Reading through some comments on Men’s Rights hub A Voice for Men the other day, I ran across a fairly bloodthirsty contribution from an MRA with the charming nickname Brutal Antipathy, suggesting that the Occupy Wall Street protesters needed a bit of what he called “the ol’ Tienanmen Square treatment.”
Mr. Antipathy’s rhetorical outburst struck me as fairly typical of the tough-guy rhetoric that the site’s regulars love to indulge in — though usually the targets of the rhetoric are feminists, not Occupy Wall Street activists.
So I was a bit surprised to see site founder Paul Elam respond with this:
It seems a little odd for Elam to claim to be shocked — shocked! — to find such rhetoric on his site. Elam, after all, seems to positively revel in making his own vaguely threatening pronouncements towards his ideological enemies.
In a recent fundraising appeal, for example, Elam let out all the stops:
We now have a team of individuals that goes beyond what we advertise on our pages, and we are gearing up to add a new doomsday prophesy to 2012. Let’s put it this way: The fembots better hope the Mayan’s were right about next year, because they would rather deal with that than the things we are cooking up. …
Progress for men will not be gained by debate, reason or typical channels of grievance available to segments of the population that the world actually gives a damn about. The progress we need will only be realized by inflicting enough pain on the agents of hate, in public view, that it literally shocks society out of its current coma.
Elam is purposefully vague about just what he means by “inflicting pain,” but it is hard not to read this comment as a threat of something dire.
Others on the site are similarly fond of this sort of vague, threatening language. MRA blogger Fidelbogen, recently brought on board as a contributor to AVfM, let loose in a recent comment on those who think MRAs should tone down their rhetoric towards feminists and other enemies:
Apparently, Elam believes that the deliberate vagueness of these kinds of threats makes them shining examples of Gandhian non-violence — or at least that it gives the site the requisite “plausible deniability” if — when? — someone actually moves beyond the threats to actual violence.
It’s ok, evidently, to talk about “inflicting pain” on your enemies, so long as you don’t specify just how. It’s ok to boast about frightening your enemies, to muse about “stalking” individual feminists, to post their personal information online, and so on and so on.
Heck, apparently it’s not even a problem if someone, using the personal information provided on the site, actually tracks down individuals targeted by Elam and pals and quite literally kills them. As AVfM managing editor John the Other put it in a recent post (which I wrote about here):
And what if they get killed David? What if rather than be arrested – as promoters of hate, and public advocates of murder, what if these depraved and murderous female supremacists come to harm at the hands of a citizen. If that happens, it will mean that a society’s system of law, designed to prevent hate organizations, and to allow redress of grievance through non violent due process is gone, wiped out by your ideology of violence and hate.
Nonetheless, JtO, like Elam, insists that “I do not and will not lend myself to the support of violence, or indeed, of murder.”
But all this dancing around the issue of violence is rather a moot point, given the one rather striking exception that Elam has allowed to his “no explicit advocacy of violence” rule.
And that is the terrorist manifesto he’s been hosting on his site since last summer.
I’m referring, of course, to the lengthy manifesto written by Tom Ball, a man who burned himself to death on the steps of a courthouse in Keane, New Hampshire last summer in a protest against what he saw as unfair treatment in family court.
Ball has been hailed as a hero in numerous articles on AVfM, and he is mentioned in an “invocation” in the new theme song for AVfM Radio.
The manifesto is posted on AVfM — in its “activism” category.
What sort of “activism” did Ball advocate? Hint: It involves Molotov cocktails, and government buildings.
In his words (emphasis mine):
So boys, we need to start burning down police stations and courthouses. … [T]he dirty deeds are being carried out by our local police, prosecutors and judges. These are the people we pay good money to protect us and our families. And what do we get for our tax money? Collaborators who are no different than the Vichy of France or the Quislings of Norway during the Second World War. All because they go along to get along. They are an embarrassment, the whole lot of them. And they need to be held accountable. So burn them out. …
There is no evidence that the police, courts, or government is planning to do anything different in the immediate future. And they will not do anything different until we make it so uncomfortable that they must change. Bureaucracy at its worst. So burn them out. This is too important to be using that touchy- feeling coaching that is so popular with business these days. You need to flatten them, like Wile E. Coyote. They need to be taught never to replace the rule of law. BURN-THEM-OUT!
Most of the police stations built in New England over the last 20 years are stone or brick. Fortunately, the roofs are still wood. The advantage of fire on the roof is that it is above the sprinklers. But even the sprinklers going off work to our advantage. There is no way they can work in a building with six inches of water. And I am certain we will disrupt their momentum once they start working out of a FEMA
At this point the AVfM editors cut Ball off in mid-sentence, and insert this “Editor’s note”:
Editor’s note:
Several paragraphs in this copy of Mr Ball’s original letter have been omitted. The omitted paragraphs contained detailed instructions on the manufacture and use of simple incendiary devices.
If you are really interested in seeing the omitted sections, you can find the complete manifesto elsewhere in the Mansophere.
