Today in Did That Really Get 196 Upvotes on Reddit: A Redditor claiming to be the owner of a brothel in Thailand explains how what he euphemistically calls the “problems in the sex industry” are mostly the fault of evil, lazy whores. Literally.
Let’s join the discussion already in progress. (ChaChaKrahp is the alleged brothel owner.)
A little further on in the discussion he makes this charming claim:
According to him, sex trafficking isn’t really a big issue, but when it does occur it “is more likely to victimize men” than women. (The main victims in his mind being trafficked men (by which I assume he means transwomen) … and male sex tourists.)
Those poor, poor Western sex tourists, suffering so at the hands of women and girls who’ve been kidnapped and sold into sex slavery!
But let’s just put this whole “trafficking” thing out of our heads. As ChaChaKrahp explains it, prostitution in Thailand is just a way for lazy ladies to make money. It’s totally on the up and up – “[j]ust like college girls in the US that work as strippers for $300 per night instead of picking strawberries for $50 per day.”
The only real problem is all those evil ladies ripping off dudes.
Did that last bit sound a little … MRAish to you?
Though this discussion isn’t in the Men’s Rights subreddit., ChaChaKrahp shares a lot of opinions and obsessions with the MRA crowd, peppering the discussion with MRA talking points on everything from dangerous jobs and breast cancer funding to false rape accusations and paternity fraud. While he claims not to “give a shit about MRA groups,” he links to prominent Father’s Rights site fathersandfamilies.com, and rails endlessly about the evils of feminism. He walks like a duck and quacks like a duck.
While ChaChaKrahp seems quite sincere in his beliefs, this is the Internet, and so there’s a chance that this “brothel owner” is not actually a brothel owner at all, just some dude making this all up for Reddit karma points and lulz.
Even if that’s the case, we still have all those hundreds of Redditors who read his comments and happily upvoted them, either because they thought what he said was sensible or true, or because the thought of owning a brothel in Thailand gave them boners.
The question remains: does Reddit attract the worst representatives of those in its heavily young, male, geek demographic, or is this how most of these (mostly) guys really think — even if they don’t usually say so out loud?
(Thanks to ShitRedditSays for pointing me to this lovely thread.)
EDITED TO ADD: Brothel Owner under attack (by a few people)! Send in the r/mensrights upvote brigade to upvote him even more than he’s already being upvoted!!!
Oh, good fucking call spelling it differently, MRAL. Because the reason people object to that word is it doesn’t have enough ‘k’s and ‘w’s in it. When you turn it into a hyphenated compound, the racism goes the fuck away.
But seriously, and I mean seriously, so I hope you’re paying attention: fuck you, you slimy toad of a human being.
Also MRAL: No one here gives a rats ass about your penis. No one. In fact, bragging about it is just plain creepy, so if you could maybe never talk about your penis again, ever, we’d all appreciate it. Thanks.
On that note, it’s weird that MRAL keeps mentioning how goddamn unattractive he thinks he is in every post he can squeeze it into, yet this is (to my knowledge) the first time he’s mentioned his penis. Is this going to be one of those phrases he keeps shoehorning in, like “I have a high IQ”?
I could go on about how awesome my vagina is =D
“Knee-grow?” Wow. This may well be the cherry on the shit sundae that is your posting career here.
MRAL, take your high IQed big dicked tiny mind with your non-existent fucking problems and GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE.
You suck and should be banned.
I think it’s probably time for an MRAL time-out.
Remember guys, all those statistics about how hard things are for black men: It’s because they’re men.
David: Will you do a B–don challenge?
Shaenon, what opinions? I was just discussing Schwyzer’s story and my reaction to it. Sure, I’d gladly go share that (with identifying names removed), but I unfortunately don’t have any female friends.
Yes, that’s what I want you to do. Go talk about that with someone in the real world. She does not have to be a friend. Talk to a classmate or dorm neighbor or professor or whatever.
Opinions you’ve stated on this thread:
— The media and public discourse and massively skewed toward women’s perspectives, to the point that men are just grateful to see anything at all written from a man’s perspective.
— People your age have never known a world in which women are disadvantaged, and most young men resent that.
— Feminists “demonize men, refer to them as oppressors, discuss women’s shit ad naseum, excommunicate men from their girls’ club for failing to be perfect princes at all times.”
— If a prominent female pundit admitted to trying to kill her boyfriend, nobody would have a problem with it.
— Only men are harassed and attacked online.
— Unattractive men are treated much more harshly by society than unattractive women.
— Although racism is kind of a problem, you have a harder life than most black people.
Choose any one of these and discuss it with a real person. Come back when you’ve done that.
What Shaenon said. Also throw in the big IQ and penis thing and see what kind of reaction you get.
David Futrelle | January 24, 2012 at 6:31 pm
I think it’s probably time for an MRAL time-out.
Thankyou, David. THANKYOU.
MRAL – Do take the Shaenon challenge.
Also, to move past the MRAL derail (but apropos to his bullshit), and back to the awesome thread we had going, I present my favorite Marvin track
For those working it’s Inner City Blues by Marvin Gaye
FYI, he mentioned his dick in one of his early threads here.
