Here’s the bravely anonymous alpha blogger behind “Danger & Play ~ An online magazine for alpha males” explaining “Why You Should Cheat on Your Girlfriend.” I’ve bolded my favorite bit:
Haters will tell you to, “Man up! Break up with your girlfriend if you’re not happy.” They are missing the point. You want to have your cake, and to eat it too. Steady, reliable pussy and the occasional strange is the best of all worlds.
Cheating is a lot of fun, and it’s something I highly recommend. It’s way more exhilarating than bungee jumping, and few things feel as good as banging your girlfriend on the same day you banged some strange.
Cheating keeps your game tight. The best way to regulate your girlfriend is knowing you can bang chicks as hot or hotter than your girl. Well, when you cheat, this isn’t hypothetical. It’s reality.
Somehow I’m guessing there’s a lot more “hypothetical” than “reality” going on in this guy’s posts.
You don’t want an exclusive relationship? Fine. There’s no law saying you have to be in one. You can date casually and non-exclusively. You can have an open or polyamorous relationship. There are a lot of people out there in relationships, yet happily fucking other people outside of them. They’re just above board with it.
But that’s not what’s going on with our PUA friend here. With his talk about “regulat[ing]” girlfriends, he seems more interested in fucking over his girlfriend (assuming such a creature really exists) than he is in fucking strangers (sorry, “stranges”).
That’s not “Game.” That’s just being a dick.
But, hey, Nietzsche! He’s BEYOND GOOD AND EVIL! Or, as he puts it in a comment, “Shame and guilt are beta.”
You know, if you have to go around telling everyone what an Nietzschean ubermensch you are, you’re probably aren’t much of a Nietzschean ubermensch.
Hee hee… I didn’t realize alphas have the maturity of a five-year-old… That’s another edited comment! Shame I didn’t start screen-capping earlier…
Ah well.
What’s this about Brandon now? Still trying to justify his grand and ingenious plan to never be falsely accused of rape? Amazing he manages to get up in the morning, he might get struck by lightning or eaten by a land shark.
@Voip: While I tend to be introverted (I would rather read a book than go out and drink with a bunch of people), no one has said I behave as if I have Aspergers or any other mental illness. Nor do I think I have one. I just view life from a different perspective and have different priorities.
I empathize with people I have an emotional bond with: My friends, family, girlfriends. Not some random girl I met and have known for a few hours. If I empathized with everyone, I would be an emotional trainwreck and wouldn’t get anything accomplished. So I pick and choose who I empathize with. I will go above and beyond to protect my mother and father…I will just walk past the drunk chick that is throwing up in the street.
Paranoid and creepy? Ya to you. Whoopty doo. I have seen men been thought of as creepy with one girl only to have another girl fall all over them when he said the same thing. People react differently You might see it as creepy, while others will see it as cold, calculating and shrewd. I don’t walk around this life with the intension of living the way the women who comment on “manboobz” want me to live. So think I am creepy all you want. You are nobody and in the grand scheme of things, It doesn’t really matter.
Ya, I am not hoarding gold. I just think right now it is a good investment. If society collapsed, clothing, food, cars, gasoline, batteries, bullets and guns would be far more valuable. But I highly doubt that society is going to collapse. I do however think the government/The Fed will continue spending massive amounts of money and inflating the dollar to the point where it is useless. So I am long gold with a trailing stop so if it moves against me, my position will sell and I won’t have a loss.
If anything, I make decisions so that whatever happens, I don’t lose out.
@Kirby: It’s actually land whales. I avoid them at all costs.
So maybe you should only have sex with your friends and girlfriends.
Is that so unreasonable? Some people are able to build up enough trust with a stranger to feel safe with the intimate exposure and vulnerability casual sex requires, and you don’t seem to be one of them. So casual sex is not for you.
“Alcohol is evil, sXe for life!”
1) While it’s fine that you think that, do you also believe that people who disagree with you deserve to get raped? Because that’s what NWO was arguing, and there’s a huge difference between “Wow, I was so drunk last night, that sex was awful” and getting raped.
2) sXe? Seriously? Chin up, kid, life gets way better after middle school.
Remember when I said that this was about your actions, not your feelings? I didn’t ask you to feel any one way or another toward people, just not be a jerk toward them. And I really like how your example of “someone you don’t feel anything about” is ‘a drunk chick throwing up in the street.” Your misogyny is showing.
Insofar as your actions are provoking hostility from other people, you are already losing out. Behaving in a more empathy-like way towards others is actually more “cold, calculating and shrewd” than the way you are behaving right now. This is my point.
If you treat other people well, they’ll probably associate you with positive emotions and want to treat you well later. Altruism isn’t ” lovey dovey bleeding heart,” it’s more efficient than selfishness.
These false rape accusations being tossed about… where are they?
I’ve been in communities where casual sex with strangers was common. None of them were ever charged with rape (barring the rare case of statutory).
Over 20 years in those communities, thousands of people having sex hundreds of thousands of times… none of them charged with rape.
Amazing.
Those communities are also communities in which consent is a big deal (perhaps because so many people were having so much sex, often with people they had just met).
Maybe that’s the reason. People got consent, and that meant people weren’t actually committing rapes. If people don’t feel raped, perhaps they don’t accuse people of rape.