Ball was quite serious about all this, and hoped that his self-immolation would inspire other “activists” to “manufacture and use” his favored sort of “simple incendiary devices,” as the AVfM editors gingerly put it. Ball himself was a bit more blunt:
I only managed to get the main door of the Cheshire County Courthouse in Keene, NH. I would appreciate it if some of you boys would finish the job for me. They harmed my children. The place is evil. So take it out. …
And bring a can of spray paint to these fires. Paint the word COLLABORATORS ( two L’s with an S on the end) on the building before you burn it.
Ball frankly acknowledged that if others followed his suggestions, people would die:
There will be some casualties in this war. Some killed, some wounded, some captured. Some of them will be theirs. Some of the casualties will be ours.
How does Ball’s explicit advocacy of terrorist acts directed at government buildings, acts that if carried out would almost inevitably mean the deaths of people within those buildings, square with Elam’s purported no-advocacy-of-violence policy for his website?
You’ll have to ask him. I have no fucking clue.
Anthony: The idea that the MRM is the most significant civil rights movement is absurd. Even IF Elam was right in that the pendulum has swung too far with the changes that have been made in the name of feminism, the pendulum will never swing as high to the one side as it was with the previous.
Furthermore, many of the causes that the MRM rant about are given undue weight by the movement. It is as if they take a magnifying glass to expose a problem they see but then insist that the magnified image is the actual size.
Finally, I have seen people in the MRM claim that the best place for a woman is in the kitchen. Never have I see someone else in the MRM confront such a person and say “no, that is not what we want”.
All I see is a group of guys saying how much better things used to be and wishing that things would go back to being that way. If they don’t, they are just going to go their own way. (But they are doing it together and telling everyone about it). So no, there is nothing significant about the movement at all and the blame for that doesn’t belong to the media or feminism or “manginas”, it is because of the movement itself.
Hell, I had a bowel movement today that was more significant.
I just noticed Zarat’s earlier gravatar. Is that supposed to be men & women divided by the MS Bulldogs?!!
@Holly
The Sarah Connor of his war!
@Kyrie
I think the second pic you posted is Joker’s recruitment campaign
Hey AntZ, tell your wife she’s about to be replaced by VR yet?
“Anthony: The idea that the MRM is the most significant civil rights movement is absurd. Even IF Elam was right in that the pendulum has swung too far with the changes that have been made in the name of feminism, the pendulum will never swing as high to the one side as it was with the previous.”
It is not a pendulum. It is a process. We are half way through he process of gender liberation.
Women have been liberated. Women no longer have any obligations towards men.
The MRM is the instrument of male liberation. Soon, men will no longer have any obligations towards women — individually or collectively.
This may be inconvenient at times. When women become “unhappy” in marriage, they will no longer be able to walk out with the house, the kids, and their ex-husband’s salary. Instead, mother and father will each be responsible for the children 50% of the time. Complete equality. Scary, eh? Only scary because you are a bigot, addicted to male slavery.
Freedom is only frightening to slave owners. Why are you all so afraid?
Aw fuck, be honest at least. What the MRM is
fighting forwhining about are “obligations” like those a rapist faces after raping someone. Those a male parent has toward the children he’s fathered. Those a domestic abuser faces after abusing his partner or children. People who break the law should be held accountable. Parents should be responsible for their children’s well-being. The alternative is … for lack of a better description, unworkable. And that the MRM has decided that what the world really needs more of is abuse and hungry children is exactly why the MRM will never be taken seriously.Dave, you do realize that:
A) Libel is illegal
B) You’re starting to cross the line
C) AVfM has huge funds, and many lawyers as members who will work on the cheap.
Just sayin…
MRM is a civil rights movement in the way the National Socialist Movemen is a civil rights movement. It’s a reactionary movement dedicated to eliminating the gains made by minorities to ensure they remain second class citizens.
Plus, you just need to read In Mala Fide or The Spearhead to notice that there’s a large crossover between these two movements. Coincidence? I think not.
What if one of the parents is abusive?
What if one of the parents doesn’t want to care for the kids?
What if one of the parents earns much more than the other, and the poorer parent isn’t able to provide for the kid on their own?
What if one of the parents was a stay-at-home parent, and has no savings of “their own” because they didn’t have a job income?
Notice that none of these objections are necessarily gendered–and yet none of them are solved by a cut-and-dried “everyone keeps their own money, 50% custody for kids, that should fix everything” approach.
Also, of course, BULLSHIT to your scare quotes around “unhappy,” as if the only reason people get divorced is bitches wanting more bon-bon shoes, or whatever the fuck goes on in your fucking little head.
AlekNovy just wins the Imasooyoo Prize for Ludicrous Net Lawyering.
Libel has to be untrue. Are you arguing that any of these things were not posted on AVfM?
Also, hahahahahahaa to C, you guys can’t get three dudes on a street corner to hold signs, your “legal support team” is one guy who dropped out of paralegal school because the teacher was a woman.
Yes, if there’s anything feminists truly despise, it’s fathers taking a more active role in child-rearing. Although your one-size-fits-all formula is obviously not going to be right for all parents, because not all families look the same (shocking revelation, I know). My dad, for example, would have had to seriously restructure his life in ways he didn’t want to do in order to have equal physical custody of his kids.
