Making a list, checking it twice. |
Periodically, in the comments here, someone will post a dubious list of “evil feminist quotes” they have found on some Men’s Rights or antifeminist website. These lists are always faintly ridiculous, filled with decades-old quotes from a handful of radical feminists (most notably, Andrea Dworkin), most of whom have been soundly criticized by other feminists and whose ideas have been rejected by the majority of feminists today. The lists also tend to be very sloppily put together. When I’ve gone to check the accuracy of these lists, I’ve invariably run into problems — one quote may have come from a character in a novel, another may be a quote that doesn’t reflect the author’s own point of view, and so on.
Recently, one of the antifeminists who regularly comments here (Cold) posted a link to one such list, helpfully titled “Hateful Quotes From Feminists.” It’s fairly typical of these sorts of lists: many of the quotes are decades old, there are ten quotes from a single radical feminist — yes, Andrea Dworkin — and the list is sloppily put together.
I decided to give this list a fairly thorough fact-checking. And the results were, well, more or less what I expected, which is to say that the list was a sloppy mixture of truth, half-truth and outright falsehood.
The story, in brief: Some of the quotes I checked were indeed accurate — or mostly accurate. But several quotes were simply imaginary, or uttered by fictional characters; one was a complete misrepresentation of what the author was saying; two were paraphrased, which is to say, words put in the mouths of feminist authors by feminist critics; some were from obscure or anonymous sources, and in a few cases it wasn’t clear if those quoted were feminists at all; several were improperly sourced. There were a number of quotes that didn’t specify where they were from, and which turned out to be impossible to check. And then there were a couple of quotes which were not actually hateful at all.
I didn’t check everything in the list, but –if you have the patience for it — let’s go through what I did check, as a sort of case study in the shoddiness of much antifeminist propaganda.
Let’s start off with the very first quote:
“In a patriarchal society all heterosexual intercourse is rape because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent.” Catherine MacKinnon in Professing Feminism: Cautionary Tales from the Strange World of Women’s Studies, p. 129.
We’re off to a bad start here. This is not a quote from MacKinnon. The words were in fact written by Daphne Patai and Noretta Koertge, the actual authors of “Professing Feminism,” a polemical book critical of feminism. They purport to summarize the views of MacKinnon and Dworkin, though, as Snopes points out in its debunking of the false quote, both M and D have specifically stated that they don’t believe intercourse is rape. Apparently the quote was attributed to MacKinnon in a column by right-wing columnist Cal Thomas, which is evidently how it entered the land of antifeminist mythology. Somewhere along the line, Catharine had her name changed to Catherine.
Then there’s this alleged quote from Andrea Dworkin:
“Heterosexual intercourse is the pure, formalized expression of contempt for women’s bodies.”
According to Wikiquote, this quote is quite literally fictional:
The first appearance of this quote is from P: A Novel (2003) by Andrew Lewis Conn as a quote from the fictional feminist “Corinne Dwarfkin”. The original reads “In capsule form, my thesis is that heterosexual intercourse is the pure, distilled expression of men’s contempt for women.” In the slightly altered form given above, the quote is attributed in several books to Andrea Dworkin. Neil Boyd, in Big Sister (2004) attributes the quote to Letters from a War Zone, however, this quote, nor any one with similar phrasing, appears in that work.
Indeed, our listmaker seem to have a lot of trouble quoting Dworkin correctly. A bunch of the quotes are taken from her book Letters From a War Zone, which I happen to own. The first quote I checked was this one:
“The newest variations on this distressingly ancient theme center on hormones and DNA: men are biologically aggressive; their fetal brains were awash in androgen; their DNA, in order to perpetuate itself, hurls them into murder and rape.” Andrea Dworkin, Letters from a War Zone, p. 114.
