Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
Yeah, I own all of the Chappelle Show box sets. Even the last season. It was a funny joke then, it’s no less funny now.
What’s your point, Brandon? In your scenario there’s no good reason to violate a woman and put yourself at risk for criminal charges -you may have noticed that even in our society of constant surveillance, this kind of secret, illegal recording stuff is still prosecuted- because you can gain evidence of consent without doing so.
But you’re still arguing that your way is not only better, but what you’re going to do if you and Ashley don’t make it. Which is funny for a lot of reasons, one of which is your prior claim that you’d never recorded sex to verify consent when you were seeing multiple partners.
p.s., also FOUL the results, not FOWL (cluck cluck).
Sorry, englishteachermoment.
One good thing coming out of this “FRA” paranoia is that at least guys like Brandon are concerned about consent. A side effect of this whole “I’ll record her explicit consent!” master plan is that he’s asking for explicit consent.
So that’s nice I guess.
And yet, Holly, he’s not worried about anyone consenting to be filmed giving that consent. It’s meta!
You know Holly, I agree with you as far as that goes. I think it’s good for everyone to think about consent; explicit and enthusiastic consent. Men should think about it, women should think about it.
But it’s hard for me to praise the fact that Brandon knows he needs consent, when he’s hell bent for leather in regards to not giving a fuck about consent when it comes to recording sex. It’s so disengenuous and hypocritical and completely unnecessary even in the scenarios he’s laid out as hypotheticals.
it’s fucking gross.
Holy crap, EMPATHY. Now, do you have the same kind of feeling toward the VICTIMS of rape?
This isn’t South Park, you can’t pull a “The truth lies somewhere in the middle” with statistics that actual people have studied. Look at what Bee said and then think again.
Hey Sharculese, you haven’t been here in a while, but Brandon self-identifies as a libertarian and ALSO believes that taxes are morally equivalent to violent theft. I imagine it’s the mental equivalent of attempting to keep a vacuum cleaner band at full tension between your outstretched hands all day every day, but he holds these beliefs at the same time, seemingly without effort.
Ninjaed.
A very nice summation on Brandon’s entire Manboobz oeuvre.
Also, does anyone else here get just the…wrong sort of feeling from the phrase “my little audio recorder”? I’m imagining someone licking their lips as they say it.
Ah, Sharculese, ILU XD
“I also, don’t keep my wallet in plain sight of girls that I just met. I learned my lesson when I woke up and all my cash was gone.”
I guess this is the horrible thing that happened to Brandon that made him so paranoid?
Brandon, as a fellow casual fucker, I’d like to recommend you look for local swingers groups or orgy groups in your area. Many of them get to know each other at casual plainclothes meetups beforehand. That way you can get to know lots of people AND fuck lots of people without having to be creepy! No more of this “one random girl that I wouldn’t trust near my wallet”, more like “this one random girl that I can ask my friends about because they have known her for several years” or “this one random girl that I am fucking at a venue instead of my house so my Wii is safe”. There are many less nutty ways to have safer casual sex.
I guess what that fellow meant was that Brandon has been enthusiastically and repeatedly committing intellectual Seppuku.
Dear Brandon, any working scientist will tell you that not all studies are made equal. Ten poorly designed studies are not worth even one well designed one, and the results of the other ten do not mitigate the conclusions of the one. There’s no golden medium between badly collected knowledge and well collected knowledge. Here is that post on manboobz I mentioned some time ago.
http://manboobz.com/2010/11/11/mens-rights-myth-false-rape-accusations/
I gather you have not put any effort into learning more as of yet.
@ithiliana: I don’t report to a board or a committee, nor do I have too. I am not publishing research papers, I am contemplating ways to cover my ass.
@Nobinayamu: Again, I got the idea from dangerandplay’s website. I didn’t really think about taping people during sex when I started dating Ashley. As of now, I trust her so I see no reason to do it.
@Voip: I have sympathy towards any victim of violence. Whether it be a mugging, prison rape, male-female rape, assault and battery, etc…Violence is really the last resort and should only be used for defense.
Even if it was only 2-8%, when viewed at from a number of incidences/per 100,000, it is still 1800-7200 false accusations per year if 90,000 rapes were reported. I don’t really think that number is insignificant, especially if you are one of those 2-8%.
