Consider the plight of the poor, horny Man Going His Own Way. He may have convinced himself that women are icky monsters out to highjack his sperm and steal his money. He may have convinced himself we live in a femi-fascist gynocracy out to destroy men and civilization generally. Yet his disobedient penis can’t stop thinking about sex with these evil, filthy women.
And so he turns to his fellow MGTOWers to ask for help: what can I do, my brethren, to stop popping so many boners? Ed1974, a newbie on MGTOWforums.com, puts it this way in a plaintive recent post:
[M]ore than almost anything I want to be woman-free and contentment to live a woman-free life. For more or less all of my adult life I’ve played in to society’s demands that I have to have a woman, and preferably a pretty woman, in my life. I’ve done a lot of Internet dating and every friggin time I get involved with a woman I regret it. Either I just want to get some ass and the woman wants a lot more than that and makes a mess out of my life when I leave, or I end up spending way more money than I ever wanted to spend just to have her grace my life with her presence, or something else that fucks up my life. The bottom line is I sincerely want to live a life without the desire to have a woman in my life.
So Ed is taking steps to quell his desire:
1. I downloaded a firewall blocking all dating sites.
2. I’m going to read as many books on misandry that I can.
3. I’m going to take myself out of situations where I can get in trouble, such as bars.
4. I’m going to fill free time that I would normally spend out with some woman with something productive.
I also want to remember the bad times where I’ve had women who I’ve tried to get out of my life end up stalking me for months on end. And to be perfectly honest, I want to remember the time I got the clap from some skank. I also want to remember that I should be thankful that I’m not a baby daddy and I’ve never had any false rape charges against me.
Alas, but poor pretty Eddie is afraid that this won’t be enough, and begs the assembled MGTOWers for “other steps I should take.”
Site admin Nacho Vidal suggests he go another way entirely:
My advice would be to scrap the ‘steps’ you’ve taken and take your wanking up a notch! Also, have you looked into hiring a whore or two once a month?
Others jump in to endorse the masturbation-and-prostitute strategy, and encourage him to cultivate his hatred of women by reading from the ample selection of stories on the site about evil, depraved, disgusting women. As fairi5fair puts it:
I go to college and still get the biochemical reactions that play into the mate-spawn-die script when I see a 20 year old with a candy apple ass and perky tits, but my growing understanding of women in general helps to make it less urgent and more negligible everyday.
A few others have more novel advice. Our friend womanhater suggests a trip to the mall:
Sit in the food court, and spend a good three hours there. Leisurely sip on some coffee, and simply watch.
See all the soulless men being dragged around by cupcake holding her bags. You’ll see the total absence of hope in the eyes of men in this trap. You’ll see his brain calculating the immense debt being run up, and yet he knows he’s fucked.
Pay attention to the stupid whores in training aged 15 or so, and simply listen the absolute shit running out of their mouth. Watch their behavior and internalize that every twat you see aged 25 was doing the exact same shit a decade ago.
Every time I start to feel my ghosting resolve start to slip, I go to the mall for a few hours. Clears my fucking head every time.
NewWorldMan suggests a sort of mind-over-boner strategy:
Sounds like BS, I know, but telling myself (actually saying the sentence in my head at the moment of attraction): “I control my dick, my dick doesn’t control me — actually works for me.
Frederick326 suggests an anatomy lesson:
Read up on vaginas. They’re fucking disgusting.
And fairi5fair also links to the (somewhat NSFW) video below. I’m not sure what exactly it’s supposed to accomplish other than to remind us that Japan leads the world in baffling entertainment product:
@Spearhafoc
Oh, if I don’t answer your question I’ll be a misogynist? In case you’ve just slipped into this century, any disagreement with a woman makes you a misogynist. So I might as well just be one to the best of my ability.
If you’ve had sex with so many other men it quite clearly shows you have a loyalty factor of zero. Let’s be real here. What can you possibly say, “I love you. I never leave you. You’re the only one.” Ya said that to all the rest as well. It didn’t mean shit then.
So many? How many other men have I had sex with, NWO? Do tell!
NWO -= “What can you possibly say, “I love you. I never leave you. You’re the only one.” Ya said that to all the rest as well. It didn’t mean shit then.”
What if you didn’t say that. What if you said, “I don’t want a relationship right now. Sex is fine, and friendship, but i’m saving my loyalty and heart for my true love, so don’t get too attached. As long as you’re fine with that, we can have something. ”
So the true love does get a loyalty and words of love that nobody else ever had.
Thoughts?
My wife was extremely promiscuous in her late 20s and early 30s – she had her reasons, and I respect them. In a nutshell, after she’d managed to extricate herself from a disastrous marriage, she was determined to catch up on all the fun she’d missed out on in her early to mid 20s.
