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Pickup artists argue that “Game” is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile

From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Posted on May 24, 2014, in all about the menz, alpha males, beta males, boner rage, empathy deficit, entitlement, evil sexy ladies, evil women, heartiste, imaginary oppression, incel, internecine warfare, irony alert, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, narcissism, nice guys, playing the victim, PUA, PUAhate, red pill, rhymes with roosh, self-congratulation and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1,747 Comments.

  1. Also, as sparky pointed out, war is still considered completely acceptable in our societies to this day as long as “the cause is just”.

  2. @treehugger

    “That misogyny and male entitlement are very real and taken to their logical extreme, this is the result.”

    no, none of these are not logical extremes there just logical ends. is that not the point of Laurie Penney article? either misogyny always leads to violence or these examples are extremes. it can’t be both. if this is what misogyny always leads to them I wrong I had no right to ask the questions i did on the other hand if they are extremes them what made them so?

  3. cassandrakitty

    Time for a vote! Does anyone actually want to bother engaging with Ken’s willful stupidity, or should we just ignore him until he goes away?

  4. @cassandra

    I might poke him. I already was suspicious of him.

    Unless that’d bug the rest of you.

  5. cassandrakitty

    If anyone else wants to take him on then by all means go ahead. I’m all out of patiently explaining things to clueless dudes for today.

  6. @Ken L

    get to the point. You’re talking around shit. Just say what you want to say, or drop it. I don’t have time to decipher all your random rambling.

  7. cassandrakitty

    either misogyny always leads to violence or these examples are extremes. it can’t be both.

    This is the dumbest thing I’ve read on the internet today. Well done, Ken.

  8. I did about twenty post ago. you did not care to answer me seriously then and you still don’t now. you already made up your mind no matter what i say or mean you’ll just shit on it. I promise no longer engage you on this site. it only pisses you off and so just leave me alone you fucking won.

  9. @Ken

    “answer you seriously”? about what?

  10. cassandrakitty

    Yep, a post about a bunch of women who were murdered by a misogynist is definitely the right place for a tantrum about how the ladies aren’t coddling your feelings attentively enough.

  11. And @stellajames, if you’re patting yourself on the back, right now, for slipping the most ableist post of the day (and that’s been a challenge) past us, way back up there on the previous page of comments, stop.

    Your ableism was noticed and you were assessed as an ignorant ass-wipe with the empathy of a stone. Well done for embarrassing yourself so thoroughly.

  12. @titanblue

    I missed it, but I probably don’t want to see it.

    I’ll send Stellajames a ‘fuck off’ either way.

  13. cassandrakitty

    Meanwhile, justsaying is in the running for Sock of the Day.

  14. Well, I had a nice big thoughtful reply to Ken L., but after seeing that lost post, no, just no.

    Dude, nobody knows what you’re going on about. You keep saying “there’s something that sets this asshole misogynist apart from all the other asshole misogynist,” and you were answered multiple times. I have no fucking clue what you’re trying to get at, other than trying to make Rodger out as some kind of aberation, like there’s some other motive for him going out and killing women, when the killer himself stated that he went out and killed women because he hated women. The one thing that sets Rodger apart from all the other asshole misogynist is that he chose to pick up a gun and shoot people. That is all.

  15. cassandrakitty

    I’m starting to think that my theory about the comments on the Penney article may be relevant to Ken’s behavior too.

  16. @sparky

    please note that what i said was not directed at you, from day one Marie as had it out for me. that was meant only to her. What I am saying is what brought him to picking up a gun? how can thousand of these people have the same view and not do the same thing? the view his view alone did not get him there would be thing like this happening all the time,

    @cassandra

    stop lumping me in with other people. I honestly wanted to know why this guy picks up a gun and let say Paul Elam or the spearhead idiot doesn’t? but no, i must be making excuse or distancing myself. you insist that because i ask certain question or say certain I must be doing it for the same reasons most everyone else does. Did you once stop in think maybe that’s not the case?