It’s a weird quote, which sounds a lot like it’s coming from the the middle of a complicated argument. That’s because it is. And when you read what precedes it, it becomes clear that it’s NOT a statement of Dworkin’s own beliefs. She was in fact summarizing (in her own words) the beliefs of “male supremacist” sociobiologists like Edward O. Wilson. It may or may not be a fair summary of their views, but that’s not the point: it’s NOT what she thought. Later in the paragraph, in fact, she compared these views to Hitler’s.
The other quotes from the book are more or less accurate. Words are missing, moved from one sentence to another, verb tenses are changed; they’re very sloppy transcriptions, but at least they aren’t complete and utter misrepresentations of what Dworkin wrote.
There’s also quote from Andrea Dworkin that’s listed as being from “Liberty, p. 58.” Dworkin never wrote a book called Liberty. But I found the quote in what seems to be a scholarly work; it’s evidently from Dworkin’s book Our Blood.
Finally, there are a few other alleged quotes from Dworkin; they don’t have sources listed for them. I found the quotes elsewhere online — but only on dubious “quote pages” and other iterations of “evil feminist” lists. They sound Dworkin-ish, but given the listmaker’s track record I have no faith that they are actually real, correctly transcribed Dworkin.
It’s bizarre. How hard is it to find hair-raising quotes from Andrea Dworkin? Dworkin was so radical that most feminists disagree with her, sometimes violently. You could practically pick a sentence at random from almost any of her books and chances are good it would offend somebody — including me. A number of her writings are available online. How lazy and sloppy do you have to be to fuck up your Dworkin quotes like this?
Let’s now turn to Marilyn French’s famously fictional quote:
“All men are rapists and that’s all they are.” Marilyn French in People, February 20, 1983
Oh, the quote is real — she wrote it — but it is not a statement of French’s beliefs. Nor did it originate in People magazine. It is a line of dialogue from her book The Woman’s Room. Wikipedia, take it away:
Following the rape of Val’s daughter Chris, Val states (over Mira’s protests), “Whatever they may be in public life, whatever their relationships with men, in their relationships with women, all men are rapists, and that’s all they are. They rape us with their eyes, their laws, and their codes” (p. 433). Critics have sometimes quoted Val’s dialogue as evidence of French’s misandry without noting that the passage is only spoken by one of many characters in the novel.
Now, it’s true that this sentence was quoted in People magazine — in the issue of Feb 20 1979, not Feb 20, 1983 as claimed. It’s not clear from the rather sloppy People article that this is a line from the book, but it is.
In the article, French notes that the book is partly based on her experience — drawing on the emotions she herself felt after her own daughter was raped.
“Sometimes I felt so violent about it and how the courts treated her,” French admits, “that there seemed no recourse but to go out, buy a gun and shoot the kid who did it, and the lawyers too. I couldn’t help my own child.” Plenty of that rage made its way into The Women’s Room. “I’m less angry now. Being too deep in anger corrodes your interior.”
So, again, it is very clear that the “all men are rapists” quote is meant to reflect a character awash in rage and pain; it is not an ideological statement of misandry.
The “Hateful Quotes” list also contains a bunch of quotes from people I’ve never heard of; they’re obviously not major feminist figures, and may not even be feminists. Gordon Fitch? Never heard of the guy, and can’t find anything about him online.
Hodee Edwards? Never heard of her either, and I can only find a handful of mentions of her online, but she’s mentioned in the footnotes of a Catharine MacKinnon book, and it looks as though she is, or at least was, a feminist with Marxist leanings. But there is no way to even find out what the source of the quote is — a book, an essay, a quotation in a news story? — much less actually find the source and confirm that the quote is real.
EDITED TO ADD: I’ve been contacted by Hodee Edwards’ granddaughter, who tells me that her grandmother never said or wrote the quote attributed to her; while Edwards was indeed a Marxist and a feminist, she was not anti-sex. (The faux quote in question claims that all sex is rape.) Edwards has recently passed away, and her family members have been, the granddaughter tells me, “very distressed to learn that this quote has somehow been linked to my grandmother’s name on the Internet.”