Brandon, when you are finally arrested/(sued?) for recording people having sex without their knowledge, there’s not going to be a lot of sympathy for the “but I’ve heard false rape statistics are anywhere from 2 to 60 percent! Why am I supposed to stop having sex with people I’ve only known for a few hours just because I don’t trust them?” argument.
Yep, so does everybody else. But not violating the rights of people you don’t have a special bond with is something everyone has to do in order for society to function. You don’t have to help them or go out of your way at all, you just have to not videotape them having sex without their consent.
“It’s actually land whales. I avoid them at all costs.”
GET IT GUYS FAT PEOPLE ARE FUNNY
@Voip: The gender was actually irrelevant. I would feel the same way about some frat boy throwing up in the street.
Ya, I don’t see me losing out. I have a good family, great friends and a sweet girlfriend. So far, life is pretty damn good. If I am losing out, then what is winning?
@Null: Can I tape them throwing up and post it up on YouTube?
@Brandon: Legally? I think so, if they’re in a public space. Ethically? I wouldn’t do it, on the off chance someone important to them would see it and it would damage their reputation. But if I heard about someone else doing it I’d be more inclined to think “that’s kind of dumb and immature” than “that is a horrible thing to do and I’m angry”. Meh.
@Null: You know how to not damage your reputation? Don’t get so wasted that you are throwing up in the street.
Alpha: PUA-speak for a man with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
How about a chick who’s not drunk throwing up in the street? Would you walk by too? If you were throwing up in the street, would you want someone to help you? Do you think that if some stranger spends a few seconds dialing 911, he is “losing” by helping you?
Once your girlfriend finds out that you cheat on her with women that you videotape without their consent, she’ll dump you. When you family finds out, they will lose respect for you. They may stand by you in a criminal prosecution because, while you are shit, you are their shit, but they will see you for what you are, and their further relationship with you will be about preserving their reputation, not promoting you. When your friends find out, they might stick around as long as they are the same immature circle-jerking Galt wannabes as yourself. But once they start families and careers, and especially after they have kids, they won’t have anything to do with you, believe me.
You lose because sociopathic behavior ultimately leads to you being alone, unloved, forgotten and uncared for.
You also lose because you commit sex crimes and save the evidence.
Life isn’t about winning vs. losing. You think precisely in the kinds of dichotomies that are so common to very young people who draw their “wisdom” from Hollywood movies and middle-brow books, and haven’t yet given their brains any serious exercise. Life is about solving problems, being a respectable, productive member of society, and leading a moral life that does not revolve around deliberately hurting people just because they aren’t your “friends”. A big part of life is also making occasional deposits into the social favor bank, because almost everyone needs to make a withdrawal at some point. As of now, you have a negative balance there.
Not acting in a way that will probably provoke hostility from others later. The way you describe your own actions, it sounds like you have the potential to create a lot of hurt feelings, anger, or resentment. That’s more people out there who are angry at you, and more potential sources of trouble for you, or fewer potential sources of help.
Making positive contacts with more people than just your friends, so that if you need something from them later they will feel like helping you. The more positive contacts you make, the more useful it is for you (and also for the people you are interacting with).
To explain the favor bank thing: the toes you step on today may be connected to an ass you’ll have to kiss tomorrow.
Oof, Amused said it better than I did. ):
Okay… but that doesn’t imply that I’m obligated to be the Bad Decision Police and tell everyone you know about it if I come upon you throwing up in the street. Putting aside any arguments about whether it would be ethical for me to put a video of you puking on Youtube, I just wouldn’t have any desire to do so.
Then why push them along, except out of malice toward them? It’s not like the camera leapt into your hand and compelled you to film them, you also have a choice here. Forget helping this person, just not hurting them sounds like a step up.
@Amused: Probably not. I would just walk by her in a effort to not get any of it on me.
1) I am not cheating on Ashley.
2) I am not taping anyone. I am just taking the pro-taping side of this issue.
3) I think my friends and family would be more upset with the woman who was falsely accusing me.
4) In the end, we are all forgotten. I don’t plan on having children or getting married. And I have accepted the drawbacks of those decisions. I still see the pro’s greatly outnumber the cons.
5) Life is about accomplishing goals and in order to do that, you have to actually overcome them (hence winning).
6) I am a productive member of society. I work enough to support myself and my basic needs. I see no need to overwork myself.
Alright, granted I haven’t been following the thread too closely… but how did we get from illegally taping people having sex with you to putting up videos of people puking on Youtube? And why does it matter?
Ah well, on our way to another 1,000 comment thread, so I can’t complain too much.
Oh, you mean you aren’t actually committing sexual exploitation, you are just pro-sexual exploitation side of the issue? Yeah, I can see how Ashley will TOTALLY side with you on that.
I think your friends and family, as well as the general public would be more upset with you for committing sex crimes against all the women who are not falsely accusing you. They would be equally upset with you for being pro-committing sex crimes against all the women who haven’t done a thing to harm you. I’d venture a guess they might also be upset with you for videotaping someone who turns out to be sick and posting it on Youtube for laughs.
Yeah, but some are forgotten sooner than others. Right now, you only see it as a pro — needy people leaving you the hell alone. Time will come when you will see it as a con — people who you want to do things for you, but don’t give a fuck about you. Marriage and children have nothing to do with this.
Well, if your goal is to be a pathetic douchebag, then I guess, congratulations? Ms. Winner?
Not hurting people = overworking oneself? Who knew?
@ kirby – The common element seems to be “creepy things that Brandon fantasizes about doing”.