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The Chuckles Turned to Guffaws: AVFM conference Saturday wrapup

Janet Bloomfield PRs up a storm. Pic borrowed from r/amr.
Janet Bloomfield PRs up a storm.

Well, the AVFM conference is over. I thought I’d post links to some of the media coverage today. I’m not sure Paul Elam and co have quite attained the level of respectability they were going for with the conference. It probably didn’t help that their PR gal, Janet Bloomfield, kept posting about “whores” and then, during the final panel discussion, delivered a passionate defense of “doxxing.”

Anyway, here’s the press coverage today:

Men’s rights conference takes aim at feminism, by Adam Serwer, MSNBC.

Serwer presented a sardonic take on the conference, full of revealingly awful details. Some highlights:

What animated most of the speakers at the conference was feminism and how it needed to be defeated. …

At the conference, feminism was responsible for turning wives against their husbands, bleeding them dry in divorce proceedings and separating them from their children, levying false accusations of rape and abuse against good men, or creating an ever-present culture of hatred where men are vilified.

Though men’s rights activists who hosted the conference often say sexual assault against men isn’t taken seriously, the audience laughed when speaker Fred Jones mentioned his fears about his son being raped after being arrested in New Orleans.

“He’s kinda small and kinda cute, good looking, you know what I mean?” Jones said. “You know what they do with –” Jones cut himself off. But the audience laughed.

Barbara Kay, a columnist for Canada’s National Post, argued that …  [r]ape on college campuses … was a myth perpetrated by man-haters …

“The vast majority of female students allegedly raped on campus are actually voicing buyer’s remorse from alcohol-fueled promiscuous behavior involving murky lines of consent on both sides,” she said, drawing chuckles from the audience. “It’s true. It’s their get-out-of-guilt-free card, you know like Monopoly.” The chuckles turned to guffaws.

The First International Conference on Men’s Issues: Day 1, by Arthur Goldwag, Hatewatch

On the SPLC’s Hatewatch blog, Goldwag — who wrote that famous SPLC  takedown of the Men’s Rights movement — delivered up a surporisingly straightforward account of the first day of the conference. Some highlights:

A Voice for Men’s Paul Elam warned attendees to keep low profiles, lest they be harassed by protesters, and made much of the police presence he had secured. There were indeed uniformed policemen on site, and quite a few black-shirted security guards. There were camera crews from Vice and a number of reporters. But the only sounds to be heard outside the VFW Hall were chirping birds and the hum of passing traffic—there wasn’t a protestor in sight. I counted between 150 and 200 people in the hall. …

The Canadian Senator Anne Cools, who opened the conference, spoke at great length about how feminism has hijacked Canada’s family courts, quoting Blackstone on women’s rights, the song “Frankie and Johnnie” and even Euripides to give lie to the supposed feminist myth that women were historically oppressed. Frankie and Medea, she implied, both gave as good as they got. Erin Pizzey, the well-known novelist, ex-feminist, and founder of Chiswick Women’s Aid, one of the first women’s shelters, indicted the movement she had once helped lead as a radical Marxist plot to turn women against men, destroy families, and create a billion dollar social welfare industry.

My Experience at the First International Men’s Conference So Far, by Helen Smith, PJ Media

And then there was “Dr. Helen,” writing on her blog on the right-wing website PJ Media. Dr. H, one of the speakers at the AVFM conference, described her time amongst the MRAs as “quite a delight.” Indeed, her account was so chipper I found myself wondering if she had even attended the same conference as Serwer and Goldwag — or the conference I watched several hours of online.

The crowd of what looked to be about two or three hundred people were diverse and ranged from all ages to all ethnic backgrounds. There were more men there but almost as many women it seemed! … I was in awe and amazed at the great group of intellectual speakers and the audience who asked questions that were critically thought out and challenging.

Yeah, definitely a different conference.

She did have one worry, though: that other people were there to report on the conference besides her.