Then there’s Pat Poole:
Melbourne City Councilwoman Pat Poole announced her opposition to renaming a street for Martin Luther King: “I wonder if he really accomplished things, or if he just stirred people up and caused a lot of riots.”
Who the hell is Pat Poole? I looked her up, and yes, she was a city councilwoman in Melbourne, Florida, but I was unable to find out much beyond that. Is the quote accurate? I don’t know. There’s no source given, and I can’t find the original quote online. Is she actually a feminist, or is the author of the list simply assuming she is one because she’s a woman?
And then of course there is the anonymous “Liberated Woman” whose quote ends the list. She definitely sounds like a feminist. We just don’t know for sure if she or the quote are real.
Moving on, I can’t help but notice that a number of the allegedly hateful quotes are in fact not hateful at all. Take, for example, Barbara Ehrenreich’s quote about the family, which is in fact part of a sharply written essay on “family values.” You can find it here.
Here’s another distinctly non-hateful quote:
“Women take their roles of caretakers very seriously and when they hear of someone who’s taken advantage of a child, they react more strongly than men do.” – Kathleen C. Faller, professor of social work at the University of Michigan
Faller, if she did indeed say this, may or may not be correct, but it’s hard to see how this is “hateful.” Women on average spend much more time caring for children than men do and it may well be that, on average, they react more strongly than men. I couldn’t find the quote in question — again, this is because the listmaker didn’t actually provide the source — but her faculty web page is here.
Then there’s this “hateful” quote on religion:
“God is going to change. We women… will change the world so much that He won’t fit anymore.” Naomi Goldenberg, Changing of the Gods: Feminism and the End of Traditional Religions.
The quote is real; Goldenberg is indeed a feminist theologian. But here’s a little newsflash: There are lots of people in the world, feminist and non-feminist, who do not believe in traditional notions of God. Or in God at all. Nietzsche famously said “God is Dead,” Richard Dawkins says God is “a delusion,” and about 80 zillion internet athiests (many of them not feminists in the slightest) regularly compare belief in God to belief in unicorns, fairies, and Santa Claus.
I checked out a few other quotes on the list. The Hillary Clinton quote is accurate; the source is here. The Barbara Jordan quote appears in a Texas Monthly article here.
The quote from Catherine Comins — a favorite “evil feminist quote” amongst MRAs — has its origins in a Time magazine article, but it is not actually a quote from her; it is someone else’s summary of what she told Time in the article in question. Nor do we know the full context in which she spoke.
I don’t have the time or patience to fact-check the rest of the list. If anyone out there happens to have time and/or patience, or happens to own any of the books that are cited as sources, feel free to fact check it yourself and post your findings. (EDITED TO ADD: triplanetary has risen to the challenge, and has factchecked the rest of the list, as well as offering some excellent commentary on the alleged “hatefulness” of many of the quotes. You can find the post here.)
The numerous errors in this list — some minor, some huge — say something not only about the creator of this list but about all those who’ve distributed this list without, clearly, bothering to check anything in it . (Or, in the case of Cold, to contine to distribute a list he’s pretty sure is less than reliable.) Is this the result of laziness, or dishonesty? A bit of both, I imagine.
But I think this list is also a symptom of the tendency of many in the Men’s Rights movement to inflate the evils of their opponents. So many MRAs are so determined to prove that their supposed oppression is worse than that of women, and so determined to blame it all on feminism, that they need to make their opponents larger than life and twice as nasty. Given that the feminism they fight is largely a paranoid fantasy, bearing very little resemblance to feminism as it actually exists in the world today, it’s hardly shocking that a number of the quotes on this little list are fictional — and that none of the MRAs posting this list here and there on the internet seem to have even noticed (or, if they have noticed, to care, or at least to care enough to stop distributing the list). When you’re fighting phantoms in your own mind, the truth doesn’t really matter, does it?
