Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
I wonder how many of them are self-aware enough to cut out the middleman, tell amazing stories about their amazing sex lives, and then go home happy?
I’m not even making fun of that. It seems like a workable solution; the only danger is of spectators not realizing that’s what’s going on and trying to emulate it in real life. If everyone was aware on some level that all that matters is the sex you say you have, these guys could all have a peaceful solution to their needs.
Ok, not really.
That is assuming they’re not just making up stories about real women they know in order to impress their buddies. I remember a guy in high school that would tell fictional stories of his exploits in the guys’ locker room. He named names, and made a lot of girls very mad. Thankfully, everyone knew he was full of shit. The key to your solution is that the women they talk about “conquering” have to be fictional.
“I think that Eat, Pray, Love was about some woman cheating on her husband.”
According to Wikipedia, it was about the author’s life after her divorce.
It was still a shittacular piece of shit, but apparently it wasn’t about infidelity.
Does anyone else see this as wildly unethical? Because I sure do. Sure, safe sex is important and can reduce risk greatly, but it’s not perfect, and if one of his “stranges” happens to give him a disease not only has he given someone else a disease through his irresponsibility he has likely lost his girlfriend as well.
On top of dangerously irresponsible, he’s a coward, too. Initially I read this as regulating one’s girlfriend by letting her know that there are better options for him, but he doesn’t even take that manipulative line that far. It’s just about knowing you can.
Antsy said:
Antsy, do you stay away from all men as well? You never know when another man might accuse you of raping him, or threatening him, or stealing something from him. Do you ever interact with children? Yikes.
Maybe what you should do is avoid humanity altogether.
Then again, if those risks are too small to justify avoiding all members of those categories, well, so too are the risks of interacting with women.
I thought Eat, Pray, Love was about a recently divorced woman, not a cheating woman. Maybe I’m wrong, never read/saw it.
Holly, the problem is the self-deception. They know how much action they are, or aren’t getting, but they believe action is possible. They are convinced that there are guys out there who have, “THE SECRET” and get all the sex they want.
But they are sure that there is some PUA who has figured out, “THE SECRET” so they have to keep chasing after El Dorado, because someone, somewhere might not be lying, and then all the tall tales they tell become wortheless.
If they all knew they were all lying, it would be easy,but the lies would no longer serve a purpose, so they have to believe there is, “THE SECRET.
And they are right. There is a secret and the secret is
1: Knowing how much sex you want.
2: Treating other people as people, not things (what Kant meant by, “People are not means to an end, but an end in themselves.
3: Being honest with those people they interact with.
If they can do the second, all the others become possible, but they refuse to do the second. Women are, “other”, and “lesser” and means to an end (status with other men who hate women).
Since women are people, treating them as things is a short road to faillure, which makes them bitter.
This is a good solution as long as the women they claim to “conquer” are fictional or anonymous. It wouldn’t be right for them to name real life women as their partners.
Oops, sorry to double post, David. I had computer problems.
I could be wrong on that book-I find those kinds of books to be…irritating so I never read it.
Sadly, Pecunium, you’re probably right.
I think a lot of them are also obsessed with the idea of a completely internal locus of control. They’re willing to accept the idea that they got turned down because their Game was off or they were Beta, but not the woman made her own decision to turn them down.
And so the ultimate goal is to be so Alpha that you can control all women.
have lives filled with “PEACE AND FREEDOM!!!!”
What library is this guy going to? Or did I miss the grand opening of Barnes & FemiNoble?
female infidelity = women making their own decisions about who they sleep with
pretty sure that’s what he means -_-
I want to know where you can take classes on cheating on your partner. (I mean, besides PUA seminars.)
My local adult-ed center has classes on public speaking, “Massage for Partners” (one of those things I can’t even conceive of in PUA-world, what with the distressing vulnerability and dangerous intimacy it requires), hand-tool wordworking, and a workshop on mushroom hunting, but somehow I don’t see a listing for “Learn to Cheat For Fun And Profit!”
LMFAO! I posted a comment on Fernando’s blog post which he rather maturely changed to something else. Fuck it’s hilarious! Check it out!
Not Fernando…whatever his name is…
Could you link us to this person who has some sort of name that isn’t Fernando?
Otherwise I can’t check it out.
Joanna, what did you say originally?
It’s the blog post that this blog post is about =P. Scroll down to the comments http://dangerandplay.wordpress.com/2011/10/13/why-you-should-cheat-on-your-girlfriend/
It’s the first link in David’s post.
felicBC: Something about not wanting to sleep with a guy who’s involved with someone else cos they get clingy and then can’t/won’t decide between 2 girls and hate that they see other people…. But put a little more eloquently.
I think we can safely assume that all the sex this man has had was imaginary*. He has no clue what to do with response from an actual woman, even one safely at a distance on the internet.
*Or one of those real doll thingies.
Oh, yeah. I read that one before it he changed it. Well said.
I’m pretty sure a lot of the comments that make this guy out to be a god were changed too. Ronan Wills said nothing of the sort when I first commented.
So this guy edits or straight up rewrites comments on his blog to make it look like people think he’s awesome? Yeah, I’m sure he’s nothing less than scrupulously honest in reporting how women he’s has sex with.