms.

Happily, this does not prevent me, as a dude feminist, from policing the non-existent speech of other dudes in said restrooms.

Here is the complete transcript of a restroom discussion I recently policed:

Dude One: [silently urinates]

Dude Two: [silently urinates]

Dude Three: [silently poops]

Me: Goddessdamnit, keep it down with all your lady-bashing! Men are bad!

Always glad to help.

HT to Shit Reddit Says, which has just ended its month-long moratorium on r/mensrights posts, for pointing me to girlwriteswhat’s observation.

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neverdidlikeyou
8 years ago

[silently poops]
I’m jealous of Dude 3’s skills.

Bostonian
8 years ago

I’m wondering how many people converse in bathrooms in general. I’m guessing it mostly happens on TV and in movies.

ithiliana
8 years ago

Bathrooms full of strangers in public, yeah.

On a university campus,though, when friends leave a class and go to the bathroom together, there is talk!

ANd sometimes that talk is about the ladyprof who happens to be caught in the stall (or about her colleagues; I restrict the impulse to say, hey, check the stalls before complaining people)…..I assume same thing happens in men’s rooms, in between all the feminist men bashing other men, but I do not know through direct experience.

Nobinayamu
Nobinayamu
8 years ago

I’m wondering how much time she’s spending in the men’s room.

darksidecat
8 years ago

If I don’t have the ability to silence all dissent, I have no rights. Now, anyone who disagrees with me on anything, be quiet! XD

captainbathrobe
8 years ago

Most of my time is spent in men’s restrooms policing the speech of other men. Well, that and the glory hole.

Dracula
Dracula
8 years ago

The only “policing the speech of men” I can see going on the men’s room is washing off graffiti.

Dracula
Dracula
8 years ago

Or maybe crossing it out.

Kendra, the bionic mommy
Kendra, the bionic mommy
8 years ago

The only male safe space left on the planet is the men’s bathroom

That’s not true. No mainstream Grand Lodge will acknowledge a Freemason lodge that allows women to be members. I know that MRA trolls claim that the Order of the Eastern Star is the same thing as a Masonic Lodge, but that’s not true. Women also are not allowed to join the Knights of Columbus, and again the ladies’ auxiliaries are not the same things. Finally, women are not allowed to become Catholic priests. There are plenty of spaces for men only besides men’s restrooms.

Lady Zombie
Lady Zombie
8 years ago

And she knows what dudes talk about in the bathroom how?

blitzgal
8 years ago

I talk to friends through the bathroom cubicle walls as we’re both going, but only those who I know are okay with it. Some people find it creepy, and I get that. We warn each other when foul smells are on the way, too.

Kendra, the bionic mommy
Kendra, the bionic mommy
8 years ago

There’s also golf at the Augusta National Golf Club. Women can’t go there either.

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

Exactly, Nobinayamu & Lady Zombie, how does she know this? Oh, pulling it out her ass, most likely while in the ladies’ room.

Well, since the rest of the world is still a safe space for most men, excuse me while I give this the consideration it deserves.

When will women like girlwriteswhat realize that sexists and MRAs really DON’T like the only girl in the treehouse?

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
8 years ago

@Hellkell:”When will women like girlwriteswhat realize that sexists and MRAs really DON’T like the only girl in the treehouse?”

Price wrote a Spearhead piece promoting her videos last week. Some of the comments were supportive, saying that it was important to have female allies in the MRM, others expressed skepticism that a woman could be trusted at all

http://www.the-spearhead.com/2012/01/18/women-weigh-in-on-mens-issues/

Opus: “What Man would make an MRM video dressed in a Low-Cut Top and wearing Lipstick and Mascara? (31 up, 14 down)

Rebel:
A woman within the MRM? NO GOOD! And I’ll tell you why: she only has to say nice words, the words we want to hear and… bingo!, she is in control! .. and the shepherd can bring the sheeps safely home…right? She can bring food on the table for the ladies”

(33 upvotes, 13 down)

Kendra, the bionic mommy
Kendra, the bionic mommy
8 years ago

I also want to mention Cuts Fitness for Men, before some MRA’s start whining about Curves. It’s a gym for men only. There are gender neutral gyms, too, for people that don’t want a gender segregated fitness center.

