What do women want? Freud never found a definitive answer to his famous question, but the blogger who calls himself Delusion Damage thinks he’s got it figured out: women want men who can kill people with their bare hands.
DD is a sort of compound MRA-PUA who argues for “Men’s Liberation Through ‘Game,’” as he put it in a Spearhead post some months ago. Apparently, if dudes learn how to get the hot babes to give them strings-free sexy times, through the magic of “game,” this will help to “reduce the unilateral enslavement of men through marriage.”
And what attracts the ladies more than the ability to kill? Not much, apparently. If you’ve got that magic killing touch, everyone around you will sense your manly power:
You are a man. A man is a survivor, a hunter, a protector of loved ones. The essence of manliness is controlled power. … That is what women love and what other men respect. Women, most of them anyway, are unable to use force and must rely on men where force is required. … If you lack the ability to kill other people with your bare hands, you will be perceived as if something is missing from your manliness. …
If you can kill, the ladies will pick up on this instantly:
[H]aving the ability substantially raises the value she instinctively perceives you to have. Which, as we know, leads to all manner of good things.
I believe he’s referring to blowjobs.
Oh, and other dudes will be impressed, too:
The respect of other men is also greatly influenced by your killing ability. Up until graduation from high school, the male social hierarchy has a great deal to do with “who can beat up whom”, and although the hierarchy among adult men is more dependent on social and professional status signals, men never stop instinctively evaluating you by what they perceive your killing ability to be, and respecting or disrespecting you accordingly.
And this will set you apart from all the wimpy emo hipsters of the world, who couldn’t even fight a girl:
If there is a “defining” degree of killing ability that makes you “manly”, it is defined by comparison with the female of the species. …
In these dismal times, men who fall short of this line are not terribly rare. Many of the emaciated hipsters and cubicle-dwellers of our generation would have trouble against a Juanita from a rougher neighborhood. These men, due to their lack of killing ability, are seen as unmanly by both men and women.
Meanwhile, your ability to kill will make others sit up and take notice:
The ability to kill makes your feelings relevant. If you lose your temper, someone dies.
This of course implies good things about you – the fact that you aren’t in jail right now means that you are a man in control of his emotions. A man who never loses his temper. Everyone around you subconsciously understands this and respects you for it. It lets people know they can trust you.
Yeah, nothing screams “trustworthy” more than a guy going on and on about how he could kill you with his bare hands.
Also, the ability to kill can help to prevent the ladies from blabbing endlessly about their stupid lady crap to you:
A woman who knows, without a shadow of a doubt, that she will have less than three seconds to live from the second she makes you lose your temper is not going to set out to intentionally poke and prod you past your breaking point.
Aw, yeah, it’s good to be a potential bare-hands killer:
[Y]ou will be afforded a completely unprecedented kind of respect. …
When you are The Man, everyone around takes note. It is a form of celebrity. Women gravitate to you, pulled by the invisible streams of attention, respect and deference which we all subconsciously sense in any social situation.
Given the sort of adoring attention DD must get from the ladies, it’s sort of amazing that he finds time to even keep up a blog at all.
Yes, good men don’t put up too long with abusive women.
But women have considerably more possibility to choose on the dating market (when they are young, most of them can easily attract hundreds of suitors, which seldom happens to men).
The more suitors you had at your peak, the more faulty you are if you end up with a jerk. It means you were unable to love a person for his moral qualities. You looked for something else, jerkness, money, whatever.
When I hear that a Hollywood star was battered, I just think she is a bitch who deserved it.
But according to you, obvious pathological jealousy and being a control-freak is “romantic” and “sweet”.
Just want to point out that no, Ozy does not believe that being an abuser is “romantic” and “sweet.” Rather, she’s saying that abusers are often good at appearing to be “romantic” and “sweet” instead of or in addition to their negative characteristics, such that they can develop long-term relationships in which “abuse becomes the new normal.”
And no, Paniorpa, it is impossible to argue that Good people carry around some sort of “detect evil” power all the time. We’re not fucking Paladins. This is the real world, and good can be stupid, or deceived–and evil is very, very skilled at deceiving good. That’s why evil happens, instead of just being thwarted like it’s some sort of Dudley Do-Right episode.
Well … you’re just a horrible person, then, I guess.
