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| Woman Oppressing Men |
The oppression of men by mean, evil, surly women continues apace. Today: the verbal and psychological abuse heaped upon men by — brace yourself — female sales clerks. We turn to The Spearhead forums for evidence of this perfidy.
Kinetic opened up the discussion with a tale of a recent shopping excursion. It started out innocently enough with a trip to a tobacconist. Expecting to see men behind the counter at such a manly business, kinetic was horrified to find a pair of women instead. I’m sorry: C*nts. (That’s how they spell the word on The Spearhead.)
I ask for some good tobacco, and straight away one of the women give me attitude. So I say I want something thats not perfumed, something ‘male’, she says “you want what??!”, I say “forget it”. Im not put money in this c*nts pocket.
Im so sick of women. This tobacconist is a little shop thats meant to specialize, and this bitch first points me to the over the counter stuff which is available anywhere, then gives me attitude. It f*cking annoys me.
But this was not the end of the oppression inflicted on our poor hero by these dastardly women.
I then went to buy some new clothes from a major retailer, got to the counter, another woman there, I didnt say a word. She bags the stuff up, says “thanks”. I say nothing, take the clothes and walk off.
Can you imagine! She does her job, then says “thanks.” What an outrage!
As far as Im concerned they can all bollocks. Im not buying anything from a small female run business, and when I have to buy from the big department stores, Im not even going to say please or thankyou. They can simply f*ck off.
I’m sure they will dearly miss your business.
Clearly moved by Kinetic’s sad tale, Nurb piped up with words of support:
I know how you feel. I came to that same conclusion a few years back. When I go to the shops I act as if women don’t exist. I avoid eye contact as well, I can’t even stand to look at them because I know they’re just going to start me off with their cowshit. A woman who run’s their mouth just pisses me off to the point where I’d want to deck the fucker right there.
A woman talking in a store? Clearly deserving a punch in the head. Also: Note that Nurb has used the correct term in this context: “cowshit.” Women are, as we all know, incapable of “bullshit.” They can only manage the clearly inferior “cowshit.”
But are all female clerks equally evil? misterb suggested his comrades adopt a somewhat more nuanced view.
Personally I can tolerate a female attitude from a white woman and even a white male to female transsexual, never from a black woman or a latino woman. … I am not going give her my hard earn cents. …
If it’s an Asian woman or a Muslim woman I would classify her as a supremacist and a narcissistic asshat
A few commenters raised their eyebrows at this suggestion. “Why tolerate it from any female?” asked trent13.
Is there any solution to this kind of oppression? Several commenters suggested a kind of uncivil disobedience. Zebert suggested not buying anything from female sales clerks or sales representatives of any kind. ‘Women are the reason our species may exterminate itself,” he added later, in response to a commenter who was insufficiently outraged by the behavior of the sales clerks in question. “All human conflict exists due to women.”
But it was J. Durden who suggested an even more effective kind of incivility.
I remember when I was the assistant manager of a watch sales / repair shop, I had a policy to treat attractive women terrible. It was my way of balancing out the world (for myself), since I was sure their good looks got them tons of perks – drinks, getting out of tickets, etc.
It is from small gestures of defiance like this that revolutions begin.
J. Durden, I would call you the Rosa Parks of the Men’s Rights Movement, but I suspect that wouldn’t go over very well, given that Rosa Parks was, you know, a woman.
EDITED TO ADD: Thanks to Miranda for passing along a link to this lovely conversation.
Also, just so everyone knows: I’m totally being sarcastic in this post. (Except right now.) Indeed, I’d like to take this opportunity to introduce everyone to the “I’m totally being sarcastic” tag (see below), which will hopefully clear up any potential confusion in the future.
>Wow, that comment about black, Latina, Asian and Muslim women is horrible and bizarre.
>Welcome to the Men's Rights Movement. That is some serious self-imposed misery going on there. Women are not responsible for their sickness. I wonder if they sit there and seeth when they watch TV and a woman's face appears on the screen. Especially the many successful women. Maybe they don't watch TV because there are women on it. And yeah, Christina, I agree on the bigot comment. Horrible and bizarre.
>But don't you guys know….this isn't the way most MRA's think! Those are the more extreme members of the movement!Lol. Sounds silly, doesn't it.
