Jezebel has apparently decided to gin up some page views by running a bizarre, victim-blaming, slut-shaming, skeevily prurient screed on Amber Cole, the 14-year old African American girl who was videotaped giving oral sex to some boys; the video got posted online and, despite the fact that it was, you know, child porn, went viral. The story itself is appalling; so is the screed, written by a guy pretending (for rhetorical effect) that he’s Cole’s father. It reads like something you’d find on The Spearhead.
The piece starts off melodramatically:
I am Amber Cole’s father. I am angry, confused and completely at a loss. I love my daughter. I want to guide her without suppressing her. That is not always easy. Children need protection from their worst inclinations. That is not always easy. I am trying to convince her that the world will still love her if she keeps her clothes on.
Just to remind everyone again: the author is not actually Cole’s father. (And Amber Cole is apparently not her real name.)
The screed quickly descends into an attack on the girl’s mother that reads like something you’d read in the comments section of The Spearhead or In Mala Fide:
She would listen to her mother, if her mother was not busy. Doing something, anything that is not parenting. I want her mother to spend less time being “empowered” and more time being aware and engaged with our daughter.
And it only goes downhill from there. We get a section essentially blaming girls at large for the incident, because they allegedly ignore the “nice guys” who would never make such a tape. We get a section blaming the “mother’s boyfriend, Karrine Steffans or Kim Kardashian” for teaching the girl to be “proficient at such a difficult act. … I want to know why my 14 year-old knows so much about oral sex.”
And then we get a ridiculous race-baiting rant about white feminists and the Slutwalks:
White feminists can teach their own little girls to find empowerment through their crotches – my brown little girl cannot afford to be that carefree and cavalier with her life choices. Slutlife is the hard, lonely vocation of rich, educated, privileged white women who will fuck The World, contract social diseases and still, somehow find a husband. No black woman ever got far being a slut. I want to know what kind of women “slutwalk,” while young impressionable girls of all kinds look on with wonder and admiration.
After placing blame for the whole thing on just about every girl and woman in the world, the author comes to the father:
I am Amber Cole’s father. Don’t ask where I was that afternoon, because you already know. I was at work, just like you. I do not live with her, cannot always talk to her, cannot always be there. Not the way I want, and there are few laws to help me. To protect me and my rights.
Because that’s the real issue here: Father’s Rights.
And then the big reveal:
I am Jimi Izrael. I am not really Amber Cole’s father. But she is my daughter.
You do not think so. But she is your daughter too.
Go read the whole thing. It’s appalling. Then read Jeff Fecke’s takedown of it on Alas, a Blog.
Ironically, Jezebel ran an excellent piece on the subject about a week ago.
WTF, Jezebel? Are page views really that important?
EDITED: I reworked a bit about the (real) father that I originally formulated badly.
Am I the only one hoping the law lands on the boys with both feet for producing child porn? It’s entirely possible – kids have gotten busted producing child porn of themselves before (usually by sexting to a boy or girlfriend).
*facepalm*
Honestly, what can I say that hasn’t been said?
And I see the regular trolls are swarming around this on our comment thread, plus the general comments in Jezebel are awful. This Jezebel article really IS a pile of shit. 😉
He’s playing against NWO & Meller if that is indeed the game.
And Rev “toddlers attacked by pit bulls” Spinnaker.
I thought it was Rev “children tossed to pit bulls like Christians to lions” Spinnaker. Eh, potato, potahto.
Yup, and I get downright sore waiting for those cows to come home. Believe me, once they’re home, I’m kicking back with a hot toddy giving my roosters the rest of the day off. Fair closes at sundown anyway.
Shaenon, what about “Kalifornia” Brad Pitt?
Can’t get enough of the “filthy serial killer” type!
(MRAL, that was a joke. In case you trip over your massive IQ and get confused XD)
I found a perfect song for MRAL and friends.
Women seem wicked when you’re unwanted, indeed.
Wait, isn’t Jezebel a feminist site? I’m confused…
@Arielle Shander:
As far as I know, yes. But unfortunately feminists are not perfect… -_-
Yep, they are! And this is why we need to be ready to say “HEy what you said is stupid, here is why”.
Ok, this Jimi Izrael guy is just utter and completely horrible. I think it’s been fairly well covered why he’s so horrible, but I just had to say it anyway. I hope he gets sued for slander.
Actually, I think it’s libel, but whatever.