My only concern with the conference was the media that was present. It seemed that reporters from Time, MSNBC, GQ, and Vice.com were there. I got an uneasy feeling about a few of them though I suppose their stories could go either way, though I think I know which way to bet. There were a couple of women from Vice.com that we sat with at an appreciation dinner for speakers who seemed very nice but frankly, a bit clueless.

I’m guessing those women from Vice.com are a lot less “clueless” than Dr. H thinks.

See the AgainstMensRights subreddit for more discussions of the conference. I borrowed the pic for this post from here.

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pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

Re the marriage and divorce data, there have been huge societal attitudinal changes over time, such as:
– females having access to higher pay and greater variety of jobs
– females being able to stay employed in public sector jobs after marriage (the rule used to be that only one partner could be employed, and that would be the male)
– females becoming better educated (secondary school as well as post-school)
– the introduction of single parent benefits (I think early 1970s for NZ, YMMV)
– a greater acceptance of cohabitation, which in part has led to a higher proportion of out of wedlock births (I wish that term would go, it’s such a pearl-clutching one)
– there’s also structural changes in the population such as the proportion contributions from ethnic groups, who may have difference cultural/religious beliefs that relate to marriage (an obvious one being arranged marriages)

The HUGE difference too has been the introduction of no-fault divorce. Prior to that, where there were irreconcilable differences, there were instances when one partner would lie about having an affair so that a judge (yes, it used to be up to a judge, at least in NZ) would grant the divorce. As you can imagine, there were a lot of unhappy people in marriages who couldn’t get divorced because neither wanted to lie about being the one at fault.

Ergo: there is likely to be a selection bias difference between people getting married now and people getting married in decades past. For example, I would expect that moderately-to-strongly religious people would be marrying at higher rates than other groups.

Therefore, comparisons of divorce rates over time are a flawed measure because it’s not comparing apples with apples.

Conclusion: looking at divorce rates over time tells us nothing other than what the divorce rates are.

Ken L.
6 years ago

No offense to anyone who love stats, and the like but honestly fuck the stats. Stats in my view mean nothing in these philosophical (might i add possible spiritual.) matters.even if there where stats compiled by the most misogynist statistician in the world that proved every MRA talking point was bullshit. MRA’s (in fact any hate group) still would not understand why they can be the pieces of trash they are. or switch it around lets say the MRA stats were right and so what? it would not change my views on anything I would still be fighting for equality for everyone. For me this is where the waters get deep. in the end the only way to solve issues like this is to stop using the thing in your head and start using the one in your chest. sorry to get all preachy but i needed to say it.

cloudiah
6 years ago

They are trying to get fathers more involved, which is a good thing.

Nope. Trying to get loving parents more involved is a good thing. Pretending that “getting fathers more involved” is always a good thing ignores the cases where fathers are abusive, refuse to be involved, etc. All feminists argue for is that women and children should be protected from abusive partners/fathers, which argues against some kind of blanket presumption that the father’s involvement is always a good thing.

But that is the rankest misandry, I know. Which is why MRAs regularly make fun of “the best interests of the child” as being somehow part of the feminist master plan. (Which it is, and that’s actually a good thing.)

I haven’t been reading Justin, because he’s an ass. I think I’ll go back to not reading him.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

@Ken: well, statistics are important in the (feminist) sense that they tell us whether gender equality exists or not. How can one know there is inequality, or equality for that matter, if we don’t know the numbers? How can we tell if things are improving, or getting worse, over time without numbers? Proportions of females going into higher education, the female vs. male proportions in poverty post-divorce, gender pay gap, etc.

