Anti-AVFM Conference protest happening now in Detroit; see Twitter hashtag #NoMRA for updates [No Troll thread]
Protesters head to the Doubletree
Just a quick note to let you know that the protest against the AVFM Conference at the Doubletree in Detroit is happening right now. You can check the hashtag #NoMRA on Twitter for live updates. Here’s a Ms Magazine blog piece with more details.
I’ll have some thoughts on it all later.
Photo from @Katie_Speak on Twitter.
Posted on June 7, 2014, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 625 Comments.
marinerachel,
I am so, so sorry this is happening to you. PLEASE go to the hospital.
I stopped right there. You did WHAT?
No. No. No. No. All the no.
This is not up to him.
Please, stop talking to him. Just stop. He’s not your boyfriend or your friend. He’s a punch-ass abusive shit. Do not engage. He’s going to keep saying abusive stuff to you and accusing you of things. He’s an awful human being.
Do what you want. It’s your body.
marinerachel,
You are hurt so bad right now. I’m so sorry.
What you feel is rough stuff, but it will not last forever.
Yes, you will love again.
You will trust again.
You will see yourself in a better light again.
He has not broken you. He’s just wounded you so much that it feels like he has.
Do not go through this alone. Please call someone. Please be safe.
Please go to the hospital, and they may have a counsellor there that you can talk to.
I’m so sorry.
I just saw that you are miscarrying.
Please go to the hospital right away and know that you are in our thoughts.
I hope you get all the help you need and feel healthier soon.
marinerachel, please, please call emergency services and get to the hospital. you can get through this. we’re here to support you.
Honey, please call for an ambulance right now. Worry about the shithead later – for now please just take care of yourself.
The people who work in emergency services will want to help you. Please call them.
I don’t want help. I just want to fucking die.
marinerachel: Please go to the ER. We don’t want you die.
This shithead is not worth dying for.
Please, please, please, please call for an ambulance. Please. That’s what they’re there for.
I’m terrified for you, and i want to be there for you, and please get an ambulance. There’s so much that could be going so badly, and please, get help.
Please, call now. Please.
marinerachel, I am not in your situation, and only you know the extent of your emotional pain, but we all understand that this is overwhelmingly heartbreaking for you. It’s so much to deal with. But that doesn’t change the fact that you and your health are vital. Please seek medical help. Please. You’re a wonderful person and you don’t deserve to be hurt – emotionally or physically. You deserve love, kindness, respect, and safety. Please don’t neglect your own needs.
Please, don’t do this, don’t let this fucking bastard do this to you. Please. Call an ambulance. Please.
Call your parents, friends, anyone. Just get an ambulance.
Please.
marinerachel, you haven’t been left with nothing. You have all the rest of your life. You mentioned another ex who’s a good person – your pain now is caused by ONE person, one shithead who should have the most painful corns ever, for the rest of his life, and never, never meet another person to manipulate.
Whether or not you have another relationship, you are a good person, you are loved – just look at the responses here! We care about you. Please, please call emergency services. Your life isn’t something to throw away because of that scumbag. Apart from anything else, why let him do that? Why give him that power? Fuck him, you’re better than that, you’re not his thing to dictate to.
PS the important thing being the rest of your life will not be like this. Scumbag ex won’t be in it, it’ll be YOUR life back again. It will be better.
Please, call the ambulance.
Yes, definitely. Are you at your house, marinerachel? Would an ambulance be able to come get you if you called?
I give up.
Don’t, please, marinerachel. Why let that scumbag win? Because that’s how he’ll see it, you know, manipulating you to this extent.
Your life matters. You matter.
Do you think the people who love you want you to die? They don’t, they’d be shattered. Please, call that ambulance now.
Please, please don’t give up! You have value, you have your own life. You will be able to move on, love someone again, someone who truly loves and cares about you. And that man has no right to control your life. Please seek medical help.
Please, please, please don’t give up, Rachel.
