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Pickup artists argue that “Game” is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here’s why they’re wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile

From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Posted on May 24, 2014, in all about the menz, alpha males, beta males, boner rage, empathy deficit, entitlement, evil sexy ladies, evil women, heartiste, imaginary oppression, incel, internecine warfare, irony alert, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, narcissism, nice guys, playing the victim, PUA, PUAhate, red pill, rhymes with roosh, self-congratulation and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1,747 Comments.

  1. cassandrakitty

    BTW, using sexist slurs to try to shut women up? Totally not bullying. Actually Best Feminist strategy.

  2. hippodameia8527

    Erin, you threw a lot of shit around and got called on it. Go whine about that somewhere else.

  3. Nah, that big jug of whatever looks too happy to be Erin.

  4. @tracy

    lol a c c u r a t e.

  5. cassandrakitty

    Nah, that big jug of whatever looks too happy to be Erin.

    Today I learned that they don’t have Kool-Aid in Australia? So I guess something useful came out of this thread.

  6. @sparky

    Marie: No, I don’t think Erin would of approve of the lady on the cock carousel at all.

    aww, but she looks like she’s having so much fun :D

    Or is it because she’s having fun.

    I must know! For science!

  7. hippodameia8527

    Will the attack chickens have little helmets?

  8. Erin Williams

    “Am I the only one getting the vibe that Erin doesn’t actually give a shit about sex workers or their safety? Because of course no sex worker Roosh goes near could possibly be in danger of being raped. Because whores, well, they deserve it, don’t they?”

    You got that from when I said Roosh pays prostitutes instead of being the great seducer you imbeciles believe he is?

    I don’t know if you’ve traveled outside of the U.S., but I can assure you Roosh would be in a wheel chair right now if he attempted anything on a prostitute in Latin America or Eastern Europe.

  9. Erin

    I tried reassuring someone and look at all the shit I’m being accused of.

    You’re DONE. if you really only cared about the reassurance*, why the F are you still here?

    *which was uck anyway

  10. @cassandra

    Trained attack chickens. They can have little uniforms.

    most adorable little army XD

    They can hang with the penguins!

    And because NAMALT, here is their leader!

  11. @Kittehs…

    Better?

    (Actually I love sharks. Will try again.)

  12. @hippodameia

    Will the attack chickens have little helmets?

    adorable little helmets!

    Tbh, this whole statue thing started as a joke but now I actually think I should draw it. Maybe I’ll do it tomorrow :D

  13. Today I learned that they don’t have Kool-Aid in Australia? So I guess something useful came out of this thread.

    I think we do but couldn’t be bothered guessing if that’s what it was. :P

  14. erin

    You got that from when I said Roosh pays prostitutes instead of being the great seducer you imbeciles believe he is?

    he’s a creepy, self admitted rapist. he shouldn’t be around ANYONE. saying it’s okay for a rapist to be around sex workers, or he’s less harmless for it, is NOT okay..

  15. @Erin

    I don’t know if you’ve traveled outside of the U.S., but I can assure you Roosh would be in a wheel chair right now if he attempted anything on a prostitute in Latin America or Eastern Europe.

    Yes I know the hivemind of sexworkers they all act the same.

    @kittehs

    And because NAMALT, here is their leader!

    Should I even ask why there’s a video of napoleon riding a penguin on the internet?

  16. Tracy – that’s how Erin sees zirself, I bet! (Or Pell. I’m still thinking this is Pell.)

  17. Erin Williams

    Tracy:”Yeah but it’s just online so it’s no big deal.”

    You’re right. I guess that makes you no better than Roosh or Paul Elam then, huh? .

  18. cassandrakitty

    I don’t know if you’ve traveled outside of the U.S., but I can assure you Roosh would be in a wheel chair right now if he attempted anything on a prostitute in Latin America or Eastern Europe.

    Today I also learned that sex workers can’t be raped, unless they’re in America. Best Feminist has taught me so much.

  19. Erin, you just intentionally used the word “prostitute” to refer to sex workers while defending yourself from accusations of anti-sex-worker prejudice. The irony is killing me.

  20. but I can assure you Roosh would be in a wheel chair right now if he attempted anything on a prostitute in Latin America or Eastern Europe.

    thanks for using my mobility device as a symbol for punishment; don’t let the footplates hit your ankles on the way out

  21. @Erin

    ::facepalm::

  22. Chickens can growl, too! It’s supposedly an affectionate noise, but it can be a little disconcerting to have four chickens running full tilt at you and growling.

    I never truly appreciated dinosaurs until my mother got chickens.

    I’m glad they’re so small. Small and friendly. Death on two legs to anything small, though. Even the cat was intimidated by them!