Lady Zombie
Lady Zombie
8 years ago

@ hellkell I admit that has always made me curious. Are the women who try to buddy up to the MRAs aware that they’re not really wanted on MRA blogs and websites? Well, except maybe as a virtual punching bag?

The women who post on the Spearhead are told really viscous things and if one of them complains about being called a cunt repeatedly, the others rush in to shush her. “You have to understand, dear. They’re angry.”

vacuumslayer
8 years ago

I’m curious as to what they’re saying that compels people to speak up. Since the world isn’t exactly a fabulous hairy-pitted feminist Wymin’s World gyntopia I’m guessing you’d have to be saying something pretty gross to get called out publicly.

Shadow
Shadow
8 years ago

This is the first time I’ve read an MRA comment that’s supposed to be from a female commenter and never doubted that it was.

vacuumslayer
8 years ago

Women who kiss up to MRA types are just like all other misogynist women: they’re so goddamn desperate for male attention and validation, they’re willing to do anything–including trashing their own gender–to get it. Unfortunately there will always be women out there who swoon when they hear “You’re not like those other women…”

Being a novelty is fun and validating…if you’re into that sort of thing.

Creative Writing Student
Creative Writing Student
8 years ago

Do people actually talk in toilets? Even female toilets (in contrast to the stereotype)? The only things I’ve ever heard in the toilets are “That one’s out of bog roll”, “Sorry!” or “You go first, I’m not desperate.”

… Unless these guys are organising meetups in public loos? O.o

vacuumslayer
8 years ago

Can’t they make some sort of adorable ramshackle clubhouse? And I demand that they all sport freckles and cowlicks.

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
8 years ago

Oh look, massive downvotes on the ShitRedditsays page. Something tells me the MRM has been there.

Holly Pervocracy
8 years ago

“Policing” = “failing to fawningly agree with.”

If a safe space is one in which everyone agrees with everything I say, then I’ve never been in a safe space and I wouldn’t want to be.

Lauralot
Lauralot
8 years ago

It’s totally true. My magina friends march into those bathrooms and slam the heads of any others bitching about ladies into the wall.

There are no male viewpoint-only spaces? I take it she’s never heard of a men’s club. Or a hell of a lot of Grand Lodges in Freemasonry.

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
8 years ago

I went to a college where the majority of students were women, but we only had one all-women’s dorm. At the end of every semester, we would receieve a bill for list of times when people had broken a window or scribbled graffiti on the wall (as drunken college kids are wont to do) that all the students in that dorm had to chip in and pay. And every year, the list looked like this:

Dorm A $15.00
Dorm B $10.00
Dorm C-E $8.00
Women’s dorm: $0.00

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
8 years ago

Oohhh, ok. Thanks, I missed that.

PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth

If a safe space is one in which everyone agrees with everything I say, then I’ve never been in a safe space and I wouldn’t want to be.

I agree with everything you say.

Sharculese
8 years ago

at my school there’s a Title IX police officer stationed in each restroom to enforce compliance with the feminist agenda

Shadow
Shadow
8 years ago

If a safe space is one in which everyone agrees with everything I say, then I’ve never been in a safe space and I wouldn’t want to be.

I agree with everything you say.

Seconded.

My experience has been that friends continue conversations at the urinals and sinks, but I’ve never heard “Hey man, that’s not cool” in the middle of a piss

Shadow
Shadow
8 years ago

BLASTT

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
8 years ago

Lauralot: “There are no male viewpoint-only spaces? I take it she’s never heard of a men’s club. Or a hell of a lot of Grand Lodges in Freemasonry.”

Or the Catholic Church
or the U.S. government
or the business world
or the women’s fashion industry
or Hollywood
or the advertising industry
or Reddit.

Dracula
Dracula
8 years ago

I’d really love to know what “male perspective” is meant to entail in this context. Because as a man whose perspective is decidedly pro-feminist, I can tell you that some of those “male-only spaces” ain’t so fuckin’ safe.