  17. Hey everybody, I’m not quite caught up on this thread so I hope I’m not repeating what everybody else has already said, I’ve been spending ages trying to get wordpress to accept my comment, if I’m repeating I’m very sorry.

    TRIGGER, TRIGGER, TRIGGER!

    @LBT, I think this is a study I posted many moons ago:

    http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/hojo.12033/full

    (Not sure if it’s the one you were referring to.)

    Take away quotes:

    “In this respect, family annihilation is a crime committed by men as a form of ‘social practice invoked as a resource, when other resources are unavailable, for accomplishing masculinity’”

    “In all of this we can see a public demonstration of the violent and controlling personality that Philcox’s ex-partner describes in relation to their former private lives. We can also glimpse the narcissism and drama that seems to have characterised Philcox’s life and death: bombs were to be exploded; he spoke to, and texted, his ex-partner; and all of these events took place on Father’s Day. This was calculated behaviour, rather than Philcox ‘snapping’. The self-pity of his statement that ‘there’s nothing I can do, it is out of my control’, which is, of course, inaccurate in both respects – he could have done something to have stopped these murders and the fact that he chose not to was a decision which he alone made – was a blatant attempt to deflect blame. As with all self-righteous annihilators in this sample, he believed that his ex-partner was at fault for their divorce – a divorce that would leave him with ‘nothing’. As a consequence, he felt entitled to take his children and kill them, as if they were merely another type of possession to be fought over, in much the same way that the fight had already started as to who should have the house, the TV and the car. Philcox did not see his children as sentient beings, with their own hopes, dreams and aspirations; as individuals to be cherished and nurtured, but merely as another extension of how the world didn’t understand him and all that he had done. Ultimately, it was Philcox himself who chose a course of action that would ensure that he was left with ‘nothing’.”

    “Our research suggests that family annihilators should be seen as a distinct category of murderer, of which there are specific subcategories. What seems to link each of the subcategories that we have identified is masculinity and the need to exert power and control in situations when the annihilator feels that his masculinity has, in some way, been threatened. For these men, the family role of the father was fundamental to their masculine identities and, prior to the murders, the family had, to some extent, ceased to perform its masculinity-affirming functions for them. Murder, or more bluntly, family annihilation, thus emerges in this sense as a resource to perform masculinity, when other resources have failed, are seen as being inadequate, or do not deliver the desired outcomes. In this way the annihilation makes public what had often been a private reality – a reality masked to family, friends and neighbours who often thought that this man had been a ‘doting’ and ‘loving’ father and ‘dutiful’ husband.

    Sadly, we suggest that this is a trend which seems to be increasing. However, our observations are a weak basis on which to consider what can be done to reduce the incidence of family annihilation. After all, children will be – and still should be – given access to estranged fathers, the vast majority of whom would never dream of attacking or killing their children. Marriages and relationships will continue to dissolve. What, therefore, can be done? Clearly, this is a simple question to ask, but a much more difficult one to answer. However, the beginnings of such an answer must relate to gender and a recognition that it is, in the main, men who use violence and will take the lives of their children in this way.”

    I realise it’s about family annihilation, but still I think very relevant to the discussion of ‘toxic masculinity’ versus ‘mental illness’.

    Haven’t read it for a while so I hope it’s as good as I remember. Apologies if I’ve got anything arse about face.

  18. cassandrakitty

    Go away, Ken, and take your sulk with you.

  19. Ken L.:

    the view his view alone did not get him there would be thing like this happening all the time,

    They do. Violence against women happens every fucking day, multiple times a day.

  20. . What I am saying is what brought him to picking up a gun?

    shooter: I did it because I want revenge on women for not sleeping with me
    Ken L: WHAT *REALLY* MADE HIM PICK UP THE GUN?!

  21. Fade:

    shooter: I did it because I want revenge on women for not sleeping with me
    Ken L: WHAT *REALLY* MADE HIM PICK UP THE GUN?!

    Yep, this. This right here.

  22. cassandrakitty

    I would like to live in Ken’s magical realm, in which something like this has never happened before and men killing women is a rare occurrence.

