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The Gropes of Wrath

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In various countries around the world, women and teenage girls are regularly groped while riding commuter trains. This, I suspect, is not news to most of you; indeed, I know one reader of this blog who’s had this happen to her. In Japan, one survey found that two-thirds of female passengers in their twenties and thirties had been groped. Because the problem is so prevalent in that country — and the authorities are so ineffective at controlling it – some train lines have instituted women-only train cars in an attempt to cut down on groping (and on false accusations of groping as well).  “Women-only” train cars have also introduced, in a limited way, in India, where harassment of women in public – known as “Eve teasing” – is distressingly common.

So what’s more appalling – the fact that groping on trains is so common in Japan that two-thirds of young women commuters have had to endure it themselves, or the fact that a small number of train cars have been set aside for women in a fairly half-assed attempt to curtail some of this groping?

For a lot of MRAs, the latter. The subject came up on Reddit’s Men’s Rights subreddit recently, inspiring some of the regulars to fulminate against this allegedly misandrist outrage. Fatalistic pulled out the n-word and this facile comparision:

Here’s what I’m seeing here: “At least we let you in the back of the bus, nigger.”

ExpendableOne, meanwhile, managed to work in a staggering number of standard-issue MRA complaints into this one sentence:

I think it’s discrimination and subjugation entirely based on misandry, negative male type-casting/stereotyping and anti-male heterophobia.

Ztakn seemed to suggest that it was all part of some oddly indirect money-making scheme on the part of, I guess, women:

To keep it short they exploit and propagate fears not only demonizing men in society but also terrorizing women and scaring the shit out of them making them more paranoid than they need to be.

And then they do it for money.

How would that work exactly?

1) Get groped

2) Set up women-only train cars

3) ???

4) Profit?

Given that the Men’s Rights subreddit is one of the few Men’s Rights forums online that is not completely overrun with misogynist fanatics, there were others who responded more reasonably. Alienblonde noted:

In Japan it’s a massive problem where school girls get groped by older males on trains in peak hour.

Happened to me in Europe too when I was back packing. Some old Spanish guy sat beside me and decided to feel me up.

Women shouldn’t have to deal with this and unfortunately, until it stops happening, I think [women only train cars are] justified.

Naturally, this being a Men’s Rights forum, she quickly found herself the focus of a game of “blame the victim.” Fatalistic accused her of “[j]ustifying discrimination with this all men are potential criminals feminist dogma.”  When she pointed out that she was not, in fact, doing this, he moved on to castigating her for not making a public scene when she was groped:

You should out the people who actually do these things rather than treat the rest of us as criminals by default with disgusting bigoted policies and the back of the bus mentality.

When she pointed out that this could have put her in more serious danger, he merely scoffed:

You would have to be paranoid and spoonfed the most egregious of feminist women are helpless, men are unstoppable beasts that need other men with guns to drag them away dogma to believe that all but the most psychopathic would persist or try to harm you if you outed them to a crowd for their actions.

Easy for you to say.

Of course, when women DO confront sexual harassers on trains, as I noted in a post on the infamous New York Subway flasher last November, they get reactions like this sarcastic Reddit comment from one member of the men-are-oppressed club.

Yes, because obviously her heterophobia needs to be glorified… Penises are so disgusting and scary, obviously women should totally be justified in fearing them and there couldn’t possibly be any kind of misandry involved with such contempt, befuddlement or “helplessness/horror” to the mere sigh[t] of male anatomy. /s

Yep, if you’re a woman on a train, not wanting to have some random dude pull his penis out and rub it on you is “heterophobia.” Who knew?

In the case of the subway flasher, the alleged perp did indeed flee when confronted. (He was later arrested.) That’s pretty much the best-case scenario. But it’s hardly the only possible result, and it’s understandable why a woman riding the train to work (much less one backpacking alone in a foreign country) would hesitate to publicly accuse a groper of groping her. Having women-only train cars cuts down on the number of times women are put in this difficult situation.

Yes, in an ideal world, there would be no need for women-only train cars. In an ideal world, men wouldn’t grope women on trains.

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Spearhafoc, who is changing his nym
Spearhafoc, who is changing his nym
13 years ago

Spearhafoc, I’d love to see your rendition of Gary Oldman’s Dracula. He’s my favorite version.

I’m sticking with stuff made before 1923. That at least gives the possibility that I might, someday, finish the series. Besides, I prefer evil Dracula to romantic Dracula.

To all the women expressing their stories here, I’m so sorry for what you have to go through just for the “crime” of being female. My Asperger’s causes sensory integration problems, which means that even being touched on the shoulder wrong can make me feel violated. I can’t imagine the horrors of having the more sensitive parts of my body being seen as “fair game” to so many people.

Pecunium
13 years ago

I don’t really have anything directly substantive to say (well… “NWO, You ignorant slut” comes to mind, but he’s not really as clued-in as Jane was), but I did observe a related behavior a few years ago, in Kiev.

Men Are Pigs (the title was a bit hyperbolic)

Johnny Pez
13 years ago

In the spirit of Ami’s book review, I offer my own latest blog post, Secret Mistresses of the MRM.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Would white-only train cars be acceptable?

No?

Discussion over.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

I also think most of the stories here are bullshit.