And yes, I know he “acknowledged” he’s not actually the father, in a tiny, barely imperceptible sentence at the end of the article. well, whoop-dee-doo, he still misrepresented himself and the situation to promote his own hideous ideology.
Oh god, that guy needs to go eat a bag of dicks. Funny how he didn’t feel compelled to write an essay about his I imaginary sons, the ones participating in the sex act, taping it and distributing it online.
So, what’s more offensive to the outraged non-relatives online? That the girl is engaging in sexual activity, or that somebody violated her rights and secretly recorded her having sex, then shared the video online?
Yeah.
Budmin: Hold the phone.. Holly Pervocracy Put your troll gun back in the holster. I like most dudes would consider myself to be an Authoritarian.
Speak for yourself.
@Holly Pervocracy
“Empowered” means “having power.” It means being able to make one’s own decisions and put them into effect.”
And that’s exactly what she did, made her own decision and put it into effect. She wasn’t coerced, she wasn’t raped, she wasn’t forced in any way. Enthusiastic consent all the way. In fact, enthusiastically initiated.
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@hellkell
“I read that piece yesterday and wondered where the hell I was.”
Feminist Amerika.
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@Amnesia
“This is a sex video of a 14 year-old. It’s child pornography and it’s illegal.”
As if 14 year old girls aren’t banging out videos/pictures themselves and posting them online. Shouldn’t those girls be locked away as well? Or are they victims?
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@girlscientist
“He called the cops on them, like a real father would, like I’m sure my father would have done if I’d found myself in the same situation.”
Yea right. I can hear the conversation now. “Hey daddy, I was sucking off a bunch of guys, which I volunteered to do. Shouldn’t they have known better?” I’m sure daddy will commend his little girl for her responsible actions.
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@amused
“The boys on the other hand are given a pass because they are boys.”
No. If that was the case it would’ve been a video of a boy carpet munching a bunch of girls.
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@Holly Pervocracy
“I don’t think it’s public knowledge even which parent or parents she lives which, much less details like her mom being too “empowered” and her dad shut out of her life against his wishes.”
I’ll bet we can take a wild stab at the home life situation.
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@Hershele Ostropoler
“I don’t know about fathers specifically, but yes, if the boys who put the video on the internet had been properly brought up, this wouldn’t have happened.”
Those darned boys. If only they’d been properly raised, none of this would’ve happened. It’s all their fault.
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@Holly Pervocracy
“Because of how many young anarchists take pride in acting like Tough Guys, thus making young women feel unsafe and unwelcome around them!”
Ya mean anarchists are bad too? Anarchists, MRAs, conservatives, on and on it goes. It seems as if only feminists and communists are good. Hey! Since sluts are da bomb of modern womanhood, why not write up an article on your precious blog praising her strong, independent, responsible ownership of her sexual agency. Think of it as a feminist mission to teach all little girls to fuck and suck as often as possible, and break the stereotype of slutshaming. Not with overaged men of course, but enthusiastically with younger men.
Just out of curiosity, since feminism is all about equality. How come the gang is gushing with sympathy for the young lady for societies yucky treatment but not the boys? A case in point would be this sopping comment on Jez. More love for women she so tenderly advises but not a peep of equality for men.
“It also pains me to see that, once again, they’ve forgotten that feminism isn’t just for women. It’s for college fraternities & boyfriends & fathers & uncles & grandpas, too. It’s for any man who knows that there are better ways to love & value & nurture women in this society than we have been & that’s what I took away from this post. “
I… don’t think Holly has a problem with anarchists at all, I think she was just responding to my joking “if guys are naturally authoritarian, why is anarchism such a sausage fest?” question.
And that’s exactly what she did, made her own decision and put it into effect. She wasn’t coerced, she wasn’t raped, she wasn’t forced in any way. Enthusiastic consent all the way. In fact, enthusiastically initiated.
I have not seen this video, and never intend to, but from what I understand, that is not at all clear. Also, even if she consented to the act, that doesn’t imply consenting to the video.
Your little fantasy of tons and tons of 14-year-old girls making all sorts of sexy sex tapes and putting them on the internet (as opposed to sending them privately to boy/girlfriends, if it happens at all) is just another peek into the very creepy world in your mind, where young girls do nothing all day but taunt and flaunt and tease.
Also, are you ever going to answer me about the proper role and functions of the State in your worldview? Sometime, eh?