Please. I know you feel hopeless right now, but please don’t give up. Please. Call an ambulance, now, please.
You’re worth a thousand of him, please don’t do this.
I want to fix this for you so freaking badly, but I can’t. Pleasepleaseplease call for help. I’m so scared for you, right now. Please.
:( Are you thinking of suicide, marinerachel?
We’re all here for you, marinerachel. Please get the help you need.
You’ve been so strong, marinerachel. Please, just call emergency services, and then you can let someone else take care of you for a while. You need help, there’s no shame in that, you deserve to have a strong body and a chance to be happy again. Just give yourself that chance, please call for help.
Please go to the hospital marinerachel. You are truely entitled to feel like giving up, but please don’t. You’re a good person. It’s worth hanging on.
People care about you. I know it’s not the same as in person, but *we* care about you.
Marinerachel,
We care about you and want you to take care of yourself. Please call for help. It will get better eventually and there’s always at least a couple of us on the site at all times. You’ll always have us here for you.
I wish I was in your city and could do more.
marinerachel, if there is anything I can do for you, any help I can give, please let me know. I know we don’t know each other personally, but we’re in the same general area, and you gave me some really good advice the other day about how to access reproductive health resources here, and I just want you to know that if there is any way that I can help, I want to.
If there is anything you need, just email me at vt01h5 at the gmail.
Please, please hold on; you’re a wonderful person, and the world would be a darker place without you in it.
I’m praying your silence here is because emergency services are there with you. Please, please be okay.
I know you’re hurting, and the miscarriage, and…
God, I’ve never wanted to be able to teleport so badly. Please don’t give up. Please let help be on the way. Please call help if you haven’t already.
I only know you from here, but you’ve been so nice, and so understanding, to everyone you’ve interacted with. You’ve helped encourage me to be a better person without even meaning to, and I love that about you.
I care about you, and so many other people here do, and please be getting help.
Please.
marinerache
I have mainly been a lurker on this site and love observing the nice camaraderie of this site. I am commenting because I care about a fellow human being in pain. Please get some help. Perhaps their is a crisis hotline or suicide hotline in your local where you can just talk. Please if you can then get to a local emergency room there they must by law treat you both for physical and mental/emotional trauma. Virtual hugs to you.
marinerachel, please call for help. Please do it for us. Thank you.
does anyone know what city she’s in? vancouver or someplace near tehre?
marinerachel, I’m delurking now to beg you to call an ambulance. Please be okay.
Yeah, marineracheal and I are both in/around Vancouver.
marinerachel,
Don’t you dare. Nobody is killing themselves tonight. That’s not a solution to anything.
Pick up your phone and call the ambulance. Don’t hesitate. Just do it.
Please.
David, can you trace the IP?
I just called Vancouver RCMP and gave them all the info I have. Her email address led to what i think is her name; her IP puts her in Surrey, but the Surry RCMP folks weren’t picking up. (I couldn’t call 911, but was able to get through to the vancouver RCMP.)
If any of you have any other information, please pass it along,post or email it to me, I can relay it to them. Her IP tracks to a residential neighborhood and I gave it to them so they might be able to track her through that too.
marinerachel, we want you to be ok! (And I’m not going to post any of your personal info beyond what I just did, and I will scrub that shortly; I just want others to know in case they can help.)
Thank you so much, David. I hope she’s found in time.
Thank you, David.
David, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Please let it be enough. Please. Please let them find her.
Oh god, if you’re at your IP address, marinerachel, I’m just across the river. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you. I really want you to make it out of this okay.
Thank you so much, David. I really hope she receives the help she desperately needs.
marinerachel, please be ok. I know this hurts. I know you lost a person, one you were already terrified for, and I know that so few people acknowledge that loss. I have lost babies this way, it never completely goes away, you always miss where they belonged in your life, and nothing ever replaces that, but it gets easier, it gets better, it gets bittersweet, and it is somehow ok, I promise. I know you can heal from this, and I know you can be strong and well again. You are cherished here, you have our support, you have love. You are worth us fighting for you. Help us fight for you. You are not alone.