Back to the idea of fatherless households having worse outcomes for male children, what about households where the two parents are partnered but the father goes away a lot. (I know that mothers are also away for these reasons, but I’m focussing only on the fathers as that is the argument.) Like:
– whether the father is in the military and is posted away. That happened to me a lot as I had a father in the navy and he was away for 6 months at a time on naval postings.
– fathers in the merchant navy
– fathers who are in jobs where they need to work away from home for extended periods of time, such as those who work on oil platforms, who have to do field work, travelling salespeople
– fathers who work in a different place than where the household residence is, so live somewhere else during the week and come home for the weekend
– fathers who are jailed, and the relationship is sustained over that time and the parties are back together once the father leaves jail

Fathered households includes all these types of households, as well as the one where the father comes home each day. If having an absent father is the issue, then one would expect to see that these uncommon types of fathered households having negative outcomes for children. I haven’t noticed, for example, that military brats like me have poorer outcomes.

Ken L.
6 years ago

@pallygirl

Well I understand what you mean. I would point out that while i agree stats.can help us understand these ideas they can never point out true equality. even if the numbers are 50/50 on thing like college graduates, enroll, pay rate,ect. it tells us nothing about the underlying feeling, attitudes and thoughts that lead to those numbers being unequal or hopefully one day equal. so until we fix or understand those untangle things the person being made into the “other” for whatever reason will never be truly equal

pecunium
6 years ago

Justin: pecunium: To answer you. I am interested in all the facets of the question you presented regarding custodial parity. I was also interested in which facets you would tackle. I did not want to lead the witness. Please feel free to address any or all that you like.

Non-responsive.

One, you didn’t say you were interested in any aspects of the discussion. You posed an unanswerable yes or no question as if it were relevant; having loaded it with connotative language (female centric audience) implying there is a “correct” answer, and that the people here were going to get it wrong.

As to the “leading the witness” aspect of things, you failed. Yes no question do lead the witness. They are useful in a courtroom because individual lawyers aren’t interested in getting the truth, but in painting a picture which favors their client. As such the desire is to limit the response. so as to avoid introducing facts which run counter to the narrative interpretation beneficial to the story the attorney is trying to tell.

Futhermore how a yes/no pair is presented will influence the answer (your was worded in a way which, had the interogotory been face to face, would tend to garner a yes response).

The question is still not able to be answered, as you have still failed to define your terms. which imlplies you aren’t asking in good faith. Reading your other comments/replies (even without your admission of trolling) makes this more apparent; which means any question you ask, which doesn’t have defined terms is probably being presented in such a way as to allow you to use it to declaim a lack of understanding/concern for something “important” or just an out right hostility to the male race.

Please feel free to address the reasons you 1: chose to engage classic trolling, 2: thought you were entitled to continue without let or hindrance, and 3: having admitted to doing a hurtful thing, knowingly; and with intent, you were surprised enough to attempt to shame people into allowing you to have the unfettered ability to do it again?

Having done that, feel free to explain why we should give a shit what you think; in light of your cavalier treatment of facts, asshole nature and inability to break comments into coherent elements; esp. in light of the less than coherent content.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

@Ken: thanks for the response. Yes, stats are just one piece of information, we also need an idea of “what should be” (philosophy/ideology) and also qualitative information – talking to people about their barriers, goals, and so forth.

The stats tell us what is and what was, they don’t tell us why, or even whether the numbers or trends are important. 🙂

Hooray for multidisciplinary practices!

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

“but I am not convinced that this is the best place to start for policy makers.”

…um, what? No, really, regardless what the divorce rate is, how you define that, etc, what do policy makers have to do with this?

“With regard to the fatherlessness data. I was not suggesting that these outcomes are deterministic, neither is the website. The presentation is certainly a little agenda based.”

Just a little, yeah. Or maybe they biased those stats as much as possible without breaking them completely. You clearly grasp stats, so you must get the difference between “X% of Y group are Z” and “of group Y, X% are Z, which is a Q fold risk” — the former is a scare tactic, and bad math. Anyone looking at “[large number]% of [bad thing] can be contributed to fatherlessness” isn’t going to ask “but what’s the absolute risk increase?”. Even for pushing your agenda it’s a shitty way to do math since sure, it might outrage, but if they mentally flip it to “[large number]% of fatherless kids are [bad thing]”, they’re gonna go “common sense says no” and cease listening entirely.