  23. Apparently Ken L feels that this is the time to solve all the mysteries of the human psyche. Apparently it’s not enough to focus on the misogyny of a misogynistic man’s misogynistic killing spree because… er… because… er… squirrel!

    I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. Mere minutes after LBT posts about his experience with his own psychosis and my post about my experience with my aunt’s schizophrenia, justwantedtosay just felt absolutely compelled to hit us with this totes unexplored, completely different point of view. MY ENTIRE WORLDVIEW HAS BEEN SHAKEN! MY LIFE IS NOUGHT BUT A SNOW GLOBE IN JUSTWANTEDTOSAY’S ALL KNOWING PALM! CAPS LOCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  24. @ken

    please note that what i said was not directed at you, from day one Marie as had it out for me.

    “on day one, Marie called me out for ableism, and didn’t like my fauxpology.”

    What I am saying is what brought him to picking up a gun? how can thousand of these people have the same view and not do the same thing? the view his view alone did not get him there would be thing like this happening all the time,

    Get to the fucking point, ken. Yes, some people murder and others don’t. that is a thing that happens. Pointing it out doesn’t make you look smart, it just makes you tiresome.

    stop lumping me in with other people.

    *waits*

    *tries to avoid it*

    *can’t avoid it*

    “But not all men!”

  25. @Ken L.

    “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” -Albus Dumbledore

    There. There’s your reply.

  26. cassandrakitty

    My new theory is that Ken is trying to drive us all to drink.

  27. I did about twenty post ago. you did not care to answer me seriously then and you still don’t now. you already made up your mind no matter what i say or mean you’ll just shit on it. I promise no longer engage you on this site. it only pisses you off and so just leave me alone you fucking won.

    Good, then maybe you will finally fuck off. I’m not sure what made people think you weren’t trolling when you first showed up here, but your willful ignorance is either trolling or your really are that stupid.

    Justsaying sounds just like Retha.

  28. I’ve mercifully manage to avoid Justsaying here. Are they in moderation, or am I just unobservant?

  29. Last page, Marie. You’re not missing anything.

  30. cassandrakitty

    Shorter Ken – Halp, halp, I’m being bullied by a high school student! (first year college? Sorry, Marie, can’t remember.) I mean, unlike the victims of the guy we’re talking about she hasn’t actually hurt me, or tried to, but she keeps disagreeing with me, and that’s just wrong! My pride, it is wounded, and the worst part is that nobody else seems to recognize how horrible a thing my oppression at the hands of this teenage harpy is! Woe! Woe!

  31. @hellkell

    thanks for telling. I’ll probably avoid justsaying, then

    @cassandra

    I laughed XD Fade’s first year college, but I got my GED and haven’t gone to college.

  32. Just to pile on @Ken;

    Maybe he WAS mentally ill. Who cares? The motivation for his crimes was still misogyny, it’s not like being crazy changes that. If anything, if he was violent because of his mental illness then it just proves how dangerous the PUA community/MRM is, because his recital of its talking points illustrates how he was groomed into these crimes by their ideology.

    If a man has some delusions about how women and the male “jerks” that are successful with girls are out to get him and frustrate him, then finding an entire movement that hates women and blames them for all the world’s problems will just radicalize him.

    Tl; dr even if he was “violently crazy” then the manosphere has blame for encouraging him.

  33. I’m getting sock vibes from just saying too. Retha or Sauron maybe.

  34. cassandrakitty

    What is it about this blog in particular that people who get their asses handed to them verbally, or just aren’t very well liked, just can’t bring themselves to leave? They always come back, whether as themselves or as socks, every damn time. You’d think this place was made out of chocolate and crack.

  35. Ken, now would be a good time to take a break. Recall the first rule of holes. Also, recall the note about people here really, really not liking throwing non-neurotypical people under the bus.

    Yes, mental illnesses can sometimes contribute to inappropriate behavior. However, not all mass murderers are ‘crazy’ and most ‘crazy’ people never do anything to harm others.