Given how poorly this list held up to my fack-checking attempts, from now on I will consider this list and others like it spam, and delete any comments that link to them.
If any of you antifeminists still feel the desire to post “evil feminist quotes” in the comments here, you may do so, but only if you (or the list that you link to) provides clickable links to the original sources of the quotes in question. If you can’t provide a link to the source, I’ll delete it.
When I quote from MRAs and MGTOW-ites and other misogynists on this blog, I provide links to the sources. What’s so hard about that?
EDIT: Fixed links, and a few verb tenses.
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>"What you *should* support is a man's right to be free of any obligation to a child he not only didn't want but also, in the case of sabotage, didn't have a hand in intentionally or even accidentally conceiving."Have him go to court to prove it. I'd love to see men put in the same position women are when it comes to proving rape.
>"I was hoping more for physical superiority, or even parity with men. Women seem to be inferior in regards to pain (more sensitive, i.e less resilient), though roughly on par with men in terms of susceptibility to disorders. The only physical characteristics I can think of in which women are either equal to or better than men are a heightened sense of smell and a higher resistance to disease, according to Wikipedia. Are there any others? Again, genuinely not trolling, I figured you'd know better than I would. "Women on average have much better fine motor skills, which means they can do things that, in an advanced society, are becoming more common. E.g., they may not be good at digging ditches, may be better at operating remote controls to dig ditches.
>"MRAs would say this is arguable–the fact that a woman's "communication" sectors of the brain are more developed and they use more words while men are more laconic would indicate that women are simply less efficient; men communicate equally well with less wasted verbiage"That's some outstandingly poor reasoning — you assume each communicates the same amount of information. Why?Comparing their brains, finding women have a larger communication area, and deciding this must mean women have too much communication area is laughable. It's like saying that the visual cortex in apes is bigger than that in iguanas, so it must mean that apes are wasting a lot of time in looking when iguanas are more efficient.Using less energy isn't more efficient if you get less done.
>@ Jupiter9:Jupiter9 said: "Have him go to court to prove it. I'd love to see men put in the same position women are when it comes to proving rape. "Where's David to lecture us MRA'S and tell us that feminists aren't our enemies now? Jupiter9 lashing out at deceived men to get some sort of vague feminist like revenge against men is typical of the way feminut nation thinks and operates. Feminists are definitely evil, selfish, illogical, hairy legged beasts, and they are definitely the enemy of men. It's simple, skirts, if women should not be forced into the emotional and financial responsibility of being a parent before they are ready the same should apply for men. But that would be TRUE EQUALITY and true equality is the last thing the carpet cleaning nation wants.Random Brother
>@ElizabethElizabeth said: "Vagrant, make sure that you find ones that give an accurate accounting. Despite Richard's (and Nick's) belief that men have never ever ignored women's contributions because of patriarchy, there have been numerous examples of female inventors not getting credit for things they created."Feminist examples, or you know, real ones?Elizabeth said: "One story in the hilarious (no, not because it is anti-men Richard and Nick) Uppity Women series by Vicki Leon showed that even when it was obvious and the males around said "hey, SHE was the one who came up with it" historians still accredited the man with inventing something."Here's a wild idea! Why don't women invent something today, instead of relying on feminist falsehoods about the past, or is it that you're still to oppressed? Random Brother
>Recycled disposable cell phone Windshield wipersMore effective cataract surgeryKevlarA list of inventions by women and an explanation why women were not always given credit.Essay on women's contributions over timeA list of materials about women's inventionsAn even longer list of women and their patents before the 20th Century.Plenty more evidence out there. You were saying Richard?