“They are trying to get fathers more involved, which is a good thing.”

Which is why something more like “if you stay in your kid’s life, your kid has 1/X the risk of Y” is better than scare tactics and misleading data.

“From this view point, whether or not other factors play in is not immediately important to their goal. Certainly some factors like single parenting and poverty are coupled.”

Um, if the goal here involves policy makers? Then yeah, these things matter. If poor people are more likely to be single parents, then decreasing the number of people living in poverty would decrease the number of single parent households, and all the bad outcomes correlated with that.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

cloudiah,
Fascinating and disturbing. Thank you.

Anybody want to take a ride on my teal deer?

I looked it up and there is alot of misinformation floating around among the inactivist crowd, (Thanks also for that word. I am stealing it.) but fibroblasts themselves are really neat.

Here’s what Wikipedia has to say:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fibroblast

The company that makes the infamous cream is called SkinMedica. Here’s the product:http://www.skinmedica.com/skin-care-products/tns-essential-serum

They do use fibroblasts, but they are lab grown from 20 yr old donated (by the parents, not the baby. So, still not cool.) foreskin, not from freshly purchased from hospitals, sold without our knowledge foreskins. According to the labs that sell fibroblasts for research etc, they only accepted the single foreskin used to make the fibroblasts with full and informed consent.

Any connective tissue will do to make fibroblasts, but new baby tissue is best and foreskins are the only parts we routinely remove from new babies. Rather than throw them out, they used them to heal people.

To be continued…

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

Teal Dear, Part II

Then a shifty cosmetic company decided to use the fibroblasts to sell their worthless crap in a jar.

According to this article: http://www.sdcitybeat.com/sandiego/article-7356-the-$140-million-foreskin.html

Advanced BioHealing, a Connecticut-based company with a 70,000-square-foot manufacturing facility in La Jolla, currently uses ATS’s “Dermagraft” treatment, which is applied primarily to diabetic foot ulcers. Carlsbad-based SkinMedica also employs ATS’s fibroblast process but discards the cells and uses only the protein-rich culture in its skin-cream products.

Protein rich culture? So, collagen.
That’s not going to do anything to make your wrinkles disappear.
http://www.yourbeautyadvisor.com/2012/10/skin-myths-debunked-collagen-and-elastin/

So, the cream is just cream and in no way special. This super expensive cream may as well be mayonnaise.

Neither company has acquired a prepuce in nearly 20 years: Advanced BioHealing and SkinMedica’s cells lines are both derived from a single foreskin.

So, no. hospitals are not selling babies’ foreskins to cosmetic companies, nor are actual foreskins in the product. The product doesn’t do anything special. It’s a scam. Also, the parents who donated that foreskin thought it was going to be used to heal people in need, not fleece rich people. So, yeah, not ethical.

I can find no reputable sources showing that hospitals can sell human remains or pieces parts of living people without consent. That’s crapola. Foreskins do not appear to be in demand.

When my husband worked in a surgery, even small parts like toes went to the morgue. A foreskin might just be chucked in a bio-hazard bag and disposed of like bio-hazards are but it would not be squirreled away in secret to be sold to a lab. That’s not legal.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

Ken L
You find facts get in the way of your armchair philosophizing?
Statistics can inform us of so much, not everything, but alot. Why would you discount them as meaningless? Really? “Fuck stats”?
You prefer ignorance and conjecture?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

I’m not the only one who’s just scrolling happily past Justin’s teal deers, right?

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

@cassandra: I’m with you, my eyes are glazing over.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

Nope.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

I gave up after he said that he’d “levied” a remark.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

and the levy was dry?

brooked
brooked
6 years ago

@cassandrakitty

You wouldn’t scroll past Justin’s mutilated “fatherlessness data” if you thought fathers were important. Whatever, typical female centric website commentator.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

But if he really cared he’d make the effort to present his ideas in a more digestible format, wouldn’t he? Tsk tsk, Justin.

fruitloopsie
fruitloopsie
6 years ago

May I start the counting game until the trolls go away or I’ll just start it if it just makes anyone feel better… 1

And also..

