Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
@Nobinayamu: Oh noes…a piece of shit! How will I live?
Umm…it might be difficult for you to understand, but unlike most people, I don’t believe that people were meant to spend their entire lives with one another. I think people meet, enjoy each others company, then part ways. Out of all my friends, I have 2 that I have known since high school. It is the natural order of things for people to grow apart. So when I am spending my time with someone, and they aren’t fulfilling their part of the bargain, I cut my losses and move on. I saves me so much wear and tear. No fighting, no bickering, no “i hate you”/ “I hate you more”…nothing. Just “this isn’t working for me anymore”. Enjoy the time you have with people, but don’t become dependent on that relationship.
If Ashley decides she wants to withhold sex, or nag, or starts emasculating me…I am out the door and she knows this. I give her what she wants, she gives me what I want. There are 3+ billion women on this planet…I wouldn’t be hard to find a replacement.
@Bee I suspect it’s his thought process is “I’d be on tape banging this hot girl, so it’d be just fine! I’d be THE MAN!” or something along those lines which is why he brought up her attractiveness xD
Apparently if a woman he finds unattractive filmed them having sex he would be upset XD
@Bee: And I already answered it…I don’t care.
@Brandon you just proved Nobinayamu’s point XD You did the “lots of fish int he sea” thing again, but it doesn’t apply when it comes to asking ppl if they consent to being taped XD
How hard does Ashley ask you to spank her when you tell her this?
@Ami: Ya, pretty much. Shit like this happens and society acts in a way completely opposite that what you might expect. I doubt I would be damaged in any meaningful way.
There are 3+ billion women on this planet…I wouldn’t be hard to find a replacement.
That’s going to be a lot of tapes… xD
@Moewicus: Why? Is someone not spanking you?
What are ways that you could be damaged that would be meaningful to you? Or ways that you could damage others that you would consider meaningful? o:
@Ami: Who knows. But I don’t plan on running for office nor do I have some high paying job with a bunch of conservative moral stiffs around me. So I can’t see it as that damaging. People in America are fickle. It would show up, get some views and go away.
Do you feel this applies to other ppl too? As in you feel comfortable doing this to others b/c you don’t believe it damages them?
Like do you believe this damage is subjective (i.e. it wouldn’t bother YOU, so it’s not a big deal if it’s done to you) or objective (it wouldn’t be damaging to others who aren’t running for office regardless of how they personally feel)? o:
Brandon, you don’t know a fucking thing about what I think about monogamy, long term relationships, the viability of friendships or any of the other shit your flinging at the wall. You know why? Because I haven’t written anything on those topics because whether or not you have friends, or miss people, or bicker or whatever has not been and is not the topic of discussion. You don’t depend on relationships. So fucking what? This doesn’t make you particularly extraordinary or interesting, nor do I think it makes you a bad person.
Being willing to violate a sexual partner through dishonesty is what this discussion is about. Not whether Ashley’s cute enough to be a porn star, or how you cut your losses. Your cavalier attitude about violating a sexual partner is what makes you a piece of shit. Not your willingness to break up with your girlfriend. I’ve broken up with lots of dudes; big whoop.
Brandon, there are lots of men for whom this statement is totally true. But you are not one of them. If you were then you’d have no problem telling a casual sexual partner, “Hey, if it’s cool, I’d like to record this.” The only thing she could say would be “no”, right? And you’d move right along to the next one. Believe me, I have guy friends who can get women to send them deeply intimate photos via text after a single meeting. If they wanted to record some sort of consent verification or, fuck it, the entire act they’d just ask.
You aren’t that guy. Never have been. Never will be. And you and I both know that you wouldn’t be open an honest about it because you’re pretty sure you wouldn’t get laid.
Simple as that.
Okay, well, that’s consistent at least. Now you just have to work on realizing that other people may not want the exact same things you would want — you know, being different people and all — and then respecting their autonomy.
For example, and I’m trying to put this in terms you can understand — some of the women you’ve taped may be embarrassed to be seen with someone like you.
@Nobinayamu: So wrong you are. But just for shits and giggles. I offer you a challenge. Give me some tangible way to protect oneself (or anyone else) from a false rape accusation…and I won’t even give taping another thought. Not love, or trust…but something I can physically hand to my lawyer that would help prove my innocence if I was ever wrongfully accused.
@Bee: For the one millionth time, 1) I don;t even own a video camera 2) I haven’t taped anyone and 3) I just got the idea yesterday from dangerandplay’s website.
“I feel so violated around you”
I know this is jumping back a ways into the conversation, but this particular phrasing has been bothering me, ever since I read it. Here it is again:
“I feel so violated around you”
Now here it is, edited to actually fit the situation we’re talking about:
“I feel so violated [by what you did to me.]”
See the difference?
Give me some tangible way to protect oneself (or anyone else) from a false rape accusation…and I won’t even give taping another thought. Not love, or trust…but something I can physically hand to my lawyer that would help prove my innocence if I was ever wrongfully accused.
Nobody can be 100% protected from everything. -_- Technically, I’m safer if I do various illegal things to make sure no guy can rape me, or that I have proof if they did… but I don’t b/c they’re illegal…
Somebody could accuse you of scamming them, stealing something you borrowed from them, or all sorts of other “his word vs yours” things… do you tape EVERY interaction you have with everybody ever? XD
@Bee: For the one millionth time, 1) I don;t even own a video camera 2) I haven’t taped anyone and 3) I just got the idea yesterday from dangerandplay’s website.
And if you and Ashley break up, will you start taping your encounters from now on? :3
Sure I am. About what exactly?
Brandon, I realize that you aren’t the sharpest knife in the drawer but you can’t really be this thick. Can you? Because I’ve already said it, at least half a dozen times. And so have other posters. I think your paranoia about false rape accusations is outsized and not based in reality but if it’s legitimate, so be it. Record away. Surely you’ve seen the intros on “amateur” porn. Tape the lady giggling in agreement, anticipation and lust. Tape her in post coital bliss. Hell, if she’s down, film the whole she-bang and whack off to your collection like James Spader.
Just. Get. Her. Permission.
Be open and honest and about what you want, (like you insist you are) why you want it and give her the choice of consenting, not just to sex, but to having herself, her body and her performance of sexual acts recorded. Such evidence should more than satisfy your need to hand something over to an attorney. And you’ll have procured it without: 1) committing any crimes, presuming she’s of age and 2) being a fucking dick.
He’s v circumspect for a guy who doesn’t think he’s doing anything wrong. xD
@Ami: I am not even asking for 100% protection. Just something…anything! That can be handed over to law enforcement, lawyers, the court system to help (not guarantee) a defense.
Also, businesses have the nice little benefit of installing cameras everywhere to protect their shit.
I wonder what these guys think happen when a woman accuses them of rape, and what they think the burden of proof is? o: Step by step what do they think happens? XD Cuz they seem to think “no evidence of me raping them” isn’t ever enough to avoid them going to jail.
So then you can put a sign on your apartment saying “by stepping into this apartment you consent to being taped” right? :3
That covers ALL your bases xD Including that women who want to falsely accuse you will not want to come in 😀
Attention: this area monitored by closed-circuit camera
Also, there’s a reason they’re not allowed to put them in the toilets, Brandon.
@Ami: I am not even asking for 100% protection. Just something…anything! That can be handed over to law enforcement, lawyers, the court system to help (not guarantee) a defense.
You sound desperate and rly scared. Is this honestly a big big fear of yours? o:
@Nobinayamu: And how can that permission be documented in a way that doesnt boil down to hearsay? That’s the whole point of false rape accusations. The man got permission… then she took him to court and made a claim otherwise.