>David::: …Very few of the MRAs/MGTOWs I've run across have experienced anything as brutal as a rape at the hands of women and/or feminists. I confess I don't completely understand where all their rage comes from. :::Well, from what I've been reading around here (and by following the links and reading even more) a lot of it appears to stem from a couple of sources. One being that the man in question wasn't provided with a sexual experience he felt he was entitled to, and two – because he paid for someone's dinner and didn't get a sexual experience he felt he was entitled to.Rage is something of an out of proportion response to the above – at least in my book – but certainly not uncommon on the MRA and MGTOW sites.Frankly, their stated grievances are just lame excuses for their pervasive and all too blatant misogyny.
>Cold, 1)Shaenon's comment was a joke. The comments on the Spearhead were genuinely threatening. 2)Amanda Marcotte based her judgement on the Duke case on looking at the evidence, and wrote about it extensively elsewhere. You based your, er, judgment on the Ledbetter case on, as best I can figure it out, your notion that juries are filled with stupid people. If you honestly had looked at the evidence and concluded what you did, I might disagree with you (as I do with Marcotte on the Duke case), but at least your conclusion would be based on SOMETHING.3) If you actually read what I wrote about Jasper, I used words like "alleged" when describing the death threats he says he's gotten. I have no problem believing that he did get some, as there are plenty of threatening remarks addressed to him online, but I don't know for certain that he did because I have not seen the evidence. Also, cool it with the accusations against booboo. Stick to the issues at hand. If either you or booboo makes more accusatory comments about whatever battle you've got going on youtube, I will delete them.
>"Go back to work-your temper is showing."—ElizabethIt's pretty easy to see your temper in action. The CAPS LOCK goes on.
>"Women on average have much better fine motor skills, which means they can do things that, in an advanced society, are becoming more common."—jupiter9Links to the scientific studies and proof for this, please?
>1)Shaenon's comment was a joke. The comments on the Spearhead were genuinely threatening.Can you provide any actual proof that her comment was a joke and that the ones on The Spearhead were not? Your opinion isn't satisfactory here.Amanda Marcotte based her judgement on the Duke case on looking at the evidence, and wrote about it extensively elsewhere.Where is "elsewhere"? You have to provide a link to the original source or else it's spam, remember? I don't recall seeing any evidence that they actually committed the crime, so I am VERY interested to know about this "evidence" at which you claim she looked and which I missed.If you actually read what I wrote about Jasper, I used words like "alleged" when describing the death threats he says he's gotten.Fair enough; I'm satisfied with that answer but the other two contain assertions that need to be proven.
>Go back to work-your temper is showing.It always amuses me when people think they can accurately judge someone's emotional state from their prose.Unlike some people, I spend all of my employer's time working and only post on breaks. It's called a "work ethic".
>It's like saying that the visual cortex in apes is bigger than that in iguanas, so it must mean that apes are wasting a lot of time in looking when iguanas are more efficient.The problem is, do apes actually have better eyesight than iguanas? Again, not trolling, I really don't know if this is the case or not; not a biologist and Wikipedia doesn't really say. You're right in saying the fact that an area of the brain is bigger doesn't necessarily mean it's "inferior" or "less efficient," but at the same time, there's no neurological reason why bigger automatically = better either. A portion of the brain larger in size might be less densely packed with neurons, or a portion of the brain more densely packed with neurons may have weaker connections between those neurons, and so on and so forth. Again, as I said, you may be right, but we can't really be certain.Have him go to court to prove it. I'd love to see men put in the same position women are when it comes to proving rape.Fair enough–as a lot of men nowadays record their bangs (as Roissy has called it) to avoid getting hit with rape charges or whatever, I imagine a few of them might keep mini-cameras or recorders handy to catch their girls in the act of condom sabotage or whatever. It's difficult, but doable.Very few of the MRAs/MGTOWs I've run across have experienced anything as brutal as a rape at the hands of women and/or feminists.I'm not sure this is correct–several of them have either been abused by female parents or raped by females. Theodore Labadie has written about what he experienced at the hands of his stepmother, Keith on avoiceformen has done the same, and according to one commenter there (i forgot if it was AntZ or someone else with an A), he was literally raped–as in, his mother sexually abused him–as a child. Now, you could say these men are lying, but then again, people say women are lying about being raped and abused all the time. Two wrongs don't really make a right.