Lea

“But last night an MRA in the comments over at Motor City Muckraker was claiming that women are responsible for infant circumcision because baby foreskins were sold to cosmetic companies to make wrinkle creams for women.”

http://m.quickmeme.com/meme/3q1dkb

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

Not often I get one who actually understands some level of stats, so I’m sorta enjoying this. I’d enjoy it more if he’d acknowledge that using misleading data to advance your agenda is bad form.

Because I can, let me display, with an ice cream example:

Facts here —
Ice cream flavors are chocolate and “everything else”
Rainbow sprinkles are gross and bad
40% of people prefer chocolate ice cream
10% of the total population likes the sprinkles

So, if you read “80% of people who like rainbow sprinkles like chocolate ice cream” (a), you’re gonna assuming that chocolate ice cream makes people like shitty things. Or you’re gonna go “no way does anyone like those things that much”.

But if you read “people who eat chocolate ice cream are four times as likely to eat rainbow sprinkles” (b), no chance of that “no way…” chiming in.

Now how about “8% of people eat chocolate ice cream and rainbow sprinkles” (c)?

Or “twice as many chocolate ice cream fans eat rainbow sprinkles than you’d expect if chocolate ice cream didn’t make them taste better” (d)?

Now, idk which would be better between b and d, b is assuming that the rate at which non-chocolate fans eat rainbow sprinkles is the expected rate for all of society, d is assuming that the observed rate — 10% of people like rainbow sprinkles — is the expected rate. A though? Definitely misleading, and c is absolute risk, which is kinda useless when making a point about relative risk. Otoh, if you want to increase rainbow sprinkle sales, then any of them, combined with the absolute rate of eating them being 10%, would tell you to target chocolate ice cream fans. Of you’re trying to prove that chocolate ice cream increases the liking of sprinkles? C.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

And now my sleeping pill is kicking in, g’night guys!

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

2, night, and people who prefer chocolate flavoured ice cream are in the wrong. 🙂

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

If Justin’s so concerned with fatherlessness, he probably shouldn’t be defending the MRM. Sure, when a man has a sob story about being denied custody the MRAs will take his side. Even if said father was abusive or neglectful and denied custody for good reason.

However, the MRAs also worry about spermjacking all the time and believe they should have the right to abandon their children, leaving them wait for it… fatherless! The MRM is not a good movement if your goal is more fathers involved in their children’s lives.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

Also, despite the recent “Farrell knows famous people!” Lennon anecdote, I can’t imagine most MRAs being all that supportive of men who want to be the primary caregiver to their children. They’re too prone to shaming any man who isn’t Manly McMachoBalls enough.

Wetherby
Wetherby
6 years ago

I’m not the only one who’s just scrolling happily past Justin’s teal deers, right?

Nope – he’s a pompous blowhard who badly needs a copy-editor. I bet he really rates himself as both a thinker and a writer, but the evidence is overwhelmingly against him.

And if he isn’t an actual rape apologist, he’s someone who has no problem with posting blatant rape apologetics in an attempt to be “controversial”, regardless of whether it’s an appropriate space or whether there may be triggering side-effects on the readers. Gosh, he’s so edgy.

kittehserf
6 years ago

I’ve barely glanced at the whole threads where Justin’s been bloviating for a while. The boredom and eugh factors are a bit much. Why hasn’t he been banned, btw?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

Maybe David’s been busy. If we’re voting for a ban then yeah, let’s do that, my scrolling finger is getting tired.

Sworebytheprecious (@DarkHorseSwore)

i’d have a much easier time lending the mrm and it’s concerns credibility if avfm was on the fringes of the movement instead of being dead center. i mean, c’mon guys: they are not any kind of reputable organization whatsoever. elam’s cabal is fundamentally incapable of integrity, hopeless but proud, and pitiful by design. if you don’t agree after observing their fiasco of a conference, there is nothing i or anyone else can say to help you.