Also, the odds of dying from a plane crash are miniscule, but we as a society go completely overboard with airport security. Why are they so paranoid about it? Because it is easily controlled (everyone must get screened by TSA agents) and because the results are devastating if it happens. So it isn’t so much about the odds of something happening, but how much damage is actually caused by the incident. If airplane crashes didn’t really cause that much damage to people and property, then the hysteria would most likely be far less. Being falsely accused of a serious felony, can ruin you and you can’t recover from it.
@Molly: Oh, I am sorry. I should just lay all my valuable shit around so people can steal it from me. Keeping valuable things out of sight doesn’t make me paranoid, it makes me prudent. I give people the opportunity to be seen as trustworthy, but until I trust them, I only trust them with insignificant stuff.
Why would I look for casual flings now? I am in a committed relationship. If that dissolves, then that is a different story. I also find the whole “swinger club” and “orgies” to be slightly creepy. But hey, whatever floats your boat.
@Moewicus: Ya…like David F is even remotely objective. What next? Are you going to post links to angryharry.com? You can’t really be objective when the results can strengthen or hurt your side. That’s like having a Patriots fan ref a game with the Pats playing …completely biased even if unintentional. Just like I think the MRA stats are crap, studies conducted by feminist think tanks and shills are just as dubious.
And honestly, this site is a parody website. It falls under the category of “humor” not “level headed scientific studies”
Bitches cheat like crazy, everyone knows it. The reason that women and fembots are always saying men are the nasy cheaters is nothing short of projection.
I remember a girlfriend I had a few years back was constantly accusing me of cheating. She even accused me of cheating with a friend of mine who is a full-on dyke, yes, she was that bad with it.
Trouble was it was she who was doing the cheating the whole time.
That said, I handled it well, I didn’t break up with her, I merely used it as opportunity to begin cheating on her, and I did it alot. I even made her suck my dick, unshowered, after I just boned another bitch at her place. Often times when she’d get upset with me, and she started crying, I’d bring up all the fucked up shit from her past, and she’d start crying even more – then I’d made her suck my dick while she was crying.
That’s how you handle a woman who cheats.
Looks like I missed a hell of a party.
kirby:
Ah. That expalins why all the men are in prison, as Holly’s pointed out.
So how does not having sex with someone protect a person from false accusations?
Brandon:
Isn’t that the point of having law? To protect society from people who only take their own risks into account?
kirby:
I’m guessing he doesn’t, since I get the sense that in Brandonworld, women have no fear whatsoever of FRA, and rape of women doesn’t happen to Brandon and so is irrelevant.
Nobinayamu:
I suspect he’s going for the common PUA argument that men are divided into people who have “natural Game” and people who have to learn it. That makes the books and seminars no more objectionable than wearing contact lenses.
Slavey:
And the guy said “me? You’re the one with the dirty pictures.”
Brandon:
I love how he gives a response that doesn’t even touch on whether it’s acceptible behavior.
Brandon:
Yeah. If you’re that untrusting you may want to weigh that against the disadvantages of celibacy, though again, if you’re that untrusting I’d think you wouldn’t find celibacy much protection.
Also, since you’re saying here that you don’t trust anyone, how do you have sex with Ashley?
I don’t think video is the only available defense. But it’s true that if you surreptitiously record all your encounters you’ll never be falsely accused of rape.
Brandon:
Do you understand why it’s disturbing that when people say “don’t have sex with women you don’t trust” what you hear is “don’t have sex”?
Brandon!
All psychologists can retire now, Brandon has identified the only two personality types in the world.
NullPointer:
I imagine if they’re all, as it were, huddled together for protection, there is such a code, both to prevent cracks being taken advantage of by their many powerful enemies and to ensure they have each others’ backs in the case of some external threat.
Bee:
And, Simon, you wanna know why they won’t be believed? Because of assholes who say that if a drunk woman is raped, it’s fate. Know anyone like that?
A group of people getting together to have honest, enthusiastically consensual, safe sex? “Creepy”.
Secretly and illegally recording a woman who has consented to sex with you but not consented to being to being recorded? What violation?
Fucking gross.
Oh I see, Brandon’s a scientist. That makes illegal recording all okay, apparently.