  23. @fade

    thanks for using my mobility device as a symbol for punishment; don’t let the footplates hit your ankles on the way out

    Hey, I’m sure Erin has just as much compassion for disabled women as she does for sex workers!

  24. “Project much?”
    Are you fucking kidding me? Do you even know what project means in the context of that sentence?

    You know our inside jokes, huh? Also, we’re a bunch of chickens and this is our Cluck Club. I guess the first rule about Cluck Club is don’t cluck about Cluck Club?

  25. @shiraz

    You know our inside jokes, huh? Also, we’re a bunch of chickens and this is our Cluck Club. I guess the first rule about Cluck Club is don’t cluck about Cluck Club?

    Omigod I’m dying XD

  26. Erin Williams

    Yes I know the hivemind of sexworkers they all act the same.”

    It’s not the hive mind of sesx workers, smart ass, it’s the hive mind of the pimps who control them. A damaged prostitute represents a loss for the pimp and I highly doubt Roosh has the balls to pull any fishy shit on one of them.

  27. ffs

    ffs

    ffs

    what… where do you even start w/ all this wrongness?

  28. hippodameia8527

    Will there be any roosters in the Great Chicken Army?

  29. @Erin

    It’s not the hive mind of sesx workers, smart ass, it’s the hive mind of the pimps who control them. A damaged prostitute represents a loss for the pimp and I highly doubt Roosh has the balls to pull any fishy shit on one of them.

    Thank you for demonstrating your compassion to sex workers yet again.

  30. *for not to

  31. hippodameia8527

    Erin, most people don’t see hitting the bottom of the barrel as a signal to accelerate.

  32. Should I even ask why there’s a video of napoleon riding a penguin on the internet?

    Does there need to be a reason? XD

    I think cloudiah posted that here a few weeks back. It’s so splendid I jumped at the chance to post it again.

    So, we write “self admitted rapist” and PellErin reads “great seducer”. Why am I not surprised. Zie also thinks sex workers in those other countries don’t get raped, apparently.

  33. @hippodameia

    Will there be any roosters in the Great Chicken Army?

    Umm crap I don’t have a witty response. We’ll say yes.

  34. @Erin well of course. We’re not real people, we’re, like, on the internet and stuff and therefore perfectly harmless. Ask your chicken army:

  35. cassandrakitty

    OK, comments are being wonky again, but I just have to point out that someone who handwaves away the idea of sex workers outside the US being raped? Not nearly as Best Feminist as she’d like to believe.

  36. Erin, what the hell? I’ve just read through this whole thing. Ok, you said some things at the start that you think were misunderstood. Maybe they were. I mean, I actually agree that guys that think like this are a minority, and I also agree that most of the internet PUAs/manospherians are not the sexual swashbucklers they think they are. I’m pretty sure most of the people here would agree as well. No one here thinks that Roosh is some kind of sex god, just a sad, shitty asshole who’s admitted to date rape at least once. And yes, I think most of us believe that he’s capable of that.

    Yeah, the people I write about on this blog are on the fringe. But they’re still worth tracking, just as the KKK is worth tracking. People on the fringe can cause harm. And a lot of the attitudes that we’ve been talking about over the last few days aren’t all that fringey.

    But back to that “what the hell?” So you think you were misinderstood and that the regulars here were mean to you. How exactly does it help your case to call them bitches and whores and a bunch of scaredy cats, and declare that we’re all a bunch of clucking chickens and that you’re the only one paying attention to the really dangerous guys out there and you speak 7 languages bla bla bla? (BTW, who are the really dangerous guys we’re ignoring?) And then to start poking at Pecunium because he admitted he once had violent thoughts?

    Maybe I’m gullible, but I don’t actually think you’re a troll. I just don’t get what you’re trying to do here.

    Can we all just rein this in a bit?

  37. Erin Williams

    Oh my god, why are you ladies so nitpicky? Prostitute only carries a negative connotation for delicate flowers such as yourselves.

  38. Oh, and Erin thinks rape means a fist in the face. Presumably it’s not rape any other way.

  39. @hippodameia

    Erin, most people don’t see hitting the bottom of the barrel as a signal to accelerate.

    Erin immitation: It’s not the bottom of the barrel if I can keep digging!

    /I think I messed up my analogies.

  40. Can the Great Chicken Army be kinda steampunk?

    Please say yes.

  41. @erin

    Oh my god, why are you ladies so nitpicky? Prostitute only carries a negative connotation for delicate flowers such as yourselves.

    Enlighten us more, alpha feminist.

  42. cassandrakitty

    Oh my god, why are you ladies so nitpicky? Prostitute only carries a negative connotation for delicate flowers such as yourselves.

    Still think she’s not a troll, David?

  43. @tracy

    No that looks really hard to draw.

    I mean sculpt.