Nobby
Nobby
13 years ago

Do white people, as a group, face sexual assault commonly on public transport?

No?

Bad analogy over.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

BTW, I played a female MMORPG (World of Warcraft) character for a week as a social experiment. Fucking loved it. The amount of attention I received was enormous. People being nice, not being ignored or spat on or treated like shit- ubtle favoritism, such as the fact that I could ALWAYS find a party… need I continue? Inappropriate comments were made sometimes, but they were fairly minimal, and quite honestly if that’s the kind of thing bothering you then you need to grow the hell up and learn what real problems are (such as those men face).

It did absolutely nothing except reinforce the notion that women are the most privileged group in this country.

Snowy
Snowy
13 years ago

Is there an epidemic of non-white people groping white people?

No?

Discussion over.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Oh, and are white people, statistically, less violent than black people?

Yes.

Analogy back on.

Nobby
Nobby
13 years ago

Except the fact that that that deviation is far less then 2/3, and has nothing to do with public transport specifically. Give it up.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Oh, I didn’t realize there was a specific mathematical point at which bigotry became acceptable.

Except there’s not and you’re full of shit.

filetofswedishfish
13 years ago

*cue a lurker de-lurkifying*

MRAL, you absolutely hate it when people here trot out the completely-backed-up-with-police-statistics that men tend to commit more domestic violence than women (because it is perpetrated by both sides, no doubt), tell them it’s false, etc, etc, but you’re spewing out that people of color are more violent than Caucasians?! What the what?

Not even to mention ignoring the actually-quite-representative stories women here are posting about their experiences with harassment, and telling them they must like the extra attention they receive based on their gender presentation/body parts?

The mind, it boggles.

Nobby
Nobby
13 years ago

It’s the point at which that bigotry becomes violent and actually affects people, yes. You can be a bigot all you like within the realm of the law, MRAL, if that bigotry is not violent and/or doesn’t impinge the rights of others. You should know that quite well. And if whites were somehow disproportionately victimized on public transport, you would have a point. But they are not, and so you don’t.

And saying “I don’t think that’s true!” Doesn’t make it not happen.

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

*yawn* poe confirmed xD (I mean srsly, u can’t be more obv about it at this point, let’s invent a new thing to try to roil up the thread xD nebody raw from last night’s thread, dun engage, he’d have said it no matter what we said 🙂 *gives big supportive hugs* ) now we have virtual spitting! xD soon we’ll have virtual height bigotry! just how long IS your motherboard!? Your monitor is HOW small!? xD that graphics card is SO BETA! You’re a social freak level 80! XDDDD

I’m sleepy but amused :3

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

What? I’ve never had a problem with domestic violence statistics, clearly they are true. I think there are reasons men are on the whole more violent than women (probably similar to the reasons blacks are more violent than whites, ie upbringing and societal bigotry).

Nobby
Nobby
13 years ago

Well, the way MRAL goes on, Ami, i would think virtual spitting would mean everyone who passes him in the game doesn’t emote something cute at him.

Also, I likewise play a female character in a game, and I’m not harassed. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. In this particular case it’s because the game community is sorta awesome, coupled with the fact that in-game avatars don’t really matter.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

I can barely understand WTF Ami is even saying.

Anyway I bet, since blacks are more violent in general, whites are victimized and robbed and/or attacked more on subways specifically. Of course there’ll never be a study done because that’s politically incorrect- yet more examples of societal misandry, because men are the only group it is acceptable to “study” to determine their violence or other attributes.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

WoW has like 60% of the MMORPG market, if I’m not harassed to any great degree there, the MMORPG community as a whole does not harass. The obvious explanation, to me, is that women are so privileged and arrogant that they interpret someone merely approaching them without Her Royal Seal of Approval and doing, well, anything, as “harassment”. With that standard, they are “harassed” constantly.

Nobby
Nobby
13 years ago

Only if you show an increase in crime on subways as opposed to other locations would you have any point. And again, saying “I think X” doesn’t mean it’s true.

Also, there are lots of crime statistics, broken down by race and gender and social status, etc. How the heck is that ‘politically incorrect’? Where do you think those crime statistics come from?

Snowy
Snowy
13 years ago

Oh, approached like this you mean? http://fatuglyorslutty.com/

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Snowy, I never said harassment doesn’t happen, just that it’s rare. Cherry-picking rare quotes does not prove your point.

Captain Bathrobe
Captain Bathrobe
13 years ago

Annnnnd…MRAL proves that kindness is wasted on him. His problems are the only ones that count. Anyone else’s problems are bullshit, or inconsequential even if true.

Protip: whiney self absorption is not attractive. Also WoW is not real life.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Actually, since it’s real people, WoW pretty much is real life.

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

i.e dun read what’s she’s saying xD

Dun think of the pink elephant folks! :3

and now i must go out on a shopping date and spit on men all over the place! xD (better keep hydrated) except the ones who give me my coffee… they are caffiene freak alphas xD or *I* am O_O;;;

Amnesia
Amnesia
13 years ago

MRAL, tell me: Do you think every single story told on this thread is a lie? That we just make this stuff up?

You know what? I wish these stories weren’t true. I wish we didn’t have to deal with guys who think our bodies are just begging to be groped.

But that is the reality of many women. And as long as guys like you keep trying to deny this reality, these stories will keep happening.

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