    Also, bad behavior is not always caused by a mentally ill person’s mental illness. It can be completely secondary.

    My point, in short: Don’t armchair diagnose. Don’t assume he must have been mentally disturbed. Chill for a bit, so you don’t wear out everyone else’s good will.

    For now, all we can say for sure is that his misogyny contributed to a fairly large degree, as per his own video and manifesto. There may be other factors, but his misogyny is one of the ones that society shouldn’t ignore.

    Think of it this way:

    Blame his (hypothetical) mental illness? Harm mentally ill people by association and don’t fix societal ills because they clearly don’t have anything to do with normal people.

    Blame his misogyny? Then we actually have to work at addressing entitlement culture, which could help reduce the instances where his type of manifesto can fester into a rage-killing spree.

  36. @cassandrakitty

    It isn’t? What have I been eating then?

  37. I mean, that’s what I thought all these spoons were for! My life is a lie!

  38. * note for everyone: when I say socially inappropriate, I’m thinking about fairly specific instances. They aren’t common.

    I’d feel safe saying that neurotypical people are just as socially inappropriate on average, as non-neurotypical individuals.

    Psych really isn’t my field, though.

    Do any of you know of any good papers I should try to find? My EMS book only has a couple chapters, and since it’s EMS, it definitely focuses more on inappropriate behaviors being caused by medical problems, overdoses, or intoxication, over ‘people are just jerks, sometimes’.

  39. cassandrakitty

    And Ken never got a spoon! It was Marie. Marie stole his spoon, because she had it in for him from day one. No particular reason, she just likes stealing men’s spoons.

  40. @beegee

    Thanks, you know i need to be smacked around more. But seriously an excuse or other reason is not nor as ever been my point. I had a real and honest interest in what made this guy different from every other MRA. That’s all. nothing else meant or implied or anything. but I must be a troll or apologist so why would you care what i say anyway.

    @contrapangloss

    I will take a break, thank you but i must point out i said I don’t know what the thing other was or even if it’s knowable at all. I never arm chaired it at all. thanks again it should go without saying but your measured thought out response. made me stop and think more then any taunt or jab. I’ll admit I was carried away in my anger. But I nor anyone here likes meaning put to their words are untrue,

  41. @cassandra

    you’re too awesome, I’m laughing too hard XD

  42. @Ken

    ut seriously an excuse or other reason is not nor as ever been my point

    than what the fuck is your point? you can never seem to say one…

  43. I tried to tweet to #YesAllWomen, and, like my website and email, I can’t post to that, either.

    Here’s my tweet: #YesAllWomen, because the only way to get rid of the creepy guy, old enough to be my grandfather, was to make up a jealous Marine boyfriend.

  44. I had a real and honest interest in what made this guy different from every other MRA.

    You really can’t figure it out? Holy shitballs.

  45. @michelle

    gah that sucks :(

    I’ve had dudes old enough to be my grandfather creep on me, too, but it was in a situation I could walk away from. (he was at work, creeping on me, a customer, so I just ahd to leave and he stayed with his job)

  46. I’d say the main difference between Rodgers and every other MRA is that Rodgers decided he hated women badly enough to justify killing them.

  47. I was just at Nordstrom Rack because I needed to take a misandry break and look at pretty shoes, when I heard a guy the aisle over ask the lady he was with if she’d heard about the shooting. He said, “They’re saying he had Asperger’s. That’s not how it works!”

    Thank you, random dude in the shoe section for grasping what the vast majority of the internet can’t seem to.

  48. @cassandrakitty and Marie

    Relevant

  49. @LBT – Thanks for the correction on your pronouns (they for the Raping Year). I’m a bit confused about your history, and wasn’t sure of the chronology of it all. Also, you are the only multiple personality of whom I am aware I know. It’s pretty new to me, but I’m trying to learn.

    And I’m really sorry you went through all that. Kudos for hanging on and keeping on. You are quite inspiring to me. From what I’ve read, all of you have gone through so much, and you manage quite well. It seems you’re a better family inside the one body than the original family from which your host was born. (Am I saying that right?)

