Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
You know, it’s actually the solution Brandon should want :3 Just put a sign on his door and warn ppl. That way nobody can claim he’s doing it w/o their knowledge, AND it scares away any women who would have qualms about being video taped, or have plans to entrap him! 😀
Brandon is safe and sound. Ppl have informed consent. Nobody’s rights are being violated. :3
That’s the whole point of false rape accusations. The man got permission… then she took him to court and made a claim otherwise.
And then what do you believe happens? o:
@Ami: Not really.
Neways, 😀 I’ve solved the problem! 😀
Teh Ami solution saves the day! 😀
Brandon, did you miss the part where your tapes would be inadmissible as evidence in most jurisdictions? Whereas if you asked the women for permission before taping them, then it would be evidence you could actually use.
*bops* :3
Time to celebrate! 😀
Also I didn’t even bother pointing this out earlier, but isn’t it interesting that Brandon seems to see consent as a one time saying yes covers anything that happens later kind of thing? His whole way of framing this isn’t “do you want to have sex with me?”, it’s “can I do things to you?”.
Again, very creepy.
and Ami wins! A camera at the door with a sign that says “videotaping in progress”. While not the best solution…at least it’s one.
@Cassandra less creepy… more cute dancing! 😀
Seriously, dude? Can’t your lawyer dad explain this shit to you? I’m not even going to touch on your conflation of permission and consent when it comes to sexy times because… I just can’t even get into that now. If you don’t understand the difference in nuance between permission and consent, especially enthusiastic consent, then you or Ashley or both of you are doing it wrong. But I digress.
Brandon, I wish there was a way to type really slowly.
Record.
Her.
Giving.
You.
Permission.
To.
Record.
Her.
“Yes, I’m Ashley, and I’m fully aware that Brandon is going record this. Tee-hee.”
Something like that. Do I need to send you a link or are you also unable to find porn on the internet? Be creative. Just be honest.
@ Ami
There’s a love song in there somewhere. Meatloaf, maybe?
Yeah, anything to avoid being upfront and honest with all those fish in the sea, beating a path to your bed.
At any rate, the whole sign on door thing really only works in public venues. I have some background in film and video production. A person can easily claim not to have noticed the sign. And you still need to get a waiver signed if you single a person out, interview them, record their performance.
You’d be better off procuring permission -as has been stated ad-fucking-nauseum- because it would not only be admissible as evidence, but much harder to disprove.
It’s like the guy who waits until his girlfriend is consensually tied up during sex to force anal because, hey, she’s consenting to sex. And he’s using lube.
@Cassandra 😀
I honestly don’t think that the idea that one time permission doesn’t cover anything he feels like doing has even occurred to him.
And I’m not getting into the permissions versus consent conversation with him either. We already know that he has difficulty processing words, and I don’t have any glove puppets around.
Slightly embarrassing question: Does embedding videos in the comments work the same way as in the forums?
*my ignorance is revealed*
I just cut and paste the embed links.
Dracula, just drop in the URL of a YouTube video and it’ll embed.
Hey Dracula, I’m not certain. The handful of times I’ve embedded a video in the comments I just pasted the link and the video showed up.
I know right?
Let’s see…
http://youtu.be/iQjgxG9JXLA
Shit.
Hearsay is when your friend testifies that you told him that she said yes. If you witnessed her consent — and you would have in this hypo, yes? — that’s admissible.
Are you talking about civil suits, then? In a criminal trial, it wouldn’t be the victim taking him to court … it would be the state. If you’re worried about civil suits, don’t. Unless you have more than half a million in assets, most attorneys won’t look at the case.
If you’re talking about criminal cases — which you might be (you’re a little muddled here, so it’s hard to tell) — I’m not sure that there’s a definite way to document consent in a way that insurmountable in a rape case. Videorecording wouldn’t do it. It’s weird that you’re hooked on this one idea that won’t protect you but also might be (in the way that you want to do it) illegal.
I also don’t want to encourage you to be cavalier about making sure that any sex you have is consensual, but on top of the numerical unlikelihood that you would ever be falsely accused of rape, there is the fact that a consent defense is pretty difficult for the state to counter without some kind of evidence of a struggle or threat. Are you sure there isn’t something else you could more profitably be worrying about?
Dracula: I usually copy-paste the link from the address bar for youtube videos. Seems to work.