>Now, you could say these men are lyingNo need. I believe them. Problem is, it doesn't justify misogyny. Women who are raped by men don't all end up hating men. Men who are raped by women have no excuse for hating all women.Blaming the patriarchy is another matter, and it doesn't equate to hating men. But as there's no matriarchy that creates opportunities for systematic abuse of men, men being raped by women is pretty rare compared to its opposite. Which isn't to diminish the gravity of it – when it happens, it's just as deplorable as any other case of rape. But it doesn't justify misogyny.
>It is also going to become illegal or already is Vagrant-secretly recording your sexual encounters with a woman, even in the interests of preventing a false rape accusation could lead to other charges.
>Wytch-actually that was me trying to break through that blockhead of yours.As I saw though, I failed. Maybe next time I should use Cold's head. (Yes Cold, that was me stating I would use your head as a battering ram. And no, I was not serious so you can calm down.)
>Cold: No, I can't "prove" that her statement was a joke. Heck, I can't even "prove" that when I say "I'm going to eat you!" and chase my cat around the apartment I'm joking. But even my cat can figure out that I don's actually mean her harm. You could always ask Shaenon what she meant. As for Marcotte, her archives are a bit messed up, but if you go here:http://pandagon.blogsome.com/And do a search for "lacrosse" you will find many posts on the topic, with links to specific evidence. You may not agree with her on this — I don't — but she;s not basing her opinions on "I'm smarter than dumb ordinary people" as you seem to be in the Goodyear case.
>It is also going to become illegal or already is Vagrant-secretly recording your sexual encounters with a woman, even in the interests of preventing a false rape accusation could lead to other charges. Perhaps, though I'm not sure of it–I've heard a few anecdotal stories about men getting off scot-free after being accused of rape thanks to videos they accidentally (or "accidentally") took. And even if one would inadvertently open oneself up to other charges, they'd be pretty hard to prosecute–if you're secretly filming someone, how would they ever know unless it ended up on Youtube or some other public place?No need. I believe them. Problem is, it doesn't justify misogyny. Women who are raped by men don't all end up hating men. Men who are raped by women have no excuse for hating all women.Well, thank you for that. The problem is, though, while I'm no expert on the subject, from what I've heard many women who've been abused by men actually *do* end up hating men because of the experience. Hell, just look at the first post on here:http://www.ihatemen.org/IMO, "I hate men" is as blunt a statement of misandry as "I hate women" is a statement of misogyny from an MRA. If you read her comment, her reasons for doing so are more or less the same as the reasons MRAs give for hating women–abuse, cruelty, etc.men being raped by women is pretty rare compared to its opposite.I'm sorry–and if this comes off as trolling, I don't care, it's something I feel strongly about–this is not necessarily true. I've heard it said that rape is among the most under-reported of all crimes; female on male rape, in my view, is likely THE most underreported crime. Aside from the shame many rape victims feel, men are even less likely to be taken seriously (the common reaction of many police officers is "hey, you enjoyed it, didn't you?), and also there is much less physical evidence, in many cases, that a man can give to convince anyone that sex was not consensual–there's semen, evidence of vaginal trauma, etc. for women, but often not for men. The statistically lower rate of female on male rape, regardless of whether or not "the patriarchy" exists, seems to be an artifact of these causes rather than anything else.Anyways, Wytch: I looked up last night, they're telling the truth. Take this, for instance: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7661655Tl; dr: it found that men were superior in gross motor skills while women outperformed men in the fine motor Pegboard test.