    Heh, I’m sort of glad that you is both singular and plural, because addressing you directly is a bit more convenient. Or do you have a different preference on that score? Please let me know what you prefer.

    Also, I can’t email, so I don’t know how to make a request/sponsor a story, but if I can give a writing prompt – Sorceress in a cage. Seems apropos. Don’t feel like you have to, because I don’t want to put payment information in public, and I can’t get my email to work right, just now, so bleh. Even my phone won’t take messages. It’s weird.

    My “IT guy,” is doing finals in high school, so I don’t know when I’ll be able to get my tech fixed. I want my nephew to do well in school more than I want to email or update my website.

  50. WWTH:

    “It is irrelevant whether or not Rodger’s happened to have a diagnosed mental illness. Why is that? Because correlation does not equal causation. This is just very basic logic here.”

    By that logic then just because Rodger’s visited MRA/PUA websites does not mean those websites are at fault.

    I find it interesting how these kinds of tragedies trigger people into a blame game to scapegoat whatever pet cause they have.

    Anti-gun people blame the fact Rogers was able to get a gun. Pro-gun people say that the victims should have had guns so they could shoot back. He was apparently a fan of WoW and Game of Thrones, so some will say it’s violence in the media. The Church of Scientology will blame the psychiatric medications he took, PUAs say he should have taken their “How to pick up girls” class, incels blame girls for rejecting him (though I understand his manifesto says he never actually approached girls), and here they blame the MRA/PUA sites.

    There’s one person at fault here, and his name is Elliot Rodger. Take away any one of the so-called “causes” I mentioned, and he would have still been a danger to himself and others.

  51. I went to brunch with my friend today, and I kind of had to school him on the whole mental illness/Asperger’s thing. But he’s not an asshole, so he took it pretty well.

    Also heard from an old family friend that her son (who I didn’t realize went to UCSB) was on a street less than a block from Rodgers while he was shooting.

  52. cassandrakitty

    Being serious for a moment, nothing sums up how completely devoid of any trace of ethics PUAs are quite like the fact there was someone celebrating the fact that those kids died because it might teach a website that he doesn’t like a lesson. Because clearly his stupid little blog war is more important than people’s lives.

    Think about that while you’re off in a sulk, Ken.

  53. Shut up, Rancid.

  54. cassandrakitty

    Ew, Rancid decided to poop all over this thread too. Here, have a red panda painting with its paws as brain bleach.

  55. @racnad

    There’s one person at fault here, and his name is Elliot Rodger. Take away any one of the so-called “causes” I mentioned, and he would have still been a danger to himself and others.

    Yeah, racnad, it’s just a coincidence, that the misogynistic guy who hung around misogynistic sites and left a misogynistic video and a misogynistic ‘manifest’ happened to shoot seven women.

    But hey I bet misogyny wasn’t the actually cause, was it?

  56. Ffs Rancid. I never said PUA sites were directly to blame. Rodgers was a virulent misogynist and this crap just added fuel to the fire and validated his shit views.

    Misogyny is to blame.

    Now please fuck away.

    Consider that a hard no.

  57. Yeah, we’re just scapegoating for our pet causes. You know, the one where women shouldn’t have to fear being killed because some entitled fuckwit can’t laid.

  58. cassandrakitty

    And here is another red panda trying to figure out how to get a…cookie? Off of a pane of glass.

  59. For some reason, this reminds me of my dear friend, LM. She amazes me. LM used to be a cop, and she came across her fair share of people with mental illnesses. She was quite good at dealing with them. In fact, other cops would call on her to come deal with them, because she was that good.

    When the cops were called for a disruption of the peace, involving someone who was mentally ill, it normally went down violently. Not with LM.