Ok, looks like they’re on the scene. Vancouver RCMP transferred the case over the Surrey, which is evidently where she is; I just talked to Surrey RCMP and there are apparently officers there at her place checking on her. I don’t have any more info beyond that right now, but they’re supposed to call me back at some point.
David, thank goodness they’re there! I hope they get her to hospital.
Please keep us posted.
Oh, God. Thank you so much, David. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Thank you.
I’m so glad they’ve found her.
God.
Fingers crossed. I hope to god she’s going to be ok.
Crossing my fingers that they got there in time. David, thank you so much.
Please keep us updated as much as you can.
You’re a saint. Thank you.
Thank you Dave.
Marinerachel,
I’m anticipating that you might be embarrassed, ashamed or feel burdensome that David went out of his to help and we were all worried.
Before you even think about apologizing or feeling bad, don’t!
We were concerned about your well being because you are worthy of care. A lot of people go through a crisis at some point in their lives. It doesn’t make you any less of a person.
We all want to do anything we can for you.
Sorry if I’m being presumptive here. I just want to let you know you’re still valued and welcome here.
Wow good work David. Hope the poor girl is doing ok :(
YES, what WWTH said. You deserve love and support. We’re all here for you, and we all want you to be safe and healthy.
Nthing WWTH. We’re all pulling for you, marinerachel.
This is why I love this site.
MarineRachel, you are lovable. You willed be love again in the future.
Sending warm healing thoughts your way, marinerachel. We all care about you and want you to be OK.
You will be loved again in the future, I meant.
I am very moved. I’ve never experienced this kindness from strangers before. I am safe for now, in the care of my best friend in Surrey. I’ll tell my story shortly if anyone’s interested.
@marinerachel: this probably means little to you now, but we all care for you deeply. I hope you’re able to access all the healthcare services you need, and that some true friends/close family you get on well with are able to rally around you locally because I feel you need that physical closeness.
You do not deserve what you are going through, and sometimes life just feels like a huge battle with the odds stacked against. It’s not always like that. You will move on from this, I promise.
THIS is what a human rights movement looks like. I am awed and humbled.
Thank you, David. And all the hugs to Marinerachel.
And we are all interested.
Yay! I’m so glad you’re safe. If I had the means to do so, I would totally send you a gift or a card. You are a wonderful part of this community and I’m so glad you’re still here with us. Please take care of yourself!
Thank you so much for everything you’ve done to help, David. You’re amazing.
Thank goodness you’re safe.
::virtual hugs::
Whew! Thanks for checking back in, marinerachel. Glad you’re OK.
Marinerachel, I am so, so glad you’re safe.
All the hugs. I suck at knitting, but would you like a scarf?
I’m so glad you’re safe.
marinerachel: I’m glad to hear you are being looked after. Don’t think you weren’t worth it. When John Donne said “send not for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee” the corollary (which he included) was that the loss of one diminishes us all.
We didn’t want to lose you (and if you weren’t suicidal, that’s ok. I’ve been there (depressed and presenting as perhaps suicidal. I wasn’t but if I’d died I wouldn’t have cared; might even had thought that a fine outcome).
We care. More than that I can’t say. More than that really can’t be said. We care.
If it helps, try to remember that we care.
Marinerachel, so, so glad you’re ok. Thanks for posting.
contrapangloss: I can send you some yarn (made myself).
Kitty hugs for all!
Oh, thanks be that you’re safe, marinerachel! Be extra good to yourself.
David, you’re the best.
So glad to hear you’re with a friend and safe!
I knew it, marinerachel, you’re a fighter! It’s no surprise you found your way here, because a lot of the regulars are fighters too. You decided to live to fight another day. Good choice. Everyone here is special. You are special. You’re offically a badass now. I toast you, dear lady. You are so not alone.