>Miranda, thanks for pointing me to this lovely conversation in the first place. And for those co-alpha links as well; I've got something on them coming soon.
>'Women are the reason our species may exterminate itself,"Does this guy not realize that without women, the human species would literally terminate??? And people who are so angry they want to hit an innocent bystander just for existing??? That's messed. I hope these guys are on an FBI watchlist or something somewhere… hopefully… I don't think in the US proliferating hate speech is a crime in itself, is it?
>Miranda said: "But don't you guys know….this isn't the way most MRA's think! Those are the more extreme members of the movement!Lol. Sounds silly, doesn't it." Thank goodness there's no equivelant in feminism or with women. Nope, not at all. There's no "Not All Women Are Like That." Nor, "you can't say that about feminism because there are many kinds of feminism." No maam. NOT AT ALL.Just remember these men represent all MRA'S. Just like Andrea Dworkin represents all feminists.Random Brother
>Funny how a single forum post and a few cherry-picked comments define the entire Men's Rights Movement. I guess David finds these quotes merely "obnoxious":"I claim that rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire." — Robin Morgan, in 1974"Heterosexual intercourse is the pure, formalized expression of contempt for women's bodies." — Andrea Dworkin"And if the professional rapist is to be separated from the average dominant heterosexual [male], it may be mainly a quantitative difference."– Susan Griffin "Rape: The All-American Crime""[Rape] is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear" — Susan Brownmiller (Against Our Will p. 6)"Politically, I call it rape whenever a woman has sex and feels violated. You might think that's too broad. I'm not talking about sending all of you men to jail for that." — Catherine MacKinnon "A Rally Against Rape" Feminism UnmodifiedThere are plenty of men out there who have lost one qualified job too many to affirmative action, and David will continue capitalize on their frustration. However, he's had to sort and search through many legitimate grievances and observations to find the fringe elements. David and other feminists deliberately misrepresent and misinform to serve their own psychological, professional, or even financial interests, which is itself a form of deception.
>@Random BrotherDouble standards are the feminist's victual. They think that women, just because they are women, deserve full custody of children in a divorce they are more likely to initiate – no questions asked. They break up the family, they keep the kids, they get a check every month which they can spend at the grocer, mall, or crack house.
>So, RB, you're saying that NAMRAALT?
>IR and Randombrother, who cares about feminists? I totally do not get your point on that. No, it's not ok for feminists to talk like that either. Or republicans, or democrats, or gay rights activists, or anyone. And if someone else is talking like that, it does not give you license to talk like that.So no matter what ANY other group is doing, the above shit is ridiculous, and it is horrible for the MRA movement that it is encouraged and never denounced.
>IR: "he's had to sort and search through many legitimate grievances and observations to find the fringe elements."Link me to a discussion topic on a popular MRM site that is free of this kind of stuff. If I have to "sort and search" to find what I find, surely it must be easy as pie to find discussions free of misogyny. So how about a link or two, or maybe a dozen?Also, on Dworkin, I agree with this guy's observations:http://articles.latimes.com/1997-03-16/books/bk-38664_1_andrea-dworkin
>Bishopsinster, IR, and Random Brother,Allow me to point out the (well, one of several) flaw in your logic. You justify the words of MRA's by pointing out that "Feminists do it, too!!" But I never called myself a feminst. You guys, however, DO identify yourselves as members of the MR movement. Do you see how's there's literally, like, NO comparison there?And, as I pointed out on another thread, YOU do not get to decide that I am a feminist simply because you do not like what I say.
>David, you're welcome. 🙂
>@DavidAssuming you define misogyny as the hatred of all women for being women (not just Western female culture or the status of women), and not merely questioning a woman's whim or statements, I will say that almost every post on The Spearhead forums contains no objectionable content. So yes, you did have to dig through a lot of rational discussion to get to the garbage.Additionally, you so very conveniently left out the contributors who questioned his views, including two female contributors."It sucks that you've had such bad experiences with female sale representatives. To be honest, I have a hard time believing that it got so bad that you won't say at least thank you to any female clerk.""I know that if you walk in "pissed off" (your words not mine) that you have to deal with a female it's going to show. If you decide to give out that kind of attitude you can expect to get it back."Odd how you provided such a lopsided representation of that single discussion. How could we ever trust you to fairly represent an entire movement when you fail to tell both sides of a simple discussion?David, all criticism aside, I'm really disappointed in you. I really thought you could actually provide some constructive criticism about our movement, if only to provide a catalyst for improvement. So far, you've only given us red herrings and straw men – in a word, malicious deception by feminists for feminists. The only use for you is to advertise our online presence and observe your fallacies.It seems any criticism will have to come either from within or from unbiased observers. Modern feminism is just as bad as we make it out to be – the truth is disposable in the face of ideology.