Ally S
6 years ago

Yay!

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

Let me guess. He tried to bring up circumcision?

kittehserf
6 years ago

Huzzah, good riddance!

brooked
brooked
6 years ago

Toodle-oo Justin! I feel great pity for all the message boards you will crap up in the future.

Wetherby
Wetherby
6 years ago

I’m not normally a great fan of banning people, but there’s a certain type of troll who combines arrogance, pomposity, verbosity, insincerity and desperately flailing unoriginality in one repulsive package – and those can’t be got rid of quickly enough. (Remember B______n?)

If they’re interesting, fine. If they’re entertaining, even finer. But if they’re both offensive and deeply, deeply boring, what’s the point of indulging them?

kittehserf
6 years ago

They’re various degrees of offensive by default – they’re bloody misogynists, after all – but I am totally in favour of banning the instant they get into rape apology or targetting regulars.

seranvali
6 years ago

It looks like lots of people are responding to Justin’s “questions” and I’m finding the answers interesting so I’ll throw in my 2c worth and see what you think.

“So here are my questions to a female centric audience. Do you think there is parity in child custody outcomes? Do you think fathers are important? What do you think a father should do when he wants to be involved with his child(ren) and the mother does not want this? I welcome your responses.”

This is really, really slippery framing of the questions. The first two are framed as simple yes/no questions, when they aren’t simple at all.

1. No, I do not think there is parity in child custody outcomes. The outcome depends on a lot of issues and none of this is easy. The court needs to know about the relationship between the parents and the children. The one who spends most quality time with them and on whom they unthinkingly depend is in the strongest position because the children may be traumatized by being separated from them. Most courts assumed that the primary caregiver is the mother because until very recently that’s been the way families have been set up. This isn’t always the case now. Now both parents may work and may spend pretty much equal time with the children and if this is the case it needs to be made very clear. In this case the children may be traumatized by being separated from either parent, so in order to serve the interests of the children you may need a 50/50 arrangement, with parents behaving like grown ups and putting thier own problems asside in order to give the children what they need. If men want more time with their kids they need to say so and prove their involvement with and love for those children.

Something I’ve noticed reading a lot of stories from aggrieved MRA fathers is that almost always they talk about thier children as playing pieces or weapons to use against thier ex-wives and how unfair it is that they don’t have custody. They don’t usually say that they want custody because they love their children and want to be with them. It’s all very odd. It’s even more odd if they balk at paying child support. If they love their children they’ll pay child support and be happy about it because it means their beloved children are being well cared for. If the parents are acting like grown ups and are reasonably neutral or friendly he’ll get to see where his money is going. This works for women paying child support too. Of course the point us moot if it’s a 50/50 arrangement.

Of course, all of this falls down if either parent is abusive. Nobody who is abusive is fit to raise their kids, regardless of their sex.

2. *Eyeroll* Of course fathers are important! By that I men kind, loving, involved fathers who want to be part if their children’s lives. So are mothers as long as neither abuse the children or each other.

3. Then they need to come to a reasonable accomodation and work together to give their children what they need. This is what adults do. Arguing in front if the children will only upset them and every non-abusive person should be able to spend time with their children.

Is this realistic, do you think? Most of my divorced friends seem to get along happily enough with this kind of arrangement.

pallygirl
pallygirl
6 years ago

For me, custody parity means that the most appropriate parent has the children. How on earth one would go about assessing that is a piece of research design I don’t even want to think about.

There’s also the custody arrangements where the parents have come to a mutual decision outside of court. In my small personal experience of three friends having their relationships split up, of which two were marriages, none of them went through the court process at all.

So, for assessing custody parity, do we include the non-court arrangements or not? Fundamentally, the issue is also who gets to make the call whether each custody arrangement is, in fact, in the best interests of the child/ren? This would be such a minefield to get into.