Exactly what “results” would taping/recording a woman consenting interfere with? The results of getting laid? Actually, it probably would because if some guy is paranoid enough about being accused of rape, that’s probably not a guy most women would spend time around. But if the result is not getting a false rape accusation (I’m guessing because I have absolutely no idea what results he’s talking about) isn’t that exactly what you want in the first place?
Oh, so you DO cheat on Ashley, after all?
That’s assuming what’s quoted is true, of course. I have a rule about taking people’s statements at face values unless I have a good basis to be suspicious, and these PUA’s — everything from their video-game jargon to justifying misogyny in the most bizarre imaginable way reeks of wish-fulfillment. So yes, my guess is that “game” mostly consists of frustrated men living in a fantasy world and bragging to each other.
After all, women too, speak from experience. I have had the whole “brash and aloof” bullshit tried on me, and it’s laughable. A man who isn’t attractive to me because he is stupid, ignorant, embraces arcane values and has no looks to compensate for any of that, doesn’t suddenly acquire magnetism any more than steamed Brussels sprouts become tastier now that no one is trying to force me to eat them. (O Vomitous Abomination! Thank you for not being shoved in front of me anymore, with a side of a lecture on how good you are for my health (the “caring and attentive” part). Though you stink up whatever room you are in something fierce (the “brash” part) while staying the hell of my plate (the “aloof” part), I still say with absolute certainty that I would rather have my lifespan shortened by 20 years than eat you.)
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One of the funniest things about the whole FRA hysteria is the hilariously contradictory belief that the overwhelming majority of women falsely accuse men of rape because they are hateful, lying bitches — but at the same time, they only accuse men they’ve actually had sex with. Seriously, if women make up shit like that out of whole cloth all the time, and courts convict men solely on women’s testimony without without any physical evidence, why is that women stop short of accusing men that they haven’t fucked at all?
@ Brandon: I don’t report to a board or a committee, nor do I have too. I am not publishing research papers, I am contemplating ways to cover my ass.
I know you don’t, but your ‘ways of covering your ass’ are about as fucking wrong as what you compared them to–i.e. “scientists.” Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong.
Totally and completely wrong.
WRONG.
Brandon, you seem to be estimating your chance of being accused of rape on the number of all rape accusations that are false, rather than the number of false accusations per the number of sex acts. Since you are not raping people the number you should be concerned with is the total number of sex acts per year. Looking at the Kinsey Institute’s numbers and the U.S. census numbers it seems that you have considerably less than a one in a million chance of being falsely accused of rape. Now I did not correct for decreased sexual frequency in the over 49 cohort, but given the higher population in the younger cohort I felt I could safely ignore this detail for a cursory examination. Anyhow with an average of over 3 partnered sexual encounters per month for Americans over the age of 15 and given 239,596,828 people in that cohort we have 8,625,485,808 partnered sex acts per year. To use your numbers there are as many as 7,200 false rape accusations per year. Ignoring for the moment the incidences of false rape accusations in which there was no sex act, that is one false rape accusation per 1,197,984.14 sexual acts. You are advocating criminally violating another human’s rights in order to have a tool to protect yourself from an event that is literally less than a one in a million chance.
<blockquote.@Voip: I have sympathy towards any victim of violence. Whether it be a mugging, prison rape, male-female rape, assault and battery, etc…Violence is really the last resort and should only be used for defense.
So, you are capable of reading the words that I type. Awesome. Now what about my and Amused’s point that, since things work out better for you when you don’t provoke hostility, not being a fucking wanker is actually the most rational choice from the perspective of self-interest?
And what does rape have to do with “Violence is really the last resort and should only be used for defense”? Seriously, man, the things you post don’t follow one upon the other. You type like someone fed the contents of a bunch of libertarian/MRA websites into a random word generator and hit “frappe”.
Lolling over here.
@Nugganu: Cool story bro.
The last time we were over this, he danced around the issue and the clearest statement we could get out of him was that he wasn’t opposed to doing so, in principle, and if she didn’t like it she was welcome to leave. Now, whether any actual cheating is going on or whether this is the self-involved fantasy of a lonely manchild is, in fact, open to debate.
Nobinayamu: Yah, I dunno why I even tried to give him advice. Naturally one man picking up one untrustworthy woman at a bar means you have better “Game” than cultivating relationships with a group of people that you can then fuck regularly for years!