  44. There will be roosters in the chicken army, but no colonels.

  45. To be honest, I’m quite taken aback by the bullying I’ve experienced here.

    Criticizing Erin for hir bigoted thoughts = bullying.
    Calling us b*tches, wh*res, and pr*cks = human rights activism.

    A damaged prostitute represents a loss for the pimp

    Viewing women as goods to be traded on the market also = human rights activism.

  46. Erin Williams

    Well David, I only said that when Cassandra basically told me that she hoped I didn’t get raped and the other girls asked me to fuck off multiple times before letting me state my case.

  47. cassandrakitty

    BTW, I am in favor of a steampunk chicken army, as long as they wear monacles.

  48. And Erin is also clueless about how the word prostitute gets used, the stigma attached to it and sex work in general, tries “ladies” as an insult, and goes down to -13937964 in her “I’m really a feminist!” credibility score.

  49. Oh my god, why are you ladies so nitpicky? Prostitute only carries a negative connotation for delicate flowers such as yourselves.

    Why don’t you go tell that to the sex workers many of us know who find such a word harmful? And why don’t you also pay attention how the word “prostutite” has such strongly negative connotations that it completely dehumanizes sex workers?

    Seriously, fuck off.

  50. cassandrakitty

    Erin, you realize that if you lie about what I said people can scroll back and see the comment where I told you what I actually meant, right?

  51. @Erin

    AWw, Erin’s trying to suck up to David now that he came :3

    Erin, before you leave/get banned/ whatever, please tell me what your great feminist deeds were. I’m dying to know, and you never answer.

  52. hippodameia8527

    I agree with CassandraKitty. Erin’s not here in good faith.

  53. cassandrakitty

    Hey, Erin, you realize that there’s no point in lying about what I said when people can scroll back and see the comment where I already addressed that lie, right?

  54. @Erin

    you didn’t *have* a case except to say “not all men”

    that is not a case!

    we know not all men literally want to kill women for not sleeping with them.

    that doesn’t mean that many men aren’t misogynistic and commit violence. b/c they do. or that many men make excuses for it and try to act like they are entitled to sex.

  55. @hippodameia

    I’ve got no idea if she started in good faith, but she’s lost it all by now. Still sticking around to call everyone b*tches, wh*res, and keep going down her creepy sex worker hate thing.

  56. Aaaaand Erin lies again about what cassandra said, and ignores that her claims were already refuted. Plus calling women “girls” this time. Yeah, this is a troll, no question. Even if it’s not a sockpuppet, this whole coming into a thread about A MISOGYNIST MASS MURDERER with the namalt bullshit is beyond the pale.

  57. cassandrakitty

    Comments being wonky again! Erin, I already pointed out that I did not say what you’re claiming. People can scroll back and see that comment. Why are you still lying about it?

  58. Also the “cassandra was mean to me once so I’ll stay around forever” thing.

  59. hippodameia8527

    Why exactly are you owed an opportunity to “state your case,” Erin? You stated it when you first came in, and threw a tantrum when you didn’t get instant admiring agreement.

  60. I mean, IDK if she came here with the goal of trolling, but that’s what she’s doing anyway, if that makes sense.

  61. David, I don’t think hir initial comments exposed hir as a troll, but hir reaction to being criticized (let’s toss out some bigoted/gendered slurs) did it for me. But your blog, your rules!

    I actually think I was pretty kind to hir in my first response, but hir behavior after that made me decide my kindness was misplaced.

  62. I’m going with Erin being a troll, also.

  63. Yeah, I’ve now lost count of the number of trolls in this thread. Can I vote Pell, too? I always love voting Pell when they get ridiculous and bizarre.
    Hey, Erin, are you a doctor?

  64. Erin Williams

    Anyway, you have an awesome blog and I admire your work, David, but I’m not too thrilled with your little attack dogs. They send an awesome message to lurkers and other people who would like to contribute, but don’t because they’re afraid to get on the wrong side of the mean girls clique. They don’t contribute anything and they’re driving people like me away.

  65. cassandrakitty

    Erin seems to have forgotten that the older comment button exists, and that people can scroll back and see the comment where I pointed out that what she’s saying isn’t true.

  66. ~1170 comments in this thread so far. Whoa.

  67. @Alex

    She won’t answer. She won’t even tell me how many doctorates she has :( :( :(

  68. @erin

    Anyway, you have an awesome blog and I admire your work, David, but I’m not too thrilled with your little attack dogs.

    this is cracking me up and I don’t even know why.

  69. hippodameia8527

    Yes, driving away people who think and behave the way you do is part of the fun here.

  70. they’re driving people like me away.

    Driving people whose “go to” insults are bigoted/gendered slurs?

    I’m pretty okay with that.

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