Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
@David: I am so sending you a bill for monitor cleaning and keyboard replacement? Do you know how damn hard it is to get Coke Zero (A MANLY DRINK YO) out of keyboards? Hmmm??
@Wisteria, I have no doubt the douchebags at CoAlpha Brotherhood believe all that stuff they said. In fact, that quote I copied isn’t nearly as bad as some of the stuff fschmidt used to say at love-shy.com. Believe me, you wouldn’t want to know the vile things he’s said.
Late to the party, but how can you “regulate” your girlfriend if she doesn’t know you’re cheating? These guys make no sense.
Sex with a PUA must be the absolute worst.
Brandon, you would think that’s good advice. Here’s some more: don’t be the kind of asshole who might need to worry about false accusations.
@ozymandias42 – In an older post, he addresses the question of why a hardcore, alpha male such as himself would want a girlfriend at all. He cited an example of how it was late at night, he had just worked all day, and he was able to come home and immediately fuck his girlfriend. He knew that he would be fucking her in the morning as well, with no effort. In addition, she does stuff for him – she brought over food and picked up prescriptions, and she earlier brought him his morning coffee too.
He then makes the very good point that picking up a “bar slut” (or something like that) would require more time and effort that he doesn’t have, and also she wouldn’t do stuff for him.
When people are unable to feel intimate or loving toward their partners, it makes me sad. Not that he doesn’t richly deserve it.
DKM’s probably thinking of some Cosmo revenge fantasy article. I’m sure you could find a few women’s magazines with articles in their archives that fit DKMs description. But then, these magazines also tell women to key the cars of cheating boyfriends, lose weight by eating ice cream, surprising the bf by adding ice, mint or pepper to blowjobs, and suggest that $300 is a reasonable price for jeans. Any lady who takes this kind of guidance at face value kinda deserves the inevitable consequences that are headed her way.
I really do not see why some people are so enamoured with Nietzsche, his arguments are terrible and he’s a douchebag.
Hellkell – I think it’s that he feels more confident and manly and therefore capable of ‘regulating’ his gf’s behaviour. Proving to himself on a regular basis that he doesn’t ‘need’ her or access to her ladybits for (what is probably very bad) sex helps with the alpha ‘tude required for girlfriend-control.
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Reading Brandon’s support for his FRA blog just brought me to a (personal?) revolution. I didn’t understand why MRAs were so obsessed with FRA, and now it is so obvious to me.
The goal of PUAs and game is conniving, scheming, lying, badgering, coercing women to have sex with them. The increase in game and it’s dishonesty is what is supposedly behind this increase in FRA? They proactively know the female will feel so awful about the sex under duress that they put in place anti FRA protocol?
What??????
My skin is crawling 🙁
@HellKell: The whole point of false rape accusations is that it doesn’t really matter what my behavior is. I could be the biggest asshole or the most sensitive wimp in the world and it doesn’t mean anything. What you are saying is that if I act and behave a certain way (as opposed to creating a “paper trail” of evidence to prove that I got consent), I can avoid a false rape accusation. This is simply not true. You will find both assholes and regular average joes have had false rape accusations.
@Jill: I don’t find my methods are conniving or deceitful in any way. In fact, I am pretty open and blunt with women. I pretty much have a “take it or leave it” attitude and if she doesn’t want to sleep with me or spend time with me…there are other women that will. I am not going to lower myself to badgering her to have sex. My time is better spent elsewhere.
One of the commenters on that FRA post named Badger said this (forgive me, I’m not sure how to use quotes): “…if you want to really protect yourself don’t bang a chick who’s had more than two or three drinks unless she’s your serious girlfriend or wife. If she’s drunk, she’s a lot more likely to regret the previous night, and if she says she was drunk, by legal definition she’s been raped.”
Erm, indeed. Not raping someone is a fantastic way of avoiding a rape accusation. Not sure where the “false” part comes in…
I like how that guy went right to “fat” when attempting to shut me up. It just says SO MUCH about how repulsive these folks are. I’m actually not fat…which is kinda funny, I guess. But I think that’s the point: you can use it as a bludgeon against any woman.
The thing that’s heinous about that is that in order to use that to shut women up, you HAVE to be cognizant of looksist-based misogyny.