    While other cops were struggling to get the people into handcuffs and down to the precinct to deal with them, and maybe get them committed, LM would talk to the people, and agree with them. “Yep, you’re totally right about that. Hey, have you considered…” She would cheerfully enter into their delusions, and somehow convince them that they WANTED to go to the precinct and talk to someone, and possibly even check themselves into a very nice, safe place. She didn’t need handcuffs. She had her understanding, and the people would trustingly, cheerfully, confidently follow her anywhere, secure in the knowledge that she was going to help them get whatever it was they needed. We’re talking about people in full psychotic breaks here, who were freaking out other police officers, because they were so different. Non-normative equaled scary, as far as they were concerned.

    Now, when there was someone who was violent, that was a whole different matter. She would take them down and take them in. She didn’t care if they were violent because of rage, revenge, or because little green men told them to cut up anyone wearing purple. She just took them down and off the street.

    Violence and mental illness did have to be considered together then, and it doesn’t need to now.

    I wish more people could get that. I wish we had more people in positions of power and authority who have LM’s understanding and compassion. LBT, I’ll bet she would have been able to understand you about the bed wanting to eat you. She’s just that good. I wish you had access to someone like that to help you when you needed it most.

    She’s a rarity, and I love her.

  60. Ken L

    It may help if you consider the possibility that women have very considerable experience of guys explaining things to them when it is self evident that the guys haven’t a clue what they are going on about. It may be even more helpful if you engage with the possibility that your posts suggest that you haven’t a clue what you are going on about, and that the more you endeavour to explain things the more your cluelessness becomes apparent.

    I do feel that you really, really need to do some basic reading on logic, and I commend to you the concept of the excluded middle; this appears to be the source of your confusion on the whole ‘violence is the inevitable result of misogyny’ thesis. There is no logical inconsistency between that thesis and the fact that not all members of a misogynistic culture are mass murderers; you are simply making yourself look silly by claiming otherwise.

    Also, one of the more pervasive myths of a misogynistic culture is that women don’t do logic; we do. Again, a man trying to lecture women on logic when it is blindingly obvious that the man in question does not possess even the most elementary knowledge of logic is, unsurprisingly, going to result in that man looking exceedingly silly.

  61. Fuck, this thread was exhausting. What was that, five trolls? Thankfully, two of them only made one comment, but seriously. Even if you only read the posts here, one would think to read the comments before making your own comment, at the very least, just to gauge the space you’re in. And for those who are fairly regular and already know how people here feel about ableism and armchair diagnoses, just don’t fucking do it! It’s not actually that hard!

  62. By that logic then just because Rodger’s visited MRA/PUA websites does not mean those websites are at fault.

    He did more than just visit the sites, you fuckwit; he wrote a long, rambling manifesto about how he hates women because (young, thin, blond, white) women won’t sleep with them, and how he’s going to punish them for it. He left a video that says the same exact thing.

    Rodger was a misogynist who parroted the same fucking misogynism that PUA’s/MRA’s do. He bought into the ideology.

    Now go away, no one wants to talk to you.

  63. @Nonservium

    Blue pill, red pill – we would all be happier and safer without them.

    Right! Everyone knows that green gel-caps are the way to go.

  64. Should have refreshed. Make that six trolls.

  65. cassandrakitty

    Did you not read our clear no’s on the other thread, racnad? We did a nice, sweet, delicately feminine one to, just for you. So now you’ve had multiple no’s presented in a variety of formats. Why are you not accepting any of them?

  66. So Racnad, is your nym a portmanteau of “racist” and “gonad” or is that just a coincidence?

  67. Rancid says he’ll accept a clear no, but he’s lying. I’m not sure how much clearer we could be, short of finding out where he lives and hiring a skywriter to say FUCK OFF, XOXO WHTM.

  68. cassandrakitty

    I’d try glove puppets if I thought it would do any good.

  69. I’m about ready to bust out MS Paint and revive Stick Figure Theater for him.

  70. Rancid and Ken L, Go the fuck away.
    Go pretend this man killed for reasons other than the ones he explicitly stated, because questioning your own privilege makes it hurt in your thinky place someplace else. We should not have to deal with your stupidity and your clueless entitled douchebaggery. Mansplain away violence toward women on any of the hundreds of sites where you can get away with that. Not here.

    You need to leave and not come back.

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