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Men's Rights Redditors: Don't help kids in distress, because a "hambeast" might accuse you of molesting her "crotchdumpling."

I‘ve been so busy with all the shenanigans surrounding AVFM and their little conference that I’m afraid I’ve been neglecting the good old Men’s Rights subreddit. Don’t feel bad, Men’s Rights subreddit, for today I took a few moments out of my hard-core semi-vacationing to pay you a little visit!

While there, I noticed the regulars discussing a terrible quandary that faces all modern men: “As a man, would you help a child in distress?”

Here are some of the answers that got upvoted:

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Yep. Upvotes for a fellow who says he let a three-year-old boy literally fall out of a shopping cart and smash his head open because, oh no, some hypothetical hysterical mother might have accused him of  child molestation.

The details of his story make so little sense I can only assume he’s making the story up — if he was walking past the bakery, how could he have been close enough to “reflexively grab” a child in a shopping cart inside the bakery?

I’m not sure which is worse, the thought that this guy actually let a kid fall and smash his head, or the thought that he made up a story about doing so in order to gain some internet points from MRAs. (Well, the former, obviously, but either way this is a mortifying spectacle.)

But not everyone got upvotes. Here’s a comment that got thumbs down from the Men’s Rightsers  — along with a heavily upvoted reply:

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Human Rights: You’re doing it wrong.

Thanks to r/AMR for pointing me to this lovely thread.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

Whenever I was back in the UK my granny would feed it to me. Also, did you guys get a product called “potted meat”? Child me found that name alternately hilarious and revolting.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

I hate pretty much all sandwich spread-type things other than pesto. It’s weird, feed me European or American food and I’m such a condiment hater, but put me anywhere in Asia and it’s more like “give me all of the condiments, then some more if we run out”.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

Not that I recall, and my diet was pretty lower-class/lower-middle-class British while I was growing up (except, no offal or dripping on toast although we had dripping in the house).

My childhood nightmares were brussels sprouts and mutton roast. Is it any wonder I became vegetarian?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

I hated British roast lamb as a kid, which was funny because I loved lamb in the Middle East, or anything Indian made with lamb. The condiments didn’t help. Like, mint sauce, wtf is that?

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

Cheese sauce improves all British cooking, apart from brussels sprouts and mutton.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

And silverbeet, nothing improves silverbeet either. And I love spinach, especially as a raw replacement for lettuce in salads. Go figure.

Ann Somerville
6 years ago

“mint sauce, wtf is that”

The devil’s hand cream, if you ask me 🙂

I love lamb. Mint does not belong with it. Or with peas!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

It’s the texture/viscosity too. Like, is it a sauce or a drink? It’s watery and lumpy at the same time.

Off to google silverbeet, since I have no idea what that is. Presumably living outside the UK is what spared me.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

@ Ann

I refer to mayo as Satan’s spooge, so have a seat right here next to me, friend.

mildlymagnificent
6 years ago

Roast lamb.

Mint sauce? That’s for the peas.

The gravy is for the meat and the roast taties and any other root veg.

The cheese sauce is for the cauliflower.

When you’re cleaning up your plate? Add more gravy to be soaked up by the bread and (real) butter.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

Cheese sauce I didn’t much like as a kid either. Basically I thought I hated a bunch of vegetables until I realized that I really liked them a. barely cooked and b. prepared with some combination of garlic, ginger, something salty (soy sauce, fish sauce, black beans, yellow beans, etc), and vinegar.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

Also, apparently an alternate name for silverbeet is “perpetual spinach”, which amuses me. Why perpetual? In that it leaves an aftertaste, or is it one of those things that once you plant it in a garden you’ll never get rid of it?

pecunium
6 years ago

I think it’s perpetual as opposed to seasonal.

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
6 years ago

Add me to the WTF with mint sauce on peas or meat or anything savoury. Ditto mayo (though I’ll say this, the mayo I’ve had in the US is better than here: it’s not as sweet. I hate mixing sweet and savoury/salty flavours.

Mixing Vegemite and cream cheese is an abomination.

However that whole fiasco did lead to the greatest Downfall parody of all.

http://youtu.be/5-GNilv65Ew

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
6 years ago

Shouldn’t it be perennial spinach, then?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

Perpetual makes it sound like some sort of vegetable-based curse.

katz
6 years ago

Or a saint. Our Lady of the Perpetual Spinach.

katz
6 years ago

They only had a one-day supply of leftover spinach, but it miraculously lasted forever.

katz
6 years ago

Actually I guess that would be a curse.

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
6 years ago

If it was baby spinach and stayed fresh, that’d be useful. Otherwise, hmm.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

It’s nature’s dwarf bread!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

(For me that would be a bin full of brussel sprouts that never runs dry.)