The low proportion of appeals against court decisions is not evidence there is no issue – appeals cost money and poor and middle class people often don’t have access to the funds required to conduct an appropriate appeal. However, in a number of cases there possibly is no “best” parent at a “beyond reasonable doubt” level of proof and the case may be decided on “balance of probabilities”. In lots of those instances, where each parent is roughly equal with respect to providing the child/ren with a loving home, then I’m not sure how any court decision could be “wrong” as definitionally there doesn’t appear to be a “wrong outcome” that is possible.

But yeah, really sick of hearing about how MRAs are robbed of their children. Surely being an MRA makes the person an unfit parent by default anyways? The probability of a child being brought up to despise females is not something I would think a court would ignore in its custody decisions.

Wetherby
Wetherby
6 years ago

Talking of skeevy rape apologists, here’s something to restore your faith in humanity.

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
6 years ago

Argenti, I give you a standing ovation for your extreme fortitude in dealing with Justin’s tortuous rounds of data-twisting, dismissing, and look-over-there-ing. You sounded like you were having fun with the number-crunching – I hope that was the case!

Adding another “huzzah!” to the news of Justin’s ban. How could anyone that obnoxious and disingenuous still be that damned boring?

kittehserf
6 years ago

Wetherby, that is indeed gratifying.

LBT
LBT
6 years ago

So glad Justin is gone. Notice, again that he pretty much completely ignored my existence. He came here looking for women to mock, pretty sure, and I didn’t fit his paradigm so he just pretended I didn’t exist.

WAY TO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE JUSTIN.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

FM — thanks, and yeah, it’s been awhile since we had a troll I could bury in numbers.

Pallygirl — much as I appreciate the statistical answer, I have to disagree about chocolate ice cream! Rainbow sprinkles truly are vile though.

Robert
Robert
6 years ago

There’s a Usenet acronym that came to mind while skimming Justin’s herd of teal deers – MEGO. My Eyes Glaze Over.

Wonder if he knows the ‘this is my observation as a dude’ dude?

pecunium
6 years ago

Justin was being dishonest in his questions, e.g., Do you think there is parity in child custody outcomes?

Buried in there is a begged question: there ought to be parity in child custody outcomes. I don’t think parity is relevant. The desired outcome should be that which is in the best interest of the child.

But such an answer wasn’t available; because Justin chose to frame the question in way which would force the discussion into his pet issues, where (I am sure) he had some stock responses lined up. His unwillingness, when pressed, to explain which aspects of child custody he wante to discuss made that plain.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
6 years ago

I’m not sure why it’s so hard for people to grasp the idea that the goal of child custody hearings is to secure the best outcome for the child. If one of the parents isn’t happy with that outcome, too bad, it’s not about them.

kittehserf MOD
kittehserf MOD
6 years ago

MEGO. My Eyes Glaze Over.

::scribbles note to remember this::

Buried in there is a begged question: there ought to be parity in child custody outcomes. I don’t think parity is relevant. The desired outcome should be that which is in the best interest of the child.

Yup. The minute it’s asked that way, there’s a damn good chance it’s about ownership of the child and punishment of the woman.

Also YAY for seeing

begged question

used properly. “Begging the question” used to mean “asking/posing the question” is fingernails-down-a-blackboard stuff for me (yes Tony Robinson I’m looking at you).

Blair
Blair
6 years ago

The speech by Senator Anne Cools is here (part 1)

Also, Press Progress and MSNBC have something about it.
http://www.pressprogress.ca/en/post/national-post-columnist-slammed-us-media-rape-comments

Robyn blanpied
Robyn blanpied
4 years ago

The main complaint seems to be that women don’t find men as interesting as men think they should.
Every complaint centers on women not tending to men’s needs.
The bottom line seems to be that laws are required to force women to pay attention to men. Otherwise, men are forced to care for themselves. A job they don’t want and that women don’t want.

Perhaps men might concentrate on behaving like someone you might like to have hanging about?

And make your your own damn sammich.

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