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The Gropes of Wrath

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In various countries around the world, women and teenage girls are regularly groped while riding commuter trains. This, I suspect, is not news to most of you; indeed, I know one reader of this blog who’s had this happen to her. In Japan, one survey found that two-thirds of female passengers in their twenties and thirties had been groped. Because the problem is so prevalent in that country — and the authorities are so ineffective at controlling it – some train lines have instituted women-only train cars in an attempt to cut down on groping (and on false accusations of groping as well).  “Women-only” train cars have also introduced, in a limited way, in India, where harassment of women in public – known as “Eve teasing” – is distressingly common.

So what’s more appalling – the fact that groping on trains is so common in Japan that two-thirds of young women commuters have had to endure it themselves, or the fact that a small number of train cars have been set aside for women in a fairly half-assed attempt to curtail some of this groping?

For a lot of MRAs, the latter. The subject came up on Reddit’s Men’s Rights subreddit recently, inspiring some of the regulars to fulminate against this allegedly misandrist outrage. Fatalistic pulled out the n-word and this facile comparision:

Here’s what I’m seeing here: “At least we let you in the back of the bus, nigger.”

ExpendableOne, meanwhile, managed to work in a staggering number of standard-issue MRA complaints into this one sentence:

I think it’s discrimination and subjugation entirely based on misandry, negative male type-casting/stereotyping and anti-male heterophobia.

Ztakn seemed to suggest that it was all part of some oddly indirect money-making scheme on the part of, I guess, women:

To keep it short they exploit and propagate fears not only demonizing men in society but also terrorizing women and scaring the shit out of them making them more paranoid than they need to be.

And then they do it for money.

How would that work exactly?

1) Get groped

2) Set up women-only train cars

3) ???

4) Profit?

Given that the Men’s Rights subreddit is one of the few Men’s Rights forums online that is not completely overrun with misogynist fanatics, there were others who responded more reasonably. Alienblonde noted:

In Japan it’s a massive problem where school girls get groped by older males on trains in peak hour.

Happened to me in Europe too when I was back packing. Some old Spanish guy sat beside me and decided to feel me up.

Women shouldn’t have to deal with this and unfortunately, until it stops happening, I think [women only train cars are] justified.

Naturally, this being a Men’s Rights forum, she quickly found herself the focus of a game of “blame the victim.” Fatalistic accused her of “[j]ustifying discrimination with this all men are potential criminals feminist dogma.”  When she pointed out that she was not, in fact, doing this, he moved on to castigating her for not making a public scene when she was groped:

You should out the people who actually do these things rather than treat the rest of us as criminals by default with disgusting bigoted policies and the back of the bus mentality.

When she pointed out that this could have put her in more serious danger, he merely scoffed:

You would have to be paranoid and spoonfed the most egregious of feminist women are helpless, men are unstoppable beasts that need other men with guns to drag them away dogma to believe that all but the most psychopathic would persist or try to harm you if you outed them to a crowd for their actions.

Easy for you to say.

Of course, when women DO confront sexual harassers on trains, as I noted in a post on the infamous New York Subway flasher last November, they get reactions like this sarcastic Reddit comment from one member of the men-are-oppressed club.

Yes, because obviously her heterophobia needs to be glorified… Penises are so disgusting and scary, obviously women should totally be justified in fearing them and there couldn’t possibly be any kind of misandry involved with such contempt, befuddlement or “helplessness/horror” to the mere sigh[t] of male anatomy. /s

Yep, if you’re a woman on a train, not wanting to have some random dude pull his penis out and rub it on you is “heterophobia.” Who knew?

In the case of the subway flasher, the alleged perp did indeed flee when confronted. (He was later arrested.) That’s pretty much the best-case scenario. But it’s hardly the only possible result, and it’s understandable why a woman riding the train to work (much less one backpacking alone in a foreign country) would hesitate to publicly accuse a groper of groping her. Having women-only train cars cuts down on the number of times women are put in this difficult situation.

Yes, in an ideal world, there would be no need for women-only train cars. In an ideal world, men wouldn’t grope women on trains.

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PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
13 years ago

Pity that would not work in Japan…or maybe it would.

Captain Bathrobe
13 years ago

Dave: seconded, thirded, and fourthed.

Johnny Pez
13 years ago

Pity that would not work in Japan…or maybe it would.

Definitely worth a government-funded study.

zombie rotten mcdonald
13 years ago

Definitely worth a government-funded study.

I think it would have to determine the range of crotch-pressure that elicits the most advantageous response.

in the interest of expediency, I would recommend starting at the high end.

PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
13 years ago

Might help with the stagnation of their economy.

