An alert reader pointed me to this amazing “map” from the 1830s, posted on Ptak Science Books and originally found here. Described as “A Map of the Open Country of a Woman’s Heart,” it presents a less-than-flattering picture of the supposed shallowness, vanity and selfishness of the female of the species. Click on the pic above to see it full size.
It’s amazing how closely this resembles so many Manosphere “critiques” of evil modern women; the main difference is that it’s a bit more polite in its language. Also, no mention of stinky vaginas.
Manospherians love to talk about “taking the red pill,” as if their ideas are all new and cool and Matrixy. Actually, of course, their ideas are old as fuck. It’s more like they are taking a gulp of Dr. Flimflam’s Electro Magnetic Misogyny Fluid.
Below, another amazing picture also found on Ptak, which presents data on where women’s eyes linger when looking at men. (Again, click on it to see it full size.) I suspect this one would be a bit more confounding to the Manospherians of today, in that it doesn’t show women looking only at the dude’s wallet. The post on Ptak offers a more detailed explanation of what this picture is about.
@Cassandra I don’t know… I honestly am not sure outside that I “like” people, when I really feel attracted to people and when I just want to be around them… the only person I ever felt feelings for was him, and I haven’t felt anything like it otherwise… and now I worry I’m just broken or I don’t really know if I DO like ppl, or maybe I just can’t like nebody… 🙁 Like I talk about intellectual crushes I have on people, or I find ppl physically attractive, but it’s still on this weird separate level from my feelings… I don’t feel gooshy or nething… 😐
I just want the Patriots to win the Superbowl! I do not care who they play, though.
Putting on my psych student hat…were you physically attracted to him back then? If so, it sounds like fear/trauma has led to you creating sort of a mental barrier so that you don’t get hurt again.
No! I didn’t want that!
I just wanted to explain why this is weird Dx and then it kinda came pouring out and stuff… I didn’t mean to just ramble on like that D:
Go back to talking about Goth guys! i just… I dunno… BAH!
MEOW!
sry 🙁 my brain shifts without a clutch when it goes back to my memories instinctively… like “YEAH THAT WAS HAPPY TIME- fuck.. it’s him… but… x_x”
@Bostonian you wouldn’t be a very good Bostonian otherwise! 😀
For what it’s worth, I don’t think it’s wrong or inconsistent to feel that way. You still felt the way you felt before it happened, and you can’t change your memories. It doesn’t invalidate anything.
I can shut up about it now if you want.
Memory is a weird thing. Like, I think the reason that I don’t like blond guys is that my first childhood enemy was a blond, blue eyed boy (we were horrible little brats to each other, we both kept getting in trouble for doing shit like throwing paint at each other). I think I would have had a preference for men with dark hair anyway because of the whole goth thing, but I’m also sure that the memory of that one kid has influenced my attraction patterns in some ways.
@CassandraSays I was attracted to him… and his style, and his personality and his brain and… everything… 😐
My childhood best friend was also a blond boy with blue eyes, just to complicate things further! So I think that men who look like that tend to register as either brother or enemy in my subconscious, rather than as potential sex partners.
no don’t shut up :3 *hugs dracula and cassandra* ty for letting me go blugh 🙁
I want the Patriots to win.. but if they don’t I want anybody but the Giants xD
No problem. We all gotta go blugh sometimes. *hugs*
@ Ami – definitely sounds like a mental block then, like your subconscious is trying to protect you by making sure no one has the opportunity to hurt you in the same way again.
(Hugs)
Sending out happy vibes to Ami, and hugs if you want them.
MRA Lions!
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Ami – for what it’s worth, what you’re saying makes perfect sense to me – and the guy who abused and assaulted me was first my best friend and then my partner before things went deeply, deeply wrong, so I actually have had the exact experience of having happy memories of good times with him and then feeling sick and guilty for it. (And for a long time afterward, I lost the ability to be “gooshy” too. I can’t promise that your experience will be the same as mine, but it did get better for me eventually, and now I’m plenty gooshy about my current partner.)
So, basically, you’re not alone, at least. Have hugs, if you want them.
Magpie that was hilarious XD <3
*hugs Polliwog* thank you… that means a lot to me… 🙂
So did anybody else have a “vampires are so f-ing hot” phase? >_>
Phase?
XD
ask a stupid question
Growing up I had a massive crush on Sara Gilbert. Time has not altered this much.
Aaaand I just found out she supports PETA. That puts a damper on that.
“Vampiric” is still pretty much the best way to describe the men I tend to go for. Maybe that’s why I like them so skinny – blood is very low in carbohydrates, as Terry Pratchett says.
I am sry for suddenly bringing that up btw … and I want to give everybody hugs again cuz.. you guys are awesome
*HUGS EVERYBODY*