Not what we’re hearing. And even if true, the child pornography thing remains.
Some of them have been. Make you feel better?
Yep.
Budmin: @Zhinkxy – Hierarchal in values yes but to some degree Authoritarianism promotes longevity of life, mental health & cultural cohesion through uniformity and respect for the laws of causality.
Is there a conversion application available to translate this into something in a coherent language?
“Work hard or starve to death”
“Save it for Marriage or be considered a slut”
“Don’t have sex and you won’t get pregnant”
“Spend your money wisely or go broke”
1: Paris Hilton
2: No. Almost no one is a virgin on their wedding night. Most people aren’t called sluts*
3: Birth Control**
4: tautological, or irrelevant. Lots of broke people spent their money wisely. Lots of people spend their money foolishly (see 1), and are not broke because they have so much it would be damned near impossible to run out.
Moreover, none of the “good” results of the things you think are involved in the dualistic flip-side of your arguments, lead to long life, mental health or cultural cohesion.
I don’t think you really grasp causality.
*Moreover, slut is a gendered insult. Men who have sex with lots of women (not just the one required to break the rule of, “save it for marriage” which you say = slutdom) are not condemned at all.
** Again, a gendered “rule” as men can’t get pregnant.
>>Because of how many young anarchists take pride in acting like Tough Guys, thus making young women feel unsafe and unwelcome around them!
Anecdotes aren’t data, but that time we protested Human Life International and the coppers started making trouble by pounding that Pink Panther kid with a spray can onto the pavement, it was three young women who showed me just how fast you can turn a sign into a weapon by stripping off the cardboard from the 2×4 with your foot. Blink and you miss it.
Just saying.
Love and solidarity to the anarfem sisters. 🙂
Nah, it’s Rev “children thrown to pit bulls by the malnurturing matriarchy” Spinnaker.
Anecdotes aren’t data, but that time we protested Human Life International and the coppers started making trouble by pounding that Pink Panther kid with a spray can onto the pavement, it was three young women who showed me just how fast you can turn a sign into a weapon by stripping off the cardboard from the 2×4 with your foot. Blink and you miss it.
Just saying.
Love and solidarity to the anarfem sisters.
Hah! In my young Refuse and Resist days we got impromptu pre-police-brutality protest advice and instruction in quick sign-to-weapon conversion from a lovely middle-aged schoolteacher! Ah, the memories.
As I recall, Jezebel also has published other probematic pieces that you’d think were written for the Spearhead in the past as well… the one w/ the guy who tried to justify not getting consent and something about how European women don’t make a big deal about sexual assault comes to mind >_>
so basically… if a girl does something ppl look down on, we all know that the mother is to blame, and the father would have fixed her but he’s too busy working? o_O What if a girl does something ppl like? Then it’s despite the mother I guess XD
wtf >_>
Ya mean anarchists are bad too? Anarchists, MRAs, conservatives, on and on it goes. It seems as if only feminists and communists are good. Hey! Since sluts are da bomb of modern womanhood, why not write up an article on your precious blog praising her strong, independent, responsible ownership of her sexual agency. Think of it as a feminist mission to teach all little girls to fuck and suck as often as possible, and break the stereotype of slutshaming. Not with overaged men of course, but enthusiastically with younger men.
Do you even know what “da bomb” means? xD You have enough trouble knowing what “xD” means… xD
You do know that there are anarchists here right? Arguing w/ you? xD
And why did you say feminists AND communists? xD I thought they were one and the same xD You’re slipping o:
Luckily we’re recording all the hilarious things you believe so we can remind you! Silly NWO, you believe feminists ARE communists remember? XD
And if you’re so concerned that Holly isn’t addressing things you think should be addressed, maybe you should start your own blog? :3 After all, you clearly have the time 😀
I have a huge issue with a 14 year old girl deciding to give blow jobs to multiple boys as her own choice given a choice.
I going to go out on a limb here that this was some kind of gang initiation (have not seen the video) akin to what happens to boys who have to jump in (beaten up by the gang members).
If given a choice in life I know any boy would not choose to be beaten to become a member of a gang but it happens. Assault is illegal but we all know that the police tend to turn a blind eye.
Girls are fucked in as gang members as guys are beaten in. Maybe the police need to stop allowing both to happen?
(Again I have not seen the video but I know that way to many young people see no other way then joining a gang no matter what the cost)