>I've heard it said that rape is among the most under-reported of all crimes; female on male rape, in my view, is likely THE most underreported crime. Aside from the shame many rape victims feel, men are even less likely to be taken seriously (the common reaction of many police officers is "hey, you enjoyed it, didn't you?), and also there is much less physical evidence, in many cases, that a man can give to convince anyone that sex was not consensual–there's semen, evidence of vaginal trauma, etc. for women, but often not for men. The statistically lower rate of female on male rape, regardless of whether or not "the patriarchy" exists, seems to be an artifact of these causes rather than anything else.Bullshit. Yes, rape is severely underreported, and this is true for both male and female victims. (Incidentally, most male rape victims are raped by other men, not by women.) But our culture fosters male rapists, not female ones. Female rapists are a result of severe psychological issues that vary on a case-by-case basis. Male rapists sometimes have psychological issues, but more often than not they're actually a pretty predictable byproduct of their upbringing and environment. Remember, most rapists don't hang out in an alley and force themselves on strange women. Most of them seem and act very normal 99% of the time – and by all accounts, other than their predilection for rape, they are pretty normal. That's what patriarchy breeds.No matter how much MRAs want to deny it, men oppress women. Obviously there are individual aberrations from that rule, but on the macro scale that rule applies.
>David said:"No, I can't "prove" that her statement was a joke"But just because she's a feminist, you automatically assume it's a joke because women are perfect princesses and all in your world.Yet if it's an MRA saying the same types of things, would David automatically assume it's a joke or would he start crying out "misogyny"?You see the difference here? Only a feminist bigot would have this mentality
>But our culture fosters male rapists, not female ones. Female rapists are a result of severe psychological issues that vary on a case-by-case basis.Not necessarily. As I said above, it's just as possible that the reason male on female rapes seem more prevalent in society, regardless of "culture" or "patriarchy" or whatever, is that it's even harder to prove a woman raped a man than it is to prove a man raped a woman or a man raped a man (the rapist's semen would be present, physical trauma, etc).This is not to say it's worse than male on female or male on male rape, but you're disparaging and dismissing an issue that, while perhaps exaggerated by MRAs, is nowhere near as unworthy of attention as it seems to me you are implying.
>Ok, everyone! I have to admit, I am a fucking perfect princess! And it pisses me off when you say *all* women are perfect princesses, or that someone else *believes* that all women are perfect princesses because it's fucking hard work to become a perfect princess. It's not some kind of cake walk; think earning a Phd only with more sparkles and tea parties! And calling all of these normal ladies, who I am sure are perfectly nice, perfect princesses really cheapens the monumental investment of time and energy by real, true, honest-to-God perfect princesses!That's all. Proceed.
>This is not to say it's worse than male on female or male on male rape, but you're disparaging and dismissing an issue that, while perhaps exaggerated by MRAs, is nowhere near as unworthy of attention as it seems to me you are implying. And you're deliberately denying a social reality, so it stands to reason that you're not going to see eye-to-eye with the reality-based denizens of this blog.
>Vagrant, I think the http://www.ihatemen.org/ site is a terrible, wrong, unhelpful, obviously misandrist site. It's bad for men and for the women who post there; it encourages women to basically steep in their rage, much like MGTOW sites tend to do. I would say the same if the site were called ihateamericanmen.com. It would be interesting to see if some of the MRA/MGTOW folks who post here would be willing to similarly denounce sites that demonize women like, oh, NiceGuy's American Women Suck page.
>And you're deliberately denying a social reality, so it stands to reason that you're not going to see eye-to-eye with the reality-based denizens of this blog. I don't deny that male on female rape is a serious problem, I don't even deny that we live in a "male on female rape culture," though to convince me 100% that we do live in one is something that will have to wait for another thread. The point I am making is that due to a variety of factors, which I have already mentioned above, female on male rape is likely *vastly* under-reported, even more so than male on female or male on male rape, and thus represents a more significant problem than you admit. It would be nice if you addressed this, rather than going on about "social reality" or whatever. Until then, I think I'm more inclined to consider you the ideological mirror image of Cold and Wytch rather than a member of the "reality-based community" of this blog.