PoM: yeah, I figured if I was ever going to have a sampler in my house, it would have to be either useful or humorously subversive, as I already have many odd things to hang on the walls (6 full-sheet movie posters’ll pretty much take up a living room, and I have smaller posters, pages from calendars that are worth keeping for the art, etc…)

@K, I don’t know. I would call “having no say over events in my life” as having a lack of control. I would call “guy/MIL having that say instead” as them having control. ;) And I tend to think that people who are inconsiderate repeatedly are doing it on purpose, and purposly being inconsiderate is abusive.

But I’m not trying to argue, just point out a different way you can look at it. I’m not there in the situation either.

I don’t want to get too deep into my problems because the more I think about them, the angrier I get. But I’ll leave it at this; financial problems tend to compound over time unless you do something about them in the beginning.

Hugs for everyone!

Hey all. I know I don’t comment as much as I should, but I enjoy this blog immensely. My boyfriend has been struggling with depression and anxiety for years; it’s gotten so bad that I am really afraid for his safety. This news of Robin Williams’ death has triggered a fear in me about bf that I am not sure how to deal with. Feeling really helpless tonight.

Hugs where they’re wanted, anyone who wants them.

Robin Williams was a rare celebrity. Pretty much universally loved by everyone who knew about him, young and old. He truly didn’t belong to any one demographic of people.

My husband’s aunt/everybody’s “auntie” committed suicide weekend before last :(. She suffered with depression, among other things, for years and was receiving a lot of support – there were several people she knew that she “had” to call when she was feeling suicidal. After her father passed away this spring (an event that also affected my husband significantly), the depressive episodes got worse and the depression eventually found a way to get around her massive support system.

She was an amazing person who survived through years of extremely violent abuse and came out strong, incredibly loving and non-judgmental. She wouldn’t take anybody’s shit. She was like a third parent to my husband, especially when his parents divorced. It would take hours to list all of the amazing things she did in the community, especially for those affected by gang violence. I was lucky to have known her and have been welcomed as one of her own and will never forget all the work she put into our wedding (particularly the amazing cake she had made for our rehearsal dinner).

Perhaps the worst part is that she knew how much she was loved and would be missed. We knew because, among other things, she left an extremely personal item she’d worn constantly, one that her father had given her, directly to my husband with the note “keep this and know we’ll always be with you”. THIS is the physical representation of why suicide sometimes inspires anger in family members and I am unable to even type out that part without sympathy-crying.

I was a sobby, snotty mess at the funeral this weekend and, while he’s still dealing with the anger and “what now/what if”, we’re both OK and able to go through our everyday lives. Now that Robin Williams committed suicide and it’s looking increasingly likely that I caught a bad cold from the whole ordeal/his relatives, we just feel like depression did a double-take then punched crippled us in the bellies. Yuck.

That was probably horribly written, but I don’t even care.

Depression and suicide can go step on a bunch of LEGOs using somebody’s soft, malleable human feet then get so annoyed by the experience that they decide they want to leave us all alone forever. :(

Love ya, auntie.

@Falconer, that’s actually incredibly proactive, thank you.
@Policy of Madness & Auntie Alias, I have a horrible habit of rationalizing all the reasons I put off self care. I know I shouldn’t, a therapist might actually help me. As far as my bf, he has seen therapists, many of them in addition to taking a myriad of different drugs. Nothing seems to help in the long term. It starts to feel so hopeless, and that’s on my end; I can’t even imagine what it feels like to be the one affected.

Can I get some hugs, everyone? I have just moved out of my parents house for the first time, and it is super-hard emotionally, especially since I have a really good, loving relationship with them. D:

*hugs for breakfastman* I feel a small, yet gnawing emptiness in me whenever I think about my dad. He passed away in January. We had a complicated relationship but, I really do miss him.

Hugs, BreakfastMan.

Well, I’m in a better mood now! Thank you, kittens and babies.

I don’t understand this grief thing sometimes..but hey, it got me participating in one of these.

Have a hug breakfastman :). Moving out is definitely a different experience for everybody.

I am sorry for posting here even though I haven’t commented on the blog in a while but on a recent news item that touched me. I was stunned by the news about Robin Williams who died today of an apparent suicide. He certainly touched a lot of people not only with many actors and actresses in Hollywood but people all over the world. I’ve been reading on the internet various tributes to him. My favorite movie that he was in was” Dead Poets Society”. I also liked” Good Morning Vietnam ” and” Awakenings” in which he played with Robert Deniro. I think one of his movies he played a son of a feminist called “The World According to Garp” from the early 1980’s.

From what I have read he had been battling severe depression and sadness but I wonder what ultimately provoked him to kill himself? He had a wife to whom he married in 2011. She is of course devastated as are his fans around the world. I was having a good day enjoying the summer weather and I just turned on CNN and got the news. I am a bit bummed out not only that Mr. Williams took his life but that I will miss him in the movies. He was truly a funny entertainer. liked him in his standup act and he also did a lot of comedy shows for free to raise money for the homeless and other charities. He certainly left his legacy in giving a lot of happy smiles to millions of people. I was a little melancholy after hearing about another celebrity who took his own life I guess money and fame does not buy happiness. I just felt like venting here after hearing about the tragedy. Much healing to his family and loved ones.

I’m sorry, everyone. Virtual hugs and cake to all who would like them.

Have some Furrinati playing in the snow, everyone.

One of my biggest complaints today has been my bowels. I had a dissatisfying poop. That’s what’s wrong in my life. How lucky am I?

Thanks, sparky.

I love kittens plus babies.

To pay back the hugs I helped myself to, here are baby otterses.

Yes, that one has a pacifier.

Well, I just walked past my boss’s office where he keeps CNN going around the clock, apparently just for the noise.

Of course they’re talking about Robin Williams.

Just the sound of his voice gave me another crying jag.

I’m pathetic.