Viscaria
Viscaria
8 years ago

My school doesn’t even have men’s bathrooms anymore. When the concern was raised that having men’s bathrooms creates a male safe space, everyone agreed it was unacceptable. Men are now required to hold it, or find a convenient tree.

40% of the male student population dropped out when it was -30 a few weeks ago.

Crumbelievable
Crumbelievable
8 years ago

“I can tell you that some of those “male-only spaces” ain’t so fuckin’ safe.”

Like the YMCA?

Dracula
Dracula
8 years ago

Nah, I actually heard it’s fun to stay there.

Lady Zombie
Lady Zombie
8 years ago

Is there some kind of Mr. Manner’s Guide to Public Bathroom Etiquette that we don’t know about?

Dracula
Dracula
8 years ago

If so, I haven’t been informed.

Steph
8 years ago

“There are no male viewpoint-only spaces? I take it she’s never heard of a men’s club. Or a hell of a lot of Grand Lodges in Freemasonry.”

Are these still a thing? I’m genuinely curious about that. I just associate them so much with the 1950’s, and the Flintstones. I didn’t realize they still existed.

If there’s not a neutral or family restroom, I just use the men’s room (it’s just easier that way) and really nobody talks in there. Certainly they don’t have debates. The only large, 100% female groups I’ve ever been in were at screenings of the Twilight series. Not much talking in there, either, although I did hear someone chuckle when Victoria got her head punched off. MISVAMPIRITY!

Newt
Newt
8 years ago

LOL Girlwriteswhat has been Futrelleboobed

Lauralot
Lauralot
8 years ago

I’m not sure about men’s clubs, but there’s a lodge in my hometown and I know they don’t admit women.

Holly Pervocracy
8 years ago

My school has men’s, women’s, and unisex single-stall bathrooms.

The unisex ones are helpful for disabled people, trans and genderqueer people, and parents with little kids–three groups that could actually gripe about public restrooms being unsafe places.

But I suppose since they’re single-user you could also complain about women in them. Nobody at all would “police” you.

YAY SAFE SPACES

Anthony Zarat
8 years ago

GWW has more courage than everyone on this board put together.

GWW endured unspeakable horrors and emerged with the integrity and honesty to see feminist injustice for what it is. It is remarkable in the extreme that she champions men’s rights.

Newt
Newt
8 years ago

Even fidelbogen said “No need to be coy roy just do it” when speaking of making more mens clubs.

It seems like a lot of whining but no action taken and even if feminists did make it more difficult to start another mens clubs than you can simply hit them with a law suit and win.

Sharculese
8 years ago

GWW endured unspeakable horrors and emerged with the integrity and honesty to see feminist injustice for what it is

walking in to the wrong bathroom is not, as it turns out, much of a horror at all.

Cloudiah
Cloudiah
8 years ago

My school polices male-viewpoint-only talk in the single-user bathrooms using special sensors we forced male scientists (because technology = men) to create for us.

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

If writing bullshit on the internet is some act of heroism, Zarat, you must be the most courageous motherfucker on Earth.

How’s the VR wife replacement technology going?

ozymandias42
8 years ago

My school’s cafe has two bathrooms, but they’re both gender-neutral. The trans group is campaigning to have gender-neutral bathrooms in every building on campus.

Also, I’ve talked to strangers in bathrooms before. Mostly during musicals, because the lines for the bathroom during intermission are really fucking long, and because you have several topics of mutually interesting conversation (the show you’re seeing, how many times you’ve seen the show you’re seeing, which actors played the characters better, whether you’ve been in the show you’re seeing, other shows you’ve seen, whether the actors in this show were better in other shows, which shows the other person should see, which shows ought ot have revivals already, the people you’ve met stage-door-ing…). It’s a nice place for single-serving friends.

Shadow
Shadow
8 years ago

It is remarkable in the extreme that she champions men’s rights

It is remarkable in the extreme that she champions Men’s Rights Activists. FTFY.

ozymandias42
8 years ago

I’ve also gone to dudes’ bathrooms before…

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