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

Spinach is lovely. Especially mixed with ricotta cheese and garlic, to fill cannellloni, baked with a tomato-based sauce. Or raw, as a substitute for lettuce in salads.

Silverbeet is horrid. So is marrow, and eggplant is only edible when mooshed up and made into something like baba ganoush.

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

I love spinach. Raw or cooked. Spanakopata is the best.

samantha
samantha
6 years ago
Reply to  kittehserf MOD

But I prefer not to be around babies because if I got their body fluids on me (and I have a somewhat irrational view of them as liable to leak or explode at any moment),

Oh, dear kittehserf – I have had four kids, and we are talking mountains of poo, rivers of pee and lakes of puke. And, really, they do not explode. It just seems that way.

Oddly enough, I was more grossed out by my grandkids leaking everywhere than I was by my own. Must be a hormonal thing. Or I am just a bad granny…

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

I read somewhere that mothers are less grossed out by the smell of their own baby’s poop than other baby’s poop. It is a physical thing.

samantha
samantha
6 years ago

I read somewhere that mothers are less grossed out by the smell of their own baby’s poop than other baby’s poop. It is a physical thing.

That actually makes sense.

Back in the 1970’s, there was an edition of the magazine “National Lampoon” that had a magazine-within-a-magazine called “Negligent Mother Magazine.” One of the “ads” in it was for the “Sparties – the seven-day diaper suit.” The picture was of a red-faced and squalling baby, wrapped up in a diaper suit that covered the poor kid from shoulders to bottom.

I was a new mother. My first-born was a few months old. I fell on the floor laughing.

Ally S
6 years ago

I’m very squeamish in general, but I’m okay with bodily fluids from babies. I suppose it’s because I used to really want to be a mom, and so I felt obligated to be uniquely tolerant of even the grossest stuff from babies. I’m not even grossed out by the smell of kids who need to be changed.

These days, I doubt I could ever become a mom in my lifetime due to various social barriers. But at least it’s easy for me to be around my baby cousins.

samantha
samantha
6 years ago
Reply to  Ally S

These days, I doubt I could ever become a mom in my lifetime due to various social barriers. But at least it’s easy for me to be around my baby cousins.

That just strikes me as wrong and unfair. Fertile women can have as many children as they want, whether or not they are good and loving moms. But people who truly want to give loving care to children, but do not fit whatever ideas society may have about who SHOULD care for kids, do not get to.

Feh. There are so many kids who need homes and do not have them.

Ally S
6 years ago

RE: mint sauce

I’ve never had it with meat, but if it’s anything like mint raita used for Desi meat dishes like seekh kababs and chicken tikka, then I’m all for it! If only the Desi restaurants nearby weren’t so damn expensive… X_X

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

I must be weird then. I gagged at the smell of my baby’s dirty diapers after she stopped breast feeding. (Before that I swear it smelled like a combination of mac and cheese and carrot cake.) I longed for her to take to the potty. I don’t handle poo well, even though I’ve had plenty of practice.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

Feh. There are so many kids who need homes and do not have them.

Yes, there are.

contrapangloss
6 years ago

Ally, you’d be a better mom than me!

I can only really deal with kids if:
a) they’re a patient and I’m just assisting with a transport to the ER
b) they’re over 10, and speak in understandable, non-redundant, sentances
c) I’ve gotten to know them, and they’re only around me for 30 minutes at a time
or d) i can convince myself I’m not really working with the kid, but with the kid’s pet.

If I have kids, I might just have to raise a puppy and a kitten simultaneously, just so I can pretend I’m really just training the kid how to care for our fuzzy overlords.

Or I could skip little kid altogether, and foster/adopt a pre-teen/teenager.

That’s something far, far off in the future, though. I may be an adult, but I have a lot of growing up to do before I go there.

LBT
LBT
6 years ago

RE: pallygirl

And silverbeet, nothing improves silverbeet either.

Aw, I kinda liked silverbeet!

RE: cassandrakitty

is it one of those things that once you plant it in a garden you’ll never get rid of it?

Nah, nah, I have it on good authority that THAT is potatoes. You really will NEVER get rid of them once you plant them. (In the area of NZ I was in at the time, anyway; they’d tried to dig ’em up years ago and I was STILL finding purple little thumb-size taters in the garden.)

Ally S
6 years ago

@samantha

I’ve wanted to be a mom since I was 14. I’ve never really understood why, although I’m guessing that the desire partly arose from abuse trauma – I grew up wishing that I could start a family on my own that wouldn’t be abusive as the one I was raised in, as if somehow that would erase the abuse in my own childhood. It was also something related to gender dysphoria because I felt that I could finally have a legitimate claim to womanhood if I became a mom. And overall, I’ve always loved kids.