Omg, I feel so naive, I thought MRAs were just paranoid about FRA, but coercing someone to have sex with you who does not want to is actually one of the goals of PUAs…
@Jill: What’s that feminist standard line? “Feminism isn’t a monolith”. Well the same can be said of PUA’s. While I personally don’t buy into the PUA scene (I see it as a way to sell e-books and seminars at ridiculous prices), there are also a wide array of styles. Some are flat out coercive while others take the stance of “make yourself attractive to as many women as possible”. I don’t really see anything wrong with teaching men to take calculated chances, dress better and behave in a way that doesn’t make you look like the typical “nice guy”. (e,g being assertive)
So the writer himself is a poseur and a beta.
http://unsanesafe.blogspot.com/2010/05/let-me-start-by-saying-this-im-not-fan.html
Brandon, I’m sure there are some good parts to PUA (to help shy guys develop confidence etc) but that blogger and the blog post about FRA that you liked is moving into the morally bankrupt section.
Brandon if your time is better spent elsewhere, why do you keep posting at a blog that is clearly not meant for you?
“Sometimes you should take the whore out to breakfast.”
Keep it classy, danger and douche.
Wanna know what I do whenever I start thinking I should date or hook up? I read some PUA blogs and it totally kills my libido and need to date. The misogyny, hypocrisy, madonna/whore bullshit just completely makes me think fuck it, its not worth it. I know not all guys use game, the majority probably don’t, but as sad as it sounds, I also think that the really decent guys and gals would probably be taken you know?
@Jill: Ya, and he is a nihilist. Hence it is to be expected of him.
Also, the whole FRA bit is standard MRA stuff…not PUA. While I see MRA’s exaggerate the numbers, I don’t think men should just black it out and don’t believe it actually happens. It does and the consequences are life altering and can ruin you. So even if iFRA’s only happened in 1-2% of the cases, I still think it is worth it to “gather evidence” because not doing so can put you in the slammer for a long ass time if you just happened to be in that 1-2%. And I am all for not going to jail because I couldn’t prove my innocence.
I also don’t really see anything wrong with it…feminists want consent, men are taking steps to actually prove they got consent. Seems like a win win.
These people aren’t looking for consent, Brandon. They’re looking for things that could create reasonable doubt in the mind of a jury. Not at all the same thing.
@Quakers: I am actually watching some TV right now and surfing the net…both more important than badgering women for sex.
If you don’t want to date then don’t. Most of the men, statistically speaking, that would approach you are probably using game. You never know of the ones that aren’t because they usually don’t just start conversations with strangers. So unless you start initiating all the conversations, you will run into more men that do use game as opposed to those that don’t. One of the mantras of PUA is “approach, approach, approach”
Meh, women do it all the time, why can’t us fellas?
Brandon, that blog post you liked is seriously not ok. Take this:
Trigger Warning and Overly Personal Story Tiemz: I’m uncomfortable going into the details here, but I was once sexually assaulted in my home, by an acquaintance. It wasn’t violent–he guilted me into inviting him in, then proceeded to ignore my “no” (and utter lack of “yes”) when I didn’t want sex. After he finally stopped, he fell asleep on my bed while I lay there feeling sick and horrified and guilty. It was one of the worst experiences of my life.
My point is that he stayed over. We didn’t go out to breakfast, but if I had been more guilty or less convinced that what he did was Seriously Bad and Not My Fault, maybe we would have. And that didn’t make what he did even slightly okay.
…and that’s only the “breakfast” advice; I’m not even talking about the bit about videotaping it without her consent or getting her fingerprints on the condom or texting her (because rapists never text their victims?) or what have you. This isn’t advice about avoiding false rape accusations, it’s advice about committing date rape and getting away with it.
@Cassandra: Depends on how you do it. If I was filming in my bedroom and we are both on my bed naked and I said “Are you ready?” while trying to initiate sex and she said “yes” that’s consent. That isn’t reasonable doubt, it is her giving me the go ahead. The video is just evidence to prove it.
Continuing text messaging girls and keeping her responses acts as further proof that it was consentual. If I texted her “I really enjoyed last night” and she said “ya me too”. Then that is further proof of what the film already said.
His whole bit about the police is true too. If the police call and start questioning you, demand a lawyer. I mean, that was the first thing my father (a lawyer) taught me growing up. Say your name and where you live after that shut your mouth.
But “strange,” as in “strange pussy.”
You don’t know that’s what he means. It could be, um, Jonathan Strange? Cobwebs and Strange? Doctor Strange?