Anyway, in the immortal words of Sideshow Bob, “Attempted murder? Now honestly, what is that? Do they give a Nobel prize for attempted chemistry?”
YAY David.
I am in awe that MRAL managed to totes ignore the long fucking post from hell.
That said, and seeing the way we’ve all fallen into repeating things, I am hereby and forthwith saying in front of you all: *as god is my witness* (well, I don’t believe in Him, but he can witness), even if MRAL is allowed back and posts, I will never ever say anything to him or about him again.
*Strikes valiant pose*
I resolved for news year’s to completely ignore/not read the blog of an extremely racist misogynistic stalking diskbiscuit who pretends to be an sf writer, and I’ve kept that up for um *counts on fingers* 24 days.
So now I need a new challenge
Who’s with me, comrades! (IF David ever allows him back, that is).
Because, really, what could be said that hasn’t been said before.
I’m down, because fuck him and I hope the time-out is permanent.
“Pretty girls don’t have any kinds of problems. Because they’re pretty.”
He’s not the first angry sexist dude I’ve heard that from, which is why my patience is thin. (I’m quite a bit older than you two, I think, so I’ve been hearing that shit for a long time.) Also the word “picky” is telling, in that it implies that the person exercising their right to choose their sexual partners in terms of whatever works for them is being unreasonable. It’s also hilarious that he keeps going “yeah well I’m picky too, so there! u mad?” despite getting a “so what?” response every time. He’s trying so very hard to paint us as unreasonable, hypocritical, etc, and it’s failing so badly.
“Oh, man, his posts on Schwyzer earlier in the thread. The attempted murder doesn’t even register. He’s like, whatever, sometimes you go on a bender and do crazy shit, and maybe you kill one of those things that are kind of human-shaped except they have boobs, what’s the big deal? It’s not like a person would get hurt, right?”
And then goes, no, I value all living beings! I mean, if some poor guy kills them when he’s wasted then that’s understandable, but I totes value them. It reminds me of something from my college psychology classes way back, when they talked about microexpressions, which are tiny little facial expressions that give your true feelings away when you’re trying to lie or conceal something. MRALs comments are often the text equivalent of microexpressions, and either he knows they were out of line and makes excuses when challenged, or sometimes (like the whole attempted murder when wasted thing) he seems genuinely surprised that someone is challenging his selfish white dude privilege, and very offended. It’s funny, if you have a sufficiently grim sense of humor.
“I think I, personally, have it worse than most black dudes on the whole, sure, but me being white is one individual advantage I will definitely admit to.”
Please do explain why you believe this. Popcorn, anyone?
“Shaenon I really don’t want to show anyone my posts on Manboobz.”
In that case maybe you shouldn’t be making them. Think on it!
@ Hellhell
See, Stiv I would consider just plain ugly (though as mentioned, an awesome guy). If you want sexy-ugly, maybe Iggy Pop?
About the poly derail, which is certainly more fun than the MRAL Show, recently it seems that the majority of the poly people I meet are sexy women. Maybe that’s just who hits on me who’s poly, I dunno, but it’s been a noticeable trend.
@CassandraSays: I’m 56, but I swore off men in any romantic/sexual/attachment sense in late 82/83, so yeah I haven’t heard that often. I see some sexists and some sexist assholes at work–but luckily I don’t have to spend that much time with them.
because omg BORING.
Lucky! I heard that a lot when I was younger, and still hear it often in the tech community. I also hear it sometimes from women, which is a different issue (it’s not about “why won’t they fuck me!”, usually), which is also annoying, but at least it lacks the potentially rapey undertone. When this conversation happens between women it’s just sort of frustrating because yes, pretty privilege is an actual thing, but I’m not seeing how fighting about it among ourselves is going to improve the situation, and no, pretty women are not immune to sexism.
From men, though, it’s just ridiculous. The only way a woman automatically has more power than a man because she’s pretty is if she’s somehow managed to use her looks to make lots and lots of money, which is then class/financial rather than beauty privilege, and even then he still has more power in many situations. Basically it’s just a combination of anger about the women the man finds pretty not having sex with him and lack of the empathy required to notice the ways in which her life might suck.
Scarily enough, I had an acquaintance of mine I’d always thought of as being polite and well-adjusted brought up those ideas exactly at the NYE party I went to. He didn’t seem to think they’d be controversial ideas.
…MRAL spent NYE in Australia?
In terms of the idea that MRAL should be banned so that he can go get some therapy, I’m just going to leave this here. It seems amusingly relevant.
http://jezebel.com/5878923/being-narcissistic-stresses-dudes-out
Just postin’ this here ’cause I know MRAL is going to keep reading the threads despite his time-out.
http://www.bu.edu/shs/behavioral/
Appointment number: 617-353-3569
My husband reports that the poly women he’s met are way hot. Of course, he has a thing for nerdy girls. Obviously.
I can’t say all the poly women I’ve met are way hot, but there are lots I do think are hot (which is good for me).