@Shadow, I hope no one has let forweg know about our secret Canadian Manboobz conspiracy! How will we ever banish all the men to the Northwest Territories to mine for diamonds to give us when we force them to marry us if someone’s let the cat out of the bag? OH WAIT, OH NO
Hey Zarat? you want guaranteed 50/50 custody? then you and all the other men of the world who want it better put in 50/50 parenting. That means no more mom being the primary caregiver. That means cutting hours at work to help take care of your child. That means risking loss of a promotion, or tenure, or having a gap in your resume…things many mothers lose out on when they become the primary caregiver. And what about mothers who stop working period to stay home with the kids? just gonna throw them out on their asses huh? I too would like an end to alimony, but there’s a reason why single mothers are still make up the poorest women in the US.
Here’s the thing asshole. Equality is never going to happen if women are still the primary caregivers. If their role is still defined by motherhood. What makes you think you should get 50/50 custody when you aren’t the primary caregiver? and it’s so typical that you’d forget about abuse. What about mothers/fathers who abuse their kids? should they get 50/50 custody too?
In short, go fuck yourself.
I will never understand why the same quotes that are MEN’S LIBERATION!!1!!one! when Paul Elam posts them are libel when David Futrelle posts them. David must have a magic libelizer machine he uses on all the quotes.
Gosh, just stop libelling the MRM by posting stuff that they actually say and believe. Dontcha know you’re supposed to interpret everything they say in the most saintly and peaceful way possible even if it is the most unlikely meaning?
@Bee
I am being honest. You are being dishonest by attempting to re-brand the MRM as something that it is not.
No person who believes in liberty, freedom, or equality has anything to fear from the MRM.
Assault >>> The MRM fights for accountability for all. People (men and women) who break the law should be accountable. People who falsely accuse should also be accountable. All should have the benefit of the same legal protections and rights.
Children >>> The MRM believes that all children should be raised equally by both parents. In the case of marriage dissolution, this means 50/50 joint physical custody. Joint custody would be a refutable assumption, meaning that the default judgement is 50/50 physical, unless one or both parents are proven unfit.
If it’s not too late, I’d like to be Curator of Askance Glances and Eyerolls. I hope it’s not too late, because I’ve already ordered the stationary :/
Anthony: Elam says it is a pendulum. I was just using his own words. Perhaps you think it is not a pendulum but a process. If that is the case then the movement is very disorganized and, again, could likely not be described as significant.
And I could show you a case where a woman was forced by a judge to pay her convicted rapist ex husband alimony (she was the one he raped). So don’t tell me that women have no obligations to men in our society.
more and more women are paying alimony too. It’s not right to just boot a spouse out on the street if they were the housewife/househusband.
Anthony, we post stuff from MRAs all the time here. This is clearly not true of a large number of them. Maybe it’s true for you, in which case I will again say that having fathers take on more child-rearing responsibilities (and joys) is great, but your one-size-fits all model just isn’t feasible even in cases where there isn’t abuse, because different families have different structures.
I get the feeling that part of the “false accusations” hubbub, in addition to a general effort to discredit and humiliate rape victims, is because MRAs would like a judicial system in which any rape trial not ending in a conviction sent the accuser to jail. Which in practice would take rape prosecutions down to near-zero, because what victim would take that risk? Which in practice would legalize rape.
@Viscaria
o.O… this was not in my copy of Discover Canada. DAMN YOU FEMINISM!!!
*grumpily packs his bags and his pick ax*
@Holly
I thought there were already laws on the books about false accusations of all kinds. Although, I will say that the ONE time I came across a genuine false accusation (or at least that I believe to be genuine) the cops didn’t do anything so I’d like to see better enforcing of these laws (not to be confused with didn’t win their convictions MRAs).
@Quackers
50/50 physical custody implies 50/50 parenting. Division will be equal by time. It could be 1 year/1 year or it could 1 week/1 week. Full physical means the child resides at, and has all needs met by, each parent in an alternating way.
I apologize for not making it clear that, when I say 50/50 physical, I did not imagine that the ex-wife would come live at the ex-husband’s residence during the husband’s custodial period in order to help him. It never occurred to me. For the sake of clarity:
50/50 physical custody means that each parent has 100% responsibility for all needs and care of the children 50% of the time.
but don’t you know Holly? all women are lying bitches so if the rapist doesn’t end up in jail it MUST mean she lied. It’s not like they couldn’t find enough evidence. Or the jury was biased. Or it wasn’t deemed serious enough for conviction. Or the fact that rape convictions are low enough already. Nope. It’s all because women are lying liars who lie.
Also, I wish to nominate myself as Commissioner of the Title IX SWAT team for Toronto, and Assistant Commissioner of the Skirt-chaser Chasers
Ha, Elam’s always begging for money from his clown posse, and I doubt any lawyer worth their JD would come within 10 feet of AVfM.
And like Holly said, libel has has to be untrue.