But I eventually accepted the reality that adoption would be difficult if not impossible for me to do, due to being trans and having a very unstable financial situation. I doubt I’ll ever be able to afford it, and even if I could, I would have to deal with being a single trans mom, facing not only the stigma that single moms face but also the suspicion that I’m abusive just for being a trans woman.

It would be a miserable life for both me and the kid, so there’s no point in wanting to be a mom anymore. I’ve accepted this fully, although I admit that after thinking about this I’m finding myself trying to not cry. (I can’t be crying in a library.) Motherhood is just a fantasy to me now.

Ally S
6 years ago

Sorry, that was a really weird and sudden comment with lots of venting in it. There’s a lot going through my mind today.

katz
6 years ago

That just strikes me as wrong and unfair. Fertile women can have as many children as they want, whether or not they are good and loving moms. But people who truly want to give loving care to children, but do not fit whatever ideas society may have about who SHOULD care for kids, do not get to.

Feh. There are so many kids who need homes and do not have them.

It’s one of those things that’s massively unfair, yet still better than the alternatives. There are plenty of foster/adoption nightmares already (eg, the market for babies from China) and past attempts to stop undesirable women from reproducing are classified as historical atrocities.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

@ contrapangloss

A friend and I in high school used to joke that if either of us ever decided to have kids we’d do an exchange where she would take my kids when they were infants, and I’d take hers once they were about 5 or so, since she loved babies, and I’m far more interested in kids that can talk and run around. I don’t dislike infants, it’s just that kids get a lot more interesting once you can have a conversation with them.

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

Ally,
You’re still really young. Who knows where you’ll be in 10 or 20 years? Maybe you’ll be married and financially stable. You just never know where life will take you.

katz
6 years ago

Ally,
You’re still really young. Who knows where you’ll be in 10 or 20 years? Maybe you’ll be married and financially stable. You just never know where life will take you.

Seconded. Never say never.

Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

I’m glad my typo provided such amusement!

Pecunium — I was trying to avoid massive TMI, but the conversation was about me being bitten, and you saying you don’t do that cuz mouths and me being all “yeah, which would be a problem for the bitee, not the biter”…of course, I think you were cooking at the time, so idk why I thought you’d remember this!

And now I want your cooking, great. Because mint sauce is gross, but somehow you’d manage to make it edible!

Re: perpetual spinach — perennial plants grow back year after year, they don’t always stay above ground year round. So I guess a perpetual plant is a more precise term? Not that I’ve ever heard it used to describe any other year round plant, but idk.

Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

Also, Ally, yep to the “you’re still young”. Who knows where you’ll be at 30, or, for that matter, where science will be (thank you for accidentally reminding me to check up on uterus transplants, they’re starting to look quite viable!)

Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

Blarg, I guess no news is good news? Of the nine Swedish women who had uterus transplants (from living donors, mostly relatives), two rejected the uterus but are fine, and four were given IVF in early March or late Feb., no news on how that’s going. The first successful pregnancy in a transplanted uterus miscarried around 8 weeks, so I guess they’ve made it longer than that? Fuck, if they are still pregnant…they’ll hit 50/50 viability in a month…

They’re all cis women, but if science can get a baby out of a transplanted womb this year, who the fuck knows about a decade from now? Wish I could find an update in how their pregnancies are going though.

mildlymagnificent
6 years ago

Baby poos and wees? Exploding?

There’s a famous ad about that – “Number 3s”

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
6 years ago

I think my aversion to small humans and their body fluids is partly from lack of exposure – I’m the youngest of my family by seven years, and my only contact with other kids was at kinder and school.

Didn’t like most of them then, either. Gimme kitties any day. :/

Oh, speaking of kitties: good news! Took Fribbles to the vet for her three-month checkup today. She’s put on 150 grams since the last check, which for an 18-year-old cat with hyperthyroidism and hints of kidney trouble is pretty damn good!

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

Given that the laws are getting more progressive with respect to LGBT rights, and also the rights of non-coupled people, there’s no reason to assume current adoption or fostering norms will be this way in 10-20 years’ time. Also, you might partner with someone who already has biological children, in which case you could be a step-parent. I think they’re also making advances in reproductive technology where the contributing cells aren’t gametes, so there will hopefully be loads of options for you to be a parent irrespective of your transitioning process. I hadn’t heard of transplanting uteruses before.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

Great news on the cat check-up. 🙂

marinerachel
6 years ago

I’ll be leaving my crotchdumpling at the end of the driveway, in case anyone’s interested in a free one. What. A. Grump.

cloudiah
6 years ago
Reply to  kittehserf MOD

Go Fribbles!

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
6 years ago

Fribbie Power!