Hundreds. Of. Suitors.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. *tear* *stop for breath* HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Yes, hundreds of suitors. Riiight. And those of them who are abusers are kind enough to give you the appropriate red flags: like drown cute puppies as a hubby, beat up old people, hold illiberal positions on world politics, curl their eyebrows in an evil fashion, and otherwise behave like cartoon villains.
Also, just learned: men only love women for their moral qualities. Looks, like, totally don’t matter. BWAH-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA-HA!!!
“When I hear that a Hollywood star was battered, I just think she is a bitch who deserved it.”
This tells me you are a horrible person. And, by your own logic, an abuser. Kinda makes sense then, that you create all these rationalizations for abuse.
Panorpia, what a gem you are. I bet women who get raped deserve it too, right?
You’re awful. Abuse doesn’t discriminate between good and bad people.
I told NWO to grow a brain earlier, you can grow a soul.
Maybe suitor isn’t the good word (english isn’t my first language). But most teenage girls are able to attract the attention of hundreds of males (provided they live in a city or spend some time in clubs and dating sites).
But maybe this was too long ago and you don’t remember. But this is the truth, and this is why some women feel harassed by the continual sexual attention they get.
If you want want to know whether I am an abuser or not, there’s a simple trick: just touch your panties. If it’s wet, then yes, I am an abuser.
If it’s dry, I am the average nice guy.
Paniorpa
That was an astoundingly disgusting statement, on multiple levels.
paniorpa: You are an asshat of the highest order and are cordially invited to fuck right off. You are spouting some seriously vile shit.
Uh… no. I’m nineteen. I remember being a teenage girl. I was completely sexually invisible; even if you count me as still being barely a teenage girl (which I suppose I am), now that I’m getting laid, I have maybe a couple of dozen men who have been interested in me over the past year. Coincidentially, I have also been interested in a couple of dozen men over the past year. (Not necessarily the same men, though.)
It’s interesting to note that by paniorpa’s reasoning, my friend’s abusive ex who hit her is not abusive (I feel no desire to fuck him) while the kind sweetheart of a nerdboy who snuggled me while I cried last night, for whom I have mostly unrequited FEEEEEEEEELINGS, is.
If you want want to know whether I am an abuser or not, there’s a simple trick: just touch your panties. If it’s wet, then yes, I am an abuser.
If it’s dry, I am the average nice guy.
According to my vaginal reaction to that statement, you are THE NICEST FUCKING GUY IN THE UNIVERSE.
I thought you were born in 1942.
According to my vaginal reaction to that statement, you are THE NICEST FUCKING GUY IN THE UNIVERSE.
Great, we’ve just checked your moral compass together 🙂
I’m gonna go hurl now.
Paniorpa’s full of shit. I did not have hundreds of suitors as a teenager or at any stage, but I have had assloads of unwanted sexual attention.
Your abuser “test” is disgusting. I’m sure your general demeanor in person has vaginas drying out and snapping shut like bear traps. I doubt you can hide your odiousness.
If paniorpa is now the moral arbiter of the universe, I’ll need to find a new universe.
I think I need to spell this out, paniorpa: the real punchline of the joke is that you’re both sexually undesirable and abusive.
…And a troll, or at least I hope so. I really do go to bed at night hoping that people like you don’t really think the shit you say.
” I really do go to bed at night hoping that people like you don’t really think the shit you say.”
Or don’t exist. And all these MRA folk are just characters.
Panorpia’s logic: If a man is sexually attractive he’s an abuser, and you should never have sex with him.
Got it.
And no, that’ s not true.
*orbits* what’s going on? o: *peers at new troll* *tilts head* you’re new… what’s your shtick? :3
*reads*
Hmmm….
so how sharp is your moral compass Paniorpa? o:
Whoever was doing the “whatcha gonna do when an Alpha steals ur girl” thing back there…
they’re a Taylor Swift fan aren’t they? xD
Ozymandias, the thing is, how do you know who was interested in you? The vast majority of men (well, non-alphas) are scarred by constant rejections and often never approach women. You may have had a couple dozen men who expressed their interest… probably a couple hundred who didn’t. That is the warped sex market we live in.
*peers* Paniorpa ran off D:
He saw you coming and knew he was outmatched, Ami. Sorry.