And after having had said fun, she decided to look for a long-term partner – which is when I entered the picture. And yes, she was more than capable of saying convincingly “I love you. I’ll never leave you. You’re the only one”, because her motives in getting together with me were fundamentally different. With the others, she wanted a quick shag. With me, she wanted kids, a home life together, sharing my bed every night, the works. In other words, I passed tests that she didn’t even apply to the others.
NWOslave wrote, “A womans body is her sexuality. See my above post. A mans sexuality are his actions. Which is why women go after athletes, men in power, men of talent, musicians, artists and such. None of these men need to be exceptionally handsome or anything. The power/talent is a mans sexuality.”
I wonder if NWOslave is aware of the existence of porn for straight women? Surprisingly, it’s full of pictures of NAKED MEN!
Filament Magazine (Which is closing down, alas!) has nothing but pictures of hot men, made by women. Chicks swoon over that dude in Twilight (and even though I’m not a fan of Twilight, I wouldn’t kick Robert Pattinson out of the bed for eating crackers.) And then there’s slash fiction…
MollyRen – And Yaoi. So I’ve heard. 😉
Owly’s standard for loyalty: only ever having sex with one person.
Reasonable person’s standard for loyalty: being loyal when and if you say you will be.
I see the jackass’ entirely single direction of this. Does he?
What the fuck makes you think people say this every time they’ve had sex? Oh right, the fact that you’re a fucking moron.
Yeah, he must’ve belted back a few to give him some false bravado after his brief sojourn into the valley of “Waaaaaah!!! You’re all MEAN to me, and Pecunium thinks I’m disgusting!!”
Hey, like you said, it’s in our biology to do that…. so if you’re one of the 80 who gets squat, then just suck it up!!
C’mon, NWO. You know how many men I’ve had sex with, or so you said. And, apparently, you know that I told all of them that I loved them and would never leave them. So how many of those guys were there? Can you tell me their names, too?
Heck, I’ll tell you what – if you tell me the correct number (which should be easy, since you apparently know it), I’ll confirm it for you publicly. So how many men have I had sex with, NWO?
@Lauralot
So testy!
Why is it that every culture everywhere thru-out history has a womans virginity as something of value? Could it be they saw the harm in allowing women to devolve down to animalistic state? Could loyalty have anything to do with it? Your silly little modern day pampering is coming to an end. You brought it about. Quite honestly, the quicker it comes the better. What’s in it for me to prop up the present system?
@Polliwog
How old are you and I’ll tell you.
So, not giving our virginity to our own true love makes us evil. The fact that I still have my virginity makes me a pampered bitch.
Do you need me to pull out my comment from a few posts back that explains why your future will be worthless and empty again?
“Have you given your virginity to your present lover?”
Heh, I’m glad I didn’t stay with the dude I *did* give it to. He was an asshole.
spearhafoc – What should women wear, NWOslave? What would be acceptable attire that wouldn’t cause men to rape them?”
Seconded, or thirded, or fiftied at this point, NWO – You continue to dodge this question. last time I gave you several examples of clothing that is geared towards religious women who wish to appear modest, and you still wouldn’t comment on whether or not they were, or weren’t slutty.
http://www.jenclothing.com/mi-4003-brown-pleats.html
Is that dress, from christian-oriented manufacturer Jenclothing, slutty, or not slutty?
You still haven’t answered my demand for evidence, Owly.
Therefore you are pullling it out of your ass.
@Molly Ren
You’re funny! Porn of men is for gay men.
I know all the girls here love male porn. Yawn! If that was the case porn for women would be just as lucrative as porn for men. Guess what kiddies, it ain’t. Unless you think the corporate big boys don’t wanna make money off of porn for women.
In NWOslave’s world, men shouldn’t be judged when they rape someone, but women should be scorned for having consensual sex.
@Molly Ren
“Heh, I’m glad I didn’t stay with the dude I *did* give it to. He was an asshole.”
You can do better! That’s the mantra alrighty. You’re worth it!
Sure, NWO. I’m in my late 20s.
And since you seem to be pretty confident, wanna make a little wager? If you get the answer right, I will cheerfully tell all of manboobz that you’re right about me and I’m a terrible, disloyal slutwhorebitch. If you get the answer wrong, you can finally give us an example of a non-slutty outfit for women. Sound like a fair deal?
“You’re funny! Porn of men is for gay men.”
Dude! Does this mean I’m a gay man now? SWEET! 😀
@Polliwog
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Moewicus – <3
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This sort of thing isn’t exactly for men.