Female troubles

Oh, that sucks… have you any proof, like check stubs or receipts or anything? Cuz then you could take him to small claims court! I’m a seasoned pro at that… I know my way through the process with my eyes shut. lol

Oh, yes- there’s more than one.

Oh, I could rustle up my bank records from this time last year showing like 5 months of me writing $800 bucks to the rental co each month, and then a $400 dollar check from him a bit later, and then just, no checks from him. And I have an email he sent me where he acknowledges that he owes me money. And I could get a check record of the time i gave him $50 to pay his child support to his first wife. Other than that, not really. I was just basically supporting him, and he swore up and down he’d pay me back. I should have had him sign something, but I didn’t. It’s at least $1200 (3 mo’s rent), but really more like 1800-2 grand, since I was paying electric w/ AC on it, and fancy HD cable package he wouldn’t cancel, and buying all the food. Ah well. I haven’t pestered him about it since January, so. Who knows? He was supposed to have gone to training to get his butterbar through the Army by now, but he still hasn’t contacted me like he said he would. He’s a sack of shit.

Bee, he wasn’t in Madison, if you’re asking me. He was a douche in DeKalb. Though, he still lives in Illinois. Don’t date anyone from down by Kankakee, just to be sure!

Kankakee, LOL XDXDXD

I never seem to make any close male friends. Then again, I don’t have many friends. Of the three friends I’ve actually made a hard effort to keep in contact with, two are female and the male was my boyfriend. We hug, play with each others’ hair, cry on each others’ shoulder, play-bite, poke, what have you.

However, I do have a lot of not-very-close friends both male and female, and I’m not very cuddly with them. I might cry in front of them, but not on their shoulders. Certainly they can cry to me too. People are people.

From my experience I had more interest in male friends when I was younger because I hated (and still hate) stereotypical girl things like going to the mall (for many of reasons not the least because I was and still am fat and the mall has little to offer us fatties.) and tittering over nothing. But then I went and found female friends who…wait for it…ALSO hated these things because not all women are some monolith of vapid, tittering, spiteful bitches. And I discovered awesome people of both sexes who enjoyed the same things I did. That’s what you build friendships on…shared experience and interests.
As a weird pseudo-evopsych observation, my friends and I refer to people being either hunters or gathers at shopping. I’m a hunter…I know what I want, look for it, either find it or don’t and get out. Gatherers are people who like to look at everything, compare prices, stroll around the mall etc.

@Debbie, my brother isn’t that bad, and he grew out of cheating at boardgames (mostly, he lied to me in Clue a few months ago…) My brother was the youngest of us older three and we were all pretty close in age, so the fact that he was more timid and sensitive in personality often made him feel insecure. He did go through a phase in middle school where he acted like an asshole sometimes to try and impress guys who picked on him for being chubby and not very aggressive in personality, but he grew out of it when he realized that it was driving away all of the people who actually liked him. Still, even at the height of his pseudo-macho adolescent posturing, I can’t picture him talking about his girlfriends the way MRAs talk about women they want to date. I certainly can’t picture him saying stuff like that now about his wife (who is a nice woman). Yes, we disagree plenty, but I don’t really see him as an NWO, MRAL, or even an Ion.

I am horrible with the “crying shoulder” bit. When I am distressed, I usually want to be alone and do not want to be touched, so attempts to console me often feel like invasions that I have to endure while I am already feeling crappy. I typically respond to crying adults with a sort of awkward alarm and offering them stuff. “Would you like a soda?” “I could make toast?” (babies and small kids generally want specific things when they cry, so they are much easier) though I have started going with watching eyebrows (this makes people think you are making eye contact without the disturbing eye contact) and nodding while saying every so often things like “I know.” “That is awful.” which seems to work better. I do listen to what people tell me and try to remember it, but crying people don’t just say “I want a hug and for you to tell me X, Y, and Z”, they just assume you know what they want, but it often is not clear to me.

Ami: Glad to hear that he is just parodying…I will also ask advice hehe

Darksidecat: Thats good to hear! My brother is actually 15 years older then me so it kinda sad that he still acts like a jerk and will probably never grow out of it.

Back on topic honestly, I have mostly male friends but it is not because I hate other woemn..it is just that well, most of my hobbies tend to fall into masculine things like video games, comics, off roding and table top RPGS…No one has ever accused me of leading them on or being an emotional tampon whater the hell that means.

OK, I don’t have a ton of time to read the whole threads here anymore. It’s worse than Sadly, no, I swear.

So I am a bad person, because I find myself skimming to find the Usual Troll Suspects, because I know they will be horrible and stupid, and that commenters will fillet them nicely.

So I am a bad person, but zombie, yanno.

So basically, these types of guys are socially awkward/inadequate and decide to take their frustration out on women who they perceive to be “using” them. Boo-hoo!

@alphaassholecockcarousel: Thank you so much for making my night with that comment.