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

Rodeo cat returns from shopping! 😀 I have an awesome new shirt and 2 dollar sandals! 😀 (I need jean shorts but I didn’t have time to get them 🙁 )

Holy crumbs explosions O_O;;

I <3 that Molly translated me 😀

Also that ppl are sharing their experiences like this, even with somebody who is trying to dismiss and be hurtful to get a rise out of ppl… and I hope that the ppl sharing are okay 🙂 *hugs everybody again who shared their stories* It's rly awesome and braveish of ppl to do share personal painful stuff like that to try to educate and help him when he is being mean and dismissive. 🙁 *moar hugs!*

As for IF YOU LIVED A DAY IN SOCIETY AS A MAN YOU WOULD DIE. xD I just… XD I'm sorry, done and done. And done and done and done (how many dones do I need? one for every day? It'd take… pages and pages)

I dun doubt nething MRAL's said btw… incl that that's his eye… I just think his intentions are not authentic xD But as Bob McCown says, it's impossible to determine intent! So…. 15 game suspension!

Regardless of what he or nebody else is up to, I rly do second and third David… I mean at least in terms of at least it being a possibility. Having suffered from serious suicidal depression in the past, I know what it's like when things are so dark that there's no escape, and when you hate yourself.. it always feels like no matter what it's not good enough : And I wouldn't wish serious depression on nebody :[ There are student counselling and psychiatric services at colleges and I would suggest going there, even if you aren't diagnosed with something, it does sound like somebody might need to talk with someone : I know that if you get a great therapist/counsellor/psychiatrist it can make a world of difference :]

Also listen to Pecunium, he's pretty darn smart and awesome 😀

(& I like how he can just say "if it ACTUALLY happened, everybody would do something" when as I said, ppl look away or at their shoes… and other ppl have shared their exps xD I hope at least HE would do something 🙂 Again, awareness, vigilance… :3)

I have a question to MRAL btw… :3 (esp given the WoW amusements… x3 )

Do you think your life would be better if you were born a woman? (assuming that you wouldn't know nething about the body you'd be in)

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

I have a feeling there’s gonna be a false assumption and transphobic thing coming trying to tie 2 of the things I just said together xD Vegas should set odds… :3

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

Just in case it sounded flip.. I’m completely sincere about being impressed by the sharing of personal painful stories by ppl here not just in spite or but in response to somebody trying to be hurtful and dismissive. :] You are amazing ppl and I want to hug you, both for putting it out there to try to educate and change ppl’s worldviews, and that it happened to you.

It’s amazing how supportive, patient and nice ppl here on the thread here have been… esp that night with all the helping and support of giving tips on socializing, on talking to ppl, etc… and how it can’t even be returned with a “I’m so sorry that happened to you” (even if we’re all exceptions that don’t fit the ideology… 😐 )

🙁

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

A new body? As in, likely no eye problem? Yes.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Would I want to? I don’t know. Probably not even though I’d objectively be better off.

PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
13 years ago

MRAL, you ever use an eye patch to see the reaction you get?

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

I asked if you thought your life would be better xD (the objectively part seems to indicate yes? ) (switch better to easier if you want)

obv I understand that you would prolly be unhappy identifying male but in an assigned female body : so obv you wouldn’t WANT to.. that wasn’t a question (and it’s perfectly okay to not want to answer 🙂 it’s a serious question tho)

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

I think my life would be objectively easier because men are an oppressed class, but a. I’m straight, so I find the thought of being attracted to men kind of gross, and b. I’m used to being male. So no, I wouldn’t want to.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

And I’ve never tried an eyepatch because I think that would be even more noticeable than my current situation.

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

Women can’t be attracted to women? o_O;;

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Likely I wouldn’t be, because only about 10% of people are homosexual.

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

How would your life objectively be better btw? In what ways are you oppressed? In what ways does this oppression manifest in your daily life that you think would be different if you were perceived as female? o:

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

You’re so good at creating a theoretical idea of how the world works and suddenly you’re so bad at it xD

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

Mostly no being ignored, treated like shit, or metaphorically spat on. Get hot and you get institutional preference to, like being hired for shit.

Nobby
13 years ago

“I’m straight, so I find the thought of being attracted to men kind of gross”

Um, you realize that as a straight woman this probably wouldn’t bother you, right? Or if it did, there are other option as Ami mentioned.

Ami Angelwings
13 years ago

Do you think your life would be better/easier if your eye was “normal” (whatever you think normal would be)? How about if you were taller? Like 6’3″ Do you ever wish for that? Lie in bed and wish you weren’t “f-ed by god” at birth? Or are you happy with who you are? 🙂

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

What the fuck do you think?

PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
PosterformerlyknownasElizabeth
13 years ago

Yes but an eye patch is supposedly more culturally acceptable then your supposed deformity so using it, even for one day, could give you a baseline for how people react to your person regardless of status of eye.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

I would feel like a huge freak.

Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
Men's Rights Activist Lieutenant
13 years ago

In cas I wasn’t clear.

Ideal Height: 6’2.25

Ideal Number of Eyes: Two

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