Open Thread for Personal Stuff, June 2014 Edition

Hey, we're huggin here!

Hey, we’re huggin here!

An open thread for personal stuff, continuing from here.

As usual for these threads: no trolls, no arguments.

About David Futrelle

I run the blog We Hunted the Mammoth, which tracks (and mocks) online misogyny. My writing has appeared in a wide variety of places, including Salon,, the Washington Post, the New York Times Book Review and Money magazine. I like cats.

Posted on June 19, 2014, in off topic, open thread. Bookmark the permalink. 580 Comments.

  1. That’s where I’m at – it seems rude. If he doesn’t respond over the next forty-eight hours, I’ll send him a note saying, really, it’s cool if you don’t want to talk but it would have been nice if you’d communicated that to me and didn’t just GTFO. I’ll leave it at that.

    Gotta give people a chance though. It seems unlikely but this may simply be an issue of lacking access to phone and email.

  2. There is a NZ saying about government, which came from a slightly different phrase, which could apply here: Never suspect conspiracy what cock-up can explain.

  3. It’s actually called Hanlon’s razor. ;) The original verbage is:

    “Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.”

    I like the Kiwi version better though.

  4. My sister said she’ll help me with making a good resume. She also gave me a decent amount of money for living expenses and is sending me a “birthday package” of some kind (my birthday is 3 days). I’m still really stressed out by job stuff but at least I can take care of more things now.

    Meanwhile, I’m feeling really good about myself today because of hormones and because I managed to find a sleeveless top that suits me well. It might sound weird, but wearing a sleeveless top is a huge deal to me because I used to specifically avoid wearing them due to dysphoria and other body image issues. Now that the hormones are starting to have effects on my body, I feel so much better wearing one. (pic)

  5. Ally, your birthday is the day before mine! And since she was in labor 36 hours, my mother likes to start the birthday stories on the 19!! We’re birthday twins sorta :)

    And nice shirt, I hope this doesn’t come off creepy, but is that a hint of cleavage?

  6. Yep, that is in fact cleavage. The hormones are already doing that to me. I never expected it would happen this soon. (And no worries! It’s not creepy. I’d only be creeped out if you were a dude.)

  7. kittehserf MOD

    Nice pic, Ally!

  8. Can we get one of these for July, David?

  9. That’s really amazing that the hormones are working so fast.

  10. Argh, the internet ate my comment! Let’s try this again… TW: lady bits issues, discussion of cancer and various medical interventions.

    Biopsy results came back: no cancer, yes hyperplasia, which means that my risk for all sorts of “fun” reproductive system cancers is significantly higher than normal. And since I can’t handle the usual hormonal treatments, I get the deluxe surgical package: uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes in one go. By a robot. NephewB is gonna be SO jealous! This will be followed by several months of experimentation to find an estrogen dosage that will help avoid bone loss and/or breast cancer and won’t turn me into a raging pms monster. And probably mammograms.

    I feel like I should be more upset about all of this, but mostly I’m relieved. Surgical menopause sounds so much better than the thought of another twenty years of cramps, wildly irregular cycles and occasional month long periods.

    But seriously, a fucking robot. Welcome to the future!

  11. Ally: I’m so glad that the hormones are helping! And so fast!

  12. @KathleenB: welcome to the cancer-related surgery club. Current mammothiers membership seems to be 2. Yay – we’re exclusive.

    @Ally: that’s a great photo. Your hair looks really nice in those scarf things (sorry, not sure of name). They seem to be doing a good job of keeping most of the hair off your face while it’s in the annoying in-between stage of growth. I tried wearing them myself, but they just fall off my head.

    @Argenti: my 2.5mm stretches went well, so well that I only peeled slightly at the front of my left earlobe. No redness or hot sensation this time. I should be 3mm before Xmas – yay :) I have treated myself to some owl bone dangly earrings for 2.5mm as I haven’t been considering buying much until I get to 6.5mm as I thought it would be a waste of money. But I’m so bored just wearing the ?stud things that the piercer puts in at the end of the stretch.

  13. pallygirl: Woot! I love exclusive clubs!

  14. kittehserf MOD

    Just mentioning in passing that my plan the other night for sitting out in the garden at Home and combing Mr K’s hair was a great success.

  15. Hooray for mutual grooming. :)

  16. kittehserf MOD

    Among other NSFW things! ;)

  17. I’m at home, but it probably is TMI for home as well. :)

  18. kittehserf MOD

    Probably! :D

  19. Pallygirl — my lobes are currently at *converts to mm* 6.5mm (and staying there) and 2mm (staying there for another month or so, then I break out the tapers again!) — I’ve found that they go down to 4~5mm pretty easily, and then it gets annoying, but that could just be my ears. Also, it sounds like your piercer does your stretches, and I do my own, so that could be a factor too (idk which is better — professional, or being able to spend all day slowly twisting a taper through, maybe it evens out!)

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