>IR, this is constructive criticism of your movement. Don't sulk because it isn't sugar coated. Denounce comments like the ones quoted here. Recognize that they are misogynistic and a serious problem. Or your movement will never progress past a fringe echo chamber.
>1. I called the views "garbage." I'm not a member of The Spearhead forums, but I feel they've been thoroughly denounced already in any case.2. They are not a "serious problem" in comparison to male-bashing. This is because misogyny is well-understood and researched, while misandry is overlooked and even encouraged.3. This "fringe movement" pulls up more results on Google than "feminism." You can check the statistics yourself, or Paul Elam's article on the topic. Either way, it's safe to say that feminism has begun to wane while the MRM continues to grow.
>IR, pull your head out of the echo chamber. You've lost touch with reality.
>@SandyThat's… very helpful. "I'm in an echo chamber." I read mainstream magazines, literature, and actively try to challenge my existing paradigms, but it is I who is in an echo chamber.Out of curiosity, how often do you read books for leisure which are penned by men?
>I know that this is off topic, but I just want to point out WHY most people run like hell from the MR movement. Even I'm floored by this. http://www.the-spearhead.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=1474Hey, ASSHOLES, you want to know why some people lash out and KILL their partner who is trying to get the hell away from them? It's because THEY ARE CRAZY TO START WITH! This nutshells why I despise the MR movement. You guys MAKE ME SICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
>@Miranda -Would you say the same about a woman who killed her husband if he were abusive?This is why the Men's Rights Movement is gaining support – even converts from the feminist camp (such as Warren Farrell, a former NOW chairman). Feminism cannot survive without its precious double-standards.
>Jesus. You just can't help yourself. Are you a friggen robot or something? Is that the ONLY defense you have? OF COURSE I CONDEMN MURDEROUS ACTIONS OF WOMEN! Now that I've cleared that up, could you possibly, JUST ONCE, address sickness such as displayed in the thread I've linked to? Or do you not posses even a smitten of intelligence required to do so???
>On a more positive note, this was written by the famous Welmer hiself. No blame-shifting to some lone, crazy commenter on this one. Maybe I'll message Welmer personally and thank him for this little piece of gold.
>@Miranda,I've seen that and, in fact, sent that to David along with similar quotes regarding killing women and cops. Search articles regarding Raoul Moat on the-spearhead. And also Darren Mack. I can't link to them as I'm traveling with my family so am using my phone to write this. Also be sure to check out David's article here on the worst of the men's rights movement and follow those links he has. Especially the one regarding George Sodini. The MRM is becoming known as the "abuser's lobby" throughout the justice system and government. I first heard that term from a speaker at a national criminal justice conference and hear it more and more with time. They are losing support from the mainstream as they move along, the-spearhead was recently dumped by Google because of their content and Bill Price was begging his members for donations. I am glad for this blog David has created.
>@Miranda, Did you post the link or am I unable to see it on my phone?
>IR, yes, Kave did challenge the OP and others with similar views. Maybe I should have added all that to what was already a too-long post. But if I had added that I think, in all fairness, that I would also have to include the bits where other commenters called him a "f*cking c*nt" and a "mangina." "almost every post on The Spearhead forums contains no objectionable content."Either you're blind, or you have a radically different notion of "objectionable content" than I do.Anyone who wants to test who's right here can simply go to the spearhead and look at the comments under virtually any article (which is where most of the discussion takes place); they'll see misogyny in almost any topic, and see plenty of really egregious comments with literally dozens of upvotes. Or they can go to the forums there and find plenty of egregious stuff there too. I just went there to see how long it would take to find something objectionable. Bam. first topic I looked at: http://www.the-spearhead.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=10&t=1031