Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
“…how [many]…”
“:An aging companion who is no longer attractive while mens attractiveness stays stable till at least the mid 40s? ”
LOL! I mean don’t get me wrong – I’m 38 now, and therefore willing to consider men in their 40s as partners. But when I was 25, did I consider men in their 40s as attractive as my 20-something peers? Um, no. Actually in my experience women tend to age better than men, possibly because they make more effort to look good.
Also, in terms of Dracula’s comment, I think the deal with these guys is that most of the fun for them lies in the idea that they’re tricking women into sex that the women wouldn’t be willing to have normally. So the idea of women who just want sex is anathema, because if the woman you pick up just wanted “some strange” too, then how does fucking her prove that you got one over on her, and on other men?
The whole thing is pretty pathetic.
The Ronan Wills comment had just the first line, as a criticism. The blog’s author has added the rest, including the link.
I’m sure there’s plenty of Doctor Who fanfics out there that demonstrate that there’s a large number of women who want to be touched by the Master.
Spearhafoc: The laughter, I have died of it. 🙂
@Holly:
I think it’s more of a homosocial bonding ritual. They have sex with women not because they *like* women, or even sex, but so they can trade that encounter for some kind of respect in the hierarchy they’ve created.
What I haven’t figured out is what they get out of being so mean to each other.
Spearhafoc: Well, there’s certainly a lot of fanfic where the goal is to get the Master to touch Dr. Who…
Everytime I turn around, I seem to be hearing about something like “how to get even with a cheating spouse by doing it yourself”, or “there’s a world of men out there, don’t limit yourself to one…” and other such encouragement of infidelity in girlyspace. I don’t take note of them, but if you are as observant as you think you are, it is impossible for youall to have missed them in the past few decades.
Women cheat too! Women ENJOY cheating too! Given the fact that most media are woman dominated and woman infested, the likelihood that they will inform about, celebrate, or aid and abet female (heterosexual) infidelity is quite strong. I don’t recall of particulars, but will let you know the first time I see them.
That’s funny, as woman, I think I’d have noticed other women telling me to cheat O.o
For shame, DKM. I’m in a quiet study room and you made everyone stare at me.
I got the giggles under control but I’m still smirking.
This is an old one, but what’s the last movie you saw that had two named female characters who had a conversation with each other that wasn’t about a male character?
This would be pretty disturbing, if I believed a word of it were true.
Steel Magnolias! Oh wait…
The ignorance is strong in this one.
Spear, I think–THINK–“Bridesmaids” passed The Bechdel Test. One of the many reasons it RAWKED.
Mr. Danger and Play thinks I’m boring lol http://dangerandplay.wordpress.com/2011/10/17/indomitable-v-dominating/#comment-428
I agree with Dracula about PUAs. I’ve often thought they’re like people selling books and seminars on how to make a million flipping real estate or doing day trading. If you really could make millions, wouldn’t you just do it and keep the info to yourself? I know I would. No, the real money is in selling books and seminars to suckers.
Thebionicmommy, that quote from that other blog: “Create everything and get what in return? An aging companion who is no longer attractive while mens attractiveness stays stable till at least the mid 40s?”
I wonder if they really believe that, because IMHO men’s attractiveness doesn’t stay any more stable till their mid-40s than women’s does. Some lucky few do get better or remain as attractive as they were in their 20s as they age–they grow into their looks or have great looks from the start or take extra good care of themselves, but most of us end up looking our ages. In fact, I think women often end up looking better than men of similar age because many women take better care of themselves. Men’s fertility might stay stable longer than women’s but not their attractiveness. PUAs, you’re aging just like the rest of us, male and female.
(Oh, CassandraSays, just read your comment. We agree!)
Yup. I’m married to a handsome dude. I am 39, so is he, and he looks great. But I have been mistaken for his daughter. Ouch. Who’s aging better?
I feel like DKM watched several episodes of Sex and the City and assumed everyone on the show was married.
What I haven’t figured out is what they get out of being so mean to each other.
The same thing they get out of bragging about sexual “conquests”. Gaining status among their peers by demonstrating their supposed superiority. Building themselves up by putting others down.
C’mon, peeps, let’s not turn this into a “My gender ages BETTER!” game. Where’s the theory about how men have fewer beauty standards to live up to? 😛
Eh. Wasn’t doing that. That just offering a little anecdotal evidence to dispute the notion that the opposite is always true.
Personally, I think women age way, way better, but that could just be a matter of personal taste. Still, I think a bigger issue than actual “aging better” is that men are given more social value as people independent of their looks, whereas women are often seen as only, or as primarily, sex objects only valued for looks. Between a 40 year old woman and a 40 year old men who aged equally “well”, the latter would probably be given more social respect and more social status, both as a romantic partner and on a personal level.
Uh-uh-uh
Aw, DKM, I am disappoint. I was hoping it was going to be something about how if something encourages women to have careers, it was basically encouraging them to cheat since they were cheating on their womanly duties or something.
As a note, even if someone doesn’t limit herself to one man, it’s not infidelity unless she’s in a supposedly-monogamous relationship, DKM. So should you ever get around to finding us that proof, please keep this in mind.
I think it’s all about sex=status to these guys. Their enjoyment of the act is secondary, and their partner’s enjoyment, of course, matters not at all.